Watching your partner have sex with someone else

[Tagurrit 18]

I was reading an old thread from 2005 or so about a woman asking why her husband wanted to watch her having sex. I wrote a long reply and then found out the thread was closed and I couldn't post my reply! Since I already wrote the reply (I always write in Word to avoid losing a long post) I thought I'd post it as a new thread. So here you go, lets see if this subject flies again!

 

Watching your partner have sex is like being disconnected from your physical body but fully engaged with your mental one. When you're the one having sex you're only partially connected to your mental body in that your physical sensations have priority. A man can't will a hard on by saying to himself, “OK penis! Get Hard!” He has to 1.) think of a sex act, 2.) a loved one or substitute (as in centerfold) or 3.) physically touch his penis.

 

Watching a partner allows you to be 100% engaged with your mental processes. You can allow the physical side in, if you choose to, at whatever level is comfortable at that moment. You can touch yourself enough to come, like masturbation, or hold back entirely if you wish. When you're the one having sex you have to think of your partners needs, wants and desires but when you're watching you are 100% able to please yourself like when you masturbate.

 

Another aspect is “sperm competition”. Biologists find that men who have sex with a woman after seeing her having sex will have stronger ejaculations (force)) with more quantity (volume). This is an adaptive strategy (in all mammals) to increase the chances of impregnation. Obviously having a stronger climax with more sperm feels more intense for a man. I would guess that most men who experience this want more of it. If they can set aside the jealously issues.

 

Jealously is basically the fear of loss so in the swinging world most couples have dealt with that issue and thus watching your wife becomes a way to increase pleasure for the man and the woman. New studies show that women get as much out of multiple partners as men do. In the man’s case it's to impregnate as many woman as they can and in the woman's to diversify genetically as much as possible.

 

Both these issues were ingrained in our biology long before religion came along in response to farming. Until farming no one stored much in the way of food but after farming they did and with storage came property and with property, property rights, and with property rights came rules about whose baby was receiving the property, so religion settled everything by making women chattels of men so that men could control woman’s reproductive output for their own benefit (in the sense that the man's child would inherit so the child better be that man's child).

 

So for 2 million years women had sex with whomever they pleased and in the last 5000 years with their husbands. Men could still impregnate as many women as they could but women were controlled until 1959 with the advent of the pill. Since then women control their reproduction not men. And since 1959 things have changed in the realm of sexuality more than in the last 4946 years total. So there's a biological reason, a physical reason and an emotional reason. It's a wonder everyone doesn't do it!

[JandKinBoise 859]

If we could control the jealousy issue, I'm sure there would be many more couples willing to share their partners. When we were first married, we swapped with a couple that were good friends. There really wasn't much jealousy although I was unable to perform with his wife. Even at 18 there were some women that just didn't do it for me. Watching J fuck the guy didn't do much for me either and we left swinging as just something else we tried.

 

A major problem occurred when I came home one evening to find him trying to seduce my wife. That caused a lot of jealousy. He was relentless and when I left for boot camp for a few months I'm sure she had sex with him, probably a 3way with them both. She stayed with me and has been here for over 30 years now. Our outside sex life developed a new twist after she became aware of my love of performing oral sex on guys.

 

I was unsure how I'd react to seeing her with another guy but since I am very secure in J's love for me, I assumed it would be fine. It was better than fine. It was really hot for me, and I assumed her as well. After a fairly long search we finally found a guy that we have stuck with for nearly 3 years now. I am pretty average in dick size and he is nearly twice my size. The first time that monster flopped out I didn't even know if she could take it. But take it she did, and appeared to love it. I didn't feel even a twinge of jealousy, just pride that she could open up sexually like this.

 

Watching her get fucked is such a huge turn on and seeing her come on his dick is an amazing sight. We saw him for the first time in a couple months on Friday (2 days ago). During the day on Friday, after we had made the date, I got J to talk about it. I had read a post here a couple weeks ago that discussed behaviors that point to a woman doing this just to make her man happy. J was guilty of most of these things. We know that I have a difficult time suppressing my desire to see guys for sex and I assumed the reason J was doing this was to give me on outlet without going behind her back.

 

I got her to open up about this and asked if there was something else we could do that would make her feel more comfortable than fucking the guys we saw. The conversation ended with her telling me that she loved turning these men on and having MMF sex was great and she would like to continue if it was ok with me. That eased my mind quite a bit.

