First time at swingers club as a unicorn!

[Isobel 56]

I need HELPPPP!!

 

And some Dutch courage.

 

I have never been to a club on my own, always with a gentleman. Not possible now, and my favorite club is miles away

 

However, I have just found a new club twenty minutes down the road.

 

A few things I am worried about.. Being easy fodder... I enjoy being with men, and on occasion women, but I am not a hooker! (Hookers get paid more than my job pays!)

 

And running in to work colleagues...

 

Any tips to settle the nerves, or ideas? I am not 110% convinced swinging is something I want to do as a single girl... But you don't know until you try, and single ladies get in free..

[sunbuckus 3,569]

If you're afraid of bumping into co-workers at the club, perhaps you could try a club that is farther away?

[Isobel 56]

The only others are miles out, and I unfortunately do not currently own a set of wheels :/

 

Saying that.. What would you do.. I think I would probably say hello... Swingers tend to be fairly discreet... But as they are older..a lot older.. I doubt I would see myself joining in with them!

[sunbuckus 3,569]

The only others are miles out, and I unfortunately do not currently own a set of wheels :/

 

Saying that.. What would you do.. I think I would probably say hello... Swingers tend to be fairly discreet... But as they are older..a lot older.. I doubt I would see myself joining in with them!

 

If I were a single female going to a swinger club for the first time? I'd probably chicken out. Or I'd invite a female friend to accompany me (one that wouldn't be disapproving of the LS). If I had the nerves to go in by myself, I can only speculate that I'd be a wallflower. I'm the shy, quiet, reserved type when I first meet people so I can't really give you any advice. I hope that other forum members who are single females or used to be can give you some great advice! If anything, going up to people and introducing yourself, and paying them a genuine compliment would be a good start.

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

From my own experience, it helps to contact the club before your first visit and share any concerns about safety (including being easy fodder). Make friends with staff if you can. Also, you won't need to be the life of the party. As you're a single woman, just not hiding in the washroom is usually friendly enough that people will approach you.

 

I found attending alone a bit nerve wracking, but that had a lot more to do with being openly slutty - in front of strangers - than any real risk. Other than that, I'd suggest dressing fairly conservatively and avoiding drinking.

[angelkin 1,326]

After being in a couple, I would imagine that I would be ok trying a new club alone or with a friend. As far as being easy fodder, just put up a *touch* of a barrier and perhaps don't even do anything on your first visit...at least then the regulars won't have the idea that you are an easy target. Go, enjoy the company of other swingers, keep your own safety in mind (not drinking is a great suggestion), and have fun.

[Guy1964 177]

If you're afraid of bumping into co-workers at the club, perhaps you could try a club that is farther away?

 

If you should run into coworkers, they're in the same situation. If your employer would have a problem with employees being there, they'd know to not mention it.

[Isobel 56]

I'm going for it!

 

Sod it, you only live once and this opportunity is too good to miss out on!!

 

Free for women, all I have is my taxi costs.

 

Have read reviews from last weekend and it looks great, getting very excited thinking about it!

 

No female friends to take, unfortunately. I will probably have a drink getting ready to settle the nerves.. Then go and enjoy!

 

Little black dress and flats will do the trick nicely

 

I will let you all know how it goes!

 

Gah I am so excited!

[sunbuckus 3,569]

Have fun and please let us know how it went!

[Isobel 56]

I will do!

 

Will go around 2230 to be there in time to meet people, but not have to hang around and wait for it to get busy. My old club used to get busy around midnight.

 

Apparently quite a few single men turn up! May be a blessing in disguise!

[Isobel 56]

So I went!

 

I had to Dutch courage a bit getting ready, but not enough to make silly decisions.

 

When I gave the taxi driver the address he asked if I was going to a birthday party...I just smiled and replied.. A party of sorts!

 

Got there around eleven, rang the door bell. It is in the middle of the neighborhood... Bizarre! I thought I was going to have to call another taxi as the door opened. Name was taken (which they didn't get right!) and a key handed over. Put my bag and coat away, went in to the bar/food area.

 

Was shown around by a lovely woman, who took her time to speak slowly.. My German isn't perfect, but they can speak real fast!

 

Sat at the bar, and a group of men eyed me up. I went bright red and drank more water than is humanly possible (not the best idea!)

 

Gentleman sat beside me, started chatting,, and between my German and his English had a great chat. Went to one of the rooms, he started going down with me.. And then there are three other cocks in my face or hands. I am a girl who enjoys one guy after the next, but it was a bit daunting.

 

Then I was introduced to "long john". I don't know his real name.. I don't think anyone does! But he had more than his fair share of equipment, and knew how to use it. After that, the gentleman from the bar and I started again.... And I had to pause... Was just way too much. All the guys were respectful as in.. No means no.. But they still hover over you waiting for their chance. I called a break.

 

Went to the bar, had a smoke, and then went to a much much smaller room with my bar man, and had an extremely good fuck, followed by some awesome oral on both sides.

