What is average penis size?

[Mormon&Curious 15]

My wife is curious about swinging as am I. She was the one to bring it up. I have this idea that my penis is below average, which makes me apprehensive about swinging. I am seven inches, which seems average. I guess I have this idea that all swingers are hung like a bull. Would I be adequate for most women? Otherwise I am confident. I am 6'2", 195 pounds, and very fit. I played wide receiver in college and look like I still play. I compete in crossfit, so I am very fit. At one point I even modeled - my sister was a model and got me into it during college. What can I say - it was easy money. Please share your thoughts. I think it would be fun if I can get past my insecurity.

[christnthms 326]

I cannot speak to what women are looking for. I know you're bigger than I am, and I've never had an issue or complaint. If you take your time to treat your partner well, you'll be fine.

If you're not treating your partners well, who cares how well hung you are.

[sunbuckus 3,569]

Welcome to the forum, Mormon&Curious!

 

1. Not every man in the LS is "hung like a bull." The length and girth varies greatly.

 

2. I would say you are slightly above average.

 

Hope you two enjoy the forums and your journey learning and dipping your toes into the swinging pool!

[Mormon&Curious 15]

I appreciate the feedback. My wife tells me I am more than adequate for her, but wives tend to be overly complementary. She is a bit more sexually experienced than me, so her opinion is probably pretty accurate. It is just good to get another opinion. We don't have any firm plans yet, but we are inching closer to giving it a try.

[sparkstar 128]

Id have to say 6" is average as most men ive been with were probably around 5-7", ive been with easily over a thousand men now im 28.

Ive known an old man (70ish?) who was maybe 3" fully erect, surprisingly his tongue gave me the most amazing oral sex id ever known!

My husband is about 6" with average girth, my boyfriend is 7" with a thick girth he is probably in my top 3 best just because he can really power it in and gets hard again within 15 minutes usually. Whereas my husband is much more deep sensual slow-average pace love making usually, love how good he is at kissing.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

It's not the size of the wand, but the skill of the magician!

[SwingSetWife 444]

Let's put it this way... I wouldn't want to live in a world where 7 is below average (ouch!). With that being said, I don't think that it matters much to most people. You have sex with the whole person, not just the penis... otherwise we would all just buy dildos and this would be called the dildos board and... okay now I'm just getting too excited

 

I have seen profiles that call for larger or smaller penises. A few that I remember off the top of my head is one lady near us that won't touch you if you are below 9 and another that won't go above 6. I know for me personally, I am not pulling out a ruler with each new partner. I am a bit turned off (read: scared) by larger penises. If they hit my cervix, esp when I orgasm, it is just not much fun for me. As spark said, I was once with a guy that had a very (very, very) small penis, but he gave great oral!

[swing.kidz 367]

You'll get more problems with a lack of confidence in your cock size than you will with your actual cock size. Be sure in who and what you are...thinking and worrying about it is a quick way to a limp one, and that's a worse problem than size.

[intuition897 2,179]

We don't have any firm plans yet, but we are inching closer to giving it a try.

 

I'm sorry. Was the pun intended?

 

7" is plenty big, seriously. Our vaginas are only 6-7" long. Anything longer than that is of no use to us anyway. I think the length thing is way overrated. Girth, if anything, is where it's at. Do I prefer larger sizes? I suppose I do. Now ask me if I'm going to turn down an underwear model because he "only" has 7 inches instead of 8. I think not.

 

Get over the size thing. You're fine. Get it hard and get out there and use it. Way more fun than worrying about whether or not it's adequate. Trust me, it's more than adequate.

[Mormon&Curious 15]

Thanks for the feedback. Like I said, I am a confident guy in every way. I just don't have a lot of experience with being naked in front of groups of people. I suspect I am just nervous because I have no experience with swinging. There is no substitute for good experience.

 

If my wife's friends are any indication, I shouldn't have anything to worry about. Several of her friends have flat out said they want to sleep with me, which gives me confidence. I have great stamina and can orgasm several times. Apparantly I am adequately equipped. I guess we just need to get out there.

 

Thanks again for the reassurance.

