Where do you swap?

[81lizard69 470]

At home we will invite a couple upstairs to our bedroom to play some times. Our master bedroom is huge so its a fun place to go. I know some swingers that do not invite others into their bedroom, which I understand. We have been remodeling the basement and think we will start playing down there. I was just wondering what are you thoughts on where you play and why.. Should there be a physical separation between you and where we have sex with others?

 

I would like to add that we usually play at a hotel till we get comfortable with who they are. And then drag them into our home.

[Trophy1802 132]

In our limited experience, we have always had our get together s in either our or the other couples home. As we are not into one-night stands, we will usually meet the couple first and ensure a connection, then chat for a bit before deciding to go to the next step.

 

We prefer to make an event out of the evening. Therefore, we usually invite the couple over for a planned evening. Have a nice meal, some drinks, and some relaxing music. Basically, no pressure and let things go where they may, as long as everyone is comfortable and in agreement. Plus, as the couple usually spend the night, we all get together for a nice breakfast and a chat the next morning.

 

It has worked for us. Plus the females (Mrs Trophy or the female of the other couple) are usuall a lot more comfortable and relaxed in familiar surroundings.

[sunbuckus 3,569]

The smartass in me wants to say--in a bed.

 

We've swapped anywhere from hotel room beds, to other couple's beds, to our own beds, a couch, and the floor. Maybe an air mattress or two. Haven't swapped in the shower, bathtub, pool, hot tub, kitchen, counter, swing, piano...nothing creative with the playmates.

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

A club, our bed, the giant Liberator bean bag in the basement, hotels, a shower, the kitchen counter, the living room floor, on a bar stool and...I think that covers it for the two of us.

 

We love our bed, but our sacred space isn't related to the furniture, so others are welcome in it.

[angelkin 1,326]

Club, hotels, other's homes - in a hot tub, sauna, pool, a car...our house, everywhere (no kids at home)!

[cplnuswing 4,713]

clubs, hotels, cabin, car, our house - think that covers them all so far. The first two have been the most common locations, but all have been fun

[ViSexual 1,008]

The only time we ever used our bedroom was when she took the other husband there first and when they came back to the living room she said it was our (me and the other wife's) turn.

 

All the other times were in our living room or their living rooms. Well, except for one weekend in The Flagship Hotel in Galveston.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

Should there be a physical separation between you and where we have sex with others?

 

I would like to add that we usually play at a hotel till we get comfortable with who they are. ANd then drag them into our home.

 

We also always have first time sex in a motel/hotel. We have no problems having sex in our bedroom or any other room in our house.

[sparkstar 128]

First time meets are always in hotel rooms as we rarely go to swing/fetish clubs/parties. If we like them then we invite them back to our apartment for our next meets.

We have a 2 bedroom apartment, our bedroom and the spare room with a double bed for if any friends stay over night. If one of us brings someone back then the guest bedroom is used.

Our bed is very rarely used.

[Gordo 618]

Cars, hotels, sofa, hot tubs, pools, other bedrooms, master bedroom, other countries...

[BiCaliGirl777 48]

Since I just started, I'm more comfortable with a public place (swinger's club) then going to someone's home or hotel room. Once I get comfortable with a couple and realize they are not ax murderers (lol), then we'll take it to other places.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

. . . Should there be a phisical seperation between you and where we have sex with others?

 

We feel no need to separate.

[2 in C-bus 21]

The smartass in me wants to say--in a bed.

 

We've swapped anywhere from hotel room beds, to other couple's beds, to our own beds, a couch, and the floor. Maybe an air mattress or two. Haven't swapped in the shower, bathtub, pool, hot tub, kitchen, counter, swing, piano...nothing creative with the playmates.

 

We have one couple we are very "creative" with. Club and hotel were checked off that first night. Their room , our room, guest rooms, basements, RVs, shower, bathtub, kitchen counter. All checks. Still need to get her out on the trampoline in the back yard-she's game, but it always seems to be bad weather when they are here. I guess outside is the one place we have not swung.

[asncpl 730]

We've swapped in almost every room in our house and in hotels. We don't consider our bedroom sacred by any means and don't feel the need for any separation.

[81lizard69 470]

I am glad to hear all the responses.We never thought of not swinging in our bedroom but had read that some people dont swing in their own bed. We have not brought a couple out on the trampoline and that sounds fun.. we could take the tramps out on the tramp. lol

[Fours Company 169]

We have played in clubs/house parties, the other couple's house and once at a hotel adjacent to an off-premise venue.

Though the on-premise clubs do make it more convenient for those you have just met and likely know it will be a one-time thing, the atmosphere can be distracting as well as finding the needed time and privacy depending on the capacity.

 

We much prefer the more relaxed setting of someone's home we've gotten to know ahead of time as it allows more of a chance for a longer term "friendship" as well since we feel by allowing the opening up of one's personal space to another couple makes things seem more intimate and comfortable.

 

The only place we've not played with a couple yet is our house, because as much as we'd like that option, we still have a not-so-little one at home and one who is very nosy at that. Perhaps in a few short years, we will be able to add that venue as well as it would have made it more advantageous distance-wise in the past when we've met others at neutral places first.

[81lizard69 470]

The only place we've not played with a couple yet is our house, because as much as we'd like that option, we still have a not-so-little one at home and one who is very nosy at that. Perhaps in a few short years, we will be able to add that venue as well as it would have made it more advantageous distance-wise in the past when we've met others at neutral places first.

 

We have not so little ones in our house as well.. We have to really plan to get the kids out of the house to bring any one over. Life gets so complicated the older we get and the more we play.. esp with keeping the ls a secret to our vanilla friends.

[Tia Vampire 167]

We only play with others at house parties. Mostly at the Fantasy House. It's our favorite place to hang out on the weekends. It's was the first place where the host and hostess made us feel the most comfortable at after trying out so many different house parties in our area.

[TnMtns 16]

Cabin parties in the Mtns of TN (Pigeon Forge/Gatlinburg area)

Hotels.

Either of the spare bedrooms at our hour (not in master)

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

We typically play at a hotel, but we have no qualms about having someone to the house that we are comfortable with. In which case, our bedroom would be the final destination. Although, we are considering remaking our guest room into a play room, if I can get Pet to build me the sex bench I want.