How to initiate a MFM threesome?

[Chris 15]

Hey there,

 

Anyone have any good creative suggestions on how to initiate a threesome once all arrives at the location? Should the woman or should the two guys initiate it?

 

Last night my wife and I had a threesome with another guy, and she laid on the bed and we split parts of her body. He took the lower half and I took the upper half to get the ball rolling. It turned out to be a very hot threesome, but I was a little disappointed with my lack of creativeness in getting the ball rolling. Yes, new to the threesome scene

 

Thanks in advance for any helpful suggestions or sharing of experiences in the m/m/f threesome scene.

[nikkilynn74 15]

I think it really depends on the people. I am kinda shy when it comes to making the first "move" so to say. I would say what you did was great! Made her feel like the queen she is

 

Nikki

[Vjklander 138]

that works, or get a pair of sexy dice. they break the ice and get things rolling quickly

J

[WildFlower 17]

Maybe use this senario I have before. Husband comes over and rubs on me and says doesn't she have lovely breast and then ask the guy to come over and help undress me so they can see them. Fondling starts and things take off from there.

[NYC_Cpl4Play 15]

What always works is I let him take pictures of her and were off.....

[Handyman69 15]

The best way I feel is let the woman Start things. Give her a chance to fondle and kiss the both of you two. Let her undress the both of you and get worked up.....get her juices flowing.

John

[EricSacto2 19]

The other male in our threesome is a bit hesitant about starting off for fear of getting me jealous. Personally, I don't bother me. In fact, I would love to walk in on them but I digress...

 

Here are a couple of ways to kick off a threesome...

 

* Hop in a hot tub naked. He and my wife got in first while I was gathering the towels. When I got in, she was sitting on his lap, facing him. When I reached under her butt to massage her pussy, I already found out that it was fill.

 

* A strip tease. My wife dressed up in a french maid outfit and did a strip tease to some sexy tunes. She then proceeded to give each of us a lap dance and more...

 

* A massage. He would massage my wife while both were naked and go from there.

[Bedmates 46]

Our first threesome started like this:

 

We (wife and I) talked about it. Everything. What she wanted, what she didn't want. What she wanted from me, etc.

 

We met as a restaurant and had apps and drinks.

 

She gave me the sign to ask the guy home with us. I didn't move quickly enough I guess because she asked him!

 

At home, I served drinks. The three of us sat on the couch (boy-girl-boy). I turned on some music. We sat. We sipped. Finally, I reached over, grabbed his hand, and placed it on her thigh. I placed my hand on her other thigh and started to caress. He followed my lead.

 

For the rest, you'll have to wait until I write it up and post it!

[gsu22 187]

I really like the french maid outfit and strip tease that was mentioned! That sounds incredibly hotttttfacelick

[2New2it 19]

The last threesome we had with a female developed an awkward moment when the time came to retreat to the bedroom. I announced that first I wanted to take a shower and invited our guest to join in. It was sort of a co-ed locker room situation and a half-step to final intimacy.

 

We have a large shower, which we designed to accomodate three or four people, so that was not a problem and scrubbing someone's back does a great job of breaking the ice. It also assures that everyone is as fresh as can be. By the time we toweled each other dry, we were very comfortable touching and having strangers within our "private spaces".

 

When she left, she commented how the pre-play shower worked out so well and made her feel comfortable.

[caberet3 16]

You might try this........it worked for us with an introverted male.

Put on a cd of some nice, slow, sexy music and take turns dancing with her. During each song, each of the two on the dance floor removes one article of clothing before the next male takes the floor. Of course, unless she is into the layered look, she'll be bare before you guys, but there's nothing wrong with dancing with a naked lady, right?

And after all, you are still removing your clothes, so you will all soon be nude. Then you might try breaking out some quarters. She flips hers, and if it lands on heads, the she gets on her knees, if it lands on tails, she assumes "doggie"position. The guys flip............to see who matches her flip and then does either heads or tails for three minutes. then you flip again. If both guys match hers, the jut flip again! After a few coooin flips, you should be ready for the game of "tens."