[DigginIt 1,132]

Okay, are you measuring from the top or the bottom...hey, it makes a difference

 

My wife will take a great kisser over a big cock any day but funny you should ask as there was just an article recently about how often men lie about the size of their penis. The result was that the average size (according to a study, probably by men with small dicks) is 5.57 inches erect-so you're golden. The reality is you are most likely not going to be the biggest or the smallest they have been with (and most will be happy if you can just get it up) but strive to be the best

[SwingSetHusband 110]

The way I think about myself in this kind of situation is this. I've never been the kind of guy to brag about my package. I have heard guys brag about how big they were then later just to hear girls that they have been with laugh at them. I've just always been confident in myself. The way I see it is that I know I'm not the biggest and I know I'm not the smallest!!

[sunbuckus 3,569]

If I recall correctly, for the majority of women girth is more important than length.

[DigginIt 1,132]

If I recall correctly, for the majority of women girth is more important than length.

 

hmmm, okay, i'm longer but thinner that's not good for my ego.

[linda69 15]

I cannot speak to what women are looking for. I know you're bigger than I am, and I've never had an issue or complaint. If you take your time to treat your partner well, you'll be fine.

If you're not treating your partners well, who cares how well hung you are.

 

I am a woman and could not agree more with the above quote from christnthms. Based on my experience your size is average and 1 or 2 inches more or less don't make a difference.

 

I have not have sex with lots of men but I have had sex with men in various sizes and the size does not make a difference is how you use it that does. If you penetrate and can't feel the tip touching the end of the vagina when you move back and forth (at least for me, can't speak for other women) there is space to be filled before a G-spot orgasm can be felt.

 

Things that you can do when you are below average that will work:

- add foreplay and pay special attention to the clitoris area before you penetrate (my favorite orgasms are the ones that start with an clitoris orgasm and are followed by penetration orgasm)

- ask the woman to be on top that way she can push herself into you as much as she want while you push your body up

- if you are on top asks if she wants you to push deeper and if she says yes press her knees and thighs against her chest slowly while you push into her

- avoid doggy style as it elongates the space to be filled

 

If you are above average you should be careful while doing the things above (expect the foreplay) because you can hurt a woman or make her feel uncomfortable.

[alexandlyn 15]

we would like to think it varies from men to men. Lyn has been with various partners some bigger some smaller. Stereotypes are not to be followed, both her black partners were below avg at about 5", i am 6.5" usually and 7" when I'm super super turned on, not her biggest but rank higher in her book lol. Average i think 6" is the number. Honestly size really doesn't matter if you can last your time and do great in other aspects. Lyn has had 9" guys that were just "dicks" not really a hot sexy moment but a plain penis that was big. She never even orgasmed once. The penetration is usually the last thing to be done, everything else leads to the orgasm like turning her own throughout the night, kissing and foreplay.

 

Thats at least what we think.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

At least you care about pleasing the woman. I used to struggle with the same insecurity. No matter how big your cock is there is always some guy who thinks he has a bigger cock than you and he wants to show your wife what she is missing. Its the same guy who loves to show off his muscles. You said you were in good shape. That's good but you are still going to run into the guy that thinks he can impress your wife because his muscles are bigger than yours.

 

After many experiences with women over the years I've come to the conclusion that it is men who are obsessed with size. Women get off on an emotional attachment. They want someone who can kiss them to an orgasm. I'm not saying all women. There are women who crave to be fucked by big cocks. I'm just saying I've given up worrying about it and have let the woman decide if our experience was pleasing to her. If not I had fun!

[cplnluv1 874]

I get a kick out of the size question. Like most women, we have all seen different sizes and shapes. Though I used to try to guess what someone had before knowing for sure, it never was never a factor. I also didn't go on a date with a ruler. Yes some were smaller, some wider. Only one was not circumcised, but that's another story. My husband is "average" and we have done just fine. We have toys in all sizes and even a very big one my husband bought after we watched some porn with big ones. Visually it might be a turn on but being on the small side I always wondered how some of the women don't scream from a huge one.

Now I am going to admit something. We only have met 2 couples and the first one we met, we chose because of looks. They were both good looking and he was very fit and had a bigger than what I would say average one. I have said before, he was not fun to be with.

