BiCoupleTN69 16 Posted July 15, 2003 I work in a very small industry, I own a nice sized small company. My girlfriend and I are swingers and attend clubs around the country but we would never post a picture openly anywhere. One of my competitors would love to post that on our industry websites and message boards. We can't take the risk of exposure that posting or blindly e-mailing pictures could have. That seems to limit our responces from the profiles we have on swinger boards. Does anyone else have this concern? Quote Share this post Link to post
BodyScape02 21 Posted July 15, 2003 We avoid posting any photos with our faces in them or identifiable backgrounds. We do have some that we'll allow certain people to see though. For the most part we try to create images that are erotic and enticing but keep our identities in the "real world" safe. Her ex is a nut case and would make trouble and the place where I work as an artist is very conservative to say the least. We'd hate for either to find us online. We do understand that we are taking some risks in just having this online persona but it's just too fun to give up...LOL ~D2 of BodyScape02 (Hey, I think this is our 100th post! How do we get that T-shirt?) Quote Share this post Link to post
Sportsterguy 15 Posted July 15, 2003 I post pictures, but not "nekkid ones". If some nut wants to show up at my house, then they really are nuts! As far as work-I'm a corrections officer, and we're kinda shady people anyway (or, at least we're percieved as being such), so I don't sweat it. Quote Share this post Link to post
colleen4 15 Posted July 16, 2003 We have had problems with this too. We take our pics and edit so the faces are not shown, especially the nude and sexually explicit pics. Its kinda erotic knowing that pics of us having sex are on the internet. Quote Share this post Link to post
fun_pairTX 26 Posted July 16, 2003 Yes it will limit you as to your responses. We particularly look for peoples faces and smiles, we could really care less if they send R or X rated pix. Everyones chassis is pretty much the same, just the bulges change density and location. I am a musician and pretty well known in my genre, but I would rather get accused of swinging than a lot of other things musicians are noted for doing. After all whoever finds me posted has to be there themself to find me. Quote Share this post Link to post
calidascope_cpl 15 Posted July 16, 2003 We, also live in a small community and Mr calida would lose his job, if anyone was to see pics of us. We chat and show in chat ( getting use to others seeing us, but unl ess other chatters see a pic of you they don't believe that you are a real couple,so We went to a erotic photography site and found a beautiful pic (semi nude) of a cpl ( models) and we use that pic. When we decide to take the first step and start soft-swinging, it will definitely be with a cpl who is atleast 75 miles or greater from us. This is our PRIVATE LIFE and we want to keep it that way. Although we are still new, we could offer this suggestion: put discreet on your ad, go to a erotic photography site , get a beautiful pic that represents the two of you, put neck down shots in your ad, and look outside your immediate area. Like I said we are new, but this is how we are going to do it. These are just suggestions. Quote Share this post Link to post
Elusive BiFem 70 Posted July 16, 2003 Originally posted by calidascope_cpl We, also live in a small community and Mr calida would lose his job, if anyone was to see pics of us. We chat and show in chat ( getting use to others seeing us, but unl ess other chatters see a pic of you they don't believe that you are a real couple,so We went to a erotic photography site and found a beautiful pic (semi nude) of a cpl ( models) and we use that pic. When we decide to take the first step and start soft-swinging, it will definitely be with a cpl who is atleast 75 miles or greater from us. This is our PRIVATE LIFE and we want to keep it that way. Although we are still new, we could offer this suggestion: put discreet on your ad, go to a erotic photography site , get a beautiful pic that represents the two of you, put neck down shots in your ad, and look outside your immediate area. Like I said we are new, but this is how we are going to do it. These are just suggestions. Do I understand this correctly? You use an erotic photo of someone other than yourselves in your ad? Isn't this misrepresentation? Or do you specify in your ad that it is NOT an actual picture of you? If I am understanding this correctly (and it is early - only one cup of coffee), I would be totally ticked off to meet you only to find out I had been duped by someone else's photo, and that would lead to some significant trust issues for me. -EBF Quote Share this post Link to post
OhioCouple 40 Posted July 16, 2003 I agree with EBF, Calidascope_cpl. NEVER, NEVER post pictures of someone that isn't yourself. Period. Not only would we be upset by that, we would consider you to be phony in other aspects as well. Big NO, NO, in my book. It's better to post no pictures at all and then maybe have a nice G-rated pic that you send out to someone you may be interested in. We have met with couples that had no pictures for employment reasons, and we play with a couple that has never posted a picture and never will (for the above reasons). I understand the reasons for meeting out of your area. We did that in the beginning and it was about 8 months before we felt comfortable enough to start looking in our local area. Finding ones that are compatible though has been tough. All our good swing friends live an hour or more away. Quote Share this post Link to post
