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Today the Mrs. went to a swinger site and clicked on a profile of a couple we had met at a party and BAM! PROFILE BLOCKED! :eek:

 

We met this couple at a house party and while there wasn't crazy chemistry, it seemed like everyone was friendly. I think the Mrs. of the couple gave my wife her phone number. The only other contact we had with them was a month ago when they had a "hot booty call date" up and we messaged them saying we wish we could take them up on it. Our guess is that's when they decided to block us.

 

What's funny is there are often debates on the forums about what you do when you get a message from a couple you aren't interested in. Usually the two big options are: 1) Do you ignore them and hope they get the hint, or 2) Do you politely tell them you're not interested. I didn't know "blocking their account" would be another option. :(

 

I can imagine blocking a couple that keeps harassing you and won't stop messaging you, but I think we only messaged them once.

 

This has only happened once before, about a year ago with a crazy couple that we politely told we just didn't feel chemistry... they got super offended and blocked us. At least with that one we wrote it off to craziness... this situation is a bit more odd.

 

Do any of you block couples profiles for people with whom you're not interested?

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We used to do that, so those people wouldn't show up in our search results.

 

Then we stopped because it was more trouble than it was worth.

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Some people do it to remind themselves that they're not interested. For instance you might change your profile pic or name and then they might contact you, you open private pics and they realize, "oh, it's them." Blocking saves awkwardness in that case.

 

The other thing that happens a lot on one site we're on is that people block by accident when they're online on their phone.

 

I'd just let it go and not worry about it.

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Also, and I know this has happened to us, but sometimes the system will block couples/singles and you didn't even block them! So it could be a website glitch too. But that doesn't happen often so it's more likely the other reasons already stated.

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I do lots of fishing on aff and really don't take notes on who I have contacted. Sometimes I get a note from some one I have re contacted that says something like no again all the way to getting blocked. I like getting blocked as much as the next guy. Its not worth time or energy wondering why they blocked me. But some times. Sometimes I just kinda want to know what went wrong.

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We quit blocking people unless it's a real issue problem. We found out that the offending couple may be friends with someone we actually like, and by blocking one couple, it's interpreted that we don't like their friends either. We do block aggressive people that keep attempting contact over and over, but having missed a good opportunity, due to blocking one couple, we usually won't block someone without a really good reason.

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We have only blocked a few profiles. Ones that contact EVERYONE, evidenced by the fact that they contacted us within minutes of starting our profile although it had no pics/info. And ones that keep contacting us after we have said "not interested."

 

To me, your situation sounds like they were not interested but they didn't want to say that, so blocked.

 

Just let it go, especially if y'all are in a similar circle. It wad rude, but no reason for drama.

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On SLS I wish that there was a way to 'not search' or be able to search for more specific terms or information in profiles instead of just having to block them. I don't like it when I see that our profile was blocked (probably because they didn't think we were a match and to keep us from constantly coming up in searches) when we have never even been in contact with them. I understand it, but I don't like it. We tried blocking to limit our searches, but it's just too time consuming to keep up with. Something I wish that SLS would try to address is their search...

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I accidentally blocked a couple a few months ago and now I can't seem to unblock them. However, if I spent a lot of time perving the profiles on SLS, I probably would use blocking to assist in cutting down the number of unsuitable couples that show up in searches. I do wish there was a filter that wasn't a block - as in, a profile doesn't show up on searches, but that couple can still contact us - but there isn't.

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Good points and comments everyone, thanks!

 

Ya, we're not really dwelling on it or letting it consume us. We just thought it was pretty odd behavior and haven't seen it before. Our take is that we never block people since it's a very small world and chances are we'll bump into each other and know people in common.

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We had our first block recently. Pretty funny actually. At the end of the day, we figured they did us a favor. Anyone that would block us we aren't interested in. Apparently, their souls were as ugly as they were.

 

Did I say that out loud?

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Is blocking passive aggressive or just aggressive?

 

I'm going with aggressive.

 

The only profiles we block are the fake single males one that are posing as a couple. Now to be fair SLS at least does have issues where it blocks accidentally, but assuming its a real bock just meh, whatever, fuck'em.

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We were blocked too and we never even contacted this couple. Another thing that happened to us on SLS is that someone actually accused us of plagiarizing their profile!!! WTF?!?! My partner is a writer if novels and screenplays so he needs no help writing a profile!!!! If you read ours and many others on SLS, they are all a lot alike!!!!

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