Have you ever had bad swinging sex?

[M&S 266]

Maybe this should not come as a surprise, but in our experience in the LS, we have been thrilled with how good LS people are at sex. Almost all of our experiences have been playful, intense, multi-orgasmic... just really good sex. Almost all...

 

We met a couple once that we really liked. We found them really attractive. Over dinner, we found them interesting and likeable and loved their sexy playful attitude. After dinner we went back to our place and the sex was AWFUL. She was the laziest partner I have ever been with. She laid on her back the whole time and wanted to be pleasured, ideally by both of us. She was enjoying it and obviously into it, but she wanted to make no effort to please either of us. At one point, after probably almost an hour, she did start to give me head, but it was incredibly painful because she stayed on her back and just tilted her head a little, so there was so the angle cause so much grinding of her teeth against my cock that I wanted to cry out in pain. He was better so no real story there.

 

It was a very odd experience for us. We have had couples we did not click with and that is to be expected. But this is the first time we met someone we really liked and the only thing wrong with the experience is that the sex sucked. We felt a little shallow, but we had no desire to see them again.

 

Have others had similar disappointments

[TheSwingerSet 205]

The only real bad swinging sex I have ever had was when an aperently sober woman turned very drunk during play time, I found out later that she had several shots right before we hit the sheets, She went from frisky and very playfull to dull and sloppy, in just a few minutes when we were well into it. Oh well I turned her back over to her hubby and found someone else to play with.

 

K

[angelkin 1,326]

Speaking for myself only, the bad swinging sex I've had was related to performance issues with the 2nd guy. Getting all revved up for a threesome and the guy's member not cooperating is a let down. Selfish, I know, but true.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

thankfully I never actually had sex with this guy!

 

The guy was very small. He came in my mouth within a minute without asking. And then kept saying, "This is so great not to be sneaking around." Evidently he had a long history as a cheater.

 

What did he do for me? Yanked on my breasts like he was trying to tie them together and my nipples like he was tuning a radio. Worst ever! Thankfully we didn't get to anything else.

[sexycouple1 36]

We have been swinging for about 3yrs and my wife always seemed to get the short end of the stick (a little pun there). Either the guys performance was terrible like he couldnt get it up at all, or he was very small or we found out to late that they had jealousy issues or that they were too possessive with our time outside of swinging . Or like Funcoupledayton stated above the guy would take liberties during that were not wanted.....We have learned to trust our gut and state what we want better in a couple or single person in our online profile to minimize the surprises that may occur...I want more than anything for my wife to enjoy herself more than she has in all this...She has had some good moments but as a whole its been a negative more than a positive experience for us. We will see what 2013 brings...

[Tia Vampire 167]

I also hate it when a guy get you all hot then can't get it up. What a waist of time. It has happened so much now that I put it in my profile. It has become so bad for me that I rather do a guy with a strap-on and know that i'm going to get something out of it, than have intercourse with a couple or single guy. I have a date tonight with a single guy I have known for a while. Please let this time be a great time or i'm going to stop swinging with couples and single guys for good.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

I also hate it when a guy get you all hot then can't get it up. . . . Please let this time be a great time or i'm going to stop swinging with couples and single guys for good.

Haven't see you for a while. Welcome back. And I will offer a prayer of my own that your upcoming date is a good one.

 

There is a poor-sex equivalent for a guy. On just a couple of occasions, I have experienced a woman for whom no amount of stroking, tongue-ing, fondling, penetrating, going fast or going slow creates a response. It makes me wonder, "what am I doing wrong?" I'm not talking about women who simply needs an extra-long build-up. I know those women too. The required extra attention is always paid back ten times.

 

Both times, when I think back, I realize that I was a victim of my own overeagerness. I hope I am becoming better at reading the signals ahead-of-time.

[Tia Vampire 167]

Yeah, been a while SW PA Couple. Was going to give up swinging and get married. Only to find out that he's going through an awful divorce. Don't have time to wait for him to make up his mind what he wants to do. Now i'm back into the swing of things and will be posting more. Hello to all.

 

I also think because I have moved on to BDSM swinging with just plain normal sex will never be the same.

[Coupleerotic22 1,419]

There is a joke in there somewhere, something along the lines of the only bad sex is no sex, but alas it is not the case.

 

Over the years I have been subjected to some BAD sex, from my partner being so placid that I wondered at times if I was alone in the room (and yes, wondering what the hell I was doing wrong), to sex so wild that I felt I had just had a 15 round boxing bout with an deranged orangutan on a bad acid trip (as hard as they are dicks can be damaged). My ego does not keep me under the illusion that every partner I have had has been replete with a rapturous experience complete with fireworks and signing angels (hopefully at least one or two got close).

