Single guys, what turns you on having sex with a couple?

[victoria'dreams 141]

Hi guys. my wife and I have yet no experience in swinging. We are interested in threesome (FFM & MMF) what seems to be less common as most couple are looking for couples. Mostly you find only single guys online (not much girls) looking for a threesome so I'll ask all of you single guys.

 

Why do single guys enjoy having sex with a couple? Is it the opportunity to have sex with a woman more difficult than getting girls in the vanilla world? Is it the enjoyment of seeing a girl with two cocks? Is it to prove you can give better sex to the woman. Is it a voyeur thing?

 

I'm not judging anything here I'm curious to know cause I can't be sure what it is. It will help me to meet single guys for threesome with my wife if I understand what turns you guys on. Thanks a lot and please be totally honest and free of speech, not something to please the couples and sale yourself.

[enhancer 1,586]

Hi guys. my wife and I have yet no experience in swinging. We are interested in threesome (FFM & MMF) what seems to be less common as most couple are looking for couples. Mostly you find only single guys online (not much girls) looking for a threesome so I'll ask all of you single guys.

 

Why single guys enjoy to have sex with a couple ? Is it the opportunity to have sex with a woman more difficulty getting girls in the vanilla world? is it the enjoyment of seeing a girl with two cocks? is it to prove you can give better sex to the woman, is it a voyeur thing? I'm not judging anything here I'm curious to know cause I can't be sure what it is. It will help me to meet single guys for threesome with my wife if I understand what turns you guys on. Thanks a lot and please be totally honest and free of speech, not something to please the couples and sale yourself.

 

This is a good question and we are looking forward to hearing what the single guys have to say! We have been with couples and single woman, but not a single guy yet and would like to for our next adventure.

[angelkin 1,326]

We are a couple who enjoys adding another man from time to time for fun for me (the wife). This is a question I ask all potential new friends and the answers vary. The really good ones enjoy seeing a woman pleasured, find it erotic to be part of a threesome - those are the ones we will meet if there is a connection. You can kinda tell by the way he answers the question if he's sincere or not. Here's some of the answers we've received:

 

1. I want your husband to watch me pound you (fail)

2. Do you ever play apart? (fail)

3. I want to see if I would enjoy it (fail)

4. Taking a woman to another level of pleasure and sharing her with her husband is hot (success)

5. I am interested/like to do DP or DVP (for me that's a fail)

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

We are in the same situation as angelkin and have also gotten all of the above answers. (and feel the same way pass/fail)

 

Another one I like is, paraphrased: There is something really different about the dynamic of having sex with a couple. I like to be a part of that energy.

[enhancer 1,586]

We are a couple who enjoys adding another man from time to time for fun for me (the wife). This is a question I ask all potential new friends and the answers vary. The really good ones enjoy seeing a woman pleasured, find it erotic to be part of a threesome - those are the ones we will meet if there is a connection. You can kinda tell by the way he answers the question if he's sincere or not. Here's some of the answers we've received:

 

1. I want your husband to watch me pound you (fail)

2. Do you ever play apart? (fail)

3. I want to see if I would enjoy it (fail)

4. Taking a woman to another level of pleasure and sharing her with her husband is hot (success)

5. I am interested/like to do DP or DVP (for me that's a fail)

 

In our search we would agree with you on all those answers!

[Mr TybeeSwing 201]

A good question and one that should have a least a few different answers. As for me, it is about finding the right couple. I look for a couple where the woman is the driving force behind looking for another man for fun. From my experience in those situations the woman ordering on primal this woman is not afraid to let go and enjoy herself. And when a woman fully enjoys herself it heightens the pleasure of all involved.

[angelkin 1,326]

A good question and one that should have a least a few different answers. As for me, it is about finding the right couple. I look for a couple where the woman is the driving force behind looking for another man for fun. From my experience in those situations the woman ordering on primal this woman is not afraid to let go and enjoy herself. And when a woman fully enjoys herself it heightens the pleasure of all involved.

 

success:)

[victoria'dreams 141]

The non posting of singles in this subject is changing my mind about threesome (in a bad way)... most singles looking for couples might not think like Mr TybeeSwing but more the "fail" points angelkin is listing ?

 

I feel this thread is asking to a politician "if I vote for you, what would you really do? "

[angelkin 1,326]

Don't be discouraged, the good guys are out there And I can tell you when you find one, it's well worth the search!

[kazoofrottage 15]

Why single guys enjoy to have sex with a couple ?--- is it a voyeur thing ? ---.

 

For me it's a 'Voyeur' AND 'exhibition'! I love showing as much as watching. I have been with quite a few (6) first timers since I started swinging: 3 times as a couple (ex g/f) and 3 times by myself. An experienced film-maker, all 3 of the solo couples wanted someone to video them 1st. Since I am patient, I waited for them to ask me to join them in the sex...all 3 did!

