Reciprocal invite obligation?

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

If you are invited to someone's invite-only house party do you feel there is an obligation to invite them to yours? Does it matter whether you accept or decline their invitation?

[Fundamental Law 2,882]

Not at all.

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

No and no.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

How important is it to you to be invited back the next time they have a party?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

Deciding whom to invite to house parties can be a little tough and a little tricky but only a little. If invited to somebody else's house party, we feel no obligation to invite them to one of ours. This is whether or not we had accepted their invitation.

[angelkin 1,326]

agree, no and no

[sunbuckus 3,567]

No obligation. I'm sure they know that everyone that they invite to their party, a portion cannot attend for one reason or another.

[exploringRM 305]

I would not say an obligation, but it is nice to reciprocate. But I guess it depends on how well you know the party hosts and how you feel they will fit into the group of people coming to yours.

[asncpl 728]

agree with most replies: no and no. We will reciprocate if we get along and play well together, but definitely not an obligation.

[Fundamental Law 2,882]

Tangentially related ...

 

Social graces still matter.

 

If you choose to turn down an invitation, send a gracious decline.

 

If you accept an invitation, show up. Think about bringing a hostess gift. Need not be elaborate and can be humorous, but acknowledges you are being welcomed into someone's home.

 

Send a thank-you note. If you had a memorably wonderful time, send a commensurately wonderful note. If truly special, spring for some flowers delivered to the host and hostess' home.

 

All of the above ought to be reflexive. Sadly, they are not. On the other hand, following those simple graces makes it easy for a couple to become known as delightful guests.

 

 

End of tangential remark.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I think it depends on your house party. If we had gone to their party and they would be a good fit with those we are inviting to ours, then we would invite them. If we don't feel they would be a good fit with those invited then we would not. If they ask, then that would be the explanation.

[Tia Vampire 167]

As someone that invites people to attend our parties, If I was invited to a group and attended one of their patties, I would think that out of courtesy they would attend one of mine. So yes, I would feel obligated, but if you are just being invited to attend to be part of a group, then "no" you should not feel obligated to join because of a invite.