Why do younger single males like older women?

[CandyCane 33]

No, this isn't a bashing thread about them... Our first experience into the Lifestyle was with a single male. Loved our experience, so much so, we played with him on numerous occasions. That experience was over 7 years ago, and he left the Lifestyle and got married. Now we are having a hard time finding dependable guys. As I (the female) have gotten older, I've noticed that I tend to attract younger guys... ages ranging from 22 to early 30's. But my question is, why do younger guys like older women? I have gotten over the weirded out factor, we have a son that is 19 and he has to tell his friends to quit checking out his mom

[angelkin 1,326]

*shrugs* I don't know why younger men seem to be attracted to older women, maybe it's just something they can't act upon in vanilla life, maybe they desire our openness and experience. I put in our profile that I am not into younger men because they seem to lack the ability to give pleasure without being selfish.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I am a man, no longer young, but once was and have not forgotten. On this subject I even feel enfranchised to speak in general terms; not just for myself. When a man is young he has a twenty-four-hour-per-day Eveready hard-on. He would be capable of and sometimes feels the desire for using it on anything in a skirt. Older women, to some men, seem an "easy target". Many women-of-the-same-age have given the guy a cold shoulder. So he begins to look elsewhere. The idiomatic thinking is, "hey, an older woman might be feeling desperate for love. She'll be putty in my hands".

 

Some young men, whether they had engaged in this fanciful think or not, actually are fun, as my wife well knows from experience. Also based upon her experience, they are one in a hundred.

[JandKinBoise 858]

Bringing in single guys is how we swing. We are both 50 and prefer men our age. Our ads are very specific about this but it doesn't matter. We still get replies from 20 somethings. We just can't do it. Our kids are 28 and 30. Seeing a guy younger than our kids just seems wrong to us, that plus they are just a general turn-off. Clumsy, spastic, flaky. Plus the generation gap makes hanging out impossible. We may be missing out but we'll never know.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I can't help but think that a lot of is just media. So much media builds up that whole MILF thing.

[angelkin 1,326]

I can't help but think that a lot of is just media. So much media builds up that whole MILF thing.

 

That could be some of it We were recently contacted by a younger guy (23) and we've been chatting with him a bit. I am enjoying his youthful POV and excitement to get into the lifestyle. I have yet to see a picture of him, but based on our limited interaction, I find myself considering him for playtime. Who knew?

[CandyCane 33]

We have been contacted by a few younger guys that have piqued my interest... I have enjoyed conversing with them, their thirst for knowledge of the lifestyle is quite refreshing... Have seen quite a few jump right in without a clue

[sparkstar 128]

I've always gone for much older men, even since i was 15 I fancied men who were in their 30's and some 40's while all my friends thought of it as something so horrible. When I was 15-17 I was sleeping with men in their 20's and early 30's.

 

We mostly swing with single males aged 30-45 but have seen ages 25-60.

 

I suppose when I'm 40 (27 now) I will then start seeing men in their early 20's.

[Alura 2,774]

Why do younger men appreciate older women?

 

"Because they don't swell, they don't tell, and they appreciate it like Hell."

—Somebody

 

[IEcouple 222]

Older women tend to be more experienced and more comfortable with their sexuality than younger women. As a twenty-something guy I met plenty of women my age that were boring in bed. And a lot of young women act like sorority girls even when they aren't anymore. That got tiresome.

[bogeyman 31]

Older women tend to be more experienced and more comfortable with their sexuality than younger women. As a twenty-something guy I met plenty of women my age that were boring in bed. And a lot of young women act like sorority girls even when they aren't anymore. That got tiresome.

 

Excellent point, my feelings exactly. I've adored older women my entire life. Lost my virginity when I was 18 to an older ,(well she was 21) women. Girls are...????...cute???? Older women are; beautiful, gorgeous, sensual, sexy, erotic, experienced, elegant, know how to carry themselves, are NOT full of themselves, will tell you what they want and not beat around the bush and on and on. I'm 56 now, I'll take a well kept, attractive 50-70 year old any day of the week over just about any 22 year old. I know a gorgeous 72 year old that I'm dying to lick all over.

