Penis size - How big is too big?

[Katjams2000 15]

We're talking cocks here folks...so ladies (and men who like men too).........how big is TOO big??

 

Ok, for me there are two considerations.....there's really no such thing as too big when I'm admiring, stroking and even sucking but there are entirely new rules when it comes to putting it inside me.

 

I've been with a few REALLY big guys and it seems to me that after about 8" it's just too much and starts to hurt. But that same dick is a lot of fun to do other things with and just the sight of it makes me incredibly turned on.

 

Then there's thickness...I like thick ones too...both the look and feel.....and haven't had one that was too thick to fit inside although there were one or two that really stretched me in a good way. I usually get REALLY wet anyway so that helps. Oh and also I wonder what people think about circumcised versus uncircumcised. I must say that I love the way a circumcised cock looks and feel the exact opposite about uncircumcised...and I know that uncircumcised is SUPPOSED to feel better but I've never noticed a difference.

 

Kat

[Additude 457]

Wouldn't it depend on the size of the woman? Vagina size as well as overall body size? Probably even frame of mind would be involved also.

 

I'm just thinking petite women would be less apt to consider a rather large cock compared to 6' tall robust lady who probably wouldn't flinch at one.

 

I guess I'm just saying you can probably expect a rather wide variation in responses.

[Katjams2000 15]

Obviously Additude it depends on all sorts of things...that's why I'm asking silly!!:p

But I don't think being petite automatically means you like small ones......and I was curious about both how big is too big to fit comfortably and also how big is too big just generally.

 

Kat

[thump29 16]

For me anything over 9 is too big for me to handle. It does depend on the woman though too. As far as which i prefer as circumsized or non circumsized...looks i would have to say circumsized but I cant tell any differents from the feel once it is inside of me.

[BettyAnnMBSC 24]

I've not met the too big one yet -- they keep promising 10" but it always turns out that they don't know how to measure....

 

I've been with a couple 8" longs and they are no problem -- I'm guessing there is room for more since I've had doubles in there...

[ionsawmill 86]

A woman's body size and frame, in my experience, are completely unrelated to the size of their vagina. Of the women I've been with, the larger framed ones have been a much tighter fit. This may fall under the heading of "Too Much Information", but one of the girls I dated before I met my wife was very nervous about sex, despite the fact that she "talked a good game". With her, vaginal sex was much tighter than anal sex, to the point of discomfort because she just couldn't relax. I guess this means that Attitude was right about "frame of mind" affecting a womans reaction to penis size.

 

BTW, BettyAnnMBSC, there is a guy on Swappernet who advertises a 9 1/2" cock and he has pictures to prove it. It's not 10", but who's going to quibble over half an inch.

[Guest Willbfun]

Wife has only been with one man over 8 inches. Never measured but would be safe to say, He was 10+ and thick. She couldn't take the full length, when he was fully erect. all but maybe an inch. So I guess she can handle 9 inches. She like Katjams2000 stated, likes to play and preform oral on a larger size. Although she said her jaw hurt from stretching wide enough to accomidate his thickness. His lenght didn't create a problem, because he seemed content, with not stroking too deep to cause her any discomfort. And she had the right mental aspect, as she seemed anxious at the time.

 

As far as the size of the woman, I know a very small petite woman, who could take about any size object, without any problem. I think it was her fetish, she enjoyed masterbating with huge dildoes, and even a enjoyed fists.

[NorCal Nites 15]

My ex-husband had 10+ inches and sent me to the hospital for severe cervical bruising on several occasions (BTW: THANKS, PAUL!!!).

 

Having one that big is a great big HELL NO to any oral or anal... talk about lockjaw... that's PROBABLY why I have problems with arthritis in my jaw! (TMJ Syndrome)

 

In regards to size... I'll stick with the 7 that Larren has! It suits me fine, and sometimes, if he's got feet on the wall or footboard, I get hurt anyway... so heck. I'll stay away from those 8s!!!

[frenzb4sex 15]

I asked the question to Lora, and she says that anything over 9 is unbearable. This, of course, is something that she had a bad experience altogether, because one of the gentleman (term used loosely) basically tried to slam-fuck her, to the point where she pretty much had to stop it. She was sore for two days and had a little blood the day after. Still, even those that are over 9 that have been "gentle" she still gets no pleasure out of.

 

She says she's like goldilocks--not too big, not too small-just right-she notes that any man with 6 to 7 that can "work it" does just fine in her book....

 

Tim

[Brit_Pair 62]

Old Proverb of undetermined source:

 

If it makes your mouth water . . . it's big enough.

 

If it makes your pussy water . . . it's big enough.

 

If it makes your eyes water . . . it might be a touch on the large size!!!

 

[LadyCleo 16]

I have to say that anything over 7 is too big for me. I don't like being fucked up to my tonsils.

