Invited to swing at someone's home?

[Weezie 16]

Since we don't have any kids it seems like we are always inviting couples over to our house. We hardly ever get invited to the other couples house. Does this happen to others very often?

We are always very hospitable and make our guest feel so comfortable that it's not uncommon for them to spend the entire night. Don't get me wrong, we love it. We love to entertain. But we've never really stayed over at another couples house. It would be a fun change.

[Elusive BiFem 70]

I would imagine, Weezie, that for most with kids at home, it is really difficult to invite people over for the night. Trying to locate a place for the kids to stay all night, then worrying that one might get sick and have to come home, etc.

 

For some, getting to spend the night at your home might be almost like a luxurious mini-vacation. -EBF

[windsor4fun2 130]

The kids can become a major issue when it comes to hosting a sleep over or even entertaining late. In fact it can be harder to coordinate what the kids are going to be doing than it is to coordinate schedules with the other couple.

 

Since you have no kids the other couples may subconsciously assuming it is easier to go to your place. Maybe you will have to take the bull by the horns and tell the others you would like to be the quests for a change of pace.

 

Jesse

[RnLinohio 17]

Well for us me mainly go to on premises clubs, and they are so far away (2 hour drive) that we don't have the opportunity to invite people to our house. But we also have 3 small kids at home, and finding a place for them over night is hard to.

 

 

Robin

[thump29 16]

We don't have people stay over or play at home because we have two small kids and it would be hard to explain. The kids do meet the people we swing with because we have barbecues and stuff like that with them. Its easier to go somewhere else to play that way no questions get asked from the kids.

[OhioCouple 40]

We don't have children at home, but I can certainly understand the reluctance to invite people to their home, children or not. We recently invited a couple to our home for the first time and I truly stressed out over it, from the time of the invitation until they were here for a few hours. It all turned out fine even when my youngest and most spiciest showed up unexpectedly with her little monster in training, in tow. However, I don't know how I would feel about inviting someone that I didn't seem to really know, very well, into our home. I would have to say that we would NOT do it, and that sort of invitation will only be extended to people that we have grown to know very well.

 

I am a very private person and my home is my sanctuary, always has been and even when I was dating my husband ten years ago, he didn't get an invite to my home for the first six months, just to pick me up for dinner. (At the time I had kids at home.)

 

For us, it is a matter of knowing and trusting the people we invite here, and that takes more than a meet and greet or an exchange of a couple of e-mails.

[nikkilynn74 15]

I would have to agree that with older kids it would have to be more discreet. We will have to address that when our kids our older. Right now the girls are 21 months and we don't play at our house until they are asleep and when we go to our friends house, they go and sleep in the spare room...Our portable cribs stay at their house I know that will eventually have to change.

 

Nikki

[Brit_Pair 62]

Because we don't have kids (and because our regular playmates do), the majority of our meetings take place at our home. It's no big deal really, but obviously there's the additional pressure of getting the place spic and span in advance. Also, even though we're in our own home, there's always a slight edge to the evening. By contrast, on those occasions when we've been able to meet at our playmates' place, it's felt quite different, much more relaxed, probably because the onus is no longer on us.

[naughty A 23]

Another 'no kids' here. and we don't mind entertaining at home a bit.

 

I do feel the obligation to keep an eye on the alcohol intake as I would with any other guest planning to drive home... and I always offer our playmates the option of staying over in our spare room afterwards. Depending on the length of the drive they face -- some do and some don't. Sometimes this also depends on if they have to get home to the babysitter.

 

I am definitely more relaxed in my own home and would prefer it to other people's homes... I do feel a little uncomfortable when other people have children (sleeping) in the house... you might know that your kids WON'T wake up... I don't.

 

I generally feel that we know our playmates fairly well before inviting them... but this provides the best opportunity for getting to know them better. (free exchange of conversation without other diners or hovering waiters present.)

 

obviously there's the additional pressure of getting the place spic and span in advance

 

my husband loves this part as I always do a super intense cleaning for 'company'

[Pat_38NV 17]

We have no problem with entertaining our swinging friends at home. But we prefer them to depart after we are done. It's just our way.

 

And when we go to visit someone at their homes, we almost never spend the night. For one reason, my husband is one of those that has trouble sleeping in anyone else's house other than our own. I can sleep anywhere.... beds, couches, airplanes, behind the wheel...well...maybe not.

[Misty&Todd 16]

we do not have children yet so we would not have a problem at all with out playmates staying over with us.. however it seems that we are the ones that do all the traveling when we meet a couple online, i wish they would travel too.

[RMRx2 24]

We enjoy guests and friends coming over.

