We only want to play with the female half of this couple

[cplnluv1 867]

Need help with this. We had met a couple, our first, that we would only like to meet her again. We wrote about our meeting before. They are younger than us, not married and we met them because we were eager to meet a couple. It had helped that they were good looking. It ended up he wasn't what we wanted though we did go through with everything. We have since met another couple who we have more in common with.

 

Alan and I were talking last night and we were talking about the first couple. My reactions to "our first" and what I thought about them. I told him I thought she was a younger me and he said exactly. She does look like me a little, on the small side. He was being playful but he said I was pretty wild that night. I guess I was with her and he said he had a good time with her too. Not sure how to react to that but I knew he did I am fine with that.

 

Problem is we both would like to meet her again but not him. They aren't really a couple, just friends. We want nothing to do with him, but he was the contact we have. Don't know how to contact her or if we should. Is this wrong?

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

It's not wrong, but without contact information for her (or a way to get it), you'd have to go through him and explain that she does it for you and he does not. Do you really want to be that openly dismissive of another human? I wouldn't, because I'm pretty careful about my karmic burdens and because I have old fashioned ideas about social manners.

 

In your place, I'd trust the universe to bring us playmates we enjoy and maybe eventually bring her back into my orbit, without her all show no go albatross.

[GoldCoCouple 4,064]

Since they are just friends who play together, if you have her contact info, I say contact her (it's still up to her if she chooses to meet up or not). If you don't have her contact info, then I would say that you're done and the question is moot.

 

Albatross...

[junglecouple 127]

How would you feel if the reverse happened? They want to see you again, but have NO interest in your other half? Other than being "dismissed"/ insulted, how would you take it?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

How would you feel if the reverse happened? They want to see you again, but have NO interest in your other half? Other than being "dismissed"/ insulted, how would you take it?

 

Yes, you should think on this. Too many fish in the sea. Let these two go.

[cplnluv1 867]

We talked about this last night and Mr C decided to write to the guy. We talked about what if someone wrote us and only wanted me, how would he feel. He said he would understand and say NO. But the couple we met is not a "couple", they are friends who met us as a couple.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

I think you might be missing another piece of the situation: whether or not they are a couple you are still indicating that you have some kind of problem with him--attraction, personality, whatever. I know you might be blinded by what you want and how rare it might be to find another woman to join you two but please keep in mind that the other male is another human being. He isn't just a sex toy to be dismissed. He has feelings. This is what the above posters are trying to tell you.

[DigginIt 1,132]

So, you have said twice that they are not a couple, they just meet and play together.

 

This just sends a huge red flag signal straight to the brain. We have seen, not once, not twice but three couples who are both married and cheating, who hook up to go out on swing dates. There may be a reason you don't have her contact information, lol.

[Chicup 41]

Red flags aside, we once had a couple do that to us. They wanted to play with my wife without me there anymore. I'm still amazed they had the balls to ask. Funny thing about it was, I wasn't that into the woman, but I thought my wife was into the guy. Turns out neither of us were that into them and we were both taking one for the team to an extent.

 

You could say nothing ventured nothing gained, but I think its a bit of a selfish way to go through life if you only view it from your own desires. We know a few couples where we enjoy the company of the woman more than the man for whatever reason, but would never dream of asking them to play alone.

[cplnluv1 867]

Alan already contacted him and explained that we were looking to have a 3some FMF and that we know that they met us as a couple but if he could send her info. He also said that if it was a problem because they only meet as a couple we understand. They are both single, not married to anyone else and are more friends (with benefits) than lovers. If they were a true couple or meeting on the sly we wouldn't have asked him. You are right, he is human and I can see him being offended. That's why we said we were looking for a FMF. They both knew this is new to us and we are experimenting. We even told them we were having a hard time finding a single woman to join us.

[Guest sandraandalex]

Kaboom kaboom, yadadadadadadada, kaboom kaboom. It looks so simple from a distance.