 

Fortunately, bad sex in the swinging world has been minimal for me. Perhaps it is because I am deliberate about not building up a fantasy in my head about the upcoming experience, so only good sex is not a disappointment and great sex is a wonderful treat. Added to that is most swingers are rather experienced and know how to please their partner. Also most swingers know exactly what they want and are more than willing to share their desires (faster, slower, harder, faster etc.) Happily, I take well to coaching as do most swingers I know.

[Tia Vampire 167]

Had a great time last night. Look like there are some single men out there that knows how to show a girl a good time. Just far and in between. Guess i'm not going to throw in the towel quite yet.

[willyoats 324]

I remember the time as we arrived at a house party, a woman we knew pulled me into onto a bed and wanted 69 and then fuck. At least she was very up-front about what she wanted. Unfortunately, she did not shower beforehand. I tried, but I just couldn't do it. Months later, at our club we connected for a wonderful time, and we are friends to this day.

 

Then there was the time another woman I knew asked me for play time at a house party. When we got on the bed, every move I made was wrong, at least according to her. Too hard, too soft, too fast, too slow, to mechanical, too sloppy,............ I don't claim to be the greatest lover ever, but this woman was definitely the worst I ever had.

[2plus2fun 143]

Unfortunately, she did not shower beforehand.

 

I had the same thing happen to me... I feel for you. She was a VERY attractive girl but she admitted to me that she had rushed around after work so that they could meet us... and we had met late - around 10:30PM. We never saw them again.

 

As far as bad sex, yes... we have had bad experiences but not all were from bad partners in the performance sense. The first time we ever full swapped, the female pulled out 2 of the biggest dildos that I have ever seen and wanted to use them on my 5'1" 120 lbs wife... and was visibly disappointed when she declined. THEN she pulled out a double sided dildo which my wife was happy to try... only problem is that there was something in the rubber that burned them both... within 5 minutes they were shoving ice cubes up their vaginas to soothe the burn. They both were able to solve the issue after 30 minutes or so of ice in the vagina and said they were ok and wanted to continue.... so THEN when we got to the swapping part... and the first thing the male did was put his thumb up my wifes ass shortly after he started having sex with her doggy style... no warning... just BAM... thumb in the ass. My wife was not pleased to say the least and playtime was over.

 

Fast forward a few weeks... we met another couple on SLS and went over to their house on a Thursday evening. They were fun to talk to and we had a couple of drinks and decided to play... Their profile said that the female was bi-curious... which was absolutely false... she about freaked out when Sharon tried to go down on her... however, we just let that go and Sharon started going down on the male - who was quite hung and I started going down on the female... things were really starting to heat up and then suddenly, the female locked her legs around my head and literally pissed all over my face and in my mouth... I even inhaled some because she damn near drowned me. Apparently, she "squirted"... and it is why I steer clear of anyone who says they squirt to this day.

 

The above experiences were by far the worst... but Sharon has met many guys who were very small, couldn't keep it up or were 1-2 minute men. I have had a couple of girls who were just not into it... and it was obvious. A few that had hygiene issues - at an on-premises club no less.

 

In retrospect... it is amazing that we are swingers considering our first 2 experiences.

[sweet_tna 680]

Had a great time last night. Look like there are some single men out there that knows how to show a girl a good time. Just far and in between. Guess i'm not going to throw in the towel quite yet.

Glad to hear it, Tia. And welcome back!

 

As for the OP's question, YES, I have unfortunately had bad sex. Thankfully, it's not often. I have had guys that couldn't perform, and I had one guy that couldn't find my clit with a damn map--and yes, I tried redirecting him both physically and verbally. It happens, but it makes the good experiences all the better.

 

=)

[Adam-n-Eve 223]

I also hate it when a guy get you all hot then can't get it up. What a waist of time. It has happened so much now that I put it in my profile.

 

So adding more pressure is your response to this problem? Perhaps your response is why it's happened so much? Seriously. If anything was going to throw me off my game it would be a woman telling me just how disappointed she would be if I couldn't get it up. If, god forbid, I went a little soft as I was going down on you (something that does happen with me if I'm down there without stimulation for 10 minutes) I might get so preoccupied about getting it up that I wouldn't recover. This is coming from a guy who can usually engage in intercourse an hour or more without giving it a second thought.

 

How you handle these things and how you talk about them goes a long way towards the ultimate result.

[Adam-n-Eve 223]

Eve has has so much bad swinger sex that we aren't even swingers anymore. We just look for people for one-on-one encounters these days -- preferably a long-term FWB who we know we're compatible with. It's been much more fun for us this way. My experiences were better, but even I prefer the FWB to the four-way.

