New and curious about this life style

[dbik 15]

My girl and I are wildly and passionately in love. We are fairly new in our relationship, but having both come out of VERY vanilla and lackluster relationships prior to this one, sparks have been flying the entire time. We are on the same page sexually, but we were curious as to how it would go over amongst the swingers we have yet to meet.

 

Basically, we already know we do not want to swing, but we enjoy watching others, and we certainly don't mind others watching us. We are a very fit and (I'd like to think) attractive couple. We've been to one club and it went off without a hitch, no one came on too strong to either of us, mostly because we were so into just being in that moment...we were all over each other. (My girl does tend to bring women to her like flies to honey though! lol)

 

Is something like this frowned on in swinging circles? I guess you could say we are much more voyeuristic and exhibitionists than swingers. But we were hoping we could come and play too!

 

Thanks so much for any and all replies!

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

You are not alone, there are many couples who go to the clubs and only play with each other. Just be honest if someone approaches you. As long as you aren't there just to watch others, no one is likely to frown on you too harshly, some will get annoyed simply because it's getting harder and harder for those who go to clubs hoping to hook up to to do so, since more and more of the couples are showing up just to exercise their exhibitionist side.

[Chicup 42]

Just mention early on you are not swingers. We have had this happen far too often at the END of the night.

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

It's not frowned on at all, but do make very clear to your new acquaintances early on that you are there only to watch and be watched.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

I'll just add to the chorus in saying there are plenty of people just like yourselves, and there is no problem with it as long as you are upfront about things. That's not just targeted at voyeur/exhibitionists either, it really holds true for about any category of swinging. For example, we are both straight, so if bi play is something you require as part of deciding to play or not, then just be clear about that up front, not hours later when things are ready to get rocking and one group is thinking one thing, and one group is thinking another. I think most swingers, ourselves included, totally understand the different strokes for different folks concept and aren't offended, disappointed, etc whatsoever if someone's strokes are different than ours, we just would like to know that so we can make a well-informed decision on pursuing play or not, not only for our satisfaction, but there's also.