The winner of the flip mounts her and gives her ten strokes.

The other guy then mounts her and gives her twenty.

....then thirty..............then forty..........and so forth taking turns until one of them 'cums' (something she has probably done several times since the first ten strokes). The last guy to come is declared the winner and he wins 'sloppy seconds' or whatever else you might come up with! Anyway, have fun and write it up for the rest of us to read about.

[Tellya Later 15]

Originally posted by WildFlower

Maybe use this senario I have before. Husband comes over and rubs on me and says doesn't she have lovely breast and then ask the guy to come over and help undress me so they can see them. Fondling starts and things take off from there.

 

 

I've started a 3some witha couple this exact way..

[Wifeenjoysbigge 22]

I had wanted to share my wife with my best friend and after a few weeks my wife wanted to do it. She wanted it to be a three day thing saying that she wanted time to enjoy the experience. We set it up for a Friday after work going out to dinner and have only a couple drinks so nobody was to drunk to function. It was going great at dinner talking and was relaxed no stress lol. We headed back to our house and I could tell my wife and friend both felt awkward. I had figured they would just start fucking each other brains out once we got back to the house. But the awkward silence and I felt a pressure to get the ball rollling. I started kissing my wife then removed her top and bra kissing her nipple sitting on one side of her. Then I told my friend her other nipple looked lonely he didn’t hesitate to her her lonely nipple plenty of loving. Thing progressed in the living room and we went to the bedroom my wife was sucking both our cocks. My friend started licking her pussy and moved between her legs and started fucking her. I moved aside while it was a planned threesome I wanted them to unite and connect sexually getting comfortable with each other. After he gave her an orgasm and filled her with cum I got between her legs and fucked her. We kissed and told each other how much we loved each other. I bit later I felt her feet pushing me off looking behind me my friends huge cock was swollen. My wife wasn’t shy about her desires to being filled up with his thicker longer cock. We took turn on my wife it was awkward our first encounter double teaming her as three of us going at it together. I can only describe it as trying to jump into a rope two people are spinning. The next time we got together we had a true theeesome and it was even better. I think people have to communicate rules and be willing to accept them being broken as part of the moment of passion and fun. We had. Condom rule that my wife at the last minute said she wanted to feel his actual cock inside her and feel his cum inside her. I didn’t have a problem letting her enjoy the part of the experience she wanted to enjoy!

[Bluespruce1 706]

This usually starts for us at the bar or on the dance floor and it goes both ways for FFM or MMF. One of us expresses interest in the other and the flirting begins. Once we have made our way into the play space, we offer the other spouse up. For example I might say to him, why don’t you get her started and taste her pussy or give her a taste of that fat cock. She’ll do the same for me if we are with another woman. This makes it clear that we are all in and the game is on.

[Guest]

As the woman, I tend to see it as my responsibility to get thing going, initially with conversation, flirt and flaunt at the bar and then again once we’re in the room. We have no planned routine. I think the first time, I kissed the other guy once we entered the room, then kissed hubby I had kissed them both coming up the elevator and rubbed the other guy’s crotch while I had been doing so. Then I turned back and kissed the other guy, Denny, and pulled his dick out, dropped to my knees and began sucking. Hubby pulled his out and I went back and forth for a while. That got the ball rolling.

 

Sometimes I have kissed the other guy, kissed hubby and he takes my dress down over my boobs and I turn back to the other guy. Sometimes when the flirt and flaunt at bar was strong and going for a while, everyone takes their turn in the bathroom once we hit the room, hubby goes last and by the time he comes out, the guy has been on the bed going down on me or whatever.

 

When it was a friend of ours or hubby’s, I have laid in bed or on the couch and masterbated for them to get things going. There are just so many options, using one or another is a part of the fun.

[Guest]

I always, always, always take the lead. You do not want your husband to become a director! That will kill the intimacy and make everything mechanical. The other thing it causes, is a set of false rules that will make your new lover think he needs permission to try or do anything. This is very bad. I do everything I can to be available and make my new lover think I am his to explore. Just pretend he is the only one in bed with you and allow the threesome to develop from there. Otherwise, there will always be some hesitation and the new guy will be trying to 'fit' in.