 

I'm going to be a real brat here and poke some fun: You both like the other girl because she's like a young version of your wife. So, metaphorically speaking, you get to fuck a younger version of your wife and she gets to make out with herself. So much for a diverse experience Again, I'm being a brat.

[cplnluv1 867]

Kaboom kaboom, yadadadadadadada, kaboom kaboom. It looks so simple from a distance.

 

I'm going to be a real brat here and poke some fun: You both like the other girl because she's like a young version of your wife. So, metaphorically speaking, you get to fuck a younger version of your wife and she gets to make out with herself. So much for a diverse experience Again, I'm being a brat.

 

I am the wife and yes she is a younger me...lol. I think he is consistent in what he likes, I am short and not big chested. She has sort of my color hair too. I kid him about her not having children yet.

[cplnluv1 867]

for all of you doubters, here are the emails. We got her number and email. I kept the contacts out of the post.

 

 

 

Hello

 

Hope you are doing well. I know we haven't contacted you since we met but I hope you had as good a time as we did. It was our first and a little nervous. Your friend was amazing. Watching Linda and her was so fucking hott and I can't believe she would be with a guy like me. You are so lucky to get to be with her.

Was just wondering if you can give me her contact info. Linda and I were looking for a woman to join us for a night and you can imagine how tough that can be. Hope you don't mind it is just something we want to do. More important, I hope she would want to do this. I am not sure if she only plays with you. We will pick her up and everything if she needs that. Thanks.

 

 

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Today at 2:14 PM

heyy how r u guys. was wondering what happenedd. u

r the stud my man and ur wife and were some pare. there was some hot pussy eating going on maybe i should get some tips on doing . and linda was pretty good in the licking me dept to. wish i could have pumped her longer she is soooo fukin tite. d i get 2nd shot at her ass

here is her contact @gmail.com 732- .

when do u want to tag on ur wifey

[junglecouple 127]

THE last two lines tells the tale.. You want to borrow his GF? then in return he wants to double team your wife... Seems obviously clear to us.

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

for all of you doubters, here are...

 

I'm not sure how you read the replies you received from those who responded to your posts, but nobody suggested that you couldn't get her contact information, just that doing so was, at best, a social error. And, as junglecouple points out, he now expects a quid pro quo. So that leaves you with a few ways to compound the social error, none of them pretty.

[swing.kidz 367]

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Today at 2:14 PM

heyy how r u guys. was wondering what happenedd. u

r the stud my man and ur wife and were some pare. there was some hot pussy eating going on maybe i should get some tips on doing . and linda was pretty good in the licking me dept to. wish i could have pumped her longer she is soooo fukin tite. d i get 2nd shot at her ass

here is her contact @gmail.com 732- .

when do u want to tag on ur wifey

 

Wow...that is like the text equivalent of a dick pic.

[Chicup 41]

Wow...that is like the text equivalent of a dick pic.

 

[Tahoecple 319]

It looks to me like you posed a question that you have already answered for yourselves. You asked for opinions on what you have already done. Sounds like you should have asked if we thought you did the right thing or not. It looks like you are going to get your chance to meet up with her again but it also looks as if he expects to meet up with you two again without her in return.

 

In effect, you two while looking for an easy way out have compounded your problem of not having to tell him that you are not interested in seeing him again. Maybe you should have told him that you two, after talking it over are just into meeting women for FMF fun instead of couples.

 

It has always been our policy that if one member of a couple we meet, does not matter which one, doesn’t rate a second go then the couple doesn't rate a second go. As somebody else said, there are just too many fish in the sea to warrant the drama with this kind of thing. My bet is that now if you meet just her you are really going to piss him off.

 

However, what do we know about this kind of thing. Good luck, I think you are going to need it.

