wayneincalif 16 Posted December 31, 2012 Been reading a lot about the lifestyle, something we are thinking of. I've read the posts about the do's and don'ts and have found them very helpful. Also the posts about first time experiences....basically a lot of good info here so thanks for sharing. We are in our 50's..my wife is natural down there, not much trimming being done. Same for me. It seems if you look at current porn sites, most men and women are shaved. Of course most, if not all, of the people in those pics/movies are much younger than we are. My question to you mature swingers out there, at your gatherings of when you attend an event at a swingers club, how many mature people are shaved and trimmed down below? Is it real common? I have the read forums about hygiene and if I remember correctly it was suggested to tidy up down there with the razor/trimmer... Just wondering what your thoughts are? Quote Share this post Link to post
TheSwingerSet 205 Posted December 31, 2012 While slightly younger than you, both the wife and I are shaved, trimmed or waxed. I personaly trim the top and shave the twig and berries, the Mrs, either shaves completly or leaves a trimmed landing strip up top. While hygine is one of the reasons we do this there are others as well. Oral sex is much better without that annoying hair getting in your mouth, there is nothing sexy about your partner stopping to make the pfft pfft sound as they try and get a stray hair out of their mouth. In my personal opinion women look much better all smooth. My wife says that sex of any kind is better when she is shaved or waxed, there is more feeling and she is more sensitive. A fresh shave or wax and the right pair of jeans and she is cumming all day. hope this helps K Quote Share this post Link to post
ViSexual 1,008 Posted December 31, 2012 More and more are shaving but I, for one, still prefer the natural look. Quote Share this post Link to post
oc1234 435 Posted December 31, 2012 My wife and I have been nudists for over 30 years. It is now common practice for most women and a great number of men we know to be totally shaved. I am totally shaved and have been for several years. I find that it just feels much better that way. My wife is trimmed. If she shaves, she says it itches after a day or two. Quote Share this post Link to post
Lionheart72 2,190 Posted December 31, 2012 In my experience, most guys are trimmed and a lot of women shave. My wife does not shave (though she trims a little) and frequently receives high praise for being a "natural woman." I trim, but I'm a pretty hairy guy and I've found nothing spoils a blowjob like the lady stopping every few seconds to spit out a pube. I think a lot of people shave because they see it in porn, or see other people do it, and think it's expected. However, I think it's not actually as desirable as all that. Quote Share this post Link to post
occ 148 Posted December 31, 2012 I trim and shave my balls. Mrs. OCC is now shaving completely. She used to just trim but likes the sensations better totally bare. Quote Share this post Link to post
angelkin 1,326 Posted December 31, 2012 I shave and just leave a landing strip and have done so for many years, even before swinging. Hubby shaves/trims as well. I don't think we've encountered anyone at a swinger event that was completely natural...and if we did, we wouldn't be inclined to play with them. Our preference is neatly groomed down there. Quote Share this post Link to post
exploringRM 305 Posted December 31, 2012 We are in our 50s as well. Have partied with people +/- 10 or 15 years from our age and I don't recall seeing someone not shaved. Our preference is to be with people that are shaved, just nicer without all that hair in the way. Quote Share this post Link to post
fallon couple 20 Posted December 31, 2012 were 50 and 47 and we stay either shaved or a real close trim neither of us like a all natural look on possible playmates 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
SW_PA_Couple 4,024 Posted December 31, 2012 My wife and I are "mature", both trimmed "just a little off the top, please." One of my favorite play dates has a bush that would make a psychology professor proud and I think it's great. As for hygienetics, the microscopic abrasion that razors make are little pathways for letting pathogens get through your protective layer of skin. I have never bought into the hygiene argument for shaving. Quote Share this post Link to post
Baconheads 431 Posted December 31, 2012 Part of our sex play between me and my wife is when I trim her up, about every month or so. It really does feel better loving a tidy little cooch, without all of that hair getting in the way. That said, we've never actually shaved all the way, hardwood floor style. Too high maintenence! Quote Share this post Link to post
tribbles 490 Posted December 31, 2012 We started in our late 40's and flat out refuse to do things to fit in that we don't want to do. Try shaving. I totally think everyone should. Then you decide for yourselves, what you want. We are natural. We sometimes get turned down but not as often as people here would expect. So dare to be yourselves. And have fun! Quote Share this post Link to post