[eldiablo311 201]

Older women tend to be more experienced and more comfortable with their sexuality than younger women. As a twenty-something guy I met plenty of women my age that were boring in bed. And a lot of young women act like sorority girls even when they aren't anymore. That got tiresome.

 

That was my point of view when I was in my 20's. I thought that some older women would really be turned on by a younger guy, a guy that isn't balding or fat necessarily, and can get really hard for long periods of time...lots of stamina. I really wanted, and still want though I'm married now, a women to be super into me if we are going to have sex, and I figured an older woman would feel pretty lucky to have a young good looking guy fuck her especially if she may be 15-20 years older or more. I also appreciated older women that still look really good and take care of their physique...it really turned me on when I saw a 50+ year old woman that had a body that could blow most 20 year olds out of the water...that takes work! It's easy for most people to look pretty good in their early 20's! I also liked the thought that older women were more open to doing sexual things, less inhibited.

[DaggersNRoses 271]

The idiomatic thinking is, "hey, an older woman might be feeling desperate for love. She'll be putty in my hands".

 

I get that same idea of single men who mail us.

[Butchj 65]

I always felt that women five years plus older than me were more experience sexually and open to experimentation. I dated my massage therapist who was seven years older than myself who opened up new avenues of pleasure I never imagined. She knew how to use her hands on my genitals in ways that could not only delay the pleasure of orgasm indefinitely but massage me in ways that made me cry out with passion. She also had a Darkside and knew how to become a dominant bitch to encourage me to do her will whenever needed. Experienced with a strap on dildo she would take advantage of my submissive side and have me pay for play face down getting screwed with her dildo. She really knew how to massage my prostate with a dildo like no one else.

[Fi86 78]

Perhaps as more mature women are more confident, more relaxed, less uptight, more approachable? More skilled sexually due to experience? Often curvier? Good for playing out mum/milf fantasies? I've no idea to be honest, just guessing.

 

Maybe I'm not old enough to get this yet, I have always attracted, and still attract, older gentleman. I usually look for couples where the woman is 20s or 30s and the man is 30s or 40s. Sometimes couples where she's early 40s and he's older. With single men I often end up with guys in the 40-75 range, most often the 45-60 range. Gangbangs are the exception, less choice involved, men can be 18-85.

[Eddiem 139]

Perhaps as more mature women are more confident, more relaxed, less uptight, more approachable? More skilled sexually due to experience? Often curvier? Good for playing out mum/milf fantasies? I've no idea to be honest, just guessing.

 

Maybe I'm not old enough to get this yet, I have always attracted, and still attract, older gentleman. I usually look for couples where the woman is 20s or 30s and the man is 30s or 40s. Sometimes couples where she's early 40s and he's older. With single men I often end up with guys in the 40-75 range, most often the 45-60 range. Gangbangs are the exception, less choice involved, men can be 18-85.

 

My wife is a fit 40s.. and gets all the guys that are younger. I don´t see her interested in older guys unless it is George Clooney or someone with style and huge yacht. :-) I think she likes the vitality... they are more sexually charge or able to really go for a long time.

[Fi86 78]

No chance of pregnancy is an interesting point.

[Guest]

My theory is that it has to do with breast size. Not so much with single men but I’m always surprised at how many younger couples, the young lady very fit but with small breasts, are willing to swap with hubby and I. It seems that these trades are often driven my the young man’s intense interest in my larger breasts. In any case, hubby sees it as a good deal.

[EastInWest 1,524]

I think there's a phase where a lot of women "come back" to the idea of enjoying men and fucking for fun, and that is a powerful perfume for men at any age. In college, before adult problems start interfering, as young men we're all enjoying women feeling free and having sex when they want because they can. We get a little older, there's more than a few married/attached/divorced women out there who have the anxiety-inducing parts of monogamous relationships settled for now and are just trying to get off.