 

What I like most is seeing everyone happy...and lets face it, sex makes us happy! As an orally bi guy when a couple asks if I am comfortable with 'me & he' I say yes. When asked to prove it I do without hesitation.

[BeStylnIT 114]

I have sex with the wife only and only go for "lady in the streets, freak in the bed" types. So, the turn-on is she's going after sex that's considered taboo in her world because she's wanting to be the horny devil that's kept locked away. That's a turn-on when it comes to who I'm with.

 

During the sex what I'm getting from it is it pleases me to please her. I'm who she wants the experience with and giving it to her is all I want to do! It's captivating watching her be fully involved with one guy while she's being fucked by me. Obviously, it feels good to me doing the fucking of course. Or visa versa, watching her face react to getting fucked while she's simultaneously wanting to playing with my dick.

 

Really satisfying to fulfill the fantasy! A woman who wants extra attention while she loves to give it out too!

[BeStylnIT 114]

Is it the opportunity to have sex with a woman more difficulty getting girls in the vanilla World?

Since you're wanting insight let me respond to the above quote.

You mean, a guy doing threesome because he thinks its easier way just to get laid? First that's pathetic and should immediately rule him out! Your wife deserves better than that. MWM threesomes are about the lady not a single guy basically masturbating with your wife. A guy in that situation is there because there's reasons he's not meeting women. I'd stay away from a guy like that. More than likely he'll turn your wife off on his own. Find a guy wanting her and who is about doing it for her and not just himself.

[BeStylnIT 114]

The non posting of singles in this subject is changing my mind about 3some (in a bad way)... most singles looking for couples might not think like Mr TybeeSwing but more the "fail" points angelkin is listing ?

 

I feel this thread is asking to a politician "if I vote for you, what would you really do ? "

:banghead:

Whatev

[Alura 2,775]

We did our threesomes with our regular play couples, taking turns, and taking advantage of situations such as one of the spouses being out of town or something similar. The left-out spouse was aware.

 

Mrs. Alura was adamant that a person who risks nothing can never understand the mindset of those who risk everything. Perhaps that's why the answers from singles in this thread are somewhat unconvincing.

 

Now that I'm tragically single again, I have no interest in swinging with couples.

 

Alura

[victoria'dreams 141]

Good to hear that. Thanks. and I see some nice posts arrived now

 

Don't be discouraged, the good guys are out there And I can tell you when you find one, it's well worth the search!

[victoria'dreams 141]

You seems like the nice type of guy making the fantasy really fun. You are giving me good hope now. I also love the idea of filming and it seems exciting to invite you after you filmed it. I'm not bi that might be the only thing... but I'm sure what you experience might give the feeling of getting closer to the couple with bi-sexuality; probably like in a FFM as the girls mostly interact with each others and gives such a perfect 3 connected people experience.

 

Thanks for your post and hope to meet more singles like you for 3some.

 

For me it's a 'Voyeur' AND 'exhibition'! I love showing as much as watching. I have been with quite a few (6) first timers since I started swinging: three times as a couple (ex g/f) and three times by myself. An experienced film-maker, all three of the solo couples wanted someone to video them first. Since I am patient, I waited for them to ask me to join them in the sex...all 3 did!

 

What I like most is seeing everyone happy...and let's face it, sex makes us happy! As an orally bi guy when a couple asks if I am comfortable with 'me & he' I say yes. When asked to prove it I do without hesitation.

[victoria'dreams 141]

I have sex with the wife only and only go for "lady in the streets, freak in the bed" types. So, the turn-on is she's going after sex that's considered taboo in her world because she's wanting to be the horny devil that's kept locked away. That's a turn-on when it comes to who I'm with.

 

During the sex what I'm getting from it is it pleases me to please her. I'm who she wants the experience with and giving it to her is all I want to do! It's captivating watching her be fully involved with one guy while she's being fucked by me. Obviously, it feels good to me doing the fucking of course. Or visa versa, watching her face react to getting fucked while she's simultaneously wanting to playing with my dick.

 

Really satisfying to fulfill the fantasy! A woman who wants extra attention while she loves to give it out too!

 

You mean that when you have sex with the wife, the husband is not there right? You are more into cheating wife than swinger wife? Or is it not what you say?

[victoria'dreams 141]

Since you're wanting insight let me respond to the above quote.

You mean, a guy doing threesome because he thinks its easier way just to get laid? First that's pathetic and should immediately rule him out! Your wife deserves better than that. MFM threesomes are about the lady not a single guy basically masturbating with your wife. A guy in that situation is there because there's reasons he's not meeting women. I'd stay away from a guy like that. More than likely he'll turn your wife off on his own. Find a guy wanting her and who is about doing it for her and not just himself.

 

You're right. But I want to meet guy who wants to please the couple (not sex with the man, I just mean to connect with the 2 of the couple) not only to satisfy the wife sexually.

