For those who do same room only - Why?

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

For those who only do same room swap, what is your reason? Is it being uncomfortable with separate room for some reason? Or is it because you enjoy what being in the same room offers? Or something else entirely?

[angelkin 1,326]

We used to be same room only, we liked being together for safety reasons and it made us comfortable to have each other there for support. We do still like same bed, same room swapping, but are no longer exclusive to those. I think for many couples (us included) in the beginning it helps them to feel connected. In addition, it helped us both feel that what we were doing was out in the open, without shame, guilt or fear of reprisal.

[Daggers 15]

I think for Roses and myself we kind of take each situation as it comes up. We agreed to do same room play for security reason on my part but if she's with someone we know and it goes that way I wont throw out a red flag on it though I to reserve the right to peek in and make sure shes ok.

[a_d_xxx 663]

We swing for the shared experience. So same room allows us to revel in that.

 

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[shy_couple 459]

We agree with the rest, safety is a big issue. More than anything else we enjoy watching eachoither giving and receiving. Makes us both hot.

[occ 148]

Shared experience for us too so almost always same room. It's all about the visual and auditory experience watching each other cum with someone else. We have occasionally done separate rooms but the experience is never the same as same room.

[km34 672]

I prefer more group sex than actual swapping, so we go for same room. I like to be able to touch, feel, kiss my husband while I'm with someone else, too. I like to be able to see the pleasure he is giving and receiving as well as have him see mine. The exception to this is when we have been with someone(s) a few times and want to branch out. It does happen, and hubby in particular really enjoys hearing my playtime stories after the fact. I am much more visual than aural, though, so 9 times out of 10 I still prefer same room.

 

In a nutshell, it's a shared experience so we go with same room unless it is a repeat swing partner that we think would be interesting to approach differently.

[Sami77 66]

We are still fairly new to the LS, and decided to do start out with same room. We may be open to separate room in the future, but for now it is what we prefer. Our reason is mainly because we enjoy sharing the experience together. But for me, I like the comfort of having my husband with me because I do tend to get nervous especially with a new couple. It is a little strange playing with someone other than my spouse since he had been my only partner for over 15 years. I also enjoy the girl/girl play which requires same room.

[DigginIt 1,132]

We prefer same room because we feel that the experiences should be about us as a couple together and we feel that once we start playing in separate rooms then the experiences become more about us as individuals.

 

We wouldn't go to a movie and split to see two different movies and then come back together afterwards or go to a football game and sit on different sides for different teams, same thing with swinging. Just our thoughts.

 

As far as husbands that get too distracted by what their wives are doing, I think that is a newness thing. We prefer a big group on the bed over splitting off to have sex independently. We do it and we also have sex in different rooms on occasion but it's not like we decide to do that or absolutely against it. When it does happen, it's more for reasons of: "Hey, you guys are fucking up our motion over here. Find another spot!"

[Brian and Jo 344]

We do separate rooms occasionally but we much prefer same room. As others have said swinging is all about a husband and wife sharing a sexual experience with another couple or couples. We like same room because we can enjoy the eroticism and excitement of watching and listening to each other pleasing and being pleased by another partner. Exchanging partners and having a sexual encounter side by side with another partner is something we continue to enjoy very much.

[M&S 266]

Our reasons are similar to others expressed above. It is mainly because swinging is, for us, a shared sexual adventure. We really consider ourselves as doing it as a couple. We like to see the other pleasure and be pleasured. As well, we are more into group play that only swapping so I guess that would certainly draw us to same room.

[Coffeeblack 38]

The sight and sound of us giving and receiving pleasure, with each other present is a HUGE turn on for us.

 

Can't imagine any other way of playing.

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

Because it's first about the shared experience and then about the actual sex, although that's important, too. I think there's something in what angelkin said above, too, about how being in the open with another partner is freeing. Also, the visuals become part of my mental repertory and come back to surprise and delight me at odd times.

[let's do it again 414]

Safety reasons for my gal, separate rooms doesn't bother me but my SO wants in the same room due to men that has a hard time understanding the meaning of NO! I enjoy the same room so I  can watch or be watched, such a turn on!

[discreetplay 235]

I've mentioned this in prior posts, we're in the lifestyle to enhance our sex life. Together our sex life is amazing. Bringing a new dynamic (another male, another female, couple, etc) is to experience things we cannot do alone. Partnering up and going to separate rooms doesn't achieve our objective of enhancing our sex life. It is merely having sex with someone else, which isn't of interest.

[MrMrsswinger 202]

Refer to the following thread and read JessicaJamison's post.

 

Is sex different for women than it is for men? - Let's Talk About Sex - Swingers Board

 

Though my SO can take care of herself, I would be quite upset if she ever encountered someone who pushed something that she didn't want. If I'm in another room and find out later, the next day whenever that some guy pushed her to do something, was overly rough, etc I'd forever be scarred, and the consequences for the other man would likely get me in serious trouble.

[J&Wu 408]

We might scout around and check out activity separately but when it comes time to participate we want to be together, that includes watching and masterbating each other.