Why are men fascinated with cumming on the face?

[pinkroses 55]

Granted we are still somewhat new to the lifestyle, but I don't get the fascination with men wanting to cum on the face. I am not a lover of facials, but I don't dislike them either. I am excited enough that new men are cumming with me, I could care less where it happens. I do like to accommodate just because it's the mans orgasm and I want him to achieve the maximum pleasure from it.

 

Thus far, my swinging experience consists of two gangbangs in which, if my recollection is correct, has caused 29 male orgasms. Needless to say (I hope), condoms were used for penetration, and I specifically said I didn't want guys to finish in my mouth. Other than that, the guys could finish where they wished.

 

What surprised me was the number of times men chose the face, even when it was not convenient to do so. Of the 29 orgasms, I believe 23 resulted in a facial. Even more surprising, there was only one instance of a man finishing inside me with a condom.

 

My question is, from the male point of view, what is the fascination with the facial? This is somewhat new since it has only happened on three instances in our marriage, and never before then. Hubby prefers to finish inside, even with a condom. Thoughts???

[sunbuckus 3,567]

Personally, I don't like facials because it makes me feel like I'm going to drown and I'll start to panic. Other than that, as long as they cum below my shoulders, it doesn't matter if they want to shoot it elsewhere.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

I'm a man, and I don't get the fascination either, mainly because I could care less about it, and the same holds true for all the male playmates she has had. I don't believe it has ever once been mentioned, and if it had, the answer would have been anywhere below the neck, we can talk, but on the face, hell no.

 

If someone specifically asked me for it, I might be up for it, but it would be totally for them, not me, and certainly not something I try to make happen. The question I have is why if you are almost there, who wants to break the moment by getting the condom off and scrambling around trying to get in position while not shooting off in your hand or all over some other dude who no matter what his fascination with porn sex probably wouldn't find it all that amusing.

[cervelopride 51]

Personally, I think its an acquired conditioning through watching porn. I like receiving, because HE likes it so much. Shots in the eye can really sting though, and gook up your mascara and contacts.

 

Plus, I think he gets stimulation watching himself shoot.. he usually produces about a 2 tablespoons in seven or more shots!

 

 

Then you've got the whole visual aspect of seeing the um, outcome. There may also be a bit of domination/ degradation init asxwwell.

[Sunswept 161]

I also think that it is conditioned by porn. And I think the reason is is so prevalent in porn is that it makes for more dramatic images and simpler production. I can see how it may have some appeal in terms of power dynamics, and for a guy seeing himself unload. But unloading on the face does nothing for me, but whatever floats peoples boats. It can have appeal for me to shoot it somewhere other than inside, but that is situational and depends on the "vibe" and even the mechanics of what is going on. The face thing was never a feature in my collage group sex experiences, and it has not been that big a thing in my swinging or poly experience. There is a lot in porn that does not really happen that much in real life.

 

On the other hand, I have had a surprising number of women take great glee from giving me a handjob when I am laying on my back and watching me squirt straight up like a balky Italian fountain. Oh the delighted squeaks and squeals!

[Wornsilver 219]

Echoing a lot of the guys, I am not interested in giving facials and don't see the fascination, personally. However, three things mentioned here that ring true for me: influenced by porn, domination and degradation.

 

None of those three applies in my world, and I don't see them applying to most of the people who post on this board. This board is very polite and most of the guys who post are most interested in making the experience MUTUALLY enjoyable.

 

I guess I am ok with the domination/degradation thing between consenting partners, but it ain't gonna happen to my wife if I have any input, and I will! Also, I think skewing our whole sexual outlook based on porn is an unfortunate trend...and perhaps the topic of another thread.

[DigginIt 1,132]

Men who like to give facials...I have to think that somewhere between reality and watching porn...they got lost.

 

There is usually a disclaimer on porno's that states "many of the acts depicted in this film are not recommended and may result in physical harm" and it's absolutely true!!! Just try to cum on MD's face and watch the bodily harm that comes next.

[Greg & Sheryl 368]

Our theory is that the facial accomplishes two things. First, it provides a visual effect that's difficult to accomplish any other way -- you see proof of the man's orgasm and you get to admire the woman's pretty face at the same time. Second, it symbolically represents unconditional acceptance of the man's semen. Semen is extremely important to every man, as it represents his virility, his masculinity and his very identity as a sexual being. Men spend a lot of time and effort (and money) expelling semen from their bodies, so to have a woman position her face (which represents her identity) at ground zero of his orgasm and have her accept his semen this way without reservation can be a huge turn-on for a man.

