Offensive online chatting

[MrMarvin 268]

As noted in another thread, we are just beginning to test the waters with online "lifestyle dating." We have yet to meet another couple in person.

 

In any event, I have to vent about the vetting process. Long story short, we sent a polite short note to a potential couple of interest. I ended up chatting a bit with the husband. Now I am a guy with a pretty high tolerance for all things sexual but this other guy was highly offensive. He was not so much graphic as it was immediate questions about my wife's sexual tastes, do I like to watch, and bragging about his conquests. It was simply too much I found and ended the chat.

 

Call me old fashioned, but I enjoy a good chat that leads somewhere. Of course we all have the same end game in mind but this was just too much for my taste.

 

Suffice to say they missed the cut. Next!

 

MrMarvin

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

After awhile, you'll get better about reading profile clues and more able to avoid the simply vulgar.

 

I co-host the Sunday chats here, but otherwise only exchange emails. I don't know if it's the disposable nature of a chat window or something else, but that alone seems to cut way down on content that causes eye rolling.

[DaggersNRoses 271]

Let me say that we do not all have the same end game in mind. Many online are more into pic swapping, cyber sex and sexual video chatting with little to no intention to go any farther than that. For some, that's their fun and that's it. Others don't really have a spouse or a willing to swing spouse and just want to get off on the "live porn" aspect.

 

 

The Rose

[DaggersNRoses 271]

After awhile, you'll get better about reading profile clues and more able to avoid the simply vulgar.

 

I co-host the Sunday chats here, but otherwise only exchange emails. I don't know if it's the disposable nature of a chat window or something else, but that alone seems to cut way down on content that causes eye rolling.

 

My husband and I have our messenger shut off on SlS. I will chat here but the nature of the chat room on this site can be different. I ignore any attempt to get into sex chatting, lol. That really is easier on this site.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

If you are going to use the chat facility at a swingers' hook-up site, this is going to happen. My wife and I have different views in regard to what strategy should be used in response. If it was entirely my decision, I would turn the chat facility off and never turn it on again. But my wife likes to chat. So to please her, I have left it turned on. I have consequently had to learn to simply ignore chat requests. My feeling is that if somebody really wants to meet us, they would work with us to arrange a face-to-face meeting.

 

That being said, I have recently learned to appreciate Yahoo IM. There seems to be far less spam and foolishness going on there than what was going on a few years ago. If somebody gives me a Yahoo address, I'll answer there.

[MrMarvin 268]

I personally enjoy the chat-- I am just not looking for "get my jollies" chat. I had a great chat a few weeks back with the female of a couple. It was nice just getting to know more about herself and her husband. Other than very general "what is your lifestyle experience" and "how did you get into the lifestyle" questions, nothing remotely sexual was discussed. Even then, those basic lifestyle questions and responses were rather vanilla.

 

In theory, I think chatting is good to at least get a taste of whether or not we can converse with the other couple. To us, that is important. While we certainly would not mind meeting the right couple without chatting, it is another vetting tool. And it did its job last night! (I'm still shaking my head).

 

MrMarvin