How to make a guy cum with oral

[cavalier2004 15]

What is the best way to make a guy cum just by oral? My guy doesn't like to have intercourse when I have my period but I still want to make him cum. So here are the questions.

 

How do I make him cum with oral? How long should it take? I'm always giving him blowjobs and he says it is great but he doesn't cum.

 

And also, do guys like to do it when the girl has her period. Intercourse and/or oral?

[bear_n_bunny 43]

I'm blessed with a short period, but if the mood is overwhelming nothing is going to get in the way.

 

As well, I've never made my Bear cum with a blowjob, but by golly I'm going to keep trying. Practice makes perfect as the saying goes and Bear doesn't seem to mind too much.

 

-- Bunny

[Katjams2000 15]

I think it totally depends on the guy......gotta pay attention to the clues and also tell him to let you know what he likes. Communication is the key. I've been with a couple guys who were tough cases.......but through communication we got there!

 

Usually though it isn't too difficult...rhythm, lip pressure, lots of spit and a good attitude are keys! And when you start to get tired it doesn't hurt to play with his butt!!

 

Kat

[RnLinohio 17]

I used to have problems getting hubby to cu while giving him a bj, but once i found what works, it isn't hard to do anymore. I agree communication is the key, found out you do that gets him close, and keep doing that until he comes.

[customhardtail 17]

When I use to have periods (I had all my plumbing removed) we had vaginal sex. We just put a couple towels down so as not to get the bed messy.

 

I can't make D cum with oral either. He has only cum with oral twice ever, but not with me...

[Sakaysi 15]

I never knew that it was so common for guys not to cum from oral...

 

It works every time for me....maybe I'm just extra sensitive...I dunno

[thump29 16]

When I have my period my husband stays away from vaginal sex until it is over. As far as making him cum by having oral sex with him it used to be a problem but now it isn't anymore. I have to agree with everybody else communication is the key. Once you find the things he really likes it shouldn't be a problem for him to cum while you are doing oral sex with him.

[ionsawmill 86]

My wife thinks the best cure for cramps is a night of Olympic-style sex. I even perform oral on her during her period. Never has bothered either of us. If "the painters and decorators are in", I just let her be the judge of whether we'll have sex or not.

 

As for not being able to come from oral only, I can relate. It took a long time for me to be able to relax enough to let myself orgasm. I think a lot of it is anxiety on the part of the guy. Will she like the taste? Will she be disgusted?

 

Will she kiss me afterward?

 

(Not that it bothers me, but some guys will freak if you try this. I kiss my wife after going down on her, so fair is fair.)

[ga_cpl_frknit 17]

A visit from "Aunt Flo" has never stopped us from having sex. We either do it in the shower or lay down a towel or 2 (depending on how messy we're gonna get). And I agree, sex is the best remedy for cramps. (as for PMS and the mood swings....well, ain't nothin' gonna cure those, LOL)

 

Stacey has done oral on me during my period (and he says it wasn't too bad) but, I don't really like that, so it's not something we do often. (come to think of it, I think we've only ever done that once)

 

As for making him cum with a bj....I think maybe we've had 3 or 4 times when I wasn't able to make him cum with a blow job. And I think that was only because we were both exhausted. Otherwise, I have no problems.

 

~Tracy~

[jtower0 15]

I am really surprised. I had no idea many guys did not cum with a bj. I thought the issue was spit or swallow. Incidentally, I agree, playing with the butt sure closes the deal faster.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

As far as your guy not coming with oral it could be either of two things (or both).

 

- It could be your technique. I assume this isn't the first guy you've ever given oral sex to? Or is he. If he isn't, then what about the other guys you gave oral to. Did they come when you gave them blowjobs?

 

- It could be your guy. If you have given a fair number of guys blowjobs and they've all come in a decent time frame and this guy doesn't then it might be the guy.

 

Some guys have control issues when it comes to sex, and especially oral sex. They have to be in control of the speed and rhythm in order for them to come. Which basically means that if he's going to come from oral, it's going to be by fucking your mouth. ()()

 

If either case the best thing you can do is listen to him. Ask him to talk to you while you suck him off and tell you what he likes and wants. Does he want you to speed up/ slow down/ use your hands or what.