 

All that said, we rarely do facials in private as we generally prefer oral finishes to chin-to-hairline facials. After all, there's less clean-up that way! Most of our encounters end with semen in the ladies' mouths, but if we're taking photos, we'll do facials at the end specifically for its visual effect.

[JandKinBoise 858]

As a "polite" guy, I see a facial as something that must be requested by the woman. We had an MMF recently where J specifically requested we come on her face. Probably because we were pretty much done. Neither Chuck nor I had come. We were just lying on the bed, stroking our cocks, thinking about all the hot sex we just had. J said "if you are going to jerk off, can you jerk off on my face?". If nothing else, it got us going again. For me though, and Chuck as well, a facial, even when requested isn't something we are comfortable with. We both know that J asked for this because she like to please. She knows how much we like to watch ourselves cum. And she knows a lot of porn ends with a facial. I've gotten enough cum in her eye, trying to get her mouth, that I know to not just shoot all over her face. But, we appreciated the sexy comment that got us off our backs and back into her. Facials are for porn.

 

Maybe there should be a section here for uploading pictures. After reading Greg&Sheryl's comments, I found myself really wanting to see their photo collection. lol

[DigginIt 1,132]

Our theory is that the facial accomplishes two things. First, it provides a visual effect that's difficult to accomplish any other way -- you see proof of the man's orgasm and you get to admire the woman's pretty face at the same time. Second, it symbolically represents unconditional acceptance of the man's semen. Semen is extremely important to every man, as it represents his virility, his masculinity and his very identity as a sexual being. Men spend a lot of time and effort (and money) expelling semen from their bodies, so to have a woman position her face (which represents her identity) at ground zero of his orgasm and have her accept his semen this way without reservation can be a huge turn-on for a man.

 

All that said, we rarely do facials in private as we generally prefer oral finishes to chin-to-hairline facials. After all, there's less clean-up that way! Most of our encounters end with semen in the ladies' mouths, but if we're taking photos, we'll do facials at the end specifically for its visual effect.

 

See, I have to completely disagree with everything here (and I always enjoy your posts Greg & Sheryl) but this is just too much psychology babble for me.

 

I'm not in the 'that's so degrading' camp by any means. I do not feel that anything is degrading if it's enjoyed by both parties equally but I am in the 'can't help but feel that the vast majority of men that enjoy doing this have an ego issue and get some kind of power or dominance satisfaction out of it' camp. The whole statement of 'Semen is extremely important to every man, as it represents his virility, his masculinity and his very identity' ... really? Providing for my family, loving my wife and meeting their needs as a father and husband is what's 'extremely important' to me as a man. Nothing sexual makes me feel more or less masculine and semen is just a bodily fluid.

 

You can shoot me down all day because it's my own opinion but I don't see it than anything more than a dominance/submissive thrill.

[Greg & Sheryl 368]

DigginIt said:

Providing for my family, loving my wife and meeting their needs as a father and husband is what's 'extremely important' to me as a man. Nothing sexual makes me feel more or less masculine and semen is just a bodily fluid.

 

We understand where you're coming from and we admire the devotion you have for your family. Indeed, we agree that those things should be the most important things in one's life.

 

However, we guess our perspective on this issue is different because we don't see the act of loving and providing for one's family as something that is specific to sex or gender. That's something that can be done regardless of the biological sex or gender identity of the people involved, but when it comes to the sex act, those things are an inherent part of the role that each participant plays.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

I'm wondering if there might be an animalistic factor to facials...like dogs marking trees.

[X53 38]

Having been a voyeur at both of Pink's gang bangs, I would say that the fact that there were all single men there and no other women may have been a contributing factor to the many facials. In addition, our organizer told us from the beginning that facials were a big turn on for him and asked if she would be cool if they were to happen. After we arrived, it was specifically made clear to the men that facials were ok ( and I am all but certain that they knew in advance as well and may even have been encouraged). That being said, I am sure many fell into the novelty category. Guys did it just because they could and may never have had an opportunity to.

 

There are a million other reasons probably, but it sounds like our experience is not "normal" in the lifestyle.

[X53 38]

I'm wondering if there might be an animalistic factor to facials...like dogs marking trees.