[TricianMike 766]

I am not sure if this is a mistake to do. We all want to meet people we are attracted to for one reason or another. I read that they are younger than you, how much younger? I would hope they aren't teens, which I doubt. Ten years different? We have now met couples of different ages, older and younger. The first couple we met were attractive to us, we weren't going to do this with an unattractive couple. They ended up a few years older than us. I can't say we were attracted to them because they were smart or successful. The thing is you met them as a couple and you were attracted to both physically. It wasn't until you were with them that you realized you were more attracted to him. You said they weren't a real couple, just f buddies. If he is fine with it and she decides she wants to meet you, good for you. This is supposed to be fun.

[cplnluv1 867]

We asked for opinions and have gotten them. The couple we are asking about was the first couple we ever met. Trician they were younger but they are in their 20's, most likely 26-28 from what we can tell. We met them strictly for their looks, maybe we are wrong for doing that but we acted on a fantasy. When we got to the room we got for this meeting, she was the first one to make a move. Looking back, I am happy because I was very nervous. How would I feel if I was asked without my husband. Most likely would refuse but when I was single I was asked to join my gf with her then boyfriend. I think it was different than this but she joined me and my guy and I reciprocated. I wasn't married and it was exciting. I was also with 2 guys back then.

Alan and I have discussed this again and we went over what is right and what is wrong. From a physical stand point they are both attractive and if it is looks I say yes. Is she too young? No, I did this I was younger and someone here wrote that you are that age. So why not meet both of them again? If it were looks I would say yes again. He did nothing totally wrong except acting full of himself. Sexually, she was perfect for our first time doing this. She took the lead and I have to admit was very very sexual. She was also very clean and to do what I did for the first time in years that was so important. He was clean as well. Sexually he was more talk than action, something that is lost on Alan.

[cplnluv1 867]

We are meeting this couple again, this time with another couple. The couple we have been with a few times. We had told them we had met this couple before them and it was our first experience and they wanted to see what they looked like. We showed the the original pictures we got from them and both were amazed we didn't meet them againhe was . We laughed about what had happened and how he was crude and Linda said he wasn't even that. We both admitted that it was the young lady that was the only reason we wanted to meet them again but our friend's wife was taken by the guys body. We shall see.

[cplnluv1 867]

This is really a follow up and my take on a situation. We had met a younger couple for our first time and have been seeing another couple a few times. We enjoyed the younger female but not the male as much (both good looking). We showed the other couple pictures of the first couple and they asked if we could all meet. I told them that the male was a little crude and, well not very satisfying but the young lady was very enjoyable. I also knew my husband wanted to meet her again.

Now the problem, with 3 couples, and both my husband and our our regular partner infatuated with a very pretty younger lady, and our regular female half of the couple attracted to the younger "hunk", am I the odd one out? My husband was aware of the problem and kept trying to include me but I know he wanted to be with the young lady and understand and told him to go on and enjoy. Also the hunk really couldn't handle 2 women though I tried.

I tried to have a good time but maybe 3 couples is too much or too little.

[cplnuswing 4,712]

I've always thought three is not the ideal number for any type of play date, whether it be little kids or more adult playtime. Almost by default, someone is going to feel left out or have a harder time settling on what to do.

[N&G 207]

We've found in general that three couples tends to be a problem unless everyone already knows everybody else and are very compatible. There is a much greater risk of being left out than with a larger group. If they end up pairing off you can be left with your own partner although there is less risk of that with same bed play. The more couples you have the greater the probability that everyone will have a great time even if they don't get to play with their first choice.

[GoldCoCouple 4,064]

As stated, three can be a tough number...everyone move one woman to the right. If two of anyone is attracted to one of the opposite then...well you already know what happens. Stick with even numbers. 2 or 4 both seem to work better. Either that, or invite another couple (like us ) that doesn't like the young women. Give us age and experience over youth and inexperience. No need to teach them as much (lol)

[sunbuckus 3,567]

I would also agree that 3 couples in a small intimate party is hard to pull off, especially if one couple doesn't know one of the other couples or there is previous knowledge that someone isn't attracted to a potential playmate (which is what it was for you in this case).