 

There is no one sure fire way to get a guy off by blowing him, nor is there a set time limit. But if you can get him to tell you what he likes and do it, with practice you'll be getting him off in no time flat.

[Vjklander 138]

Cumming orally,

 

My girl will pleasure me with a variety of techniques, but when she wants me to cum she will do one of several things.

 

Use one or both hands in a rotating and stroking motion on the shaft whilst suckling the head.

 

Use the Hitachi all around but particularly the underside of the shaft and sucking at the last moment.

 

She will lay on her side with a pillow under her head while I kneel and basically just fuck her mouth. She will use one hand around my cock to control depth and the other will play with my balls and butt.

 

For most guys, it seems the thrusting motion is necessary or at least helps a lot. I'll try to find a big old text file on the subject I know I have stashed somewhere. I might have to email it individually unless there is a file section on the board here somewhere.J

 

PS... ejaculating is only the beginning of a good orgasm if the girl knows what she is doing and the guy will let her.

[Brit_Pair 62]

Unless I'm especially aroused / sensitised, I can find it more difficult to reach orgasm through being given oral sex (though I almost always get there in the end - it's just that Mrs B has severe jaw ache and biceps like Arnie by the time I shoot!).

 

I can't claim to have been sucked by that many women (definitely less than 20), and I can't categorically state that they were all first-class cock-suckers (though they all seemed pretty bl**dy good to me at the time! ), but I would have to say that the problem is most likely mine. Either I'm a little desensitised to BJs, or I'm not communicating what I like/need clearly (but when a woman has deigned to take your cock in her mouth, who wants to criticise? )

 

Jamie probably has something with that 'thrusting motion' business. That 'mouth fucking' certainly sounds an alternative worth trying!

[Logan692 15]

10 Advanced Blowjob Tips

 

1. Take a deep breath before you take his penis into your mouth to relax your throat muscles. This is to prevent gagging if you think his penis is going to touch the back of your throat.

 

2. Use your hand around the base of his penis to control how deep he goes into your mouth.

 

3. Try swallowing when his penis reaches the back of your throat. It kind of tickles.

 

4. You can start a blowjob when your partner's penis is flaccid and stimulate him to erection.

 

5. Pubic hairs in your mouth are normal. Just stop for a minute to take them out & then keep going.

 

6. Use a finger in your partner's anus to massage his prostate.

 

7. Pop an ice cube in your mouth or a mint for extra stimulation.

 

8. Run your hands over his inner thighs as your mouth moves on his shaft.

 

9. Keep your teeth away from his penis, or very, very lightly rub them against him while sucking.

 

10. Not all men come during oral sex. Don't worry if he doesn't - his orgasm is his responsibility, not yours.

[RMRx2 24]

I had like one decent bj in MY LIFE until about 3 years ago. late 40's now

 

I had the misfourtune to be married to two women in a row who simply only made half hearted attemps, if at all,,,,,,

 

And I was warned!,,,,,,,,if they graciously provided oral,,,,,,,,,I had better not cum!

 

anxiety! you bet!

 

my current partner is much different and enjoys oral, but it took a long time before I could relax enough to "let myself go" and when I did, it was almost mentally painful

 

glad to say, that is behind me

 

there is no gender when it comes to the problems one can encounter in a relationship and the problems it can cause,,,,

 

attitude helps a lot when giving or recieving oral,,,,,,,,my current partner lets me know she is enjoying me and pleasing me in very outward ways,,,moans,,,slurps,,,,smiles,,,,,,and getting all worked up herself,,,,,,,that helps for me to relax and let go more than actual tech.

 

how fun is porn with the sound turned off?

 

the mind is the biggest sex organ!

[velbuzz 17]

I would be interested in knowing what Kingsley or Masters and Johnson have for statistics on men cumming from a blow job. I am with the apparent majority that appreciate the effort, but don't usually blast off.

 

Logan, I will have my wife read your instructions. I have tried to communicate to her the information, but maybe seeing it in writing will convince her that anal play and deep throating really help.