[victoria'dreams 141]

We did our threesomes with our regular play couples, taking turns, and taking advantage of situations such as one of the spouses being out of town or something similar. The left-out spouse was aware.

 

Mrs. Alura was adamant that a person who risks nothing can never understand the mindset of those who risk everything. Perhaps that's why the answers from singles in this thread are somewhat unconvincing.

 

Now that I'm tragically single again, I have no interest in swinging with couples.

 

Alura

 

Very sorry about your breakup...

 

It's interesting you say you have no interest in swinging w couples. I feel the same I'm not sure I will look for couple as a single guy. Why that ? it's an interesting question.

[Alura 2,775]

Very sorry about your breakup...

 

It's interesting you say you have no interest in swinging w couples. I feel the same I'm not sure I will look for couple as a single guy. Why that ? it's an interesting question.

 

It wasn't a "breakup." My wife died of breast cancer treatments. Never let your woman miss a mammogram.

 

The aspect that made swinging fun was that Laura and I did it together. Without her, there would be no point. That's why I wonder why singles pay large sums of money to go to a club and hope for the best. The result, even if successful, cannot possibly be worth it.

 

Alura

[eldiablo311 201]

Honestly, when I was single, I was trying to get something going with the married couple. It never happened because right before we were supposed to set something up to meet out somewhere and get to know each other, I started dating my current wife and I cut that communication off.

 

But honestly the reasons I was pursuing that was that I felt like it would be so hot to see how turned on and how much pleasure I could give another mans wife knowing that she is in a "committed relationship". To know that she is willing to give herself to me would feel so erotic and is so much of a taboo in society...that turned me on to think about! I imagined it would feel like the wife is giving you something "very sacred" and the couple is letting you in on a very private part of their world and it would be amazing sexual energy I thought! I imagined doing everything possible to take my time with her and make her cum so hard she would remember it for a long time!

 

That is some of what I remember about myself when I was single and looking for that threesome situation.

[victoria'dreams 141]

It wasn't a "breakup." My wife died of breast cancer treatments. Never let your woman miss a mammogram.

 

The aspect that made swinging fun was that Laura and I did it together. Without her, there would be no point. That's why I wonder why singles pay large sums of money to go to a club and hope for the best. The result, even if successful, cannot possibly be worth it.

 

Alura

 

I sincerely apologize for the "breakup" thing I didn't know...

 

I agree with you and the fun to do experiences together is strong. It might be a total different view and fun for a single guy to have sex with a couple. As they are so many single guys searching for it, it must be real fun too for them. If I was single and a couple would ask me to do it with them, I surely would say yes and I would be flattered. I don't think on the other hand, that I would search for it or post an ad or go to a club as single. I guess I would search for a girl (or more) in the vanilla World. Maybe I'd ask another girl later to join for a FFM, or another guy for MMF, because it is really fun as you say to do something together. I would be curious to know if there are two types of people, the ones who like to share their privacy, their love, and the ones who like to enter, take some in the swinger World ? but it's probably more complicated than that.

[victoria'dreams 141]

Honestly, when I was single, I was trying to get something going with the married couple. It never happened because right before we were supposed to set something up to meet out somewhere and get to know each other, I started dating my current wife and I cut that communication off.

 

But honestly the reasons I was pursuing that was that I felt like it would be so hot to see how turned on and how much pleasure I could give another mans wife knowing that she is in a "committed relationship". To know that she is willing to give herself to me would feel so erotic and is so much of a taboo in society...that turned me on to think about! I imagined it would feel like the wife is giving you something "very sacred" and the couple is letting you in on a very private part of their world and it would be amazing sexual energy I thought! I imagined doing everything possible to take my time with her and make her cum so hard she would remember it for a long time!

 

That is some of what I remember about myself when I was single and looking for that threesome situation.

 

The way you describe it sounds exciting indeed. It's great you are that honest and good that you lived both desires (as single turned on by a couple first). When you were that close to live that thing with this couple, did you describe the feelings you had the same way or did you have to disguise your feelings in a different view? did you emphasize more the side that the couple would like to hear for example, or were you totally honest and told them?

 

My question would be shall we be paranoid for the real feelings of a single guy towards the couple? I am less afraid to share my wife with a guy who's honest even if he doesn't match what I would like him to think or desire, than a guy that would lie and disguise just to please the couple. Isn't it always better when truth and no bs? Or am I being too sweet and naive here

[unibull_arena 15]

To me, it's the thrill of fucking a total slut in bed. Women who have multiple partners are suuuuuuper hot to me.

 

Edit: Ok, and on second thought, I also like to feel like a bull, not a snake charmer. So, I like talking to the guy first, like guys. Then I feel I can be brutally honest about my fantasies.

 

Edit #2: Sorry, more reasons keep popping up in my head . Reading the post above...yeah, knowing I can fuck the shit out of a girl without having to date or marry her. Super liberating and hot.