 

Considering the situation and what you have written in this post, for myself, I'm not so sure I would have gone through with the small 3-couple party.

 

cplnluv1 said:

We had met a younger couple for our first time and have been seeing another couple a few times. We enjoyed the younger female but not the male as much (both good looking). We showed the other couple pictures of the first couple and they asked if we could all meet.

 

If we had played with a couple (A) that we knew we wouldn't want to have a repeat with (for any reason) but another couple (B) we knew wanted to meet with them, we would have just let couple A know that couple B was interested and let them determine if there was a mutual attraction between themselves and exchange contact information. This would eliminate the possible problem of having to play with the couple (A) that you don't want repeat playtime with.

 

 

cplnluv1 said:

I told them that the male was a little crude and, well not very satisfying but the young lady was very enjoyable.

 

For myself, I would have kept this to myself if I held that opinion about a play couple. What you find crude or non-satisfactory, someone else might not. It's best for someone to come to their own opinion about a person/couple and not have it colored by someone else's thoughts on the matter. Imagine if a play couple said that about you and your husband to another potential play couple. Not only is it gossiping but your potential play couple now has some preconceived notions about you and your husband that may not be true.

 

 

cplnluv1 said:

I also knew my husband wanted to meet her again.

 

If this same younger woman comes from the couple that you mentioned in this thread, then I would strongly suggest rethinking any future playtime with this couple. Clearly you do not like the younger man in this couple and even if they are more "fuck buddies" than a couple, they still come as a couple because that is how you met them. Until you know for certain that they are separated and single, there will be social etiquette entanglements (as mentioned in the thread link) if you make it clear that you only want to play with one half of the couple. If you don't like one half of a couple, then a good general rule is that the entire couple is off the table if you only play together as a couple. If you both go to parties and play separately, that is another situation.

[81lizard69 470]

It is time to put your training cap on and teach that young stud how to take to women and satisfy them silly... Just dont let the man cum to quick.. Then go and smack your hubby and his friend with the dont forget the other women stick.. Making sure that your partner is having fun is most important to me. We played with three couples before and have had a really good time. My wife is drop dead gorgeous and men will go right after her. Most of the time I get left with a couple of their wives and it always ends well for me. I learned lots of moves and techniques to keep going when I thought I could not go on any more. Train him how you want him to be. A couple of women took me under their wing and taught me how to be confident and pleasureful.. Think of it as giving back. Maybe get the young man some numbing cream.

 

Three couples that want to play together is a really really good thing.

[Gordo 618]

I guess I have to ask why you're showing pics of partners to other people and trash talking the lover you had with them? Just because he didn't work for you doesn't mean he wouldn't be great for someone else but you certainly set their expectations low.

 

It may be the lack of discretion and the gossip that's making you the odd lady out!

[cplnluv1 867]

I see my wife posted to this already. Gordo, you are right about what you wrote. We shouldn't show others pictures. These are the only two couples we met and I guess we bragged to the couple we have seen a few time about the other couple. And no we shouldn't have trashed them but as you can tell it was more bragging about their looks than trashing.

 

We did this three couple party for a few reasons. We wanted to meet the female half again and our other friends suggested it. We didn't think the combinations out. I am apologizing here and did in person to my wife who is the greatest person and is the most gorgeous woman I have ever been with. I now know she was the one most neglected though I tried to bring her into the action.

[Fours Company 169]

Based upon my experience https://www.swingersboard.com/forums/topic/49824-question-about-sixsomes/ having only three couples is not the easiest thing to pull off and fraught with pitfalls. Unless all 6 people played with each other before and have 100% mutual attraction, there is the potential for unequal play and someone being left out as was the case with my wife in our endeavor. Since the triad is the most unstable of arrangements I believe either just two couples or four or more has the most potential for success.

 

Then again, I'll grant that our exposure has been limited and under better circumstances, one could pull it off and have fun as long as you know the warning signs to look for and not ignore them as I did. Since we might have another potential situation coming up again in the near future, my observation could change.