azwildcat 15 Posted July 26, 2003 thank's, jen, but no need to, what can't be helped, just can't be helped, not this time anyhow. it'll be alright once i get my feet on the ground again or hit him with my car, only cuz the truck is lifted to high, it'll just roll over him,damn!! see, i'm not going to let it take my sarcastic humor away from me. he can just kiss my ()() Quote Share this post Link to post
Elusive BiFem 70 Posted July 26, 2003 Originally posted by alabamafuntonig well we talk for 1 hour yesterday and she dont want to see me again for a while. she says she loves me but cant stay with me!!!! she says she misses me !!!! but does not want to come home! she is pretty sure a divorce is the way to go! but i took all the sdvice i got and let her talk! One hour of talk isn't much when you're talking about everyone's future!! Do you know why she "loves you but can't stay with you?" Why does she miss you but feel that she can't come home? Why does she feel a divorce is the way to go? Most people don't decide to divorce on a whim. It is generally something that has been eating away at them for a long time. Those are rhetorical questions, but things you need to answer and/or have answered for yourself. You may want to consider setting up another meeting for the two of you. You mentioned you took everyone's advice and let her talk. Now that you've heard what she has to say, maybe you both need to sit down and seriously **communicate**. Avoid accusations, the "you did's" - all of that sort of stuff, and just get down to the nitty-gritty of what you can each contribute to the life of your relationship. The give-a-little, get-a-little things that are important in all relationships. Everyone on this Board harps on communicate, communicate, communicate...including you. Well, Bama, I think it is time for the test of your life in terms of communication. Listen and really hear and speak from your heart. -EBF (I need a smiley for a hug) Quote Share this post Link to post
azwildcat 15 Posted July 26, 2003 now don't worry about me ok. i've been through worse. hell, i gave birth to three kids, now that was something;) besides, what doesn't kill us just makes us stronger, i say. Quote Share this post Link to post
jen 16 Posted July 26, 2003 az, wow. No No az - about hitting him with the car - you have kids...yes? They need a good mom -- stay away from anything that could result in jail time! Goofin... Be sure you're in a dark alley, use someone else's car, and no matter what do not...this is important...do not allow him to become wedged in the windshield then drive home and park in the garage! Goofin again, of course. my bad. Trying to help az keep the humor...sarcastic or whichever kind... still pouty about broken smilies... Quote Share this post Link to post
azwildcat 15 Posted July 26, 2003 ok, someone else car, hummm, not a bad plan there, jen, don't worry i wouldn't use my car anyhow, he paid to much for my birthday present , so i'll use my g/f's the break's are shot so that's my alibi and i'll make sure to have plenty of doughnut's on hand Quote Share this post Link to post
alabamafuntonig 20 Posted July 26, 2003 Everyone on this Board harps on communicate, communicate, communicate...including you. Well, Bama, I think it is time for the test of your life in terms of communication. Listen and really hear and speak from your heart. it has eaten at me very much today so far but i know in my heart of hearts that like everone says time heals all things in life. im not sure why she is not coming home ,she says she loves me and misses me and knows im hurting but she wants to stay away until she knows she wants to come back. problem is we cant talk when she is gone! and 1 hour was not enough . im not sure some people say wait some people say thats bs she knows what she is doing and in one week or two you will still be in the same boat. i dont want to get religuos or any thing but its so easy to fall down and start listening to the evil thoughts and temptations that arize during this. Quote Share this post Link to post
jen 16 Posted July 26, 2003 Listen and really hear and speak from your heart. -EBF (I need a smiley for a hug) [/b] Thats the only way. From your heart. While hoping she is using hers as well. Once a good heart finds another, they are always together. Quote Share this post Link to post
azwildcat 15 Posted July 26, 2003 that's true, bama, listen to what, jen, said don't give up though ok. Quote Share this post Link to post
wrnakedru 38 Posted July 27, 2003 SOMETIMES... when you cry........... no one sees your tears... SOMETIMES... when you are in pain... no one sees your hurt... SOMETIMES... when you are worried... no one sees your stress... SOMETIMES .. when you are happy..... no one sees your smile ... BUT......... FART just one time! ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ Please note: No disrespect to the pain and internal conflict our very much cared for fellow board members are experiencing. Just thought a grin, even a fleeting one, is sometimes welcome! Quote Share this post Link to post
alabamafuntonig 20 Posted July 28, 2003 have you ever tied a noose and it just wont work, ever tried to overdose on pills but all you have is flintstones viatimins. dont own a gun so thats out. im fucked i even srew up somthing so simple!Ive been drunk for the last 24 hours. i dont want to face it , my wife said i would see my kids today well its 730 still no kids ...im a loser husband and now im a loser dad go figure, dont ever wish you had some time alone all i can say is it aint worth it. Quote Share this post Link to post
OhioCouple 41 Posted July 28, 2003 Bama, There are a LOT of people around here that care about you. AND I MEAN A LOT! Please, if you do nothing else, answer my emails. If ya won't do that then at least go down and get my feathers ruffled in the political forum! :kissface: Quote Share this post Link to post
alabamafuntonig 20 Posted July 28, 2003 i tried mrsO my system at home is not the rocket at work alabamafuntonight@hotmail.com it always works Quote Share this post Link to post