[SexhoundDog 18]

Maybe I'm different from some guys, but the deepthroating, although an enjoyable viewing, doesn't give me the stimulation that would make me cum. Most of my sensitivity is right there under the cock head and along the bottom side of my cock.

 

My wife gives great blowjobs and cumming isn't an issue at all. In fact, there are times where it might not happen during intercourse and she'll give me an evil smile and finish me off with a great blowjob. What works best for me is for her tongue to be working circles, and they don't even have to be big ones, on probably just the top 3 inches while she's jacking me off with her hand. Proper pressure with her mouth and hand is important I'm sure, because some of her blowjobs are only great while others are nearly mindblowing. She's also in sync very well, and as her mouth comes up, so does her hand. As she goes down, so does her hand.

 

As a few have said, communicate with her and assuming she wants to become a blowjob queen, be damn sure to let her know when she's doing it right. You'll feed her ego, and I can't think of many things that will help her to remember what it was you liked. If she doesn't care that much if she's great orally, she probably won't be. My wife says she loves to suck cock, so we already have the most important base covered - attitude.

[angihay 15]

Ok so my guy almost always cums by oral. It does definatly take longer then with vaginal however have been with a few guys who were very tough cases. Some were just plain to nervous and said that it feels different then vaginal and that's why they don't cum. Had one even say he never cums from oral, well proved him wrong! It depends on the guy what he likes and sometimes if he's convinced himself he can't he usually won't. But I agree with many others who said find out what he likes and do it, also the butt thing yes helps alot! Also massaging the balls.

[gsu22 187]

There's just something wrong with the way my girlfriend blows me sometimes. Maybe out of 10 times, she'll make me cum once. I've told her what I like and kinda how to position herself but I guess she lacks somewhat in "oral talent", if there's such thing She keeps trying and trying to get better.

 

However, my NEW playmate made me cum soooo quickly the other day. It was her first time with me and I guess having her husband watching made me cum alittler faster.......more exciting for me to know he's watching his wife blow me. More importantly, she sucked it really hard and she knew how to massage my balls just right.

[autumn528 16]

I've always found communication is the key. I've been with women that could make me cum quick by performing oral and I've had others that had no clue as to what they were doing. BUT having said that, I've always been able to communicate what I like and have found all the women receptive and eager to learn. In fact, Mrs. Autumn didin't like giving blowjobs-said it was a drag and just "something she had to do for the ex." Time, patience and communication have turned her in to a real pro. She loves doing it for me-anywhere, anytime and I always cum. God bless her little heart...

[velbuzz 17]

Does it help if the man is sitting on a couch or chair (sliding forward a little) with the woman (or man, i guess -- but that's another thread) kneeling before him?

 

Or is it better in bed with the man lying down and the woman able to move to a position she finds most comfortable?

[velbuzz 17]

Fat morning fingers. Sorry. But trying to find the best position during a morning jog probably made a few people smile.

[hfire269 16]

My husband never comes when getting oral... I could give him head forever and he wouldn't come although he loves it... ?

[NorCal Nites 15]

Originally posted by Vjklander

Use one or both hands in a rotating and stroking motion on the shaft whilst suckling the head.

 

I haven't heard many ppl that have caught onto that!

 

Upon the attendance of several courses in Sexual Behavior, we were once the lucky group that was allowed to attend an oral sex presentation.

 

In this presentation, the main thing that was taught was that surprise (not jumping from a closet surprise!) is the key element.

 

When a male knows that the hand below the mouth during oral sex is moving up and down, he expects it, therefore, sometimes desensitizing himself from the pleasure derived from it.

 

When the giving party rotates, slides, glides, twists, etc... in a random up/down, side/side, diagonal/twist motion, the receiving partner has no "say" on where it is going and your brain's pleasure receptors just know that there is intense pleasure being derived from this "random touch" in the genitals. This creates a greater orgasm (or so I'm told and taught...) for the receiving male.

 

I hope this helps you out! AND YAY Vjklander!!!!

