rosstennis 15 Posted May 20, 2013 After many false starts, mishaps, disappointments and disasters, we FINALLY feel like our luck is changing! A couple of weeks ago, we connected with an AMAZING couple on one of the sites. We've learned to not be too optimistic about a couple until you actually meet them in person. We finally met them on Friday night, and there was instant chemistry. The past few times we've met up with other couples, it's been rare if either of us felt any chemistry. But this time it was off the charts for both of us! When all four of us decided we wanted to meet, we all agreed that our first get-together will strictly be drinks and dinner. As a couple, we didn't want to feel any pressure to take things further if we weren't "clicking" with them, and they were very flexible and understanding. Understandbly, we were both still a little nervous driving to the restaurant that night, but the nervousness disappeared almost instantly once we met them! As the night went on, I think all four of us were wish it would continue somewhere in private. But at the same time, my wife and I were certainly content with getting to know them. Towards the end of the night, there was definitely enough flirting, touching and "plan making" to know that they were mutually interested in getting together again. We plan to meet again later this week! We're so thrilled to finally find a couple we're very attracted to physically, and also love spending time with. We'll let you all know how things go on our second get-together! Quote Share this post Link to post
LFM2 1,483 Posted May 20, 2013 Instant chemistry is very rare, so congratulations on that front. Good luck on your future meeting. Let us know how the meeting goes. Details are optional! Quote Share this post Link to post
angelkin 1,326 Posted May 21, 2013 That's a fantastic result of a first meeting, congrats and thanks for sharing!! Quote Share this post Link to post
rosstennis 15 Posted May 30, 2013 Finally, we had our second meeting with this couple. We truly enjoy their company a lot, and since they couldn't find a sitter for the kids, we agreed to meet them tonight for a couple glasses of wine at their place. Again, we had a great time. Then conversation and chemistry is so easy with this couple! There was definitely a lot more flirting this time. The tone of the conversation was much more sexual, but all four of us kept it to flirting, teasing and innuendos. We plan to meet this Saturday at the beach. Again, they will have the kids so things will probably be pretty tame. S and I REALLY enjoy spending time with them and would gladly hang out "just as friends". But we both find them attractive and want to take it to the next step. Based on our emails and conversations, it's pretty obvious that they want to heat things up too. How can we make sure they know we're interested and ready, but not make them feel pressured? We don't have kids, but we completely understanding and patient of those that do and want to be sensitive. Most importantly, S and I are REALLY excited about this couple and don't want to send the wrong message. Any advice? Quote Share this post Link to post
funcoupledayton 2,708 Posted May 30, 2013 We've just said, "We'd really like to play with you guys. Do you want to set up a time when we can get a hotel room or go to the club together?" That has worked fine for us. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
MrMarvin 268 Posted May 31, 2013 Congratulations. I hope my wife and I can be so fortunate in the near future. That is good advice about not getting one's hopes up prior to a meeting. We've only met one couple (didn't go beyond a vanilla dinner) but we still had fun. In our case, it's fun just to meet new people. MrMarvin Quote Share this post Link to post
rosstennis 15 Posted June 1, 2013 We've just said, "We'd really like to play with you guys. Do you want to set up a time when we can get a hotel room or go to the club together?" That has worked fine for us. You're probably right. Straightforward is probably the best approach. Thanks you for telling it like it is. Quote Share this post Link to post
rosstennis 15 Posted June 6, 2013 Sounds like you have a great attitude about it. Keep getting out there and eventually it's going to click for both couples.. Good luck! Quote Share this post Link to post
rosstennis 15 Posted June 6, 2013 Well, there kids are out of town all next week visit the grandparents and we have plans to get together again. We'll let you know what happens!! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,070 Posted June 13, 2013 Good luck! We met more than a few couples before we found any that we felt we 'clicked' with. Once we found that first one, the rest came easily (we have been 'dating' them for over a year now). Just be as open and honest with the two of them as you are with each other and enjoy the time together. Quote Share this post Link to post