[BeStylnIT 114]

You mean that when you have sex with the wife' date=' the husband is not there right ? [/quote']100% wrong, he's there and he's having sex with her too. It's why people call it a threesome. The husband and I don't fuck each other.

 

The original post said "couple to have sex with", if I were having sex with a couple then I'm having sex with him and her. Yo...

[BeStylnIT 114]

connect with the 2 of the couple) not only to satisfy the wife sexually.

Of course, no way I could be in threesome otherwise. Maybe they felt same about this but perhaps to a fault, I'll explain.

 

It's a slippery slope, I've talked to couples and the husband was doing 100% of all the talking. Maybe they were too concerned with me and the husband having a good bond. Well fact is I'm a man and it's the real truth, I have chemistry with the wife and she is attracted to me. I need to have that first because I don't join couples to find a bro-mance. If I'm being forced into budding up with husband how can I know why? It leaves me or any single guy to figure out why. Especially of its being pushed in me in online chat. Is he full of shit? Or, is threesome for his sexual desires and wife kinda lures the guy? Truth is that does happen. Also it is a red flag I've meet a couple who puts my relationship with the husband first. Again, I'm suppose to be having sex with a wife in this threesome. So where is she and how is she feeling if all I've done is talk to him?

 

Follow me? I do see the importance and it must be a fit across the board. I once joined a newbie couple who was doing threesome MWM for her and was going to find a WMW for him. Well once we are in bed it fell through when he wanted to start fucking and asked me to stop giving her oral. The wife said no...she said I want him to keep doing it, he's very good. Well then we switch it around and he immediately started giving her oral. Obviously as husband he knew a lot more about exactly how to give her a quick orgasm. He did then lost his erection. It made things awkward and I felt guilty because this man was obviously not ready for this and probably felt horribly inside. The wife and I had sex 3 or 4 times that night while he basically was forced to wait and watch in the other bed. I had not pursed it to begin with had I known they weren't ready.

[BeStylnIT 114]

not only to satisfy the wife sexually.

Dude that's what it is about and even with perfect fit that doesn't change.

[eldiablo311 201]

The way you describe it sounds exciting indeed. It's great you are that honest and good that you lived both desires (as single turned on by a couple first). When you were that close to live that thing with this couple, did you describe the feelings you had the same way or did you have to disguise your feelings in a different view ? did you emphasize more the side that the couple would like to hear for example, or were you totally honest and told them ?

 

My question would be shall we be paranoid for the real feelings of a single guy towards the couple ? I am less afraid to share my wife with a guy who's honest even if he doesn't match what I would like him to think or desire, than a guy that would lie and disguise just to please the couple. Isn't it always better when truth and no bs ? or am I being too sweet and naive here

 

 

Yeah I feel I can totally understand both sides of the coin, the single guy looking to hook up with the consenting wife and the husband who wants to see his wife fucked! As far as describing what I felt to the couple, I was honest with them and felt I had no reason not to be. I felt the couple understood what I wanted and there was no reason to hide anything or any intentions that I had...I wanted to have sex with his beautiful wife and we all knew that is why we were talking. Actually I saw several photos of the wife, but was only talking with the husband. I understood he wanted to make sure I was honest and on the up and up before he let me do anything with his wife. I did not say things that I thought they wanted to hear, I figure what's the point of that? I wanted it to be a open, honest, exciting experience with no misrepresentations.

 

I understand what you are saying about being a little paranoid, and I think that is probably a good thing. Which is why I think it is good to vet the person, kind of like the husband was doing with me several years ago when I was single. I think it is good to talk for a little bit then meet somewhere in public for drinks and see how the person behaves in real life to get a good feel for them and there intentions. Just my opinion...and once again my wife and I have not done this yet...we are considering it though.

[victoria'dreams 141]

100% wrong, he's there and he's having sex with her too. It's why people call it a threesome. The husband and I don't fuck each other.

The original post said "couple to have sex with", if I were having sex with a couple then I'm having sex with him and her. Yo...

 

Sure, sorry. I wanted to say maybe the husband was only watching or something like that. In the way your wrote it felt the husband was not part of the sex. Now I got what you meant. Ok no bro-romance and the pleasure of the woman that's what's it about you said but it just depends of what the couple is looking for. If the husbands wants to see his wife fucked by another dude and be passive it might just work fine. But if he wants to be part of it, he wants to have a fun time as much as the wife and the extra guy. To me, the way you see and the story about that couple you described I see for you it might work beautifully with cuckold enjoying guy. If you felt sorry for the husband you might not fuck his wife three or four times in front of him if he lost his erection. Or did he ask please fuck her anyway it's fine ? My feeling would be even if the pleasure of the wife is the center of the thing, would be great only if all three people have fun and enjoy. If the guy is into cuckold and being humiliated, great evening you might have the three of you. But if it's not the case two of the three shall not continue with one on the side. It could happen also if the couple fucks and the extra guy can't get an hard-on, could be as much as embarrassing and frustrating. In your story the wife was not that delicate to argue about you continuing going down on her or not. If the husband felt not good or jealous she shall have follow that and not make it worse. You are right it seems they were not ready for the threesome. But honestly I don't feel you were that sorry for the husband, were you not turned on a bit the fucking his wife when I couldn't? I would not watch my wife being fucked if I don't feel good. If I am not horny anymore it's just not a good threesome and there is no meaning for me to have it.