 

We had a very nice 3way that night which ended after we got home with some of the best sex between us ever. Our friend is pretty particular about his lovers and since J had a hysterectomy we don't concern ourselves with condoms. The sex is uninhibited and very hot. He has the same desires to suck dick as I do so I feel comfortable with him. I don't think this is for everyone.

 

I think most people are more comfortable cheating than bringing their partner in on the sex. Maybe if society looked at it with less disdain it would be more common but it seems to have a bigger stigma than even homosexuality. Also, there probably would be a lot more people doing it if sex wasn't such a difficult thing for many to discuss.

 

Being open and honest with a partner makes you very vulnerable. You take the chance of him/her being disgusted with your perverted desires. Most couples trudge through life with a mediocre sex life, suppressing their desires. It's unfortunate but all too common. I hate the way we became more open. I wish I had had the balls to talk about this with her. This hints I dropped were stopped cold because she felt I was testing her loyalty to me. Games. It's late in life now and we missed many years of sexual variation. I am happy though that we did finally get through the barriers that so many allow to stand their whole life.

[Sirramm 111]

I loved watching my ex-wife with other men! I loved the sounds, the smells, and the look of passion and lust on her face. It was, for me, like watching myself having sex with her live. We tried video taping ourselves and watching it but it just didn't do anything for me/us. Besides she liked sex with others and liked me watching just as much as I did. She, nor I, ever had an issue with jealousy. It was hot to sit in a chair stroking myself watching them go at it!

[sparkstar 128]

Watching her or knowing she's with another man is the no.1 turn on for me.

I have pretty much no jealousy about any of it, there would be no jealousy at all if I could constantly fuck her as hard and fast as some of the men she's been with because she really enjoys that. When she's fucking a guy with a thick dick after he slips out and puts it back in - the sheer pleasure on her face is just beyond words can describe, and a tell-tail sign of if she's been with someone with a long dick is that the next time we have sex with her on top I tend to slip out a few times, I don't have to ask about her experiences any more as I know all/most of the tell-tail signs of what she's been up to.

 

When we are out on the town in night clubs/bars, unlike a lot of men who hates their partners wearing anything that bares much skin, I really do love it when men check her out when she's dressed up. When I introduce her to my friends/colleagues I check if they find each other attractive and then assess with jokes and such whether its a good idea to tell him that I don't mind if he wants to fuck her so then I can set them up for a date together or I just exchange phone numbers for them.

 

Like a few years ago when my company put an apprentice with me to train him as an Electrician. He was a virgin at 18 he couldn't talk to girls to save his life! so I showed him a photo of my wife to see if he fancied her which he did. I introduced them and for 2-3 weeks he was seeing her almost every day until her period started, a week later he already found a girlfriend as he had gained enough confidence from being with my wife.

 

If only everyone was all for sharing our partners as if it was so normal. Then just maybe there would be less relationships breaking up from cheating, particularly couples who are married.

[Tagurrit 18]

Sparkstar: Boy have you got the jealously issue conquered! You sound really comfortable with yourself as a person, self assured and centered. That my friend is power. You transcend what I wrote at the beginning. I believe how you are is how we all should be. If you're ever in Arizona please let me buy you a (warm) beer (although in Arizona you might want it to be cold, especially if you come in the summer -- lol).

[eldiablo311 201]

I loved watching my ex-wife with other men! I loved the sounds, the smells, and the look of passion and lust on her face. It was, for me, like watching myself having sex with her live. We tried video taping ourselves and watching it but it just didn't do anything for me/us. Besides she liked sex with others and liked me watching just as much as I did. She, nor I, ever had an issue with jealousy. It was hot to sit in a chair stroking myself watching them go at it!

 

Just curious, I notice you say "ex-wife", is she your ex because of issues that arose from swinging and bringing other sexual partners into your bedroom? Just wondering? My wife and I are new to this and I we are very concerned about the pitfalls of playing with other people.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

Watching your partner have sex is like being disconnected from your physical body

 

YES! After that ...? You are right in both the evolution and religion theories but entire books have been written debating those philosophies. Lets start at a simple beginning ... impregnating wasn't seen as a form of pleasure but a matter of survival for the group/tribe then ... Next!