 

But honestly, I've come to the conclusion that we're just not into the same things most swingers are. Watching each other isn't really a priority for us -- and that seems to be what drives most couples. We'd rather have you in a room to ourselves and just have some great vanilla sex.

 

Adam

[jambi 15]

the worst experience was when we had initially agreed to some initial light play with a couple we knew and they wanted to turn it into full-blown swapping after the initial consent level was established. it made for a really stressful situation that made it a short night ending with a lot of door slamming (not us) and other exaggerated body language.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

This isn't really "Bad swinger sex", but it's funny looking back on it. We used to play with a couple somewhat regularly, and Mrs two4you and the male half matched up VERY well. He was good at doing the domination thing she likes (and I suck at), was well endowed, and generally fucked her silly each time.

 

The female half and I were almost great partners. She loved the oral I gave her, and damn, her oral skills were probably the best I've experienced in swinging. But, when it came to the actual intercourse, we couldn't get our shit together. Our rhythm wouldn't match up, and we struggled to find the "right" position. While there was porn quality fucking going on in the bed next to us, we did good not to fall out of the bed.

 

Now, it wasn't so bad that we didn't try again, and again, and again.

[Wornsilver 219]

The night was marginal, at best, and it was pretty clear that the only reason we were there was so the other wife could do my wife. The other wife had a bad case of stubble, obviously had not shaved in a while. We moved on to boy/girl play and she and I were just getting going when she bit my nipple so hard it bled. I'm not exactly a wuss, but willy became limp willy in a heartbeat.

 

He turned out to be extremely small. Not the greatest all around night we have ever had.

[StartingOver60 58]

Yes! The first couple we meet at a club. She was three months pregnant and approached us. I explained that I didn't think it was a good idea but she insisted. So my wife and I talked with them and things seemed to be going good and so we agreed to go to there house. Before we left the pregnant wife explained that she wanted separate rooms and did not want to compete with my wife who was very hot in a who can come first situation. I should have realized I was in for it. Well long story short we went to there place my wife and the other guy left for the bedroom we were left for the sofa. We started kissing and she said lets just get started and took off her cloths and laid down on the sofa and when I got on her she started putting me in her. Talk about a hurry it up time. So I just played along and we were done as she didn't even move and suggested we take a shower. In the shower she gave me some head until I was hard and then when I tried to penetrate her from behind she said she wasn't into gymnastics. OK so we went back to the sofa and closed one of the doors loudly signaling I guess. We went back to the sofa I was ready to go again but the other two came out to take a shower and as I on the pregnant queen he said we were done. This was a clear situation that she wanted to get her husband laid and she would just go along controlling the situation. Wife and I got dressed and left. My wife had a fun time and enjoyed the guy very much. She gave him our home number and he called the next day and asked if we would like to spend the day in bed with them. I told him no thanks. He didn't ask why so I left it at that.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

Bad sex? Yes, I've had bad sex. This woman mistook my penis for an Oscar Meijer weenie and kept trying to bit it off.

 

Now, for the record, the use of teeth for oral sex is not in itself a bad thing. Another woman of my intimate acquaintance uses her teeth in a very deliberate manner to please herself and me and that is very exciting for me.

[dragonmoon 17]

We've had similar experiences as cited here, mostly me, (the Mrs) getting short changed on guys being too quick then getting up to watch TV while I'm wondering how to spend my time until my nubby and the other wife have finished playing.Recently the hubby has taken to playing with single gals by himself, with my knowledge, because there have been the age old thing about finding couples where all four click (or measure up), this addition of him playing w/o me still falls into the category of swinging expereinces that are a bit one sided. On a different note, we found a new event to attend and have met some great people, in fact a couple of weeks ago we clicked with three other couples and all went back to one of the rooms for one of the best spur of the moment orgies I've been in.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

Have we ever had bad swinger sex? I'd have to say "yup!" I can think of a few times, actually, where either the Mrs. or I have had a not-so-great time. And in each case where one of us had a bad time, the other one happened to enjoy their play partner a lot more. So it was kind of a shame, but in two of the cases we both decided not to swap with the particular couples involved, rather than having one of us sit it out or take one for the team.

 

In the other case that comes to mind, I had a fairly bad experience with the other woman impatiently demanding that I use a high-horsepower vibrator (which I freely admit I'm not experienced at using) to make her squirt. That encounter was more-or-less over before it even started! Funny thing is, we met up with this couple again recently at a club, and we all decided to try again. The Mrs. had another good time with the other guy. And it turned out that, using nothing other than my own "biological equipment", my play partner ended up squirting like crazy and having a great time- which means that I enjoyed myself greatly, too!

 

Although we have had some not-so-great experiences, we still love this lifestyle! Not every adventure pans out as we would hope, but that just reminds us to enjoy and savor the good times.