 

That thought has certainly crossed my mind as well.

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

There are a million other reasons probably, but it sounds like our experience is not "normal" in the lifestyle.

 

Not in my experience, no. I also suspect, both from observation and from personal experience, that it is more common in groups of men and possibly, as sunbuckus posits, a way of marking territory. That would also suggest that it's more common among unpaired men, if they're like other mammals. Except porn, which qualifies as the most useless sex guide ever, including the marriage manuals from the Victorian age, skews the data, so who knows.

 

If it's sex without condoms, then in me is a huge preference. I'm pretty sure that's a biochemical thing, actually, given the sense of completion it brings (even if I still want more sex right away). With condoms, then on me is fine, but not above my neck. Come stings when it gets in the eyes, it's hard to wash out of my hair and I really don't like the "take it, bitch" that facials imply. Also, that whole money shot thing? Doesn't really do a thing for me, unless eye rolling counts, because it just reminds me of the porn equivalent of hentai.

[pinkroses 55]

The act itself did nothing for me physically, but I kinda liked how it seemed to get the guys excited. I don't plan on asking for it in the future, but will go with it if that's what they want.

[DigginIt 1,132]

However, we guess our perspective on this issue is different because we don't see the act of loving and providing for one's family as something that is specific to sex or gender. That's something that can be done regardless of the biological sex or gender identity of the people involved, but when it comes to the sex act, those things are an inherent part of the role that each participant plays.

 

I get your point and I appreciate your views

[BiCaliGirl777 48]

One word: Porn.

 

And I think that it has to do with power, you know, just banging someone and it's the icing on the cake. Pun intended lol.

[normals 21]

I, the male, always avoided cumming on her face because I felt it was degrading to her and the last thing that excited me was degrading my high school sweetheart of 40 years.

 

But not so long back in a playful and FUN bondage session I did so.

 

It was a LOT more fun for both of us than I expected and was not degrading at all. And I did talk and ask.

 

I don't understand the psychology at all, not at all. but we have both enjoyed it a number of times since.

 

I have given up trying to understand why for fear of ruining the fun.

 

Some things just are. -

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Sunswept said:

I also think that it is conditioned by porn. And I think the reason is is so prevalent in porn is that it makes for more dramatic images and simpler production. . . .

 

I am reminded of a routine a stage comic had several years ago. He would ask, "How do you know your doctor has been watching too much porn?" He would subsequently answer his own question with, "It's when he withdraws the hypodermic prematurely and squirts the vaccine all over you."

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[M1F2KTJ 473]

Your face is what everyone sees. He can imagine that every time somebody looks at you it is a face that he has cum on. It is lips that you kiss your husband/boyfriend with.

[curiousbear 20]

Hmm I am not fascinated with facials at all. Prefer finishing inside. During handjob prefer it being caught in palms and rubbed on my skin or hers. Mostly because I love the smell of my semen.

[sparkstar 128]

It does nothing for either of us. I personally prefer men to finish inside me because of a few reasons but mainly I just love the feeling of the whole experience, it's why I try to meet new men who are happy to not bring condoms, under the agreement that they bring with them a full std test certificate or we get tested together pretending to be a couple so then on our 2nd dates within a couple of weeks we can play au natural. It's so much fun after having sex without cleaning out his 'deposit', then go for a meal in a restaurant talking with him knowing I have 'him' inside me. Scenarios like that is so much more meaningful to me than having a man cum over my face.

[Coupleerotic22 1,419]

I'm not fascinated with it at all.

 

In fact I can only recall doing so intentionally with one woman and only because she really enjoyed it. It didn't do much for me either way. It was not a huge turn for me, other than seeing her enjoy it. And I did not feel I was desegregating her since she requested it. Nor did I feel any power trip of dominance for doing it. It is simply another form of a sex act.

 

I am sure each person is different, some love it, some hate it, and some don't care. But I would never intentionally do it to a woman unless specifically asked. It's just not my thing.

[curiousbear 20]

I know there is dominance aspect and submissive aspect in sex. Both are enjoyable based on one's sexuality. But I can't imagine cum on face falls in that. I think it is because men are very visual.

 

Or even any sexual position falls under that. For instance we cannot generalize doggy position puts man in dominant position because a neutral or even submissive guy could doggy to hit her gspot. If he grabs her hair pushes her down flat and do her hard then that is dominance.