[Tagurrit 18]

M1F2KTJ: If you're talking about humans before they became self-aware (no one knows for sure but lets say 100 K years ago just to put a date on it) pleasure was the reward for sexuality. If there wasn't sexuality there would be no death because we'd just self replicate and that would be that, so sex is the reason we die. Makes you think doesn't it? As long as the reason I'm going to die is sex I might as well enjoy it while I have it, right? I doubt sexuality is any different today than it was 2 MM years ago. Our close cousins the Bonobo Apes settle every conflict with sexuality. They don't have religion or property and if I had to guess they represent what we were like years ago. Something happened to our line about then (100 K years ago) that moved us into self-awareness in a way not seen before on the planet. If humans didn't get pleasure from sexuality (at this point) there would be sex police that would force people to have sex! It probably wasn't until that event 100 K years ago that humans/proto humans knew that sexuality caused babies. Any anthropologists (surely there's some swingers in that group!) reading this are welcome to weigh in pro or con on this subject.

[Sirramm 111]

Just curious, I notice you say "ex-wife", is she your ex because of issues that arose from swinging and bringing other sexual partners into your bedroom? Just wondering? My wife and I are new to this and I we are very concerned about the pitfalls of playing with other people.

 

Sex didn't cause us to divorce. There were other issues involved that caused us to go separate ways. Although we are divorced and prior to my now marriage when I lived in the same area as the ex we would occasionally see each other at parties and events, and yes swinger parties, where she and I would have sex. Those days are well behind me now and I'm currently married to a wonderful woman who I adore.

[eldiablo311 201]

Sex didn't cause us to divorce. There were other issues involved that caused us to go separate ways. Although we are divorced and prior to my now marriage when I lived in the same area as the ex we would occasionally see each other at parties and events, and yes swinger parties, where she and I would have sex. Those days are well behind me now and I'm currently married to a wonderful woman who I adore.

 

That's good to hear! I am always worried that participating in swinging activities will damage our marriage. Good to hear you didn't divorce because of that and sounds like you are very happy now and you guys swing.

[Sirramm 111]

My current wife has JUST gotten into swinging...after about a year or so of discussing the idea...I mean literally just a few weeks ago did she have her FIRST ever threesome with me and another guy and she loved it. I've never worried about the LS harming any of my relationships if anything, at least for me/us, it has greatly enhanced them. I've never really been a fan of the FMF scenario but more so the MFM as I like sharing a woman with another man and seeing her well pleased, satisfied, and the center of attention. Just my kink that works for me then and now. Up until I met and married my current wife I use to see my ex at parties and we had great sex but just couldn't get along in other arena's. She's a great woman just not for me.

[eldiablo311 201]

My current wife has JUST gotten into swinging...after about a year or so of discussing the idea...I mean literally just a few weeks ago did she have her FIRST ever threesome with me and another guy and she loved it. I've never worried about the LS harming any of my relationships if anything, at least for me/us, it has greatly enhanced them. I've never really been a fan of the FMF scenario but more so the MFM as I like sharing a woman with another man and seeing her well pleased, satisfied, and the center of attention. Just my kink that works for me then and now. Up until I met and married my current wife I use to see my ex at parties and we had great sex but just couldn't get along in other arena's. She's a great woman just not for me.

 

I feel the same as you, my biggest fantasy is to see my wife fuck another guy, though that has not happened yet. Don't get me wrong, I love seeing my wife with another woman as well, just that I think seeing her with another guy would be even more exciting! We have discussed it and we both agree we want to possibly try it sometime with the right guy. What I am discovering though, is that a lot of people don't seem to think this one-sided swinging is good to do...leads to bad things. I just thought this was one aspect of the lifesyle.

 

We feel the stuff we have done so far has brought us closer also!

[Sirramm 111]

Diablo: I'll give you some back story that maybe will explain things, not that you asked LOL. When I was younger, in my teens, I was dating a girl in high school who was the so-called hottest chick in the class. I was a jock, she was lusted over, but I was the guy with the balls big enough to ask her out. Come to find out she was a VERY dirty girl and liked to screw. One day after school we were going at it and she wipes out a HUGE dildo and proceeded to cram it up her butt while I was taking her doggie style. After I came in her she pulled the dildo out of her ass, wiped it clean, then stroked it in and out of pussy and then fed me the cock covered with my cum. At that VERY MOMENT in my life I was hooked on three things: sharing a woman with another guy, fucking assholes, and sucking cocks clean after sex! Many years later the 'orally only bi-side' title I have selected for myself. For me and now my current wife there is something VERY sexy and passionate about sharing her, her sharing herself while I watch and join in. For my ex and now current wife, although once in a while it's fun, we don't want to share our 'sex' with another woman so much as another man. I like sharing her and she likes watching me 'clean things up' after a good play date. We NEVER play alone and we like it that way. Besides she's so freakin' hot why would I want any other woman????

