Started out great, then.....Men's Performance Issues

[lotsoffun201 175]

Ok, so the mrs was in a crazy mood after a few drinks and we decided to go to one of the hipper hotel/casinos in Vegas to go Vanilla hunting. The plan was this, mrs would go to the bar alone and sit and wait for something to happen. I would be at the other end of the bar watching how things developed. She was dressed classy, but it was obvious she was hunting. A few strikeouts later someone took the bait. Nice guy, middle aged here on business. Hands everywhere etc. it was crazy wild. Well we decided to go to his room. There was no danger here as I'm pretty formidable, and we made it clear we were there for fun.

 

Things progressed pretty quickly, but then......he didn't rise to the occasion. Ugh, what a let down! We made plans to meet up the next night, but he backed out and I presume it was because he didn't think he could perform.

[JandKinBoise 859]

Well, you did get to play out the fantasy, even if it didn't end well. You didn't mention what kind of play you were getting into. Was something happening he wasn't comfortable with? We noticed that guys need some time to wrap their head around a kinky situation. He probably made the right decision to back out. Of the 3 or 4 times we have given guys a second chance because "this has never happened before", it happened again. Same with playing right after meeting.. Too much pressure I guess.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

There is nothing more disappointing than getting all excited and naked and then no hard penis. She might as well be having sex with a woman.

[lotsoffun201 175]

Yeah.... I think "vanilla" guys talk a good game, but when push comes to shove, it's difficult to do what they see in film or in their imagination. I mean imagine the scenario, one hot naked girl primed in a pair of clear heels and a smile and nothing more. Then nada! Damn that sucks. There is always next time I guess but the game was sure fun.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

. . . There is always next time I guess but the game was sure fun.

 

That is the correct view to take.

[lotsoffun201 175]

We've decided tonite that we are going to try again this weekend, but we are going to start MUCH earlier on Friday night. Mrs fun stated she loves playing the game, but wants more practice. Lifestyle clubs and events are easy, but the "hunt" in unfamiliar waters is very different.

[Baconheads 438]

We've decided tonite that we are going to try again this weekend, but we are going to start MUCH earlier on Friday night. Mrs fun stated she loves playing the game, but wants more practice. Lifestyle clubs and events are easy, but the "hunt" in unfamiliar waters is very different.

 

How did it go the second time? Any fun since then?

[Lascivious L&L 866]

Meeting vanilla guys in such a scenario is no different than meeting swingers for the first time. The fantasy may be nice, but the reality is that finding the right person is not easy and often takes some time to get erections. Erections are such efficient meters of stress or alcohol. Our minds can be up for it, but the body is not quite ready. Rather than get frustrated, enjoy the time by communicating. Often real communication can improve things immensely. The "Can't get it up, see ya!" attitude is no fun.

 

You've got two new situations for the victim to swallow. An attractive woman hitting on him and her husband right there, looking formidable. Talk about stress for a first time! You've thought it all out for a long time. He's thinking it out on the spot. I'd say it's perfect for limp dick syndrome unless you offer real compassion and understanding.

[Ready2JaM 17]

Completely agree with everything lascivious said! Understanding and communication may have greatly helped the situation

[couplers 4,724]

Things progressed pretty quickly, but then......he didn't rise to the occasion.

 

 

Three suggestions: Limit the alcohol. It can bring even a strong man down. Second, work on those oral skills. When it has looked hopeless, we three women have been able to get encores out of our guys by prolonged gentle sucking and lots of tongue movement. I actually like taking a totally flaccid dick in my mouth and working on it knowing there will be a payoff for me. Third, maybe you can get things started. Ask Mr. Businessman if he'd like you to start warming her up. It's live porn that might get him going.

[cindyswet 15]

I always get it hard in pants to make sure and carry viagra

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I always get it hard in pants to make sure and carry viagra

 

I tend to do the same. Early on, touch his thigh or put my hand on his back or shoulder to show my interest and to let them know that hubby is ok with the way this is progressing. If they reciprocate by putting a hand on my back, shoulder or thigh, then I might brush lightly across they dick with the back of my hand, a little later with the palm of my hand and perhaps hands on rubbing or squeeze to see if it is working.

[Sirramm 111]

OMG what a let down that is! We have usually found that if the hubby leaves the room for a moment, to get drinks, bathroom, whatever, Mr. Limpy will sometimes come to life. And if he can't we find a way to kinda wrap things up and move on. It seems while you are out in the meeting arena, sorry guys, men will talk the game and be already to jump into bed and go at it but when it's go time Woody was the first one to hit the road. LOL

[njbm 2,906]

Viagra rules! Have it nearby, men. It takes about an hour to kick in.

[Guycurious 39]

Ok, so the mrs was in a crazy mood after a few drinks and we decided to go to one of the hipper hotel/casinos in Vegas to go Vanilla hunting. The plan was this, mrs would go to the bar alone and sit and wait for something to happen. I would be at the other end of the bar watching how things developed. She was dressed classy, but it was obvious she was hunting. A few strikeouts later someone took the bait. Nice guy, middle aged here on business. Hands everywhere etc. it was crazy wild. Well we decided to go to his room. There was no danger here as I'm pretty formidable, and we made it clear we were there for fun.

 

Things progressed pretty quickly, but then......he didn't rise to the occasion. Ugh, what a let down! We made plans to meet up the next night, but he backed out and I presume it was because he didn't think he could perform.

 

Wow, I wish I could talk my wife into trying something like this.

[cruisingcouple 31]

Ask her if she has ever thought of making love to another woman. My bet is she has, but she hasn't told you about it. Just an opinion though. She may reply back if you had ever thought of being with another man, so be ready to answer that one. The next step is obvious - another couple. It has been our experiences that most swingers start out with 3somes, mostly F/M/F.

[kikonkrome 844]

We have noticed this at swing clubs.

 

Last night in the hot tub there were four beautiful women naked and going at it. One naked guy in there with them. Four dressed guys standing around outside watching. I was rather perplexed as I watched this dynamic occur.

 

This is also definitely not the first time we have seen and definitely experienced this dynamic at a swing club.

 

I think there is a lot of 'machismo' in guys to always be able to perform. Culturally, the myth exists that men should have raging hard erection at the drop of any attractive woman. I think we have the same insecurities, trepidations, and fears women have. We are just not allowed to show it, much less admit it. Add to that alcohol (a proven detriment to the physiology of an erection), and not being prepared for the situation (let's face it you and your husband are much more mentally prepared for it), and you have a failure to launch.

 

I also think this is a different dynamic than just a flaccid penis your partner my have from being worn out.

 

I would be curious regarding how much success people have with 'vanilla' male hunting scenarios?

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

I've noticed that there seems to be a disconnect between my eyes and my penis at times. My eyes are seeing something out of a porno movie staring someone I know, by brain quickly steps in and denies that anything is happening and quickly blocks any signals from going to my penis. Like an episode of Twilight Zone, this just doesn't happen in the real world.

 

Fortunately there is a pill that can reestablish that eye/penis communication.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

..there were four beautiful women naked and going at it. One naked guy in there with them. Four dressed guys standing around outside watching. I was rather perplexed as I watched this dynamic occur.

 

Fairly clear who the Alpha Male was...