Hmm first time went ok...

[Delicious 21]

Hello everybody! I've been lurking on this site a looooong time and I used it to help inform myself when I was first looking into this lifestyle. These forums have been super helpful to me and I thought if share what went down on my first time.

 

Bit of background. I've always been very open sexually and happy to try most things once. So when a long term FWB of mine told me he often met couples for 3somes and invited me to do it with him I was intrigued. However, even though he was just a FWB we had been together over a year and always told each other the details of our other hook ups, so it was really more of an open relationship type thing. The thing is, in my previous relationships I've been a crazy jealous lady lol, possessive to the point of insanity, so I didn't really think swinging was for me. How could I watch someone I care about be with another woman?? Anyway after months of research, much of it on this site, I thought why not give it a go before I knock it.

 

So, due to my not being sure if id be ok with seeing him with another woman, he organized for us to meet with a couple he regularly used to play with. Wife was currently pregnant and not comfortable to participate and was ok with hubby joining us only. On our way there, I was super nervous but excited!!! Then we get a call from her saying shed rather be present just to watch- I was all geared up for it so thought why not?!

 

Get to their house. She opens the door wearing very little. Hubby was on the couch wearing undies only. Porn was playing on the tv. And my FWB immediately took his clothes off, so I felt overdressed. I asked about rules (I learnt that on here!) and they said let's just see what happens. So I'm the kinda girl that when I'm nervous I just jump right in, so I started doing oral on my FWB. It all went well from there, but unfortunately the husband was not able to get it up with either me or the wife so basically they just watched me and my man screw lol. Wasn't quite the first time I was expecting let me tell u. But I learnt a few things:

- I really liked being watched. Love love loved it!

-I certainly wanted to play with at least another guy again

-I kinda think I wanted to play with her too. She didn't touch either of us but I felt it might have been ok if she did (she was hot in her knickers lol, only 2 months pregnant so not showing or anything)

 

So this was my introduction to the lifestyle. This was about 10 months ago so a lot has happened since, mainly that me and my FWB are now an official couple (we still dont live together but we no longer sleep with others on our own) and we have a profile on a local swingers site. Although my first time went nothing as expected, it still went great for me because I realised 'hey, I CAN do this'.

 

Just wanted to share my first time with everyone, sorry for the long post!

[Sgts19 17]

It always amazed me that when presented with something like this that your totally into to you can't get it up?

[Delicious 21]

I know, poor bloke later told us he was too nervous with his wife there because usually they only play with extra males, so having a female there really threw him off. I tried my best to make it happen with lots of oral but he seemed really reluctant to even touch me so I figured I'd leave him to her and focus on my man. Still had a lot of fun just being there though, cos it seemed so naughty if u know what I mean

[junglecouple 128]

It's not uncommon at all for some guy not being able to "get it up". After owning a swingers club for 11years, I've seen it a lot... I mean A LOT! Nerves, alcohol, downright fright, are all common. It's funny.. usually it's the male that thinks he's talking his lady into it.. from experience I'd offer that the lady thought of it a long time before he did, and is just waiting for HIM to bring it up.. Us guy are In Control as much as the lady will let us be.

It was so common that a "newbie" couple would come to a Jungle party, mingle a bit, and the lady is ready to go.. The male, then decides maybe HE's not ready, but since it was HIS Idea, he won't say anything. The lady become aware, so she scouts around for a female that she's pretty sure her mate would like, just to get things started, so SHE can turn loose!!!! This isn't opinion, I've seen it for years at our club.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

Thanks for sharing your story! I hope you continue to update us on your experiences and share your opinions here. Welcome!