 

Look, you can't be embarrassed or shy. Accept the fact that you're going to have a threesome and get laid by both men. Be feminine, be available, and be very sexual. Remember that your husband knows you already. If you make your new lover comfortable and hot for you...the threesome will be awesome. Don't sit around and act like you aren't sure what to do next or behave like you need approval from your husband. I do a lot of things to 'welcome' a third. Some things I have done:

 

1. A good ole fashioned make out session. If your husband is smart, he'll step out or away for a while. When your lover gets hard, which he will, tell him that you have been thinking about him, and that you want him to stick his pretty cock in you. Make him feel special. This also lets him know that your husband isn't an uptight asshole, and that you are truly available.

 

2. Have him accompany you to the bedroom and show him your underwear drawer. Have him pick out an outfit and dress you up.

 

3. In a genuine and flirtatious way...pull off your panties and bend over for him. Put your ass and pussy in his face and tell him that you have been wanting it all night, and ask him to eat you.

 

4. Pull his cock out and suck without permission. Be very careful about this one! I have had men cum quick. It's probably best to just get it out of his pants and tease it, and tell him that you have been wanting it inside you.

 

5. Just tell your husband to give you some privacy for a while and get all hot on the guy.

 

Really, I just do what seems natural at the time, and do what you would do with a long time lover. Make them feel desired. I have found that if they feel like they are an add on or a toy or tool, the threesome will be cold and contrived.

 

[Guest]

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[Bluespruce1 706]

Had a nice experience over the weekend with a new guy. We met him a few weeks prior and I was definitely interested in a hook up. When we saw him again, I immediately approached him and shared a few drinks and conversation while my husband was at the other end of the bar with friends. I told him about our open relationship and asked if he would be interested in sharing a motel room with us. I called my husband over at that point and brought him into the conversation. He assured the guy that we weren’t psychopaths and that we would love to have him join us. We grabbed some carry out and hit a motel down the street. The guy was definitely new to the experience and was visibly nervous. I let them undress me first and then i sat on the bed and asked if i could remove his pants. As they dropped to the floor I did too so I was in front of him. As I rubbed his shorts I felt his cock getting hard. I looked up at him and asked if I could see it. I pulled down his shorts, held his shaft and took his head in my mouth. Things progressed perfectly from there. He left after a few hours and we spent the night. We have plans to see him again this weekend - we’ll see if he shows.

[Curiousaf 19]

Was there any regrets afterwards? We are looking for a 3rd person but I'm nervous because you can't undo it.

[adamgunn 1,460]

CuriousAF, whether or not you have regrets is something you'll have to chance (or not.)

 

My question is what would your regret be? If it's losing your monogamy, if both of you are on-board with whatever happens I feel you'd quickly get over your regret. But if there's another reason you need to consider it carefully (as it already seems you are doing.)

 

Bottom line: Don't do anything until you are sure, then understand that it's a part of life, enjoy it@

[SurprisedWife 21]

We poured some drinks and did a cheers with each other, and then I stood in between the two guys while they slowly took my clothes off. It was fucking hot and there was not stopping us from there, even though it was a brand new experience for all of us. It ended up being so easy that now we're kind of blown away by the idea that this could be our life???

[couplers 4,615]

Whether MFM or FFM, I like it best when two start separately and already have the action going, then the third joins. I've been on all sides of this approach - they're all different and all exciting in their own way.

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

It ended up being so easy that now we're kind of blown away by the idea that this could be our life???

 

It can be (in every good sense of the word) intoxicating! It's wonderful you had such a great first experience!

[Bluespruce1 706]

When it is clear that you will bringing home a third, we like to set the stage before we even get there. Before we leave the bar, the nude beach or pool, the flirting has already started. I will drop hints on what I want and what I'm going to do. Some times I tell them I'm going to model some outfits, swimsuits or some lingerie. I might tell them I'm going to want to watch them jerk off for me and decide who gets my pussy first - I like to tell them the guy with the smaller cock gets me first. If we ride together the action might start on the way home. Have fun and don't over think it.

