It's time for us to retire from swinging

[sweetgirlknows 121]

Hey everyone,

Mr. Sweet and I were talking last night and it was a great conversation. As ironic as it may sound we both have the "been there done that" attitude towards swinging. We learned a lot about others and ourselves in the process though. You guys were great. We plan to keep in touch with all our swinger friends but we've discovered that vanilla can be HOT! lol In any case I will check back from time to time but I did want to thank everyone for their comments and conversation!

[angelkin 1,326]

I wish you all the best and will look forward to you checking in from time to time.

[Learning 160]

It can be and the lifestyle is never going anywhere

[two4youinswva 3,068]

You gave swinging a try and decided it wasn't for you. Nothing wrong with that. Good luck to you both!

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I'm wondering if perhaps you jumped too hard too fast. Looking back at your post history here, you were brand new to things the first of October. Now, November isn't even over but you've already gotten to the point where it's "old hat" and boring. I think this is a good example of where balance is so important, as it is easy to get burned out on anything when you focus too hard on it in a short amount of time.

 

We wish you good luck and Happy Holidays.

[sweetgirlknows 121]

I'm wondering if perhaps you jumped too hard too fast. Looking back at your post history here, you were brand new to things the first of October. Now, November isn't even over but you've already gotten to the point where it's "old hat" and boring. I think this is a good example of where balance is so important, as it is easy to get burned out on anything when you focus too hard on it in a short amount of time.

 

We wish you good luck and Happy Holidays.

 

Thanks guys for your input! My husband and I thought about this. I think our curiosity was just satisfied. It was kind of like bungee jumping or sky diving to us. Also, as I mentioned when I got here, we are very sexual and derive a great amount of pleasure from a deep passion between partners. I mentioned this to some of the couples we found on SLS and yeah they pretty much freaked as I thought they would. Sex is fun but intense passionate sex is incomprehensibly insane (to us anyway). We realized it is more satisfying to us than just the "fun sex" lol! :-)

[Guest sandraandalex]

I really cannot believe that Swingers were freaked out by an opportunity to have deeply passionate sex.

[sweetgirlknows 121]

I really cannot believe that Swingers were freaked out by an opportunity to have deeply passionate sex.

 

I think for many its just too close to "making love" which is different from just having sex. I remember my very first chat was about that. Generally speaking swing is about having hot sex for fun. Passion and emotion cross into the "making love" territory. I understand their reservations though though.

[Hippiegirlie 276]

Best to you and Mr. Sweet and good for you that you both know where you want to be right now!

[sweetgirlknows 121]

Best to you and Mr. Sweet and good for you that you both know where you want to be right now!

 

Thanks Hippiegirlie! I think I am going to be around here for a bit. Talking to you guys is great. Even if we never swing again its good to know how different people do things. Human beings are interesting when they are being constructive lol

[victoria'dreams 141]

I'm wondering if perhaps you jumped too hard too fast. Looking back at your post history here, you were brand new to things the first of October. Now, November isn't even over but you've already gotten to the point where it's "old hat" and boring. I think this is a good example of where balance is so important, as it is easy to get burned out on anything when you focus too hard on it in a short amount of time.

 

We wish you good luck and Happy Holidays.

 

Thanks guys for your input! My husband and I thought about this. I think our curiosity was just satisfied. It was kind of like bungee jumping or sky diving to us. Also, as I mentioned when I got here, we are very sexual and derive a great amount of pleasure from a deep passion between partners. I mentioned this to some of the couples we found on SLS and yeah they pretty much freaked as I thought they would. Sex is fun but intense passionate sex is incomprehensibly insane (to us anyway). We realized it is more satisfying to us than just the "fun sex" lol! :-)

 

I thing Julie is making a very good post here. I do feel the exact same about you Sweetgirl, you need a bit of moderation not only on swinging but also on your writing. If your sex is so passionate and so great you go out there where non of us can reach, good for you and Mr Sweet ! but is it not again, going too far in your sentences ? I mean, come on ! and swinging would mean not being able to have passionate sex with your partner ?

[okcurious 20]

Be careful saying that! Lol! We've been on "a break" since I found out I had prostate cancer this spring. I had surgery on June 28, and we've both said many times that we don't miss it, etc. However, things are starting to work again (ED, leaking, etc.) I'm still not all the way there, but I'm starting to really miss the LS. It's not exactly the sex. It's the feeling of being desirable, being wanted. Yes, my wife wants me, but we've been married 22 years and have a great marriage, so that's kind of a give. It's knowing that someone else finds you desirable that makes you feel so good. So I've been spending a LOT more time on c4p.com. My wife's laughing at me because she was always the one who was on it before. Anyway, I have no doubt that once things are working again, we'll jump back in. We're already planning on going to The Club in OKC for New Years. We won't be playing, but it's still a lot of fun.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

Be careful saying that! Lol! We've been on "a break" since I found out I had prostate cancer this spring. I had surgery on June 28, and we've both said many times that we don't miss it, etc. However, things are starting to work again (ED, leaking, etc.) I'm still not all the way there, but I'm starting to really miss the LS. It's not exactly the sex. It's the feeling of being desirable, being wanted. Yes, my wife wants me, but we've been married 22 years and have a great marriage, so that's kind of a give. It's knowing that someone else finds you desirable that makes you feel so good. So I've been spending a LOT more time on c4p.com. My wife's laughing at me because she was always the one who was on it before. Anyway, I have no doubt that once things are working again, we'll jump back in. We're already planning on going to The Club in OKC for New Years. We won't be playing, but it's still a lot of fun.

 

Glad things are improving for you!!