Wife wants a threesome with another woman

[Zoltan 15]

Hello

 

I should probably start by saying this is something totally new to us and the idea was put to me by my wife, it does pose a few questions! So here goes...

 

Been married for 8 years, wife is very open with discussing how attractive other women are, she is not the jealous time at all, she has suggested that we find a stranger and have a threesome because she likes the idea of sharing another woman with me and having another woman pleasure her as well. To be honest, I'm a little scared and unsure how this sort of thing works! We quiet often stay at hotels just to chill, to get away from our busy lives and she's said that this is the place that we could initiate a threesome. She also said she would prefer to do this before we have children, which to me makes sense and suits us both.

 

My questions are:

 

1. Is this sort of thing common for wives to want to watch their husband be pleasured by another woman?
   
2. What are the dangers/risks?
   
3. Is this something that is tricky to initiate with a stranger at a bar, located at the hotel we will be staying at?
   
4. Pro's/cons?
   
5. 
   

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

My questions are:

 

1 Is this sort of thing common for wives to want to watch their husband be pleasured by another woman?

 

Not uncommon.

 

2 What are the dangers/risks?

 

Too numerous to list here but the degree of many of the specific risks depend upon where in your relationship you are.

 

3 Is this something that is tricky to initiate with a stranger at a bar, located at the hotel we will be staying at?

 

Not difficult to initiate. Best done only by those who understand the risks (refer to #3).

 

4 Pro's/cons?

 

Has potential for fun / don't let this or anything become an obsession.

 

5 to Swingersboard.

 

~Michael

[Zoltan 15]

Thanks for the reply, what sites would you recommend if we were to use online arrangement? I spoke with Wing last night and that was suggested instead of hoping to get lucky and picking someone up at a bar etc.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I would not hesitate to name swingers' hook-up sites to you if I know you lived in the southwest of the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania. I have no idea which Web sites are worthwhile in Australia. Other members might be able to help with that.

 

How did the idea of picking up a man at a bar arise with your wife. Has she a friend who had done this? Have you and your wife observed this happening while our in public? One of my business associates told me it happened to him so I do know it is real. And I have read about it here.

 

One of the risks to which I had hinted is that a man picked up at a bar might become a disappointment when it is learned that, being unaccustomed to this kind of situation, he is not able to gain or maintain an erection. Or he might have a sudden bout of guilt in the middle of everything, get up, put on his pants and run away. I will add quickly that finding men at Web sites presents problems. But there is one advantage that they almost all have systems that allow females who have had positive experiences with a particular man to write a little testimonial and attach it to his profile. Minimizes this risk, at least.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Post Script: My apology, Zolton. I just read again your original posting. It's a woman you are looking for, I see. I spoke of picking up a man at a bar. Same things basically apply in the situation of picking up a woman, I'd say.

[junglecouple 127]

I was bombed by some for this suggestion once before, but in this case, Hiring a PRO seems to be the perfect answer.. Sure thing, No commitments. discretion, about the same cost you would spend "trolling" in a bar.. so before I get slammed again... as with any other partner, it "can" be risky, but certainly less so than a "stranger" in a bar. And takes almost no pre-planning.. Just a phone call away.. There are several professional sites, with prices and reviews, and pictures. Just pick one.. make a call and "bingo" you're on your way to fun.. without any hassles.. if done smartly.... just as if it were a civvie..

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

another woman with me and having another woman pleasure her as well. To be honest, I'm a little scared and unsure how this sort of thing works! We quiet often stay at hotels just to chill, to get away from our busy lives and she's said that this is the place that we could initiate a threesome. She also said she would prefer to do this before we have children, which to me makes sense and suits us both.

 

My questions are:

 

1. Is this sort of thing common for wives to want to watch their husband be pleasured by another woman?
   
2. What are the dangers/risks?
   
3. Is this something that is tricky to initiate with a stranger at a bar, located at the hotel we will be staying at?
   
4. Pro's/cons?
   
5. 
   

 

1. It's not uncommon. There are some theories about why some of us really like seeing our partners with others, but nobody really knows for sure.

 

2. A primary risk, other than the usual STI/stranger danger issues that arise with having sex with strangers, is the inability to put the genie back in the bottle. You can't unsee your partner having sex with someone else.

 

3. As a woman, I find it difficult to imagine the circumstances in which I would be sufficiently enticed by a strange couple in a bar to have sex with them. That most couples who have this or a similar fantasy on their bucket list view the third party as merely a breathing sex toy makes it even less likely to happen with someone you don't already know.

 

4. Only you can accurately assess the pros and cons.

 

Finally, I actually agree with junglecouple that hiring an escort is the most practical answer.

[Guest daniixben]

before my partner and I did anything rash, we did some bedtime reading together. the book we used was called the threesome handbook - a practical guide to sleeping with three. it answered almost all the questions we had and was a great conversation starter as to exactly what we both wanted. it can be brought on amazon!

 

hope it helps!

good luck!!

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

What you seek is not at all uncommon, and that's part of the problem. In addition, to there being many couples seeking a female for a threesome, there aren't that many single females out there seeking couples for the same. So, finding one could get tricky. Picking one up in a hotel bar or club isn't all that likely, although it may be moreso if you are looking for a straight female with the intent of your wife just watching - in which case I'd suggest you do the picking up and then once she's said yes let her know that a) you are married and b) you wife wants to watch. I'm not 100% clear based on your post exactly what you are both hoping to have happen. The risks of a female are alittle lower than if you were seeking a male for a threesome, but they still exist. There are people who exist with ill intentions and you do have to beware. If it's simply fantasy fulfillment, junglecouple may be onto something with their suggestion of hiring a pro.