 

I think facials are porn thing. In real life I guess it is mainly some real sweet girls want to please the boys since they know boys are very visual - they enjoy seeing things!!!

[Cleve76Pom 24]

Not sure but we just do not get it with the facial thing. Is it some kind of control issue? Do not know

[curiousbear 20]

Not sure but we just do not get it with the facial thing. Is it some kind of control issue? Do not know

 

IMHO it is because men are visual. But no I don't have any fascination for it

[Tobacouple 111]

I don't think most men are fascinated by it. Doesn't do a thing for me. People are just mislead by the porn industry. Personally, after starting to swing, porn doesn't do much for me or my wife. Too fake.

[Lionheart72 2,190]

Few weeks late, but I still feel the need to chime in here with a different perspective.

 

As a guy, I happen to find facials very sexy and for me it has nothing to do with porn, dominance or humiliation. I can actually trace the root of my personal fascination with facials back to a single event: my first orgasm with a woman... it started as a sixty-nine, but we didn't know what the hell we were doing so somehow it ended with me looking down at my girlfriend's beautiful, smiling, cum-covered face. I've loved facials ever since, though I don't do them often.

[slowride 27]

Maybe the reasons men like it does relate to porn. I like it on occasion and my wife will accommodate me because we do for each other. I guess it just sexually charges some to see it and do it. And it's also very visual, something I like most men like, visually stimulating sexual play.

[Wornsilver 219]

Few weeks late, but I still feel the need to chime in here with a different perspective.

 

As a guy, I happen to find facials very sexy and for me it has nothing to do with porn, dominance or humiliation. I can actually trace the root of my personal fascination with facials back to a single event: my first orgasm with a woman... it started as a sixty-nine, but we didn't know what the hell we were doing so somehow it ended with me looking down at my girlfriend's beautiful, smiling, cum-covered face. I've loved facials ever since, though I don't do them often.

 

Thanks for the insight. Aren't we all such a bundle of experiences, drives and backgrounds? Interesting.

[cpl36996 91]

I would say is not the men fascination but the women allowing it. To me it takes away the beauty and the honor of cumming with whom I am with or denigrate her sexuality when in reality should be all about her. However, each to their own.

[Sophy 569]

I have received request for facials from our play-partners but my biggest issue with it is: I do not want cum on my eyes nor on my hair, I have satisfied the request by letting them cum on my chin and let it drip to my breasts.

[Alura 2,774]

During our time between children, my late wife and I used oral sex as birth control. I would bring her off orally then move to her mouth. Usually I made it in time but sometimes didn't, or she would take a breath while giving me head. During those times she sometimes got a facial, but it was not done intentionally. She liked to receive it all in her mouth.

 

When swapping partners, she like to think of herself as a porn star, and would do outrageous things that weren't really appropriate to our love making. That often did result in facials, sometimes intentionally, but usually ended with her using a finger to move the cum from her face into her mouth, while looking into her partners' eyes and delivering her wonderful smile.

 

We felt one of the benefits of swinging was to be able to "play" at sex. We seemed to gravitate to "making love" with each other.

[Sirramm 111]

We can say as a rule having a cum in her face, especially, or anywhere else on her body is a kink for us. She feels 'powerful' knowing and feeling his cum splash her, but in the face it's just like double hot. On that thread it's hot that I get the opportunity to lick and kiss his cum off her face. Another one of our freaky kinks. LOL

 

Not to mention for me 'seeing' him bust a nut on her or in his face is a HUGE turn on for me!!!!

 

Relax it's just cum....LOL

[Guest]

The whole idea of it is a turn off to me. I guess I am lucky in that I have, for a girl my size, what guys perceive to be large breasts with large nipples. If they want to put it somewhere, it tends to be on the breasts which is fine. That kind of works because after they cum, I have a tendency to go suck out the rest so its hand if its at breast level. The mere idea of five or more guys cumming on my face is probably the biggest reason I haven't done a gang bang.

[HighOnSex4UNow 16]

There may also be a bit of domination/ degradation init asxwwell.

 

Yes, I think this is a good part of the reason. Frankly, I love cumming in a pussy or ass but letting go on a face, especially when she is into it and / or opens her mouth and takes some in is very hot too. But I do think part of the attraction is that it is degrading. I wanted to cum on my girl's face at a swing resort and have her walk around with it on her for a few hours. That thought still gets me going!