Hubby is a thick 6"er. Which is PERFECT for me!

I had not ever been with a very well endowed man before, so at the last party we attended, I did play with one. That's one roller coaster ride, I'll never go on again. I was sore for 2 days after. He fucked me like there was no tomorrow. Ouch...

After that, I shy away from anything even close to that large. I want to be albe to walk straight and feel satisfied and comfortable afterward rather than in pain.

 

But, that's just me. All 5 feet of me.

LC

[ny newbie 15]

One more viewpoint - from average size woman (5'5 - 125")

Never had one I couldn't take, but I don't think I have every had more than about 8 inches (but who was measuring?)

 

Personally, I am into fisting...love it love it -

so if I can take that, 10 inches should be no problem!

[hmr 25]

Originally posted by Additude

I'm just thinking petite women would be less apt to consider a rather large cock compared to 6' tall robust lady who probably wouldn't flinch at one.

 

Well, let me assure you. They DO make us flinch!! The size, height, or frame of a woman has nothing to do with how she is built internally!

 

I am 6' tall and I prefer 6 1/2" to 7". Girth is an added bonus. If a man knows how to use it, who needs it. I have had a few large cocks. Some of them good, some of them not so good. Occasionally you run accross someone who knows how to use what he was given, without trying to see if he can see the head of his dick shoot out of your mouth! Somewhere between 9" and 9 3/4" is the largest I have had. It was also the gentlest. I had one that was about 8 1/2 once that made me sore for days. I had another one that was about 9" and couldn't take but a few strokes. Maybe I was more aroused at one time that another, but each time occurred at our monthly party where I'm usually in the same state of mind. Point being, Large cocks still make tall women flinch...

 

mrs hmr;)

[MP5nTX 15]

I have a little over 8 inches. Which is wierd since I am only 5' 9" and about 165lbs. I hurt my girlfriend almost every time we have sex. We can only have sustained sex for about ten minutes before she gets sore. I actually thing sometimes it opens up her cervix....that is a very bad thing. My girlfriend is asian though, so maybe she is smaller inside than most girls.

[funlooking 15]

Ive not had anything over 8.5'' but have had cucumbers that were 11'' o more and tookit all. Ive never had a problem taking a big cock though.

[Lorrie 21]

For me, regarding LENGTH, there is no limit. There are positions I love doing where the guy needs to be quite long--at least 10 inches--to perform REALLY well or the cock comes out the pussy or ass hole.

 

Regarding WIDTH limit, I'd guess and say around 2 1/2 inches.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I've only encountered one that was "too big" to the point that I turned it down. It was not a length issue but rather girth... it was bigger around than my wrist. It was long too, but on length alone I would not have turned it down.

[Trace Ekies 186]

I asked Mrs. Ekies and she said length beyond 8" is too long...Girth is what she likes and hasn't found one wide enough for her to say no...yet.

 

Trace for Mrs. Trace.

[TravlParty 87]

From Mrs. viewpoint: over 8 hurts

She has turned some down.

 

Girth is good

[strathmore 20]

Regarding WIDTH limit, I'd guess and say around 2 1/2 inches.

 

Hmmmmmm... we're talking a soup can here. ??? That's almost 8 inch girth. My 5.5 inch girth, which is above average, is 1.75 inch diameter.

I guess it's anatomically quite possible. Just seems like it might be a tad uncomfortable.

 

Ladies?

[athenagirl 36]

Hmmmmmm... we're talking a soup can here. ??? That's almost 8 inch girth. My 5.5 inch girth, which is above average, is 1.75 inch diameter.

I guess it's anatomically quite possible. Just seems like it might be a tad uncomfortable.

 

Ladies?

I have to agree. I just like an average cock. Not to big, not too small. (Goldie-cocks)? And I'm not into girth. I like it to fit into my mouth and pussy easily!

[threes_company 21]

Hmmm i dont think there's such a thing as too big hahaha!

 

Well... actually.. maybe 12" i'd consider too big though i've yet to see one that size.. though i have seen my fair share of "gifted" men in my time!

 

its funny how when me and my bf had our first threesome my bf thought the other guy was big (and the other guy wouldnt have been more than 7" ) ... i remember quietly thinking to myself "oh i've seen bigger!!!"

[Kristy34 16]

Hard question to answer. If I'm in the mood for a little rough and a little harder can't go too big. Prefer around 6-7 but sometimes I just need that little extra and love it as big as you can find. Although that's never been more than 9". Depends on mood and lube.

[intensity_too 16]

Here's an interesting thing to consider. My hubby measured an average 5 1/2 inches, and depending on the position, he could really hurt me with that thing. He'd slam into the end of my cervix and it would hurt to the point that we'd have to change positions. There were numerous times in the 9 years we were together that I would use the bathroom post sex to find that he had made me bleed.