 

But as we left, there was a line of men waiting. I just smiled and said perhaps next time... You would have thought I stole their hearts!

 

All in all wonderful club, run by awesome people... But I am not sure I would go as a single girl again. I enjoyed it as a pair for other reasons.. If I want a one night stand, I will go clubbing. Not for me... I wasn't expecting quite so many single men, who took no, but then stood thwacking away!

[BiCaliGirl777 48]

Hi there!

 

I'm a unicorn too and what helped me was going with another female friend. It definitely helped ease the awkwardness of going solo and I wasn't alive.

 

However if that's not an option, I would say just go there. Think of it as just another club. I came in thinking that people would be having sex all over the place, but it's the opposite. Yes, it happens but I spent more time chatting with people and having a good time then worrying about who I would sleep with.

 

Being a single woman you are going to be hit on, because yes, you're a unicorn. But the secret is you hold the power. Couples are usually looking for a single female so you get to choose who you want to be with. Don't let anyone pressure you. Have fun.

[Sunswept 161]

So I went!

 

..... But I am not sure I would go as a single girl again. I enjoyed it as a pair for other reasons.. If I want a one night stand, I will go clubbing. Not for me... I wasn't expecting quite so many single men, who took no, but then stood thwacking away!

 

Whoohoo! Well done. You may want to try events that are couples only, or have only a select and limited number of single males. We have nights like that are like that here at various clubs, but I don't know how they roll in Germany.

[Isobel 56]

Hi bicaligirl! I went, if you read the post above.

 

Unfortunately no female friends to take, but had a good time. Enjoy swinging more as a couple, but I am in doubt in my new line of work I will find it, or someone who is open about it! All the men were very kind, and I spent a heck of a lot chatting!

 

Sunswept, most clubs I know do have different nights etc, or themes but this is such a small one they don't. Unfortunate, but I need to scout out more local ones if I go again!

 

 

Forgot to add... Why don't guys cut their nails?? Ow!

[junglecouple 128]

This hits home.. 11 years ago, a single (unattached) female came to one of our parties to see what the LS was like.. We've now been together 10.5 yrs, married for 3..

[djjwp 129]

Enjoy your life and forget about other people at work. If you run into them Monday, wink and walk on. They don't want exposed there anymore than you do. Dance as if no one was watching!

[anhela 15]

Isobel,

 

You are the coolest. And sounds like you handled things so well. Thanks for checking back.

If you're gonna be single, THAT's the way to do it! Way to go.

 

A

[Isobel 56]

Sometimes you just have to take the bull by the horns. Push yourself outside the comfort zone

 

I would probably try again.. Who am I kidding.. Nope, I probably will!

 

Ahh the joys of single life.

Though I do miss watching movies with someone!

[anhela 15]

SPRING CLEANING. For my 50th, I traveled around the world - to three countries, had different sexual experiences many times, had a Korean rubdown to scrape off dead skin in a huge room with everyone naked - now some cleaning out house. Last year I became best buddies with a woman who was a potential partner for my first time. But she was married and I ignored that. I met her with her bf. I didn't feel the attraction but she won me as a friend, even as a best friend. But alas - she became friends with my man, yeah we just broke up. And she lied. I didn't think it could happen to me. So i don't speak to either one. Then I met a really nice man who is SINGLE! and wanted to play. We played, he knew about all this. And it was just the most incredible sexy time I had in my entire night. You definitely want his number. Peace out friends of this site. I am one for non-judgment but prefer open honesty.

[Desire Becca 16]

I'm in the same situation as you and I'm feeling the same way. I wanna ask you just a couple things, Where will you have your first experience as an unicorn? and You will swing separately or you left your couple?

[anhela 15]

I'm in the same situation as you and I'm feeling the same way. I wanna ask you just a couple things, Where will you have your first experience as an unicorn? and You will swing separately or you left your couple?

 

HI Becca,

 

I'm not if you're writing to me or the original writer. I have no plan. I'd be happy to hear from you and your ideas. I don't think id go alone to a party. I do want to.

 

Angela

[Desire Becca 16]

HI Becca,

 

I'm not if you're writing to me or the original writer. I have no plan. I'd be happy to hear from you and your ideas. I don't think id go alone to a party. I do want to.

 

Angela

 

Hi Angela, I was talking with the original writer but I read your story, and that's so bad, I also believe that the most important thing about swinging is honesty, if we speak the true since the beginning, we wont have a problem, and will can have fun without any emotional worries.

 

Becca

[lisaanfrank 15]

my first experience was about 8 months after we got married. I was bored and Frank was out of town so I decided to go on a girls night out. The girls I went with took me to dinner and then to a club, after a few drinks I was dancing with an older man. The next morning I woke up with him making love to me again.

[njbm 2,901]

Hmm, swinging is usually a hobby done with one's spouse or at least the spouse's consent. The last post sounds like infidelity, aka cheating. Not judging, but that does not sound like swinging.