Pushy Cuckold Husband Concerns Me

[HanAndLeia 67]

A couple very close to us has contacted us via SLS. They probably live within 4 miles of us.

 

The man describes himself as a Cuckold and he wants me or me+Leia to come fuck his wife while he watches.

 

Is this safe? A few things come to mind

 

1. What if I can't perform with some perv staring at me while I'm working.

 

2. What if he's a weirdo and tries to axe-murder us.

 

#2 only exists because he's being very pushy. Here's a sample chat

 

Him: when can you come over, wife needs to fuck tonight

Me: we would want to meet for coffee first and see if we even click, then maybe setup a playdate. Why don't you send some face pics so we can see you?

Him: /sent pics

Me: /sent pics

Me: wow your wife is quite beautiful, I'll make sure to show to my wife when she gets home tonight, and if she's interested we'll email you for a good time to have a meet over coffee

Him: Where is your wife tonight?

Me: Why do you want to know where my wife is?

Him: When will she get home?

Me: (internally I'm kind of not liking his pushiness now and why he's prying so much into our personal lives)

Me: She'll get home when she gets home, why do you want to know?

Him: I just want to know if she agrees and likes my wife so she'll let you out

Me: Look, we won't be able to swing anytime soon, we need to meet in person first and see if we even like each other

Him: So what time will your wife be getting home?

 

 

 

So I'm honored and excited he wants me or me+leia to fuck his wife, but god damn why is he so impatient and pushy?

 

So that's why I have fear #2, he seems a little insane.

 

Thoughts?

 

Should Leia and I feed this guy? sounds like an easy lay, and his wife is gorgeous, (in pics at least).

 

Should I fear for our lives? We're complete strangers to each other, and he's acting a bit odd.

 

Thanks.

[ViSexual 1,008]

Trust your instincts!

[HanAndLeia 67]

 

Man I'd love to jump on this one. But yeah my sixth sense is telling me to pass.

 

His email address gives away his full name, and I correlated his name plus his pics with his online Linked in profile. So I know who he is, and he's a well known respected church affiliated guy. What are the odds of someone that well known in the community being an axe murderer?

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

He's probably not an axe murderer, but that doesn't mean it would be a fun experience. Do you really want to have sex with a woman who is married to a pushy nutbar, particularly when said nutbar is in the room? Do you want your wife involved, too?

 

You have a wife, which means that the two of you can have sex with each other (ain't adulthood grand?). So, because sex is not a rare commodity, when you get around to having sex with others, you can be as picky as you want to be. You also don't have to shop the scratch and dent department, which is where it sounds like you're at with this guy.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Sounds like he's more interested in just you than both of you from that sample. Based on said sample I'd probably pass.

[Lionheart72 2,190]

Always trust your instincts.

[tribbles 490]

Talked to a guy that way a few times. I think he was pushy and brusk because it was not as easy as he expected it to be to find men and couples willing to do what he wanted them to.

 

It's easy for a woman to find people but a guy looking for someone for his wife? Somehow that feels odd cuz it's not a couple playing it's HER with HIM watching. Not the norm. So it may just be he has a 'hurry up and decide so I can move on if it's a no" attitude.

 

And no, we didn't play or meet the couple. He kept saying she wants a big dick and avg is all we got here.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I think he's probably just fantasizing about the scenario. If you said, "Be right over," the chat window would probably close lickety-split. In my experience many of the people on chat are a lot of talk and just using that to get off.

 

I wouldn't meet anyone I'm not comfortable with. I wouldn't meet anyone who was setting up meetings without their wife's ok first. I wouldn't go to someone's house without meeting in public first. We did that once as newbies and it turned out very poorly.

 

He's probably not an axe murderer, he might still be a murderer.

[DaggersNRoses 271]

The words "I just want to know if she agrees and likes my wife so she'll let you out" suggests he only wants you participating.

 

As pushy as he is, I'd pass. That feels like a negative experience waiting to happen.

[Guest sandraandalex]

Pushy is a control matter. A leader in the church means he's used to people doing what he says. Then, there's the internal conflict of who he is versus how he portrays himself. This person is about watching a sex act, not having an engaged sexual experience. There are better options, find those.

[LFM2 1,482]

I'd trust your spidey senses. If they're saying don't go, then don't go.

[HanAndLeia 67]

Thanks for the feedback everyone.

 

I tried to put myself in his shoes, and I think the reason he wanted to know when my wife would be home was because she would be the deciding factor, and he probably wanted to know if he should stay up and wait or go to bed?

 

I know sometimes I can't sleep if I'm waiting for someone to give me a decision.