 

It might be that more mature women in the lifestyle are very much in that mode, as well, and a woman having fun is the biggest turn-on there is, at any age. Factor in experience and confidence, it can be very appealing. The hangups and adversarialism that are so common in the dating market when you're taking a single 26-something out to dinner are not in the picture.

[Eddiem 139]

I asked my wife about it... she responded because the motherly appearance, nurturing, caring etc... From a sexual perspective she said that "experience" and how she is today is much different than 20-30 years ago (lying there).

[Numex 2,409]

The impression that I get from my wife is that younger guys see her (despite being extremely fit) as "broken-in, "comfortable," and since she's had a baby, "fertility goddess" both physically and psychologically.

[Jane1902 476]

When a younger guy messages me he's into older women I am sure to hit delete.

[Guest]

Shhhsh. Maybe because they know how much better we are now than when we were young.

[Numex 2,409]

Shhhsh. Maybe because they know how much better we are now than when we were young.

 

I agree, but in what way do you think?

 

I think that to a great extent it's being sexually certain of what she wants, not timid like less experienced girls. Women over 30, like guys, want to get on with it, and know whatever it is they want to get on with. Physically, their tits are more developed and their cunt physically more comfortable. It goes in easier while squeezing just as tight. And if she's already had a baby, you know she's a full woman.

[couplers 4,614]

Why do some younger women like older men?

[Napoleon 230]

Some men are into older women. I'm not. I'm 36 years old. Almost all the single women in my age group(30 to 40 ) and older are overweight or a single mom and looking to settle down and get married. I have no desire to get married or have kids. I definitely don't want to raise another man's child. I prerfer women 10 to 14 years younger than me for the reasons they're not overweight, not a single mom, they have a lot of free time to have fun, and they're not looking to settle down yet.

[Newandnaughty 3]

Some men are into older women. I'm not. I'm 36 years old. Almost all the single women in my age group(30 to 40 ) and older are overweight or a single mom and looking to settle down and get married. I have no desire to get married or have kids. I definitely don't want to raise another man's child. I prerfer women 10 to 14 years younger than me for the reasons they're not overweight, not a single mom, they have a lot of free time to have fun, and they're not looking to settle down yet.

 

Was your mother a humongous beast that went around screwing everybody in the neighborhood? Did your stepfather take out his anger towards her on you? There’s a reason why you keep repeating the same shit over and over and over and over. It’s time for me to use the ignore feature, you’re just really starting to become boring.

[Guest]

Maybe the question has been framed incorrectly. Do they actually like older woman, or do they like swinger women, or swinger wives. Are those of us in the lifestyle seen as more aggressive or more sexually adaptive then a single older woman would be? Or is it that is simply about sex with us,so the younger guy has no wory about hang ups and relationships.

[TheBiggerMan 83]

I thought the question asked for the opinions from young single men. Since when is 36 considered as young for being single? In fact 36 and still can't find a suitable wife, sounds like you are in the closet. See you soon on the bisexual forum again I assume.

[Napoleon 230]

I thought the question asked for the opinions from young single men. Since when is 36 considered as young for being single? In fact 36 and still can't find a suitable wife, sounds like you are in the closet. See you soon on the bisexual forum again I assume.

 

I have no desire to get married or have kids. I don't want to get divorced-raped like 50% or more men who get married. In terms of my finances, free time, minimum stress in my life, physical health, peace of mind, access to beautiful women, I'm doing extremely well not being married or having kids.

 

And I'm 100% straight, you dweeb.

[Napoleon 230]

Was your mother a humongous beast that went around screwing everybody in the neighborhood? Did your stepfather take out his anger towards her on you? There’s a reason why you keep repeating the same shit over and over and over and over. It’s time for me to use the ignore feature, you’re just really starting to become boring.

