They are too young to swing with. Really?

[wingsonabris 19]

We are 40, and don't date under 30. Why?

Drama insurance. You remember those stupid dramatic fights you had with exes in your 20's?

Also ... the "I'm almost old enough to be your dad and that's kinda creepy" factor.

Yeah. Best to pass.

 

Let's check the email:

*supermodel barbie and hardbody ken pics*

Hey guys, we're 21m/24f, drama free experienced cpl.

Text us! -XO

(local phone number)

 

What would you do?

[michellebelle48 15]

We are in our very late 40's and we have played with a couple who was both 25. They were very stable and we all had a good time. They both had a fantasy of being with an older couple and we were more than happy to fulfill that! It really depends on the people / communication.

[iexxxcpl 19]

We are a 27 year old couple and we agree with Michellebelle in that it all depends on the people. You can just as easily find people in their 40's who have issues and are immature.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

We don't have a lot of 20 somethings beating a path to our door, so this isn't really an issue for us these days.

 

However, we'd treat them just like anyone else. If they are a match, then they are a match. If not, then no biggie.

 

We've witnessed club drama and negative behavior from all ages. Mostly from those in their 40's (because that's generally the largest demographic in our area), but as high as "above 60" and swingers for 40 years.

 

Hard and fast rules work for many. We prefer to work off of a case by case basis.

[sunbuckus 3,569]

We don't really see a lot of under 30 couples in our area. If they exist, we haven't really seen them or heard from them. Overall, we haven't really seen a profile or been primarily contacted through online ads and gone on to play with couples. Most of the time, we meet couples at parties and the majority are older than us with a few around our age. In those cases, we get to see them in person and judge attractiveness based on the entire package. No matter what their age, they have to pass the "entire package" attractiveness test.

 

Long story short, we've never had an email like that and I don't expect one like it.

[M&S 266]

For meeting people online, I don;t think we would go under 28-30, as the risk of compatibility is too low. On the other hand if we met a couple at a club, liked them and could carry on a good conversation and found they were much younger... no problem. This has happened once and the couple are friends of ours still

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

The fact that they felt the need to say they were "drama-free" would likely be enough for me to move on past, that said I'd probably still have to see how mature their profile sounds.

[MrMarvin 268]

Having never "swung" we can't say. However, our search has generally revolved around people are own age. With that said, we would not summarily discount those younger than us.

[wingsonabris 19]

The fact that they felt the need to say they were "drama-free" would likely be enough for me to move on past.

 

Hi Julie, thank you for replying. I see the words "drama free" all the time. You figure that is a red flag, huh? How come?

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Hi Julie, thank you for replying. I see the words "drama free" all the time. You figure that is a red flag, huh? How come?

 

Most of us have found that those most likely to bring drama into a situation are the ones who most feel the need to say they are "drama-free". I won't say it's always the case as there are always those who just choose the wording of their profile based on what they see in everyone else's, but we've seen enough to make it a red flag. Add to that their young age and that's a double red-flag for potential drama.

[Chicup 42]

Age is only a caution. We have met 20 something's and hit it off, and 40 something's who were immature to the point I wonder how they function. We avoid young relationships. We ourselves started late 20's.

[Coupleerotic22 1,419]

I did not vote in the poll as we do not have a rule against certain ages as long as they are adults, more like guidelines based on our experience. So we are not breaking our own rules if we stray outside our age guidelines. But the younger the couple the greater our caution. We have met young couples that were extremely mature and some we would let walk our dog they were so immature (we've met older couples we felt the same about, just fewer of them.) It all comes back to who they are.

[Gordo 618]

Most of us have found that those most likely to bring drama into a situation are the ones who most feel the need to say they are "drama-free". I won't say it's always the case as there are always those who just choose the wording of their profile based on what they see in everyone else's, but we've seen enough to make it a red flag. Add to that their young age and that's a double red-flag for potential drama.

 

Interesting take on that. I've used the words because we have seen drama situations first hand and see the damage it can do. I use it to tell experienced swingers we just don't have those issues ourselves.

 

As to someone that young wanting to play with us old farts I'd have to figure they were crazy or had a daddy thing or something. But if it all checked out I don't think I would have that big a problem with it.

[asncpl 730]

We are in our 30s and we don't go out of our way to look for younger or older couples. From our local club events, we have been with early 20-something couples as well as over 50-plus. It really depends on their own relationship and how they have adapted to the LS. If we hit it off, that's what matters, but I think sometimes we don't hit it off because we detect drama or some red flag.

[Sensualbicouple 122]

When we had an online profile, we set our he limit no more than 6 years younger than myself (I am 33) and no more than 5 years older than hubby (and he's 39). In hindsight, we changed our age limit several times as we were only wanted to attract people in a certain age limit that we would be comfortable playing with, if we did play. It had nothing to do with screening the dramatics, it was just what we felt comfortable with. I'm not sure what I would like our age limit to look like if we returned to our online profile. Something similar, with a slight tweak here and there I suppose.