 

We have yet to meet a couple to play with but if we were comfortable enough to play with them, we would be cool with having them to our home,,,and staying the night if it was easier for them and they were comfortable with it

 

The kiddos are older so that would have to be on the weekends they are with their "other" parents

 

We often refer to our place as the RMR B&B as it's in the country and quite peaceful and pleasant,,,,,it is some work to keep up so we like to share it when we can, it makes the work more worth while

 

The rmrx2's

[Greg & Sheryl 368]

We are a childless couple whose situation is nearly identical to that of Pat_38NV. We have no problem entertaining at our home, but we prefer that our guests not sleep over. We own a modest one-bedroom condo, so we don't have a lot of room for others to spend the night. Furthermore, we tend to regard our our home as a private sanctuary for our morning activities, so it's unlikely that we would have overnight guests even if we had the extra bedrooms.

 

Also, we never spend the night at the homes of others because the wife finds it impossible to sleep in anyone else's bedroom. She can sleep well in hotel rooms when we go out of town, but we aren't able to take overnight trips very often.

[MagicEnigma 16]

Being on the single side of things, I've done it a good deal, and only once with a couple who had kids who were also in the house. However that was long after the kids were tucked into bed and we were securely in their basement.

[windsor4fun 26]

We have entertained out of town guests in our home...but only after shipping off our teenagers to visit Grandma. and one of their rooms was offered to our friends.

Even then there are too many questions from the kids....I think it'll have to wait a few years until we're empty nesters.

[ready2pla 17]

We prefer that our swinging players not stay all night that is unless we loose track of time and are still banging on the bedroom wall when the sun comes up. After we are done with the couple or they with us we love to fuck by ourselves.

[the2stars 15]

This subject falls under the same rules of ours for kids in the house=no fun.

 

We have had some friends over for the night but usually their kids have come with them as well. We have the rule of if there is the patter of feet home we do not go off to another part of the house and we are just getting together as friends.

 

When we have known someone for some time we will have than stay if invited to a cookout or other gathering, if they have a long drive or just too tired.

 

We feel as though it is just too chancy to being discovered by a child who might just wake up. The only way we might consider it , would be to lock them in their rooms. But that would be abuse...

[nikkisguy 15]

We wouldn't have a problem hosting if we get a sitter for the night.

[HotCoupleGnS 21]

We don't entertain at our house at all. 1. we have kids 2. we are looking for a house to buy, so we are renting a house. It is real small & we don't like entertaining b/c of it. But as soon as we buy a house we will definitely entertain at our home!

[Dave_kat 227]

We're childless ones as well, and unfortunately live in military housing to boot. For those of you who have seen it, well, it's nearly impossible to keep the houses perfect (especially the older houses).

 

A lot of our friends have kids, so we tend to host here as well. We have a sleeper sofa that anyone is welcome to use, playmates or not, but we're pretty sure that for the most part, the choice of locations is predicated mostly by the kids and if they are old enough to know what is going on.

[stoutgatte 25]

Our child is 19 months, so we'll put her to bed and then play/entertain to our delight. This will change as soon as she starts to get up and walk about during the night...

[WesternSwing 504]

We don't invite others to our house to swing because we have kids at home... all the time. But also because as I've said before, this is our adult playtime away from real life, and OUR house is not an escape.

 

Mr. WS

[Dave_kat 227]

What Dave surprisingly forgets to mention is that while childless and living in impossible to keep spic and span military housing we have several cats. Pet allergies can also be a big factor in deciding whose house to meet in. Even if you lock the pets away and clean the house the allergens are still there.

 

Kat

[24play 15]

Being part of a private group of friends, our parties almost always end up into the early hours of the next morning, and we just love having the parties at our house.

 

Obviously don't have kids. I won't stay over night at a couples house which isn't in the regular group - it feels akward and I want my own bed, but when we party with our very close friends - we sometimes only get home on Sunday evening !!

[freakykitten 15]

We entertain in our home but usually when our kids are away for the night!

 

 

 

We have three children the oldest is 6, and not to long ago we had a bad experience with our good regular friends. We thought they understood that you can't go running around around the house naked even if it is in the middle of the night, but they did not. We do have lock on "our" bedroom door, but the male half of the couple went to the bathroom naked and our oldest woke up to get something to drink. Well, needless to say we almost got busted. I had to intervene as soon as I heard the pitter patter of feet going towards the bathroom LOL. Well we all learned a big lesson that night, no more playing at all with the kids in the house. Not because we have issuses with nudity, but i don't want to have to explain why there is a naked man in the bathroom who is not daddy! ROFL

[Purple 15]

This type of question is why I am designing my own house...

There will really be a "play area" even if it just gets used by Mommy & Daddy...

Seperate outside entrance, and bathroom, only connected to the house via our bedroom... and our bedroom will be at the end opposite the kids. With living room & Kitchen in between. I'd really even like to keep a mini fridge there or build in a (sp?) kitchenette.