twopeople2 15 Posted July 16, 2003 We don't have pictures on our ad either. It does seem to limit the responses we receive. Yes, it's true if you're here and they see you then obviously you're both here. Just because you're both involved, doesn't mean they won't talk. People like to gossip and this isn't something we'd like the whole community to know about. What I don't understand is in cases where we've sent mail to someone we think we'd be compatible with and offer to email a picture since we don't have one on the site. Many times we never get a reply. Granted, it could be some are just not interested. But, when your profiles really match up I don't understand that. Honestly, we've almost given up on the online stuff. We've spent too much time dealing with fakes. Sorry to get so far off topic. Quote Share this post Link to post
BradAndJanet 70 Posted July 16, 2003 Originally posted by calidascope_cpl ... Although we are still new, we could offer this suggestion: put discreet on your ad, go to a erotic photography site , get a beautiful pic that represents the two of you ... We agree, this doesn't seem like a good idea at all and is bound to get you in trouble when you finally meet someone. It's better to be totally honest, we think, even if that means no face pictures. -B Quote Share this post Link to post
fun_pairTX 26 Posted July 16, 2003 If we were to go to meet a couple and find that they had posted a pic other than themselves, we would just turn and walk away without discussion. Honesty is paramount. Quote Share this post Link to post
bear_n_bunny 43 Posted July 16, 2003 Bear and I are in a very different situation. We live in a large city and it is less likely people we know will encounter our add. As well, if they do find our add, well, then who are they to talk. As well, I just can't feel embarassed by what we are doing. As well, I like to see face pictures. X-Rated pics are fun for home, but they rarely tell you anything about a couple. There's nothing more appealing than a sincere smile. The seduction is done long before the clothes come off. That being said, I understand the nervousness of posting pics. But I wonder how chatty swingers are outside thier community. I mean, would people who recognize you gossip about the fact you swing? Would they be exposing the fact they swung as well? -- Bunny Quote Share this post Link to post
calidascope_cpl 15 Posted July 17, 2003 When we suggested going to a photography site and choosing a pic from there that was for chat such as yahoo, or msn. Considering that showing in chat rooms is equal to a one night stand we don't see the need for someone to see our faces. When we show in chat we do so only with other cpls who have a cam. then , we show our faces. As far as posting an ad, I read back over the misses post and realized that she left out a important part ( the part that she is getting grilled for now.) the part she left out is if anyone chooses to put an erotic photo up put it up with a note that this is an avatar of sort, and that the real pics are inside(such as the case at S.L.S. What anyone initially puts up as an avatar or pic of someone else is no different than here. In the time that we have been here I have seen very pics of members here. The misses meant in no way to be decietful in an ad., she was merely giving suggestions. Our private lives are just that ,private. When we place an ad we will only give descriptions of ourselves, and real pics of us will be for paid members only. When we first decided in a lifestyle change we discussed different ways to get used to the idea of others in our bedroom, we came up with getting a camera and "show" in chat, we allowed cplc, females and some single males to watch and we would watch them, everything was fine until one night, my wife was at work (she worked as a waitress), this delivery guy walks in with flowers, (they were not from me) with a note describing what we did in chat one night, This started a chain of events (keying our cars ,flattening our tires, phone calls "gifts")that put us through hell. She was stalked for 6 months, she had to quit her job, could'nt shop in our home town. Everything that she was comfortable in doing , she could'nt do anymore. The freak has not been caught, but she and I want to continue with the choice we made on our lifestyle, that is why I subscribed here. Yes I agree that honesty is essential, but, my wife's security and wellbeing is PARAMOUNT. Quote Share this post Link to post
calidascope_cpl 15 Posted July 17, 2003 Sportsterguy: We don't know if you were talking to us, if you were ... thanks :) :) Quote Share this post Link to post
Sportsterguy 15 Posted July 18, 2003 Originally posted by calidascope_cpl Sportsterguy: We don't know if you were talking to us, if you were ... thanks :) :) Yes I was.....It's Death (the girl) and Morpheus, the sandman (the guy) from a very good comic book Quote Share this post Link to post
MattMann 17 Posted July 21, 2003 Isn't the girl his sister, though? Quote Share this post Link to post
ionsawmill 86 Posted July 27, 2003 I only have pictures posted on two sites. On one site (my own) I have the picture section password protected, even though all the pics are g-rated. If someone wants to see them, they have to email for a password. Once someone has seen those pics, they can email for another password to get the x-rated pics. On the other site (Swappernet), I have only g-rated pics (faces obscured) available for non-members. Once someone has paid for a membership, they can see the x-rated pics. I figure this will hinder the efforts of most non-swingers and picture collectors. T.H. Quote Share this post Link to post