[victoria'dreams 141]

Yeah I feel I can totally understand both sides of the coin, the single guy looking to hook up with the consenting wife and the husband who wants to see his wife fucked! As far as describing what I felt to the couple, I was honest with them and felt I had no reason not to be. I felt the couple understood what I wanted and there was no reason to hide anything or any intentions that I had...I wanted to have sex with his beautiful wife and we all knew that is why we were talking. Actually I saw several photos of the wife, but was only talking with the husband. I understood he wanted to make sure I was honest and on the up and up before he let me do anything with his wife. I did not say things that I thought they wanted to hear, I figure what's the point of that? I wanted it to be a open, honest, exciting experience with no misrepresentations.

 

I understand what you are saying about being a little paranoid, and I think that is probably a good thing. Which is why I think it is good to vet the person, kind of like the husband was doing with me several years ago when I was single. I think it is good to talk for a little bit then meet somewhere in public for drinks and see how the person behaves in real life to get a good feel for them and there intentions. Just my opinion...and once again my wife and I have not done this yet...we are considering it though.

 

This couple seemed real nice and matching with you. Beautiful wife on top of that. You were really close for it to happen!

 

You're right and I think it's good to take time for meeting that guy for threesome, specially cause it's our first time! we want to be sure it's gonna be a good experience

[M1F2KTJ 473]

It was hard sometimes for me to find playmates (MMF) for my wife so I could sympathize with a husband or couple who was looking for the same experience. I offered to be the "other" guy for couples looking for a MMF. My purpose was to give the couple the same experience that I wanted to see sharing my wife. I did to his wife what I wanted to watch another guy do to mine.

[insanitorium 16]

For me, there's a couple of things. 1) the attraction/taboo, from both the purely physical attraction to the social taboo of being with another's partner. 2) pleasing is something I enjoy, and it's a major turn-on seeing her taking her hubby in her mouth and feeling her squeeze her pussy on my cock while I have her before me. Not sure yet, but maybe a 3) cuckolding aspect. Gotta think that one over some more, though.

 

Hi guys. my wife and I have yet no experience in swinging. We are interested in threesome (FFM & MMF) what seems to be less common as most couple are looking for couples. Mostly you find only single guys online (not much girls) looking for a threesome so I'll ask all of you single guys.

 

Why single guys enjoy to have sex with a couple? Is it the opportunity to have sex with a woman more difficulty getting girls in the vanilla world? is it the enjoyment of seeing a girl with two cocks? is it to prove you can give better sex to the woman, is it a voyeur thing? I'm not judging anything here I'm curious to know cause I can't be sure what it is. It will help me to meet single guys for threesome with my wife if I understand what turns you guys on. Thanks a lot and please be totally honest and free of speech, not something to please the couples and sale yourself.

[victoria'dreams 141]

It was hard sometimes for me to find playmates (MMF) for my wife so I could sympathize with a husband or couple who was looking for the same experience. I offered to be the "other" guy for couples looking for a MMF. My purpose was to give the couple the same experience that I wanted to see sharing my wife. I did to his wife what I wanted to watch another guy do to mine.

 

Very smart move sounds nice.

 

For me, there's a couple of things. 1) the attraction/taboo, from both the purely physical attraction to the social taboo of being with another's partner. 2) pleasing is something I enjoy, and it's a major turn-on seeing her taking her hubby in her mouth and feeling her squeeze her pussy on my cock while I have her before me. Not sure yet, but maybe a 3) cuckolding aspect. Gotta think that one over some more, though.

 

(1) & (2) very clear turn-on. I would love to know more about your (3) and more precisely how it works in your head. I can understand to fuck a wife in front of her guy I'll be real turned on... but as that guy might be me it turns the all thing around and becomes more unclear to me to imagine one day a guy fucking my wife when I'm there turns me on a lot... but as soon as I imagine that guy thinking in his head some disrespect things towards me (while fucking my wife) it does not work anymore... it's very hard for me to find the right answer and what do I really want and what is what I look for...? is there something for someone like me who would enjoy to fuck his wife with another guy or to see his wife fucked, but without any attributes of the cuckold like humiliation or disrespect or lowering himself ? I've been always successful with women, I don't have any trouble in bed, I don't have a small penis or anything like that. I enjoy to see and give pleasure and it gain in intensity when I know the girl or even more I'm in love with her. Is it common ?