Also - I plan on having sound proofing in most of the bedroom walls. If done through MOST of the house, the contractors will only ask if I really want to spend that much to have it done, not "Why are you sopund proofing this room above your bedroom" - AS it is, I will have fun explaining the idea if an upstairs room with no door to the family room.

[Chris&Suzanne 204]

We don't have kids at home. We really enjoy inviting friends over for dinner, etc. (both swinger and non-swinger) We always offer them the option of spending the night, especially if they ahve been drinking. Sometimes they accept sometimes not.

[Tigeress 15]

We have entertained here before after all the kiddies have went to bed and I don't think I would again while they are actually home,, It's soo much better when I can hear the sounds and not having to hold back all the time,, I really love the idea of Sound proofing the walls, Even just for hubby and myself, think I'll have to look into it

I have no problem entertaining when I can get a sitter for the kids, and usually isn't difficult to do but I try not to do it to often. The thought of someone sleeping over, I would love to sometime lay there in my bed all night wrapped around a luscious beauty but the chance hasn't came up yet.

 

Tigeress

[JakenReenie 17]

Almost all of our playing is at home or at someone else's home.

 

We love to entertain, wine and dine our guests, and then we all enjoy the ultimate dessert.

[couplehorny 15]

We can't invite people over because of the kids. Therefore we would need to be invited to someone's house. We are new to this. We would like to be invited to watch for right now. If anyone in the central Pa area wouldl like to be watched mail me.

[ALilOEverything 901]

We've always enjoyed entertaining whether for vanilla or swinging activities. I prefer it because I still get to sleep in my own bed, I don't sleep as well in a strange bed but I still enjoy sleepovers at other people's homes.

[its_fun_for_us 15]

The couple we're involved with lives about an hour away -- after going out and playing for a few hours -- who wants to drive!! So its an open invitation as fas as we're concerned...

 

Mrs Fun

[DaveNSheila 16]

For us we have teenagers which at times is difficult to plan things around. They are usually gone but like anyone else their plans fall through and so we end up with kids home. We have entertained three times without kids but no overnights. We are figuring when the kids are out of the house then maybe we can. We are also looking at the fact that the kids would try and pull surprise visits which wouldn't be ok but we will have to see. D

[tribbles 490]

8 indoor/outdoor dogs, 2 cats: indoors

Chickens, ducks: outdoors

Slobs r us as well. I don't have dust bunnies they are dust rhinos And we live in the middle of a dirt field, off a dirt road. Dust anyone?

Since it hasn't stopped us from being happily married >25yrs, we aren't going to get the house neat and clean for swinging. So far we haven't let any play partners come visit 'packrat ranch' but you never know! Although with all the fuzzy critters we have it gives a whole new meaning to the concept of hairballs!

[DBL D 120]

Fem D is comfy using our boat for meeting couples, but has not decided that our house should be avaliable. Not sure why because she dosen't have a problem going to other peoples homes. We are kinda new to this and are still finding our way...

 

Si su casa es nosotros casa, entonces nosotros casa es su casa.

 

Male D

[allycat 15]

We do this all the time.We usually make an evening of it.Have great sex all night and go out to eat in the morning.

[discreetindcpl 15]

Its not our first choice (or even second, for that matter!) but we have done it twice so far. Obviously- only when the kids are away-having sleepovers at their friends. Then again, the walls are not

that thick and we are afraid that sometimes all the excited voices and sounds might carry over to our neighbors!

[CuriousInOregon 16]

Well We have had our First swing experience and Yes it was at home We luckilly do have a 3 story house so We played on the top floor with the doors Locked

[cpl_n_ok 15]

we don't have kids...but have never had another couple come home with us...we are just private people and it doesnt feel comfortable....this has never been a problem....most of the couples we have met feel more confortable going back to their house for some reason....

 

 

usually if we plan on having some fun....we get a hotel room....no problems and we dont have to clean up the mess...

[Jamie&Kieth 36]

When the kids were young it was easy to have our freinds over for the evening or the night. Now that they are older it has become more difficult.

 

Our oldest just went off to college and we noticed there will be an evening and a couple of weekends with no kids so we are looking forward to a fun filled sex weekend!!!

[okidoll 15]

We don't have chitlins' either so we often invite people over to stay. We have three beds and a hot tub . We've been slowly but surely making our house more swingerific.

[chattyroni 15]

We love entertaining at our house. We have an awesome hot tub and the bar is always fully stocked. When you add in the darts and the karaoke, we have a total party house. I just wish it was bigger so we could host group parties!

 

We have one daughter and we only entertain here when she is gone for the night. She's not old enough to drive yet, so we don't have to worry about her coming home unexpectedly. She's a very smart kid, and we are very open with her so by the time she is old enough to drive, she'll be old enough to understand why we need our private adult time.

