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My husband and I are planning for some upcoming club attendance.

 

I really am lost on what to wear. I know we have a few discussions on clothes around here. I want to feel good, feel I look good and have fun but I just don't know what's right for me. I'd love to do something different than I'd go out to dinner in.

 

I am five feet tall with a bit of a pear shape. I said in other posts that low cut tops and short skirts don't really flatter me except in certain cuts and styles. Normally when I dress up, I go for soft and clingy women's tees or tops and long skirts. I seem to pull off cute since the compliments I do get are "ohh you're soo cute; everyone look how cute she is".

 

Soo, what will work for me? Any ideas on styles to look for and places to shop?

 

 

The Rose

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You'll need to try things on to really find a new look, but have you thought of Sexy Secretary? Pencil skirts can work well if you're short, especially paired with tops that open up around the neck and shoulders.

 

I get most of my clothes at vintage and consignment shops, so i don't have any store advice, except that Claire's is a great place for flashy, inexpensive earrings. ;)

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I'm also short, 5'1" Now when I go out I wear high heels, but it took awhile to get used to them. People do make a big deal about cool shoes at swing events. So you could wear your traditional outfits with some special shoes.

 

At our club many girls change into lingerie or club wear you can't wear in public. I like to wear baby doll lingerie, because that's what looks good on me and it's comfortable. There will most likely be people dressed in all sorts of outfits form very casual to very dressy. I'd just go comfortable the first time until you get a feel for the club and then decide on your style.

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Does the club have themes? Ours does most of the time. I love themes and costumes so I usually go with that. Often I put together outfits from Kohl's, Meijer or just regular discount clothing stores and add bunny ears or cat ears or whatever the theme is. I think you get more attention if you dress to the theme also.

 

I am of the cute variety rather than sexy or beautiful and it serves me well. So I wouldn't worry about being cute at all.

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I am frequently the most covered woman and I don't wear either club clothes or lingerie. Over time I have started wearing racier, more fitted clothing occasionally, but I've also never had anyone object to my maxi dresses. I'm with funcoupledayton in that cool shoes sex up even everyday outfits. Plus, I like shopping for shoes a whole lot more than I like trying on clothes.

 

Oh and I usually wear some sort of stocking or thigh high, which does wonders even with an Old Navy skirt.

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Does the club have themes? Ours does most of the time. I love themes and costumes so I usually go with that. Often I put together outfits from Kohl's, Meijer or just regular discount clothing stores and add bunny ears or cat ears or whatever the theme is. I think you get more attention if you dress to the theme also.

 

I am of the cute variety rather than sexy or beautiful and it serves me well. So I wouldn't worry about being cute at all.

 

Yes, it does. For Mardi Gras, I had beads around my neck to go with the long skirt that was purple and green, lol. I was handing out kisses on the cheek and beads. It was an interesting ice breaker, lol.

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For pear shapes, I read that you should emphasis your narrow torso by going for tightly fitted bodices and a cinched waist. To de-emphasis a heavier bottom, go for a flared skirt or darker colors on the bottom to make you appear thinner. Don't wear loose bottoms...it will make you look bigger. I am on the short side and a pear shape as well. The only no-no I probably indulge in are hip hugging dresses. I mostly wear them to show off the curve of my hips and show to leg...that invites wandering hands.

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Hmmm, maybe shock 'em with a corset to accentuate a thinner waist. I sometimes pair that with a pair of jeans and boots. If all else fails - leather anything will turn man's head :)

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This is something I've been pondering because we want to go to a club when Mr. V comes home and I'm lost as well... I hear people say that women dress sexy...but HOW sexy? I have a lot of pinup-style clothes and I often do a more modern day pin-up girl look when I go out and I find the clothes sexy but I still wonder if they're too tame for a club. I have no problem looking for sexier stuff but my question is how to do people get out of the house like that!? Do they wear a trench coat lol. Especially because we'd most likely want to have a nice dinner before hand. I'm thinking we will plan a night out in Seattle, get a hotel room, have a nice dinner wearing vanilla clothes then maybe come back to hotel to change and then head out to club.

 

I've been thinking of wearing something like an overbust corset with a skirt (do women wear pants to these clubs or just dresses/skirts?) that I really love. Normally i wouldn't wear it out, I would wear it UNDER a dress or something or just to be hot around the house for Mr V but I was thinking it would work in a swingers club right?

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This is something I've been pondering because we want to go to a club when Mr. V comes home and I'm lost as well... I hear people say that women dress sexy...but HOW sexy? I have a lot of pinup-style clothes and I often do a more modern day pin-up girl look when I go out and I find the clothes sexy but I still wonder if they're too tame for a club. I have no problem looking for sexier stuff but my question is how to do people get out of the house like that!? Do they wear a trench coat lol. Especially because we'd most likely want to have a nice dinner before hand. I'm thinking we will plan a night out in Seattle, get a hotel room, have a nice dinner wearing vanilla clothes then maybe come back to hotel to change and then head out to club.

 

I've been thinking of wearing something like an overbust corset with a skirt (do women wear pants to these clubs or just dresses/skirts?) that I really love. Normally i wouldn't wear it out, I would wear it UNDER a dress or something or just to be hot around the house for Mr V but I was thinking it would work in a swingers club right?

 

I think that if you go out in something that you consider sexy and feel comfortable in, that will make you shine and exude confidence...which always attracts people. So, don't worry about being too tame or too sexy. As for going out in sexy wear that the general population would consider inappropriate, what I do is go out to dinner in something pretty and attractive but not over the top sexy. If we are going to a themed party directly afterwards, I bring the sexy wear with us in a bag and change once we arrive at the party and then change back before we leave. If we have a hotel room near by, we can return after dinner, change at the hotel and then drive to our destination. A long coat can help during the winter but during the summer, you're probably just better off changing at the venue. However, it sounds like you like to be more tame in your clothing so it might not matter. When we first started, we bought some club wear for me but when we started to go to more house parties, I just dressed up in nice sexy dresses that showed off some leg and curves but that was it.

 

You could try a nice blazer over your corset for dinner with your husband then leave it in the car when you get to the club. As for clubs, skirts/dresses are nicer because of accessibility for heavy petting. I wore jeans the first time we went to the club and it was awful. After that, skirts/dresses so Mr. Sun could feel me up as much as he wanted.

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I've been thinking of wearing something like an overbust corset with a skirt (do women wear pants to these clubs or just dresses/skirts?) that I really love. Normally i wouldn't wear it out, I would wear it UNDER a dress or something or just to be hot around the house for Mr V but I was thinking it would work in a swingers club right?

 

When we attended, I saw people wearing more every day type stuff, some in short shorts and halters, one in a see through body suit and another in a burlesque type outfit. I think what you want to wear sounds just fine. You may want to wear something over it to get to the club if you feel it's too risqué to be wearing in public.

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Loving this thread! I too have always wondered how all you sexy ladies got from the car to the club or party. Didn't realize that changing once you get there is a normal thing. Phew. Thought I would have to buy a trench coat to hide the babydoll lingerie I just bought. If we ever go to a club, that is. ;)

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Everything I have worn so far are normal evening clothes. I can go out to dinner in my dresses.

 

I have seen others in great things like burlesque outfits. Those are harder to get out of the house in.

 

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