[eldiablo311 201]

(1) & (2) very clear turn-on. I would love to know more about your (3) and more precisely how it works in your head. I can understand to fuck a wife in front of her guy I'll be real turned on... but as that guy might be me it turns the all thing around and becomes more unclear to me to imagine one day a guy fucking my wife when I'm there turns me on a lot... but as soon as I imagine that guy thinking in his head some disrespect things towards me (while fucking my wife) it does not work anymore... it's very hard for me to find the right answer and what do I really want and what is what I look for...? is there something for someone like me who would enjoy to fuck his wife with another guy or to see his wife fucked' date=' but without any attributes of the cuckold like humiliation or disrespect or lowering himself ? I've been always successful with women, I don't have any trouble in bed, I don't have a small penis or anything like that. I enjoy to see and give pleasure and it gain in intensity when I know the girl or even more I'm in love with her. Is it common ?[/quote']

 

I agree, I would not like the idea of the guy fucking my wife thinking disrespectful thoughts towards me or my wife...the only way I would want it to happen is if he was cool with me and treated my wife with respect and felt lucky to have the opportunity to fuck her! I am not into the cuckold/humiliation thing...that does not interest me. Seeing my wife get pleasured does interest me!

[victoria'dreams 141]

I agree, I would not like the idea of the guy fucking my wife thinking disrespectful thoughts towards me or my wife...the only way I would want it to happen is if he was cool with me and treated my wife with respect and felt lucky to have the opportunity to fuck her! I am not into the cuckold/humiliation thing...that does not interest me. Seeing my wife get pleasured does interest me!

 

Exactly!!!

[insanitorium 16]

okay, sorry, holiday madness and what not. maybe cuckold was the wrong word, but I was thinking about it, only once did that feeling ever even cross my mind, and it was actually my very first mfm (awwww!) when I was like maybe 22 or 23? Anyway, the couple was older than me, late 20's for her, 30's for him. It was a different dynamic to me, in that she was the one in control of her husband, making him watch us, while he was off to the side getting aroused. It wasn't anything about humiliation or disrespect for the husband I was feeling, more of like a rush that his wife seemed to be the one in charge of their relationship (I say seem because we didn't have a debriefing. er, wait, we didn't discuss it, rather, since we uhh were all debriefed...) But in retrospect, I suppose the feeling I had was linked to the taboo thing, where I was having a man's wife in front of him, once I got over the fact that he was totally okay with it and wasn't going to try to jump me the minute I got into it with her haha Happy new year, everyone!

[eurotrash 15]

I enjoy the dynamic of having sex with multiple partners. There's more energy in the air, because there are simply more charged people involved. For a couple, of course, I get my own pleasure from the situation, but just like with one-on-one sex, it's give and take. I enjoying giving pleasure to the wife as well as the husband (not in a sexual way for the husband in most cases).

[ohmic12 15]

a) enjoy watching the couple having sex

b) enjoy taking turns in the lady

c) being single any chance for sex is a bonus

[angelkin 1,326]

c) being single any chance for sex is a bonus

 

Not to be so forward but I'd like to offer a critique - this attitude would not be appreciated by us. We want those who join us to be looking for an erotic experience and not just sex. I figure most guys can get laid by going out to a singles bar, but it takes a certain kind of attitude to really enjoy the eroticism of a threesome.

[beachbiker 15]

I can only tell what I have experienced. I was involved with a couple for a number of years. We really seemed to fit together because the husband was very loving and was almost submissive in his compassion for her. I entered the relationship as a dominate partner. She liked to be submissive in bed and he loved to watch as she served sexually. Before the night was over he would lay and caress her and they would then make passionate love to each other. Of course I loved the erotic side but I also love watching as they showed their deep affection and love for each other. I always respected their marriage and never forgot that she was his wife and his lady!!!

[gotaslowhand 20]

Ok, I'll jump in here... but I can really only speak for myself as I suspect 90% of the single guys out there are probably only looking for an easy piece of tail...

 

For me (and clearly for other men that have responded to this thread), I really enjoy pleasing others and knowing that I have been responsible for that pleasure... Let's be honest, it's a big ego boost! And even though I am 110% straight, I would say that goes both for pleasing the woman (obviously) and the guy too. After all, if both of them aren't happy with you, then you'll not be invited back to play again! And what defines pleasure is very different from couple to couple in my experience...

 

With my first couple, it was all about them finding a playmate for her when he was out of town. He wanted to know that someone was keeping her happy and that it was a guy he could trust. He was an awesome guy and they were very open and long time LSers. We still chat on occasion even if we don't play any more. Great memories Similar with my second couple... open marriage and they each had a playmate... that one ended because I was a noob and got a bit too clingy... a moment of learning for me.