 

Does that sound weird?

 

As much ad I don't want our first experiment to be odd, we've been looking for another couple to shag for almost a year now with no luck. And since Leia is more interested in FMF and would prefer another woman, this almost works out.

 

The number of pros outweighs the number of cons, but the cons are bigger LOL.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

Have you tried meeting people in person at clubs or meet and greets? A year is a long time to spend looking online, when I'm sure there are compatible couples out and about near you.

 

This scenario with a pushy cuckold doesn't sound appealing to me at all. I don't think it will be the type of fmf your wife is hoping for.

[HanAndLeia 67]

We've considered clubs but our youngest has some medical needs which prevent us from getting a sitter for more than about 3 hours. The club that we would want to go to is far enough away that we'd have about 10 minutes there before we'd have to head home.

 

So it's been a year of using SLS and Kasidie to try and find couples near us.

 

It's quite discouraging.

 

The couples we have had an Initial meet with, never make it to the second step (an actual play date), because we tell them , "ok in June we'll have 3 hours on either this day or that day", and it seems to be a deal breaker. No other couples want to work with us on scheduling. Once they find out we have to plan it months in advance they get disinterested.

 

I feel like the harder we try the farther away we get from ever swinging.

 

We aren't swingers yet, no matter how many people we contact it just never works out.

 

So now we're kind of at the point where if a person says, "come over now for a fuck", we're seriously contemplating changing our rules to not require the face to face meet first. It just adds another step to a process that seems to only have time for one step.

 

Someone please come fuck us!! LOL.

 

Or someone please be ok with our circumstances and let us plan it out as we need.

[HanAndLeia 67]

I showed Leia the chat transcript and it didn't raise any red flags for her.

 

Maybe I just get sensitive when strangers start prying into my wife's whereabouts and schedule.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

We've considered clubs but our youngest has some medical needs which prevent us from getting a sitter for more than about 3 hours. The club that we would want to go to is far enough away that we'd have about 10 minutes there before we'd have to head home.

 

So it's been a year of using SLS and Kasidie to try and find couples near us.

 

It's quite discouraging.

 

The couples we have had an Initial meet with, never make it to the second step (an actual play date), because we tell them , "ok in June we'll have 3 hours on either this day or that day", and it seems to be a deal breaker. No other couples want to work with us on scheduling. Once they find out we have to plan it months in advance they get disinterested.

 

I feel like the harder we try the farther away we get from ever swinging.

 

We aren't swingers yet, no matter how many people we contact it just never works out.

 

So now we're kind of at the point where if a person says, "come over now for a fuck", we're seriously contemplating changing our rules to not require the face to face meet first. It just adds another step to a process that seems to only have time for one step.

 

Someone please come fuck us!! LOL.

 

Or someone please be ok with our circumstances and let us plan it out as we need.

 

I would continue to look for appropriate partners. When I said they might not be an axe murderer, but they may be a murderer I wasn't joking around, and I was speaking from experience.

 

I'd also look for a caregiver you can leave your child with for longer than 3h. Our state has programs with provider lists for respite care providers who can competently manage the most severe medical needs.

[HanAndLeia 67]

We have respite care. They send a nurse once a month for 4 hours.

 

Except this month they cancelled.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I think you have to think about what you 9and your wife) want out of swinging. I know personally, I like to get to know people a little, either through interactions at a club or over dinner and drinks. This warming up/flirting time usually takes a couple hours. Then the sexual encounter lasts for at least an hour and then it's nice to have time to get dressed leisurely, chat and relax.

 

I'm a girl, and in the lifestyle we have it a bit easier with performance I think. But, I don't think I could drive to a stranger's home, get started and be wet enough to have sex and enjoy it and return home in 4 hours. With someone I know well, I can go from 0 - 60 at the door, but I've been swinging a few years and have people who know how to push my buttons. Guys seem to have it even harder with new and strange situations.

 

Maybe swinging would be better pushed down the road until a time when you have more regular, reliable care for your child. Hopefully you can find someone that you can hire to provide care so you can get out, even if it's just for date nights yourselves. I know if we could only go out 4 hours a month we would have to use that time to focus on us, rather than finding new partners. Swinging can put pressure on your relationship and you definitely need alone times to recharge.

 

I really feel for you and hope things get easier.

[HanAndLeia 67]

I think you have to think about what you 9and your wife) want out of swinging. I know personally, I like to get to know people a little, either through interactions at a club or over dinner and drinks. This warming up/flirting time usually takes a couple hours. Then the sexual encounter lasts for at least an hour and then it's nice to have time to get dressed leisurely, chat and relax.