[bnd_tx 15]

I for one have never ever had a problem making a man cum by giving a BJ. first off ask your man what he likes when you are giving oral sex. some men love for you to lick them from the balls to the tip of their head. i love to make small circles with my tongue on the shaft & then the head, then suck & lick on the head. use your fingers with a light touch up and down the shaft. most woman make the mistake in going to fast or to hard. Do it the Texas way slow and easy at first then go a little faster later on. Don't be too rough! it's more of a turn on to go slow at first like you are teasing them. it depends on the man of course but i find most all men will cum if it is done the right way & they like the way you do it. the best thing is to ask what they like and take it from there. Just as they are ready to cum squeez their balls with a light touch. licking is very important as you ladies know already! think of it as a lolly pop you really love the taste of! take your time ladies rome wasn't build in a day. the sucking part is not as important as the licking part of the BJ. you have to really get into it to make them cum! using your mouth & tongue is more important than your hands.

[gsu22 187]

Teasing a guy with slow mouth movements is the best in my opinion. It makes me beg for more and more! And lightly squeezing the balls right as I'm about to cum is a must! It makes me shake and blow my load so hard...very nice feeling

[Alura 2,775]

I agree wholeheartedly that the mind is the most important sex organ.

 

If I know a woman doesn't want me to come in her mouth, or has said she doesn't like the taste of come, there is no way I can. If, however, she sucks me like she's trying to extract a delicious treat for herself, I have no problem at all.

 

I find it really sexy if a woman talks to me and makes eye contact while giving me a blowjob. A long, long time ago, on a continent far, far away, a lady had brought me to the edge but I was still holding off because I didn't know for sure if she wanted me to come in her mouth. She looked me in the eyes with a twinkle of a smile in hers and, while rubbing my cock gently against her lips, said, "C'mon, Handsome, you know why I'm sucking your cock. Relax and fill my mouth with that delicious hot come of yours."

 

I had just enough control left to say, "How do you know it's delicious?"

 

"I've already tasted a few drops. I want the rest!" She went back to sucking and quickly got what she'd asked for.

 

Mrs. Alura and I have used oral sex for birth control for extended periods of time during our marriage. I've never failed to come from her fine work, nor she from mine.

[TomF_22033 17]

I for one don't mind having sex with someone that I'm involved with for awhile when she is having her period, but I don't like it/won't do it with someone I barely know. (guess it's one of those exchaning fluid things).

 

As for blow jobs. I've had some incredible ones and I've had some terrible ones. One way to really ruin it is for a woman to tell me not to cum in her mouth. The other way is to try to hard. To me, it just has to be a natural thing and one that's not too hard and not too soft. Not too fast or not too slow. In other words she just has to relax and enjoy what she's doing. If not, I can't/won't relax and it's just not enjoyable.

[TerrySmith 15]

Actually, there is a sure fire quick way to make a guy come orally and it's also used by my vet friends in getting samples from bulls.

 

Basically, if you stimulate a man's prostate through his anus it will do the trick every time. The catch of course is not every man feels comfortable with that or that it's straight. My hubby isn't into it but my old boyfriends were.

 

It also takes the wear and tear off your mouth.

[Huckster 15]

Actually I enjoy that, wished more women would do that. It also makes a man cum harder and with more cum.

[nycpl69happy 15]

Playing with the prostate is something I have just learned to appreciate and I am looking forward to suggesting it to my wife during oral play.

 

As for getting off, it's all about attitude as many people here have already suggested. Both on the part of the giver AND receiver. I have to say that some of the most pleasurable blowjobs that I have received have not lead to cumming, but the ones that do! Wow. Gotta love that.

 

One thing that was mentioned early in this thread, but not since is lots of spit. I know it sounds gross to a lot of ladies, but a really generous lubrication during the process really makes things pop for me. And if you think about it, you are possibly going to taste the gentleman's cum, what's a little saliva? ?

 

Deep and slow and wet. Gets me every time. That and the look in her eyes that says, "I am gonna make you cum soooo hard"

 

[NightGoddess 16]

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"... ejaculating is only the beginning of a good orgasm if the girl knows what she is doing and the guy will let her."--Vjklander

 

-- I've been following this thread, as I'm always interested in refining my technique. This comment just caught my attention.