[junglecouple 128]

Well said Sirramm;

It appears you're destined to a long, happy, fun-filled marriage.. Good on ya' mate!!!

[eldiablo311 201]

Diablo: I'll give you some back story that maybe will explain things, not that you asked LOL. When I was younger, in my teens, I was dating a girl in high school who was the so-called hottest chick in the class. I was a jock, she was lusted over, but I was the guy with the balls big enough to ask her out. Come to find out she was a VERY dirty girl and liked to screw. One day after school we were going at it and she wipes out a HUGE dildo and proceeded to cram it up her butt while I was taking her doggie style. After I came in her she pulled the dildo out of her ass, wiped it clean, then stroked it in and out of pussy and then fed me the cock covered with my cum. At that VERY MOMENT in my life I was hooked on three things: sharing a woman with another guy, fucking assholes, and sucking cocks clean after sex! Many years later the 'orally only bi-side' title I have selected for myself. For me and now my current wife there is something VERY sexy and passionate about sharing her, her sharing herself while I watch and join in. For my ex and now current wife, although once in a while it's fun, we don't want to share our 'sex' with another woman so much as another man. I like sharing her and she likes watching me 'clean things up' after a good play date. We NEVER play alone and we like it that way. Besides she's so freakin' hot why would I want any other woman????

 

Good for you man! I am straight myself, not interested in touching the other guy, but that sounds like you found a great wife for yourself!

 

We are still working out the rules and approaching everything careful as far as any play with other people. We are still new to all of this!

[Tagurrit 18]

Siramm: Well that was intense! I know for myself and, I assume every other guy writing here, that it might seem to an outsider that watching your wife have sex with another man has bi-sexual overtones but I know I am not attracted to men and even in your case where you really get down with it I don't hear it being about the guy, right? It's the experience of the penetration of a loved one by another man that drives the intensity not the man himself. Is that what you take away from it or am I missing it? I know that I don't care to do it with some of my girlfriends, only the ones I have an intense sexual attraction to. I seem to have three stages. Totally indifferent, can take or leave and intensely interested depending on how I feel about the woman sexually (not emotionally!). Right now I'm dating three women and coincidentally I have one of each of those "styles". One woman I don't really want to have another man with us. One I'm kind of interested and would do so with no prompting and the other one I'd LOVE it if she'd do it. What's the difference? My level of attraction and intimacy. The more intimacy the more I'd like it. Anyone else feel this way or am I a sick puppy ?? lol.

[Sirramm 111]

Tagurrit: As cold as it sounds the other man is there for 'our' pleasure. Watching my partner with someone else is just a huge turn on for me. It's like watching myself with her if that makes any sense. Watching my partner have great hot intense sex is amazing. And joining in after they have had a good while together is for hot as hell. That is the best I can dare explain it. I had a girlfriend for about two years that wanted FMF but she couldn't stand the idea of me being with another woman so it never happened. She was one of the few girls I dated that I didn't have any desire to share her either. So I would say there is an invisible switch that gets flipped that we don't know about! LOL

[eldiablo311 201]

Siramm: Well that was intense! I know for myself and, I assume every other guy writing here, that it might seem to an outsider that watching your wife have sex with another man has bi-sexual overtones but I know I am not attracted to men and even in your case where you really get down with it I don't hear it being about the guy, right? It's the experience of the penetration of a loved one by another man that drives the intensity not the man himself. Is that what you take away from it or am I missing it? I know that I don't care to do it with some of my girlfriends, only the ones I have an intense sexual attraction to. I seem to have three stages. Totally indifferent, can take or leave and intensely interested depending on how I feel about the woman sexually (not emotionally!). Right now I'm dating three women and coincidentally I have one of each of those "styles". One woman I don't really want to have another man with us. One I'm kind of interested and would do so with no prompting and the other one I'd LOVE it if she'd do it. What's the difference? My level of attraction and intimacy. The more intimacy the more I'd like it. Anyone else feel this way or am I a sick puppy ?? lol.