 

I'm a girl, and in the lifestyle we have it a bit easier with performance I think. But, I don't think I could drive to a stranger's home, get started and be wet enough to have sex and enjoy it and return home in 4 hours. With someone I know well, I can go from 0 - 60 at the door, but I've been swinging a few years and have people who know how to push my buttons. Guys seem to have it even harder with new and strange situations.

 

Maybe swinging would be better pushed down the road until a time when you have more regular, reliable care for your child. Hopefully you can find someone that you can hire to provide care so you can get out, even if it's just for date nights yourselves. I know if we could only go out 4 hours a month we would have to use that time to focus on us, rather than finding new partners. Swinging can put pressure on your relationship and you definitely need alone times to recharge.

 

I really feel for you and hope things get easier.

 

Thank you for the kind words.

 

Leia takes care of me really well. Swinging isn't something we need. It's something we got a taste of once and really liked, so we've been looking to recreate that moment. But I think you're right, we can wait. We have the rest of our lives to swing. Plus, I don't know how to have casual sex. I only know how to make love to a woman I'm very interested in. Our first and only close experience was with friends we knew for 10 years, and it felt so natural and easy and hot. So I think you're right, a few hours may not be enough time for me to start to really want to make love to a woman.

 

We have absolutely no friends (as a couple). I've got all my guys friends and she has all her girl friends and we party separately because one of us always has to be with our sick daughter. BUT what we're really needing in our lives now are common married friends that we can have over and hangout with as couples.

 

A man and a woman near our age that we can develop a friendship with. The problem is that we're very open about our love and we just haven't been able to find friends that are of the same mind as us. I want to be able to squeeze my wife's breasts and lick her neck at dinner and not worry about it offending the people across the table.

 

Desperately need some sexy like minded open minded friends that we can hang out with as a couple. It's ok if we never have sex with them.

 

There just aren't any websites out there for adults to look for friends and check the checkbox, "must be sexy and enjoy video games and porn".

 

My god there's not a single couple on our entire street that is cool enough to do that with us.

 

I thought the swinger sites might be a good place to meet sexy couples who are into the same things as us. Video games, porn, board games, wine, fine liquor.

 

So my ultimate fantasy, we meet people and build an amazing friendship and they come over all the time and as the cherry on top we start having sex with them someday.

[IEcouple 222]

Have you chatted with his wife at all? Do you even have proof that the wife knows he's recruiting guys to have sex with her? Talking to her would probably go a long way toward sorting out what's going on.

[tribbles 490]

The sick child makes it a lot more understandable why you are struggling to hook up. It has nothing to do with either of your looks, I'm sure. And I do not have to see you to know that.

From our experience, going out is the best way to meet people. Does she require skilled nursing care? Maybe a nursing student about to graduate would be the perfect baby sitter? Less than a licensed nurse but still able to do all you two can do of the care your child needs?

 

It sounds like you need to meet couples that are willing to come to your house and while many do it successfully, most meet somewhere else first. You two could meet near your home with a couple and first you, then your wife meet with them to talk? That way someone is home with the kid and the other meeting a couple you hope you will dare to have over to your home, either then or soon. So meet and greet but separate the same day? At least then all 4 of you have met!

[HanAndLeia 67]

The sick child makes it a lot more understandable why you are struggling to hook up. It has nothing to do with either of your looks, I'm sure. And I do not have to see you to know that.

From our experience, going out is the best way to meet people. Does she require skilled nursing care? Maybe a nursing student about to graduate would be the perfect baby sitter? Less than a licensed nurse but still able to do all you two can do of the care your child needs?

 

It sounds like you need to meet couples that are willing to come to your house and while many do it successfully, most meet somewhere else first. You two could meet near your home with a couple and first you, then your wife meet with them to talk? That way someone is home with the kid and the other meeting a couple you hope you will dare to have over to your home, either then or soon. So meet and greet but separate the same day? At least then all 4 of you have met!

 

^ This

 

The cuc disappeared. After a night of begging me to come over he vanished off the face of the earth.

 

Our inability to get laid after a year of trying and our bad luck with SLS people flaking has led to a change of strategy.

 

We're changing our position from we need to fuck, to, lets just make some sexy local friends. And realistically thats all we want anyway.

 

Oddly enough, after updating our mission statement and uploading some face pics to Kasidie we attracted a lot of admirers that are willing to come to our house. At first we'd want coffee though at a cafe nearby.

 

So now we've got lots of people wanting to meet us. When it rains it pours. No more SLS, its too anonymous there. There's no sense of community and no proof the people are real.

 

SureThing. On Kasidie.