 

Vjklander, would you please explain?

 

Thanks!

[newguy55 15]

As has been noted before attitude is important. When we first got together I couldn't cum for her orally and her bj technique was so so. Both of us getting out of different relationships focused those deficits. After talking A LOT and me helping her know what I like and her letting me know I could orgasm in her mouth encouraged both of us to keep at it.

 

What we found that what works physically is her varying what she is doing, ie licking up and down the shaft, the balls, and trying to stick her tongue in my hole. I discovered that I like that! Also since I can tolerate some pain (don't try this at home) Having her nibble VERY carefully on the tip of my hole is excruciatingly delicious! Also a turn on for me which is really a mix of oral and intercourse is the switch, suck/fuck/suck combo. Drives me wild and she seems to like the response I give her. My moans and hip thrusts are a sign to her that she is doing things right.

 

One observation that I have made about myself but have never talked about with other guys is, during a bj my stimulation will go up and down. The result is a varying erection. If I start to think about whether my cock is going down I will invariably lose "some" of my state of arousal no matter how much attention is given to my penis etc. This seems to me to be self perpetuating and it is something that I have wondered about. I have a pretty strong sense of self and my masculinity/prowess so I don't get caught up in it to the point of total erection loss. During these times, we sometimes switch to vaginal intercourse for a PERK UP!!! LOL!I know this is pretty long and it may not belong in this thread but my point is attitude and belief in your partner is key.

[NightGoddess 16]

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Originally posted by newguy55

.....One observation that I have made about myself but have never talked about with other guys is, during a bj my stimulation will go up and down. The result is a varying erection. If I start to think about whether my cock is going down I will invariably lose "some" of my state of arousal no matter how much attention is given to my penis etc. This seems to me to be self perpetuating and it is something that I have wondered about. I have a pretty strong sense of self and my masculinity/prowess so I don't get caught up in it to the point of total erection loss. During these times, we sometimes switch to vaginal intercourse for a PERK UP!!! ....my point is attitude and belief in your partner is key.

 

Kudos for the informative post, newguy55! I've noticed the same with other partners, the 'stiffness' seems to wax and wane: when orgasm is imminent, it seems the stiffness goes to the max and the length/width seems to grow as well until that final moment of bliss (yummm!)

 

In her book Sex as Nature Intended, Kristen O'Hara mentions the sense receptors in the penis being the type that respond best to stimuli that is short-term; that is, a period of a few seconds of intense stimulation, followed by rest, and then more stimulation. Perhaps this explains why a variety of stimuli lead to maximum enjoyment!

 

.....so is knowing what feels great to your man, being eager to learn.....and the fact that oral sex is gratifying on many levels.

Hearing the moans and gasps of an ecstatic lover is thrilling!

[WesternSwing 504]

Speaking as a guy, and strictly for me, I don't mind intercourse when my wife is on her period. It doesn't bother me at all. My wife though doesn't like it during the heaviest days, but in the beginning and tail end is okay. Some men just won't go there though.

 

As far a BJ's... I love them because I don't orgasm as easily as with intercourse and therefore I get to enjoy the sensations longer. BJ's are all about me! I've had BJ's where I haven't cum at all, but I think that was more the situation than the technique. There is not such thing as a bad blowjob, some are just better than others!

 

From my point of view, use your tongue on the bottom side of his penis right below the head. This is a very sensitive point, much like your clit. Also, don't be afraid to use your hands to stroke the area of the penis not in your mouth. For me the head-bob motion you see in porn movies aren't the thing to get me off. It looks cool, but the sensation is not there. More mouth, more tongue, more hand, more patience.

[lauriern 16]

If I am sucking guy and want to help him along, I insert one or two fingers and give him a prostate massage. Works every time.

[dave110256 21]

He doesn't cum? I cum even faster from blowjobs. Must be a personal thing with him. Just ask him what makes him feel good. (Play with his balls, stroke while sucking, moisten well, moaning is a real turn on by the woman giving the blowjob...there's a thousand different things to do.