[alexandlyn 15]

Like m1f2ktj said some women do love the whole big cock experience. We have a 9" toy and although it resembles her ex bf it's not something she prefers all the time. Just randomly when over the top horny. Normal sized does it better. As cplnluv1 said there r insane amount of sizes n u can never tell what's behind the pants lol. As long as it's clean. I'm circumcised but unlike one of Lyns ex bf cleanliness goes a very very very long way with the natural look. U gotta keep things very clean and it'll be just as good, if you aren't into hygiene that's a bad way to start off your swinging when you are not circ. all in all a 9" can beat yours in size but not in skill. Lyn prefers skill

[TricianMike 788]

What is average for a man? Most books say 5-6" erect but like others have written, it's all different shapes. So many men post they are 7 or plus, whatever. What is average for a woman's bust? It is what it is.

[alexandlyn 15]

Hahahahha. I agree. Women are not as obsessed with their boob size as men are with their penises. To each their own.

[TricianMike 788]

Hahahahha. I agree. Women are not as obsessed with their boob size as men are with their penises. To each their own.

 

Not always true. Plenty of boob jobs out there

[alexandlyn 15]

Hahahaha. I agree. I guess there's more to it than we think. To us boob size is nice but not a deal breaker, I'm a double d but if we meet a b cup and she is pretty I'm sure Alex won't mind

[TricianMike 788]

Well I am a B and Mike says he has a preference for smaller but he does "oogle" larger. I guess I oogle larger men and wonder what it's like but am happy with average.

[alexandlyn 15]

Alex likes large ones but he's had smaller boob girls and he's liked em as much he tells me. Gotta know how to tease with what u got big or small

[carebear 90]

More than penis size or even shape, at least for me, is great foreplay. I'm not talking oral focused on the clit or half hearted fingering. A woman's body is much more than her vagina, and awesome pleasure can be given without direct clit stimulation or penetration.

 

Dh and I are lucky to know a talented man, he has mad skills in sensory play, and he's willing to share his knowledge. I have never seen him have intercourse, and yet he has a line of women waiting for the chance to play with him. Because so many men are focused on dick and fucking, and there is a serious lack of sensual play, if you become proficient in something other than "fucking" the response you get might surprise you.

[junglecouple 128]

More of a leg man here, which has been discouraging to a few women with "enhanced" equipment. They spend $$$$$$$ to buy boobs and for me it's a waste. A runners' or dancer's legs and a cute skirt gets me going much more than DDD's

[IEcouple 222]

Not always true. Plenty of boob jobs out there

 

That's probably because breast enlargement is pretty easy to do. If enlarging a man's penis were that easy, then it would be a VERY common procedure.

[alexandlyn 15]

Hahahaha. Agree with that. I'm satisfied with Alex but don't frown upon a big one for fun once in a whileeeeeee. Doesn't mean I'm addicted or it's all I want. Technique over size 100 times over

[christnthms 326]

That's probably because breast enlargement is pretty easy to do. If enlarging a man's penis were that easy, then it would be a VERY common procedure.

So true. Probably more common.

[gsu22 187]

You're def above avg IMO. I'm a thick 6.5. I'd say 7.5 and above is getting into the "hung" category. You sound built with a good sized cock. Build that confidence & you'll be fine. Not all swinging men are hung like a bull. Most of the ones I've played with have been 6-7 in.

 

My wife is curious about swinging as am I. She was the one to bring it up. I have this idea that my penis is below average, which makes me aprehensive about swinging. I am seven inches, which seems average. I guess I have this idea that all swingers are hung like a bull. Would I be adequate for most women? Otherwise I am confident. I am 6'2", 195 pounds, and very fit. I played wide receiver in college and look like I still play. I compete in crossfit, so I am very fit. At one point I even modeled - my sister was a model and got me into it during college. What can I say - it was easy money. Please share your thoughts. I think it would be fun if I can get past my insecurity.

[Guy1964 177]

I cannot speak to what women are looking for. I know you're bigger than I am, and I've never had an issue or complaint. If you take your time to treat your partner well, you'll be fine.

If you're not treating your partners well, who cares how well hung you are.

 

I think there is a lot of wisdom here. When I've rushed into NSA sex, I've often thought too much of myself and not taking care of the other person. Consideration goes a long way in anything we do. Turning it around, I would rather be with a woman who is making an effort to please me than a bombshell that acts like "next!" SOmeone taking time and paying attention to you is often the highest compliment you can receive.

[kelleyandsusan 44]

I was with a partner once that was 4" hard. He made love to me, and the passion he put into it made it feel like it was 7" It's all in the emotional feeling two have in that moment. Husband is 8" God I'm blessed, LOL

Susan