wayneincalif 16 Posted January 1, 2013 forgot about the trusty "search" function....thanks for the info and thanks to all who replied... Quote Share this post Link to post
Texascurious 15 Posted January 1, 2013 We haven't started playing yet, but I trim everything fairly short. I don't shave because whenever I've tried it has made it really itchy and not pleasant for sex! My husband is totally natural. I haven't had issues with hair getting in my mouth during oral sex, but I usually discover a hair or two down there after we have intercourse. Quote Share this post Link to post
Texascurious 15 Posted January 1, 2013 Oh and my hubby prefers me natural, because he doesnt want any prickly hairs while having sex, but I just think it looks neater to trim. Quote Share this post Link to post
Brian and Jo 344 Posted January 8, 2013 We are a mature couple and we have both been completely shaved for many years. We think the smooth look is much more attactive as well as being more comfortable and hygeinic. We play mostly with a group of six other mature couples and everyone, men and women alike, are shaved. Quote Share this post Link to post
TheRedHalf 81 Posted January 9, 2013 We're both in our 40's and I keep everything trimmed. The wife started waxing last year and she loves it if you can believe it. She has to go back every 6 weeks or so but I think she likes the woman . I thank her every time I make a trip down there, no more hairs stuck in my throat and she smells so good now. Quote Share this post Link to post
Fundamental Law 2,885 Posted January 9, 2013 The issue is less "shaving" but rather "grooming" an area not typically exposed to others. Nudists and swingers tend to groom their genitalia as much as they groom their heads, faces and fingers/toes. Over the past three decades of practice as a physician, such genital grooming has become more common among the general population. In response to the OP, looking at men and women over 50 it's probably an even split groomed/not groomed. It falls off in later years as other grooming aspects seem to fall off. Our preference: shaved. And our combined age is almost 120. Quote Share this post Link to post
bogeyman 31 Posted January 11, 2013 I'm 56 the wife is 50 and she shaves smooth, the only way to go. ever since my vasectomy I completely shave everything and trim short above. The sensation is much more enjoyable for me and the wife likes to give oral much more thoroughly. Trust me, You haven't lived until you had both your balls in her mouth while being jacked off and she's humming the star spangled banner. Just wait till she gets to the high notes. Quote Share this post Link to post
Baconheads 431 Posted January 17, 2013 Over the past three decades of practice as a physician, such genital grooming has become more common among the general population. In response to the OP, looking at men and women over 50 it's probably an even split groomed/not groomed. It falls off in later years as other grooming aspects seem to fall off. My dear wife, not a swinger, doesn't let me groom her pussy for at least a month before she goes in for her annual. I just say, "Might as well give the doctor a better look!" So is it easier for you to do a good exam with trimmed naughty bits? Quote Share this post Link to post
JustAskJulie 2,595 Posted January 25, 2013 While we are a bit younger than you, I've been around this for about 15 years, surrounded by people older than me the entire time. I can't remember the last time I saw a woman with pubes. Guys typically will trim, but I can't recall running into a guy that was natural. I'm sure I have but that tells you how rare it is. I'm not talking about just couples we've played with, but moreso the number of privates I've just seen flashed, or nude in clubs, at events, etc. It's rare. That said, if you aren't comfortable shaving or (at least) trimming, stick with what makes you comfortable. Just don't be surprised if some people decide that oral is not in the cards. Quote Share this post Link to post
Just Passing By 140 Posted January 31, 2013 Back in the day , I was intrigued with shaven women. The various gf would often say ok , but if you want it , you take care of it. Various enjoyable special occasions of doing so . But after a cpl days nasty bristles , ingrown hairs, etc. With out them doing daily self maintainence , I then settled on giving a #1 cut . Ie just long enough to not be bristly , but still see thru. But in recent years when shaved has become quasi expected , I'm drawn to natural , or just slightly trimmed. I guess I am a contrarian as much as anything. As for my self over they years have occasionally shaved/ been shaved. But it always looked strange to have that area bald when the rest of me was hairy.everywhere else. Otoh , having your pubes get cought in removing a condom is painful, so that was a practical matter. Quote Share this post Link to post