 

Now, I am with a guy that is around 7 inches in length, and no matter how deep he thrusts or what position we are in, it doesn't hurt at all. He's never made me bleed post sex, and we've never had to change positions due to pain.

 

How the hell does that work out???

[LFM2 1,482]

If it hurts, it's too big.

 

I've almost turned down one because of length, and it did hurt for a second or two.

[almost40 15]

Hi all. new here and reading this forum i'd like to post. i know its weird but here it goes. as for my size when hard i can just squeeze get the end of me in a toilet paper roll but the shaft wont go in. If it would go in, i would just go past the end of the tube.....average do you all think?

[GoNatural 104]

Here's an interesting thing to consider. My hubby measured an average 5 1/2 inches, and depending on the position, he could really hurt me with that thing. He'd slam into the end of my cervix and it would hurt to the point that we'd have to change positions. There were numerous times in the 9 years we were together that I would use the bathroom post sex to find that he had made me bleed.

 

Now, I am with a guy that is around 7 inches in length, and no matter how deep he thrusts or what position we are in, it doesn't hurt at all. He's never made me bleed post sex, and we've never had to change positions due to pain.

 

How the hell does that work out???

 

One member already replied saying that it is his technique, which is probably true, yet I doubted that he focusing on missing your cervix on every thrust. Possibly the the shape or thickness guides his penis into you on a different agle without much effort from him.

 

It really is about the angle of penetration when it comes to hitting the cervix. If the head of the penis follows the rear wall of the vagina and glides over the cervix without ramming it, the penis will slide up into the posterior fornix of the vagina. It is only 1 to 2 inches deeper than the cervix, but it can make all the difference. Yet, a very long penis can even push up into the posterior fornix too much and still cause pain. Every woman is different as to how much pressure she enjoys, and it may even change during one intercourse session. A man with a long penis should gradually go deeper and read his partners reactions, or talk and communicate.

[strathmore 20]

Let's see, 1.75" diameter yields 5.5" girth. Average girth is about 4.5". So about 80-90% are 'too small'? ???

[Mr.Essex 264]

Let's see, 1.75" diameter yields 5.5" girth. Average girth is about 4.5". So about 80-90% are 'too small'? ???

 

Could be. But that's an argument best left to a face-to-face, not an Internet board.

[GoNatural 104]

Even though girth is more valuable than length to the majority of women. This poll is about length. I'm sure...

[bbarnsworth 2,636]

Even though girth is more valuable than length to the majority of women. This poll is about length. I'm sure...

 

We could always hijack the thread and turn it into one about girth

[it'sso 198]

We could always hijack the thread and turn it into one about girth

 

I think the whole concept of a penis being "too big" is amusing.

There are any number of things that can be done that will make

accommodations pleasing for a woman when encountering a large penis.

Cock rings can be used to prevent a man from going too deep and, of course the two involved can find positions to alleviate any discomfort.

Now when the issue is "too small", there is very little that can be done that

doesn't "shortchange" one or the other of those hoping to cope.

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

How big is too big???

 

Any size that doesn't fit.

 

I once had a playmate that I thought was about 7.5" long and he never fit in my vagina comfortably, if he ever did get all the way in. If I remember correctly, we switched to other activities after trying a while. Funny thing is that later when talking to his wife she mentioned her husband's "9 inck cock"...I thought, what?! I asked if she'd measured it, she said no, and I wasn't going to tell her that her husband looked smaller.

 

I was left wondering if I don't know how to assess the length of a cock without a tape measure.

 

I never tried anal with that guy, but I've always thought I could take a bigger cock anally than vaginally.

 

LM

[Red Lady 17]

I have had a nice range of sizes (the largest being about 10" or so) and I agree that really large cocks are best played with but not fucked, unless the man is a true gentleman and knows how to use his equipment for pleasure not pain.

 

And it does help to be really fired up and well-lubricated before I take a thick one.

[2plus2fun 143]

Sharon can't take more then 7 inches long... tops... I have seen her with 2 guys that were 8 inches and before they even had it all in she was like "Ow ow Ow"... and she has turned down guys that were too big ever since. One time there was a fellow that we went upstairs at the estate with and when he pulled it out she immediately said "Hell no and grabbed me and started walking out... lol". He was a little disappointed but that dude had to have been 9-10 inches long and 3 inches thick... and that is no exaggeration.

[Kristy34 16]

Oddly enough there is such a thing a too big. Hubby and I were at a party and this older man came in. I swear it was thick as a can and 12" long. I just smiled and told him it would take hours just to try to enjoy. I can't even imagine trying foreplay longenough to try it.