 

I had both my biological parents growing up. And my parents are still happily married to this day. And my mom is a high quality beautiful loving woman. She didn't slut around. My dad is a giant, a very dominant masculine man. Im just not attracted to single moms or overweight women. I don't want to raise another man's offspring.

 

Also, I don't care at all if you ignore me. I never desired your attention. ?

[1hotminute 72]

I think the attraction for younger men to older women is mainly confidence. As a young man even under aged I had an an experience with an older married woman I worked with. She was very direct and it made me more comfortable as I didn’t have to beat around the bush to find out what things made her get off. After that I have been more turned on by older women. Now that I’m turning into my 40’s I still am attracted to women 20+ years older than me. I’m definitely into average looking women.

[padoc 1,703]

When I was 24 I was at a neighborhood cookout at a friends house. One of the guests was a very attractive dark haired woman who I thought may have been close to 30. We hit it off, I was single, she was divorced, we hung out well into the evening. I asked for her number and a date and we started seeing each other regularly over the next few weeks.

She wasn't easy but I finally got her into bed and it was a revelation. We dated for almost a year and she taught me so many things about being a good lover and she showed me things I'd never experienced with the 19-23 year olds I had been dating. It turns out that she was actually 42 and had a daughter in that 19-23 age bracket. I didn't actively seek her out because she was older but her age and experience made a huge difference in my life and I've never forgotten her and what she taught me.

[Napoleon 230]

I don't know why. I very rarely find older women physically attractive. I don't get the whole MILF stuff. Yes older women are many times more willing to have sex than younger women are but physically younger women are so much more hotter looking to me. And for the record in the past I have been with a few women 9 to 13 years older than me. For their age they aged extremely well and the sex was great. With that being said, I'll rather put forth great effort getting one young beautiful woman to sleep with me I find insanely attractive as oppose to putting the same equal amount of effort getting three or four older women willing to have sex with me who I barely find attractive or don't find attractive at all. Also, younger women come with far less baggage compared to older women.

[Napoleon 230]

Ha ha

[goku714 30]

From my experience older women display a beautiful confident aura about them that makes them stand out and i like how authentic & fun they can be

[PeeTWheatstraw 122]

I have always been into older women. Lost my virginity to an older woman. Went to the prom with an older woman. Had an older sugar momma for about a year when I started my current job. Probably has something to do with me being raised by a single mother. The older women just seem to always say the right things and know how to make a young man feel special. 

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,383]

mature women have experience and generally fewer hangups.  plus they can be sexy AF.

young guys are into my wife. she's mid-40s, sexy AF and gets hit on all the time.  she doesn't like them though and prefers men 35+ yrs old.

[JessicaJamison 861]

I think it comes down to sexual confidence.  As others have said we don't have as many hang ups.  So for instance in my early twenties I didn't swallow, or do butt stuff.  But in my late 30s I swallow all the time, and I definitely do butt stuff.  

[MrMrsswinger 202]

10 hours ago, JessicaJamison said:

I think it comes down to sexual confidence.  As others have said we don't have as many hang ups.  So for instance in my early twenties I didn't swallow, or do butt stuff.  But in my late 30s I swallow all the time, and I definitely do butt stuff.  

I think you nailed it. I'm not a "young man" any longer. When I was younger and dating I found single women in my age group to be endless drama and very dull in bed. I don't know if it was a confidence thing, maybe just inexperience, I don't know. But back in college, getting a woman in the 20-25 years old range to merely ride me was difficult. They wanted missionary. Oral sex? Forget it. They either didn't know what to do or just didn't care. I found women in their late 20's started to be a little more free. Women in their 30's and beyond are much more fun as they're experienced, comfortable with themselves and know how to please a man. Just a lot more fun. So I definitely understand why a younger guy would want an older woman. I certainly would have had I had access to meet older women back in the day.

 

 

I don't understand why some are jumping onto Napolean for his comment. He posted an answer to the question, like many have. Why the attack?