[bjxprt4m 15]

If I am with a guy and he has trouble cumming from a blow job I lie on my back and have him straddle me and fuck me in the face. My theory is that it is more like conventional fucking and thus makes it easier for him to cum. Works 99% of the time for me!

[Russ 15]

stud on tongue, giggle a lot, start slowly playfully with it, eye contact is a must, be in a submissive position, when the veins start to bulge out then it's time, to tie the hair back and apply violent lip pressure and 'hungry velocity' of deep throat action, do not stop for conversation, extracting the stray hair from mouth, both hands around playing with hairy ass, or if lying on back aggressively attack the dangling member make him feel as if he just found you wondering in the desert and you are dying of thirst.

[curiouscpl0105k 16]

My husband and i are the same as many others here as far as sex during my period.....usually not the first day or so just b/c I'd rather not due to cramps. but as long as i feel like doing it....he's usually up for it no matter what!

 

Just intercourse though...I think he's done oral once or twice, near the very end where flow was light....but I don't really like that either so we usually don't.

 

As for giving him oral....I've never had a problem with that! as with some others usually the issue is more that i can't do too much if we want to move past that b/c he LOVES blowjobs and can cum very easily....as I know just what to do!

 

I honestly can't say though if this is the "norm" in my experience. I have given oral to other men throughout my life that I was sexual with....BUT I never really enjoyed it when I was younger or with anyone other than the hubby (as is the case w/ most types of sex & me anyway....)

 

I do think, as it's been said, that yes it has a lot to do with knowing what your partner likes as far as how you give him oral. ask him....I am sure if he pays attention to what parts of it make him want to cum....and then he communicates that to you, you will be drinking it up in no time!

 

cheers!

[kate43 15]

Hi everyone, I'm a single bifem. I've been chatting here for two years now.

 

I really enjoy pleasuring a man with my mouth. It's so erotic to me. I like to start by kissing and licking down the body, softly raking my nails over the body also, my mouth finally surrounding the balls gently sucking and licking them as i stroke the cock. Then I put my mouth around the head of the cock taking it deeper a little at a time. I relax my throat with every inch. Swirling my tongue around it as I prepare to take it in my throat.

 

Once I get a good rhythm I continue sliding it into my throat until I need air then I continue sucking it as I catch my breathe, while I constantly stimulate the balls with my hand. As I return it to my throat feeling the cock start swelling I know it is about to explode. I keep the rhythm going until I feel the warm cum in my throat while continually massaging the balls. It took a lot of practice to train the gag reflex but I'm happy to say I mastered it

[DBL D 120]

Anyone else need a cigarette? Whew!

 

Male D

[mrfreeway 15]

Great post kate, you'll have to show me some day and I'll campare notes with you know who, good job.

[cherrygarcia21 15]

Kate Rules!

[slapshot 15]

I can only dream kate.

[laughingfairy69 15]

I've only encountered a "problem" getting a guy to cum through oral once. And he flat out had a problem getting off. I've had to talk a couple of guys into it. It was some kind of head thing with them. One guy actually said he found it "demeening" to the woman

 

So we had a long talk and in the end I converted him

 

The rest of the time I just love to give head. I love the feel of a cock in my mouth...and my biggest thing is not letting my husband cum. Especially since I got my tongue pierced man have BJ gotten him off.

[Erotifunguy 15]

All that I can say to Kate's post is....WOW! She certainly sounds like she knows what she is doing! She described what I think a lot of guys like from oral sex...a woman enjoying pleasuring a man! And great technique!

 

For me, a lot of tongue work is good if you can see what is going on. Otherwise, I think that having a very wet mouth, a constant head-bobbing rhythm, and pleasurable vocalization is what gets me off!

 

Most importantly in oral sex, I think that communication is important. A man (or woman for that matter) should communicate what works and what doesn't. We each have our own technique preferences that work for us....not everyone is the same. And not one technique works for all! If someone is having trouble getting off orally, then talk about how you can make that happen!

[jim-n-nicole 15]

Back off, dudes! she's mine!

 

Wonderful, wonderful post Kate. It makes me wonder why you don't post more often!