 

My third relationship was with a couple for my first real MFM. I met him first and got to be good friends and he knew his wife would just gobble me up apparently. When we all finally met up, she was positively glistening! It was around New Years and right then and there she invited me to play with them at a NYE party where they had another unicorn joining them! Well, the other girl fell through, but it was cool because I made it clear I knew my role was to be their accessory, not as a date for the unicorn. The night was amazing! I made darn sure I was either fingering, tonguing, toying or dicking her for as long as she wanted and then some. When they were playing I would slip a finger in her pussy or ass and whisper naughty thoughts in her ear, or encourage him... and when he was "recovering" I was at attention and available for whatever she wanted. He was totally thrilled! We played for hours and she was very generous when it came time to take care of me. The interesting thing was when I excused myself to go home so they could cuddle... I got a text from him saying that she wanted to spend the night with me! The relationship went on for some time and it was always with the three of us and they both always seemed thrilled. We would even do dinners and movies together and once he sent her over to my place to play for my birthday

 

I've also been in an couple of relationships that were more of the Bull/Cuck type. I only play one on one with the woman and send vids or pics to the guy. Again, it's about finding what pleases the couple and doing my best to accommodate their goals and expectations while strictly staying within their boundaries. Which is why free and open communication is paramount. Yes, I get to enjoy hot sex with a beautiful woman (what healthy hetro man wouldn't enjoy that!) and I get the ego stroke of knowing that I've provided pleasure in one way or another, hopefully to both of them. I suppose in some way its a weird juxtaposition of being somewhat selfish while being altruistic? Does that make sense?

 

Regardless, as a male I like having sex with women (duh!), I love pleasing a woman sexually, and it's also fun to please a couple. I guess it's that simple

 

GaSH

[yourluvrman 28]

Ok, I'll jump in here... but I can really only speak for myself as I suspect 90% of the single guys out there are probably only looking for an easy piece of tail...

 

For me (and clearly for other men that have responded to this thread), I really enjoy pleasing others and knowing that I have been responsible for that pleasure... Let's be honest, it's a big ego boost! And even though I am 110% straight, I would say that goes both for pleasing the woman (obviously) and the guy too. After all, if both of them aren't happy with you, then you'll not be invited back to play again! And what defines pleasure is very different from couple to couple in my experience...

 

With my first couple, it was all about them finding a playmate for her when he was out of town. He wanted to know that someone was keeping her happy and that it was a guy he could trust. He was an awesome guy and they were very open and long time LSers. We still chat on occasion even if we don't play any more. Great memories Similar with my second couple... open marriage and they each had a playmate... that one ended because I was a noob and got a bit too clingy... a moment of learning for me.

 

My third relationship was with a couple for my first real MFM. I met him first and got to be good friends and he knew his wife would just gobble me up apparently. When we all finally met up, she was positively glistening! It was around New Years and right then and there she invited me to play with them at a NYE party where they had another unicorn joining them! Well, the other girl fell through, but it was cool because I made it clear I knew my role was to be their accessory, not as a date for the unicorn. The night was amazing! I made darn sure I was either fingering, tonguing, toying or dicking her for as long as she wanted and then some. When they were playing I would slip a finger in her pussy or ass and whisper naughty thoughts in her ear, or encourage him... and when he was "recovering" I was at attention and available for whatever she wanted. He was totally thrilled! We played for hours and she was very generous when it came time to take care of me. The interesting thing was when I excused myself to go home so they could cuddle... I got a text from him saying that she wanted to spend the night with me! The relationship went on for some time and it was always with the three of us and they both always seemed thrilled. We would even do dinners and movies together and once he sent her over to my place to play for my birthday

 

I've also been in an couple of relationships that were more of the Bull/Cuck type. I only play one on one with the woman and send vids or pics to the guy. Again, it's about finding what pleases the couple and doing my best to accommodate their goals and expectations while strictly staying within their boundaries. Which is why free and open communication is paramount. Yes, I get to enjoy hot sex with a beautiful woman (what healthy hetro man wouldn't enjoy that!) and I get the ego stroke of knowing that I've provided pleasure in one way or another, hopefully to both of them. I suppose in some way its a weird juxtaposition of being somewhat selfish while being altruistic? Does that make sense?

 

Regardless, as a male I like having sex with women (duh!), I love pleasing a woman sexually, and it's also fun to please a couple. I guess it's that simple

 

GaSH

 

^^^ Ditto this. I could have written this post myself. In addition, its natrual progression when experiencing repeated experiences with the couples, a relationship develops, and I became an extention of the family.

[Bob250 74]

I'm an honest guy, the presence of another man isn't particularly of interest to me. I entered the LS for NSA sex. In most cases, it has been with a married woman or women, sometimes the husband (s) is/are there, some times he/they isn't/aren't. Basically, I'm in it for the pussy.

[ExperienceNFun 23]

The same things that I think turn everyone on in the lifestyle - a variety of partners, meeting others who enjoy their sexuality, and just plain sex! There's a different dynamic with a couple than there is in dating a single woman, as others here have posted. It is a hell of a lot of fun to get to know people, click as individuals, and then have everyone comfortable enough to start shedding clothes and satisfy our urges.