[limitless78 21]

I love seeing women receive facials and don't know why. I have thought about porn conditioning, domination, etc but don't have a good reason. They're just hot to see. Maybe it's that a woman has to be very willing to take one, which is a huge turn on but going back to very early porn memories I always loved seeing them.

[Nightclubber 11]

I want to and this would be the ultimate have two girls sit in my face and rub their pussies on my head and then cum all over my face and in my hair, this would've fuckin' sweet.

[curiousbear 20]

I want to and this would be the ultimate have two girls sit in my face and rub their pussies on my head and then cum all over my face and in my hair, this would've fuckin' sweet.

 

Eating a very wet girl or even better face sitting had been one of my longtime fantasies...

[jonsbttm4all 42]

I don't know, I prefer on the chest/stomach or vagina. I don't really like videos with facials either.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

I don't know, I prefer on the chest/stomach or vagina. I don't really like videos with facials either.

 

Same here. Anything two consenting adults want to do to each other, then go for it...but that one just doesn't have any attraction to me. In fact, although I consider myself fairly high on the kinky scale and up for about anything, facials are almost a turn-off to me. Note there that I said almost...if someone requested it, I would probably try to oblige, but it wouldn't be on my behalf at all.

[love2dp 52]

One of many things I hate about good porn. I hate facials. Fucking gross to me. Now a chick swallowing multiple loads great, dig that, but enough with the facials already. Not a fan of the odor of cum. I much prefer to cum inside my woman. Any hole works, not hard to please.

[enhancer 1,584]

I don't think you can generalize why all men that enjoy it enjoy it for the same reason! Sure for some it is thinking real life is going to be just like porn. Sure for some it is a dominating and degrading thing, but for some it could be a totally different turn on.

 

Ms Enhancer does not do it. Has zero appeal to her and she isn't really all that big of a fan of cum. I can and do totally respect that and it really isn't that important to me, because she is one hell of a amazing lady to be with. The only time I have given her a facial was by total accident when I pulled out of her pussy to blow a load on her belly which is no issue with her. I guess I was a little excited, because I over shot and covered her face, lol. It made for a good laugh from both of us, because neither of us saw it coming.

 

I do think it is pretty hot though! It has nothing to do with being dominate for me, because I actually prefer women that are in control and set the pace to women that submit to men.

 

Maybe a bit to do with porn conditioning. We do watch a lot of together.

 

I love looking into a woman's eyes. Having her looking me in the eyes and inviting me to release on her sexy face would just be hot. I have never asked a play partner to do it and would not. If one enjoyed it and asked me to do it I would happily comply.

[love2dp 52]

Could not agree more enhancer. It is different for everybody. I don't get off at all on the degrading thing to do it to a woman for that personal purpose at all. If a woman asks for it because she actually likes it, I will just like you said be more then happy to cream cover her face for her.

 

I have done a facial and she enjoyed greatly. But I like my cock actually being stroked while cumming NOT by me. I want to feel Her pussy walls, her asshole tightly wrapped around my cock. Or her wonderful mouth and lips around my cock when I'm pumping a load into her. I have done the same thing with an old girlfriend where we were missionary, and I pulled and trying to shoot on her tummy too, only blasted the wall just behind her head above the bed. It splatted the wall making an audible splat squishy noise at it splatted on the wall lol! We both heard it and began laughing. Sex is and can be so much freakin fun and funny as All hell at times. I don't know how many times both my girlfriend and I have busted out laughing over something funny that happened sexually. And with lots of different partners.

 

One girlfriend who I got to fall deeply in love with anal, my favorite anal girlfriend of all time because if that lol. One time after apparently pumping a huge load in her ass, after pulling out, she immediately jumped up and started running toward the bathroom. She cupped her A hole and was tooting each step and of course squirting cum out into her hand, she was laughing as she was running just making her toot even more. Oh my god did we laugh our asses off over that one.

[edtungsten5858 29]

Facials do nothing for me. I have never had a woman ask for one and I have never done it. My and my swing bud prefer internal ejaculation (mouth, rectum, pussy). As we love to keep playing after climaxing, having a load in a hole opens up lots fun activity. Side bar: I never touch my penis during sex (except for necessary alignment for insertion, especially anal) and I never jack-off onto a partner, thus taking facials out of the picture by default. My bud doesn't object, because she is turned by her partner's unbridled arousal; and if that mean getting a facial, she is happy with that if she gets to watch the lust in his eyes as he unloads.