 

Maybe you are a sick puppy, but then you can put myself on that boat also! ) I love the idea of seeing my wife getting penetrated by another guy and being in complete ecstasy! I am completely straight also and not interested in the guy at all except that he be a cool guy and that my wife be very attracted to him! However, it would be a huge turn on I think to see how hard the guy got for my wife, and how much she drove him nuts! But I wouldn't want just any guy fucking my wife.

 

I feel it would in a way be like standing back, out of body, watching myself have sex with her in a weird way. What drives me nuts about it is thinking about her loosing her inhibitions and just letting loose and ravaging the guy making him cum so hard and her cumming so hard on his dick! That just turns me on so much to think about!

[Tagurrit 18]

Sirramm: Hmmmm invisible switch? Yes that about says it! Thanks for the input. I'm surprised to find out others feel the same way, i.e. that sharing some women isn't the same as sharing others, at least that's what I think you said or meant. I always wondered about that (why sharing some women was so much a turn on while I'd have no thought of sharing others). Like myself you seem to have thought about this over the years. Why do you think that is?

[Sirramm 111]

Tagurrit: Honestly, without getting too deep in religion or mental awareness's, I think ALL humans posses some innate ability to read, understand, connect, and bond with on many 'levels' other individuals. For instance you can see someone in public and think "I bet they are a lot of fun to hang out with" or "I bet they are funny as all hell" and even, and this one despite recent events occurs naturally and something I feel people don't like to admit, but you can look at someone and have an almost instant dislike, hate, or yes prejudice (it actually comes in other variances' other than skin color) all while never haven spoken to an individual. So with that theory in mind cross the room of 'feelings/emotions' and enter the wonderful world of sexual exploration and apply the theory there. It doesn't take a great leap to be able to apply this theory, back to that invisible switch that either clicks on or off with some individuals.

 

Last night the wife and I were at the grocery store when a really good looking man and his lady walked by I instantly thought about what they would be like in bed, while the wife, despite the guy being very handsome with an enormous bulge in his pants, wasn't all attracted to him. Could she have been lying? Sure. But I don't think so. It was just she didn't get the right 'feeling' and therefore didn't want to explore it any further. Not wanting to share a certain person in your life romantically/sexually is, in my opinion, is normal, or as close as you can get to normal in this lifestyle LOL.

 

When I was dating this one particular girl I NEVER wanted another man to look at her! I've never been jealous but I am VERY PROTECTIVE of my 'toys' (little inside joke). I never thought about sharing her with another man once the entire 2 1/2 years we dated. Can I explain why? Yes but it would take to long so I'll give you the nutshell version: She was somewhat a dream come true in the beginning. She was smart, successful, sexy, fun, and all around enjoyable...when she was getting her way. As our time together continued and despite the many hardheaded, opinionated arguments that lasted sometimes days I still didn't want to lose or share her and actually found myself scrambling to repair damage I didn't even commit. One of those protective switches clicked on and thankfully clicked off and when I saw an opening to run I did and actually put several thousands of miles between us and many miles of deep ocean waters!

 

Hope that helps explain it...

[Sirramm 111]

i feel it would in a way be like standing back, out of body, watching myself have sex with her in a weird way. What drives me nuts about it is thinking about her loosing her inhibitions and just letting loose and ravaging the guy making him cum so hard and her cumming so hard on his dick! That just turns me on so much to think about!

 

exactly! Well put!!!

[BnTOhCpl 16]

I would luv to watch my bbw wife with another guy as she was a vaginal virgin when we met and has had only 1 cock in her vagina with 36 years of marriage. She has had a few cocks in her rear and mouth prior to our meeting and I applaud her for that as I had had 2 other vaginas in my past. I have told her she is entitled to catch up with me then see where it goes from there.