 

When it works, it works...nobody is compatible with everyone, but I think I've probably met more nice, well-socialized people in the lifestyle than out of it, truth be told.

[victoria'dreams 141]

Really interesting to see this thread back to life. I made this thread almost three years ago and my wife and I had NO experience yet. Since then we had quite a lot of threesomes! We were lucky to almost had only great fun. We had both single females and males joining us but I'm going speak here only about the single males.

 

Reading the post above, I've to say that yet we never met a guy more than twice for sex. The three reasons for that is or

 

1/ Single male makes so much effort in the beginning to be picked and do their best so we ask them to come back, they kind of loose that quickly after they feel comfortable. I like when the single guy isn't sure yet we will love his company. They act differently in matter of respect with the woman but also with the husband.

2/ Sorry to brag but my wife is extremely, extremely beautiful (really tall, blonde, blue eyes, infinite long legs, big breasts, stunning face etc...). And many guys seems to 'fall in love' for her and bring more emotional part inside the sex. Talking to me so much about her beauty, asking me a for a lot of feedback of what she thinks of them what did she says etc and I feel we're not seen as a couple anymore.

3/ My wife is super turned on by the "stranger" and love so much the first time she has sex with a guy she has never seen before (except me! ). So she doesn't like to know too much about a single guy because he becomes just less of a stranger. I actually love that side of her, makes me fconfident it's only about sex and I don't suffer from any jealousy.

 

Still I'd love one time to meet a single guy we feel so comfortable that we can call him spontaneously for sex or go out somewhere as we never experienced this. Cause the search isn't that fun...

[yorktownvaguy 76]

As a single bi guy who plays with couple it has never been only about me, about scoring or the list that started this discussion in 2012.

Yes the excitement of someone new and exotic is fun, but I do agree the objective should be to bring the sexual pleasure for all three to the next level. Watching them enjoy themselves is a huge turn on for me and that usually starts with communication and truthfully the cliche is still correct, "the biggest sex organ is the brain." (at least in many cases).

[intuition897 2,179]

2/ Sorry to brag but my wife is extremely, extremely beautiful (really tall, blonde, blue eyes, infinite long legs, big breasts, stunning face etc...). And many guys seems to 'fall in love' for her and bring more emotional part inside the sex. Talking to me so much about her beauty, asking me a for a lot of feedback of what she thinks of them what did she says etc and I feel we're not seen as a couple anymore.

 

If that's your wife in your avatar, I see what you mean. Wow. Being more in the 'average' range on the attractiveness scale, I don't think I've ever had trouble with being approachable. I wonder that maybe people who are extraordinarily genetically blessed can find it difficult to find people who are confident enough to approach them. Do you find this is the case

 

I'm a married woman, but I know what Alura is talking about, lacking interest in playing with anyone if you're single. After having been part of a couple (even talking as hypothetical single woman), I think I would be spoiled. And if I had to lose Mr. intuition as tragically as Alura lost his wife, I don't know what would be left of me. Whatever it was would probably have little interest in swinging. It would be too painful.

 

However, if I had never been married, I could see myself possibly being a third in a threesome. I'm experimental like that. And I'm an altruist, so I would do it to help a couple fulfill a fantasy. I've come to love the openness and honesty and naturalness of non-monogamous relationships. Yet another way to "stick it to The Man."

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

As a single bi guy who plays with couple it has never been only about me, about scoring or the list that started this discussion in 2012.

Yes the excitement of someone new and exotic is fun, but I do agree the objective should be to bring the sexual pleasure for all three to the next level. Watching them enjoy themselves is a huge turn on for me and that usually starts with communication and truthfully the cliche is still correct, "the biggest sex organ is the brain." (at least in many cases).

 

There definitely a different dynamic when the guest is playing with both in a couple. Not quite the same with a single bi male or female, but similar. I expect its the same for single bi females but for me the best is when both play with the other two. It is a fun when the lady actually enjoys watching & demonstrates it through comment &/or mastrubation even if she does not make contact with us. Best is where all three are physically engaged. Helping to bring a couple to peak arousal so they couple with intense orgasms is exciting/satisfying for me. Plus I get well rewarded too : )

[iluvlicnhr 19]

Ihave not had the pleasure yet, but to me I think that having the lady and me start out with her showing me what and how to please her mate would be very erotic and some shared oral exam and touch I am sure would get me all over their sexy bodies and tasting their warming prejuices will surely have my mouth full of energy for all things to come

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

... I think that having the lady and me start out with her showing me what and how to please her mate would be very erotic and some shared oral exam and touch ...

 

Exactly, its erotic when one of them snuggles up next to me with a wicked smile and says something like 'he/she likes it this way'. Helps reduce the first time awkwardness.