 

We do have a very nosy neighbor, but we are not ashamed of what we do so if she's going to nose around hard enough she'll just get what she deserves!

 

I used to stress about the deep cleaning before people came over, but I got over that and if people don't like to come to my house because of the dust or the pets, I'm not offended at all.

 

We did go to one couples house once and were very surprised that her kids were there when we got there. However, she was fine with it and they went off to bed on the other side of the house and her sister was there to make sure they didn't interrupt us. I felt kind of strange leaving and saying goodbye to the sister - knowing that she knew what we'd been doing, but it was still a fun night.

[WonTheSexLotto 15]

We'd only do this when the kids are not home (at school or a friend's house -- thanks to our flexible work schedules) and then the other party would leave soon after play. Regardless of where we are, we like to be alone afterward so that we can discuss the experience with each other and have some "couple time". Having a deadline of the kids coming home is a good way to ensure that guests don't stay too long.

[RenoFantasy 15]

Interesting seeing the different responses here.

 

We are a couple WITH children. Our daughter is almost 7 and our son is 2. We entertain at our house often, and 90% of the time this involves a sleepover. Thus far we haven't had to answer any questions about it, but I'm sure it won't be long. Generally we have the couple over for dinner and movies (or whatever), and after the kids have been in bed a couple hours we migrate to the bedroom. If the other couple has a child/children around the same age as either of ours, they can opt to have them over for a sleepover with our kids.

 

We've hit a point in our swinging lives where we've come to prefer quality over quantity. While we like to "fool around" a little bit when we hit the clubs, we actually prefer to NOT have sex with someone we've barely met. We like to take our time and get to know couples, trying to make life-long friends (with benefits). Our profile on SLS is VERY detailed about who we are and what we like to do just for this reason. We plan on being friends, so if you're only interested in our looks, but don't like the us... move on to someone else, please.

 

Because of this approach we've begun to find the "fuck and flee" method to be a bit too cold for our liking. We've become pretty used to having sleepovers and prefer them whenever possible. This gives us PLENTY of time to chat, chuckle, foreplay, have sex (we don't like the term "fuck"), cuddle, and repeat (if desired). Go to sleep, wake up and get a little in before the kids wake. Of course, we also don't require same room relations at all times. So if the kids wake first and folks are still feelin frisky, half of the play group can "run interferance" while the other half play, then switch out and let the other half play while the first keep the kids occupied.

 

There I go AGAIN, not knowing when to shut up!

 

Anyway, we have kids. We do sleepovers. We'll explain it to the kids as best we can when the time comes. We have no intention of deceiving our youngsters.

 

Anyone up for a sleep over!? Welcome

 

Matt (& Sarah)

[The Big A 18]

We couldn't do it because the Mother-in-Law lives with us.

[Tybee Swing 286]

Since we don't have any kids it seems like we are always inviting couples over to our house. We hardly ever get invited to the other couples house. Does this happen to others very often?

 

We've never been to someone else's house (yet) for swinging, and have never invited anybody to our house. Finally, we've met a great couple that have no kids anywhere near and often entertain at their home. We have made plans with them. The downside is that they live an hour away. We're invited to stay overnight in the guest room, but personally, I'm not comfortable with that. I'd rather leave than do the whole extended breakfast thing the next day.

 

The #1 reason we don't entertain at home, and also a reason I'd rather not sleep over at other's houses, is that we have a teen at home. Staying out all night long would be very suspicious, while staying out late draws no attention. When we are empty-nesters (very good and empty), things may change about entertaining at home. Until then, no. We keep our swing/private life very separate from family life. With us, it's almost always in hotels for now. We would play in clubs, but there are none anywhere near us, so those are the rare out-of-town weekend trips.

[The Fuse 1,012]

We have no kids, and love having people over for all things fun, whether they are vanilla get-togethers or swinging get-togethers. The only caveat is that we have to spend a little time (a few hours) with a couple first to make sure we think they are upstanding people.

 

Regarding the need to clean up first, having people over is great in that way too. Mr. Fuse and I are both SLOBS. Having people over provides the motivation to clean. Guests are welcome to stay the night, but haven\'t yet because they are the ones who have kids.

[HappyPeople 17]

We used to be uncomfortable with the idea because we worried about showing our home off to others... It's an old house and it has it's charms but it's still an old house (101 years old).

 

We got over it. If people are want to stay over, it's no big deal. We don't have children so there's little to worry about other than people thinking our house is old and small. Once they've been in it, they already know that so we'd rather have them stay over than pull a DUI or drive while they are tired.

[MissMaryPA 15]

I'd like to, but my son is home.

[twoforone100 45]

Pattie is allergic to cats so we like to stay home. We do like to travel but home is nice.. Almost anybody would welcome to stay. Just don't step on the dog. He is the big black spot on the floor. Patrick Pattie