[Miss Sunshine 29]

I don't feel there is too big! If I ran into a humungus cock the size of which I have never seen before, I would want to play with it in every way I could. I would love to see one and have myself, my hubby and the huge one's partner concetrate on it with all three of us do everything to it!

[LilyPuss 16]

I haven't run into "too big". I had a 11" (no joke!!) on my first 3some, though he wasn't very good with it. I have seen a few on some movies that scare me. Hubby asks if I would be interested in them, "HELL NO" is my only response. I also know my body has changed since my hysterectomy...some positions aren't as comfortable anymore & I am not sure there is enough room inside for an 11" again.

 

As far as the circumcision, I totally prefer circumcised, in fact I wont play with a guy who isn't cut as I don't like the feel of all that extra skin when sucking it. Sort of reminds me of a Shar Pei.

[Guest BigBenC1987]

I'm glad to here a few ladies suggest there is not a too big, as I've scared a few off before with my size and it's refreshing to hear there's other fish in the sea that are happy to have a go

[Guest]

Hubby is probably 7" and that's good. I never had a real desire for anything bigger but we had an MFM with a guy and his just kept growing to maybe 9". I loved sucking it but was nervous about intercourse but was very turned on. I asked him to be gentle, he slowly inserted it, moved it very gently back and forth, missionary position. Then, according to hubby's description, I wrapped my legs around the guy's hips, began thrusting it in and out. Very simply, I loved it. Was a bit sore the next day.

[patty4fun 16]

Have experienced a variety, some very large but really feel more comfortable up to 7.5" and really enjoy a thick girth, much to the amusement of hubby.

[Guest Cobra]

My wife says anything longer than 8" is too big. I am 7-7 1/2" and I have to watch it to keep from pounding her cervix. But I once dated a woman who said she once had a guy who was about 8" thick! That's the size of a water bottle. She did own a huge dildo that was 7" around so I believed her. She was a tall woman about 6 feet.

[Initwithher 40]

I am around 7 my wife has hard time taking it all the way some times when things get heated especially if I am behind her I have to be gentle, she is 5.4 127 lb. we had our firs mfm experience and this guy was very huge and thick maybe double size of me, mrs was hurting for the rest of the week she stated that I didn't think I am going to be with him for another month maybe two, it was enjoyable while we were playing but the next day and week she was soared, point was she did ride him comfortably and really enjoyed him at the moment

[Guest]

Too big is one that doesn’t fit either in your mouth or vaginally. Realistically, this can vary day to day based on any number of factors. So, how do we know until we try it. Kind of like shoes, ladies.

[ErikaAndPeter 104]

Since babies can come through our vaginas, I guess that we can accommodate any thickness, with proper relaxation and preparation. I have read that we Indian women tend to have slightly shorter vaginas than women of other races. Nevertheless, I have been able to take 9-10 inches of length without too much difficulty. For me, 8 inches is about perfect. Of course, the skill of the mean attached to the penis is more important than its size.

[PSULioness 827]

I don't think you need a ruler to know what is too big. Like most women I have been with enough men to know that they all are different sizes and shapes. Even the first one I ever saw up close seemed to big. Silly me. I think I saw one that was too big for me. It was just this past weekend and one guy at a party my husband and I were at. He was bigger than anything I saw and bigger that any toy I own. Others were fascinated and drawn to it. I was amazed that one of my more petite friends seemed to enjoy it. I just watched and was happy with the more normal sized guys there.

[BIC1961 23]

My preference is 7-8" and thick. Anything bigger is capable of spearing my cervix, which I do not enjoy.

 

I find it quite funny when I receive messages on SLS from males claiming to be 12". I politely respond with a "No Thank you". Actually had one tell me I was making a huge mistake by turning him down.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

. . . I find it quite funny when I receive messages on SLS from males claiming to be 12". I politely respond with a "No Thank you". Actually had one tell me I was making a huge mistake by turning him down.

Once upon a day, I had a fishing tackle box that had a fake inches scale embossed on the lid. It was supposed to fool the game warden into thinking that a six-inches-long fish was actually an eight-inches-long fish. The warden was not fooled.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

Until it punches her cervix.

 

Women come in all shapes and sizes. Loose, big holes, tight, little holes.

 

Just like men. Big cocks, little cocks.

 

It's a matter of compatibility. Some women don't like big cocks. Surprise! It's the reason some women react the way they do when they experience a man they are not used to. It's not statistics , it's the way they are being fucked.

[couplers 4,588]

Hubby and Red are both a little over 6 inches, but hubby is much thicker; not quite soda can, but close. (OTOH Red pumps buckets of cum while hubby dribbles a small amount. And on the third hand, when tested, hubby's sperm were concentrated while Red's were diluted.) I can cum nicely from them both in my pussy. Red and other average to thin thickness guys have been in my bum, but hubby never.