[kittyswinger 260]

It can be awkward if it is the first time or the persons involved are introverts. I (the F) initiate or provoke the first moves once everyone is in the bedroom (usually of a hotel) to make the guest M feel welcomed. It is intimidating for the other guy to initiate esp if it is an established couple he is swinging with. I would ask my partner to leave us alone (prior to the bedroom) and pretend he is going to the bathroom or will check something in the car. I personally dont want to start the make out because I want the guy to move first to make sure he is really into me. I have to be flirtatious and show a lot of skin and it starts by itself. By the time my partner comes back, we're in the middle of it.

 

Sometimes, if partner is in the room, I go to the bathroom and call the other guy for some help. Usually, I will never come out dressed and untouched! ? From the point of view of the invited M, if the woman is not initiating anything, and you are shy, just mirror what the bf or hubby is doing to her woman. And ask for continuous feedback if it feels good or ok to do that or this.

[EastInWest 1,524]

Whether MFM or FFM, I like it best when two start separately and already have the action going, then the third joins. I've been on all sides of this approach - they're all different and all exciting in their own way.

 

When we've done this, this is what works for us. So far, 4 out of 5 guys who might have been initially uncertain would have been in for a gangbang once Mrs. E got her top off and spent a few minutes suckstarting them. I try to take the temperature of the situation and see if it's going to be cool to step in or if I should hang back and take a turn after.

[Numex 2,409]

.. I try to take the temperature of the situation and see if it's going to be cool to step in or if I should hang back and take a turn after.

My wife, I, and our play partners are all sensitive when an arrangement shouldn't be intruded upon, especially when it's a one-on-one. Those have a dynamic all their own.

[adamgunn 1,460]

We enjoy MFMs. We normally meet candidates who we bumped into on-line at a bar near our home. If the wife, Mary, is feeling amorous towards him (let’s call him Jim), we’ll invite him to come home with us. He almost always agrees.

 

Kitty, you are right. Jim is usually cautious as to what he’s going to do (particularly if he’s a newbie,) and Mary unwittingly doesn’t make it easy on him because she likes talking about our house and the antiques she has in the rooms. When we first started doing this, I might let her go on for an hour, watching Jim’s desire wane and frustration grow. I created a way to get things going, (Just to reassure, I discussed this with Mary when a man wasn’t present, she agreed this would be the best way.)

 

When we first come in the house, I give them some time alone while I go upstairs and prepare the bedroom (light candles, put soft music on the stereo) and make drinks - five minutes or more. Usually when I bring the drinks into the living room, Mary is explaining a dod-dad and Jim is wondering what’s going on. I will then sidle up to Mary’s side opposite Jim and begin stroking her ass. This is an implicit signal to Mary, ‘remember why you’re here.’ Sometimes, she’ll then turn to Jim and put a hand on his shoulder or something, they kiss, the night’s off . . . Other times I’ll turn her towards Jim, unbutton her blouse and open it so Jim can see her bra. If he’s still cautious I’ll ask, “Jim, would you like to kiss Mary?” From that point on, nature takes over.

 

When we get to the bedroom I’ll normally hang back and let them go at it for awhile. If I’ve asked Jim’s permission and he’s agreed, I’ll take pictures or videos of them. When they are naked, I’ll take my own clothes off. As they go through their various maneuvers, I’ll watch, usually sitting, possibly standing nearby. Often I’ll stroke Mary’s skin or kiss her - particularly if they’re in doggy - but I won’t bother her as she wants to concentrate on Jim.

 

After Jim has orgasmed and a few minutes have gone by for the breathing and heart pumping to return to normal, I’ll approach Mary and she and I will begin our foreplay. As I make love to her, I’ll encourage Jim to help her with his hands and lips. Usually, this incites him and he and Mary will go for round two before everyone’s had enough and Jim leaves.

 

This routine works for us.