 

I must say that I've read the post three times now and discover new things in it each time I read it. You, Kate, know of what you speak.

 

Now excuse me while I readjust my pants.

 

Jim.

[northindycpl 32]

cavalier2004 said:

What is the best way to make a guy cum just by oral. My guy doesn't like to have intercourse when I have my period but I still want to make him cum. So here are the questions? How do I make him cum with oral? How long should it take? I'm always giving him blowjobs and he says it is great but he doesn't cum. And also, do guys like to do it when the girl has her period. Intercourse and/or oral?

 

Mr. Indy and I have sex on my period, as long as I feel good enough to do it. Sometimes, even though I am really crampy, it actually makes me feel better afterwards if we do. The only problem is that I bleed more after intercourse, and of course it can be messy. I will also tell you that doggy style offers some relief, if I am really crampy. (my doctor suggested it, and it works well)

 

As far as BJ's

 

I love them!

 

Mr. Indy could cum every time if I wanted him to. Mostly I really enjoy giving them. Mostly, the BJ is something we do during intercourse, or before.

It is nice during intercourse to change positions and do something different, especially if we are both ready to come, but want to savor the excited for awhile. Likewise, Mr. Indy will go down on me, too.

 

I can only tell you how I like to do it, give you pointers and feedback that works for us.

 

As far as my actual technique:

 

You cannot be uptight, afraid or intimidated by it. If you are, your man will never relax enough to let it be complete. You are the boss in this situation and You need to let it show. The absolute best way to insure a successful completion is to let the man know you enjoy doing it!

 

I personally like it when Mr. Indy lays on his back on the bed. He sorta props his head on a pillow so he can watch. Again, I control his positioning a little. We may be kissing or whatever and then I get on top of him and sorta push him down with my body. I then slowly move down his body and position my self between his legs. (like doggy-style)

 

I will then tease his head a little with my tongue. Then take in the whole thing. The trick is to take in as much as you can. (Mr. Indy is pretty well equipped, so I learned to loose my gag reflex in our first year of marriage! )

 

What I have found works is to keep a consistent rhythm, making sure to take as much in as I can. I start slow, and then speed up slightly, always keeping consistent.

 

When he is actually in my mouth, I do not only suck with my lips (like you would suck through a straw) I also suck in my cheeks. Sometimes at the same time, or alternating, whatever I feel like. I also rest my tongue on my bottom teeth, as to not hurt Mr. Indy if i have sped up. If I am going slightly more slow, I will take my tongue and while he is in my mouth, tickle the head, or roll my tongue around him as I suck him.

 

There are a few other 'tricks' I have; I always rest his balls on my breasts, or in my hand. Sometimes I rub them, or sometimes with my motion, my nipples just naturally rub his balls.

 

I will also occasionally ride a vibe/dildo while I am blowing him. Mr. Indy says its the best when I do that, because I always get off getting him off and he just loves that!

 

The other thing I figured out, when I am in doggy-style position, I can move my body to the rhythm and not just my mouth or head. The really gets him hot, and the benefit to me is that the strain is spread throughout all of my muscles and I do not get tired. It also helps a lot that he holds my hair. I really like it when he does that. When he rests his hand on the back of my head, he is dictating the rhythm and it is far easier for me to concentrate on the technique.

 

I almost always swallow, but I let him dictate where he wants to cum. Sometimes he will pull out and cum on me, or whatever.

 

I will tell you this: Sometimes he comes so fast and hard, that it actually chokes me! I love it that I get him there, but hate to break the mood by coughing!

 

I also discuss what things I like with Mr. Indy. For example, he started shaving around the base of his dick so the little hairs didn't tickle me. Also, he eats chocolate so that he always tastes great!

 

Whatever position you try, where ever you decide to do it, however you decide to do it- Give it a 110% and make sure it is something you love doing!

If you are remotely uncomfortable with any aspect of it- your man will not enjoy it as much as he can!

 

Hope this helps..... I am gonna go practice a little and let you know if I left out any details!

 

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Thanks to all of you especially you Kate, I did it and it was great, what complete control I felt. I never heard him moan like that before.