[Tagurrit 18]

Sirramm: Well yes in a way it explains it but in another it leaves me wondering. For me it's about attraction, physical attraction. The more I have the more I'm into sharing. I guess it's about my physical feelings. The more I'm into the other person the more sharing her turns me on. I've met, dated, lived with even married women I love but didn't care one way or the other about sharing unless I was really physically attracted to them. It's not all about looks either. So why is it only a few of the women I've been with? That's what I don't understand. I was reading a si-fi book today and it mentioned that there's three kinds of impotence, one of which is situational! In other words some men cannot get an erection with some women but can with others. It's so similar to what I'm saying even though it isn't exactly the same thing that it's got me wondering. Why would an impotent man be able to get an erection with one woman and not with another? I'm assuming it isn't that he's not attracted to the one he can't with because it doesn't mention that it's a test and he's just thrown in with a stranger but rather a person he's in some kind of relationship with. I'm 66 and so far I've never not been able to get an erection with a woman. Oh sure occasionally if I'm stressed or don't feel well but I'm talking about over time. Just curious.

[Sirramm 111]

Tagurrit: Sorry for the delay in responding...work keeps getting in the way! LOL I get what you are saying. For me it's a HUGE turn on to see her get a guy so turned on, so amped up, so hard his cock wants to split open and KNOW she loves me and she's going home with me...albeit with his cum inside her! Knowing she can get a guy that hot is, well, HOT! My new wife has just finally gotten into the swinging thing and while she has only played a few times her attitude, confidence, and her sexuality on many levels has increased dramatically. When her young lover comes over she takes GREAT DELIGHT in slowly running her nails up and down his growing cock before she and he really go at it. For me 'watching' is about watching her, and her 'excitement' of getting his limp dick hard and ultimately making him explode.

 

I've had a couple relationships where I didn't want to share and I've even had times when I couldn't get it up. It's all about the 'situational' setting most definitely! There have been times watching my ex's the mere look of the guys dick didn't do it for me and I lost interest in watching and then it ALL became about HER pleasure not OURS and you know what that's ok! It sounds like you are beating yourself up for occasionally not getting hard...hell my wife has literally sucked on my limp peanut for an entire football game and NEVER once did I even remotely entertain an erection and trust me she's the best cocksucker I've EVER known...ok I take that back there was this one girl in the Philippines but I paid her...anyway I digress...EVERY moment of our lives is situational and emotional and just because we don't get hard, or do or don't want to share someone or something in our lives doesn't make it 'bad' it's just at that moment that is 'the moment that is RIGHT for the moment'.

 

The best part of taking a trip is getting there NOT the arrival at a destination...enjoy the trip brother...enjoy the trip!!!!!

[Tagurrit 18]

Sirramm: Actually no I'm not beating myself up at all about that subject. I think in 50 years it's only happened a couple of times. I'm just interested in why I want to with some woman and not with others. It seems odd to me that it's that way. If it's the actual act then it shouldn't matter but it does matter so it's something else. I'm really curious about that something else. It has nothing to do with the guy because I never think about that. The guy is faceless for the most part. He's a surrogate for me so I can see myself from a different point of view. I wonder why with some women and not with others that's all.

[Sirramm 111]

Tagurrit: You got me stumped...I would venture a guess that it is 'feelings' vs. 'act(s)' when it comes to some and not others. I still wouldn't try to over think it...it just is what it is...hell I don't know why I prefer gin over vodka, Coor's light over any other American beer or German cars over any other cars...and hell when it comes to sex it just matters which way the wind is blowing and the mood I'm in as to what I'm willing to watch or do. It just is what it is and although I said it twice I actually hate the saying, amongst others, but it fits.

 

Now on a similar thread I watched my wife this past Saturday night devour a young man (32 years old) and it was hot as all get out!!! Poor kid could hardly walk when he left! Now follow my lead and go have fun you little rascal! LOL

[ViSexual 1,008]

I remember the very first time we swapped with another couple. They were friends and they seduced us.

 

I was waiting with his wife at their house while he was at our house with my wife. His wife and I didn't want to do anything until we knew they had. My thoughts never went to, hey, is she fucking another guy? They were solely on my wanting our sex lives expanded to these kinds of adventures.

 

When he finally called and told his wife that the deed was done, well, instead of me and his wife going at it right then and there, we both wanted to go back to my house. I think we just wanted to confirm.

 

I walked in and saw my wife in her robe sitting at the kitchen table talking to him. I could see her 'just fucked and happy' look and was relieved. They told us that it was our turn in the bedroom.

 

We didn't take long and then we wanted them to join us. I still remember, with vivid delight, the sight of him standing by the bad and holding her up, with her legs wrapped around him and her hunching on that cock. Damn, that's one hot memory!

