DigginIt 1,132 Posted April 16, 2014 It still boggles my mind why 'free' members ask to meet when clearly they can't see our face pictures because they are 'free' and when you point that out to them (which scares the hell out of me that someone will meet us without knowing what we look like...I mean, what does that say about them?) but when you point it out to them, their response is 'oh, well, just send us a face picture of you at our . Are you out of your fucking mind when you ask these things? We joined this site to remain anonymous so why would I send you something from one of my personal accounts? Why would I even create an anonymous im/email account to send you things when that is why I created my account on the swinger site for to begin with? Okay, I know some of you members keep your accounts as free but really...if you are asking us to meet you...don't you think that is a little much? Quote Share this post Link to post
Chicup 42 Posted April 16, 2014 Our rule now is simple. You mail us, you send us face pictures first. We mail you, we do first. Your privacy is not more important than mine. I don't mind them mailing us to a free email account though. Quote Share this post Link to post
81lizard69 470 Posted April 17, 2014 Those pics are a must. We had some really interesting experiences with meeting people who did not have any profile pics. I should clarify that we went to some parties where you had to use your AFF profile to get in and we wore name tags with our profile name. I have a good memory with names and when I saw some of the profile names and what they went with we were shocked and glad we did not chase that tail. No pics means something is wrong. When we did some blind dates we met some people that were not very attractive to us and one couple tried to play the pity card.. But I just could not no way do it. They were a different form of vegetable... God bless them. Show us a pic. Quote Share this post Link to post
njbm 2,907 Posted May 24, 2014 We have people who want to send us their pics to our personal email. Not sure why they can't send them on the swing site. Anyone see a problem with giving out our personal email address? Quote Share this post Link to post
cplnuswing 4,713 Posted May 24, 2014 Sign up for a free email account to be used just for swinging. Not sure why the email, but I would guess they are big into trading pics and the whole uploading thing and waiting for approval can take a while. Quote Share this post Link to post
SW_PA_Couple 4,026 Posted May 24, 2014 A thousand different reasons but a few excuses that my wife and I have received when we challenge this fact: - I am an important person and cannot risk being recognized. - Posting a picture is too difficult - I can't figure it out. - Free members are not allowed to post pictures here. My wife typically takes a more generous view but my reactions to these excuses are: - There is a man behind this who is married and cheating. - If it is the mayor of a major city or a state senator, he should not be doing this stuff. - If you are too impoverished to buy a membership, who is going to be collecting the tip I leave at the restaurant table; the waiter it you? Quote Share this post Link to post
SoFlaCouple 188 Posted May 24, 2014 Anyone see a problem with giving out our personal email address? Don't give out your personal email address to someone you don't know. We have an email address we set up just for the lifestyle. We both access the account from our phones and use it like a joint account. Even so, we rarely give it out. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Brad145 58 Posted May 24, 2014 So you want to meet people for sex but are too private to send a picture or share an email address? Really? Edited so Julie doesn't give me negative rep! haha Quote Share this post Link to post
SoFlaCouple 188 Posted May 24, 2014 We have public and private photos on our profile that we are happy to share, and do often. Once we get to know people, we give them our cell numbers, we may invite them to the house for a cookout, introduce them to our kids, etc. We don't have the same concern when giving personal information to someone we have come to know, like, and trust. However, there is a big difference when you are dealing with someone you don't know anything about, who is refusing to do things through a site that is set up specifically to give you a modicum of privacy and protection. That by itself is a huge red flag. Also, I have had my personal email address for about 15 years. You can find out a lot about a person by their personal email address. Send me your email address, and, unless it is a throwaway address, I might just be able to tell you a lot about your life, maybe even where you live, your full name, your friends, your kids, and your work. You want to tell that to a total stranger who might be a total flake, a picture collector, a poser, a stalker, especially when that person is deliberately trying to bypass safety features of the site. You want that potential flake looking up your personal Facebook page and friending your friends? That is your choice. I just don't recommend it. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post