 

And I also remember, later on that night, taking his cock in my hand and guiding into her myself. I was close enough to watch every stroke. If only I'd had the guts, back then, to admit that what I really wanted was to lick them both.

 

I never had one thought of jealousy and never did with our other adventures either.

[herpob 573]

How can you even consider swinging and be jealous? That makes no sense to me whatsoever. As long as my husband and I are participating together, sex with anyone else is simply that, sex. We play A LOT outside our relationship prior to marriage and even more so before meeting one another.

 

It was in an open house group setting that we first noticed one another, I remember because he had this gorgeous red head with the hottest red bush, long legs wrapped around him as he pounded the day lights out of her. They made an uber hot power couple. A few weeks later there he was again with yet another ultra-hot redhead pounding away. I started looking for him every time and sure enough one red head after another. The man clearly had a thing for red head (or bush).

 

We didn’t hook up for a while later but I have never forgotten watching him pound, munch, suck grope, toy, and play with all those red heads. It doesn’t bother me one bit and if he wanted some redheads to come over and play with us, I’m all gung ho about it!

 

Once we started dating we had a variety of partners in threesomes, never any bi male action but there was plenty of bi female. He loved watching me with the women but equally loved watching me with the men. His favorite with the guys was always one in me downstairs and another upstairs. And though I loved DP the best he still preferred the later. Even he has no problem when I sucked guys off into my mouth. He never kissed me back then afterwards but I never thought much of it at the time myself. I was too busy wanting the next thing to happen.

 

As for me, lol, you will laugh, I loved it when we found a hot red head for him to eat out. I could get into THAT!!!

[Larocker00 16]

This is few days before my wife's birthday,we had started exploring the swinging lifestyle and were loving it. My wife kept mentioning about how hot her dance trainer was and fantasized about having a threesome. I had to travel out of town and was supposed to return on her b'day but unfortunately I couldn't and apologized to my wife but she was totally mad at me. She had bought some sexy outfits and we were supposed to have sex all day. She was so mad that she said he was going to invite the trainer home and fuck him the next day. I managed to reach home but he was already there. Seeing my wife wearing a sexy dress I asked if she had planned the threesome, she said she wanted to sleep with him first and later think about the threesome. I understood that she was angry and wanted to humiliate me but wild thoughts were running in my mind. When my wife to get some drinks I had a chat with the guy and told him about having a threesome later and he loved the idea. My wife returned and started to play with him while I was still there. She wanted me to watch and learn what would happened if I made her mad. She unbuttoned her blouse as he put his hand inside it and my wife slid her hand in his pants. I got an instant hard on watching them, she wanted me to feel bad and insulted but I did not know I would enjoy it so much. She loved his huge penis and sucked it while giving me dirty glances and in few minutes he removed her bra and she threw it at me. Things had gotten a lot more hotter, he was sucking on my wife's boobs while she stroked his penis. I unzipped my pants and started to jerk off, that surprised my wife but she did not respond. Soon she was on the bed with her legs wide open and he penetrated her and or a moment my wife forgot that I was watching. She asked him to fuck her more and he'd give her deep hard thrusts. They were fucking like they would not stop but paused for a moment to change positions. I wanted to make her feel that I was jealous so I asked them to stop. My wife was way too horny to stop, she said I could jerk off to them or leave and I chose to stay and jerk off . She sat on all fours so that he can fuck her from behind. Now this was way too sexy for me, I was tempted to put my penis in my wife's mouth but I wanted to make her feel that I was upset. He then started to fuck my wife doggy style and that was the hottest thing to watch. They both fucked really hard for god know how long but finally reached orgasm and both fell on the bed panting heavily

So never upset your wife

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Am I the only person seeing red flags waving in this last post? That she got mad at you and invited another guy over to have sex with just because you weren't going to be able to make it home for her birthday...what if you didn't get home? Just because you got to be there when she was cheating and you enjoyed watching, this is NOT something that would happen in a healthy relationship. I just keep thinking, what if you wouldn't have gotten home. Would she have told you? And that while she was having sex with this guy, she was saying and doing things to deliberately hurt you (even if it didn't, just that she was TRYING to hurt you). While this could fall under the 'hotwife' title, it doesn't sound like you have both discussed it happening before hand. I think you both need to have some serious discussions before you do anything else.