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I have been engaged for a few years, and now we decided to plan a date and plans. We decided not to do a swingers wedding, but to have a traditional wedding, but go do Hedonism for the anniversary. She has not been there, and I visited during the day when I was a travel agent. So, basically, this will be a first for us, but we both want very much to go.

 

Question is, has anyone done, or heard about honeymoons at Hedo? The selfish part comes through now for me, and wanting to have the most fun we can, as well has her playing as much as she wants, I wonder if we should not plan another wedding there? I would do our wedding/honeymoon based around some group attending Hedo, so that swingers would be there. I have heard of others having a swinger wedding, but they did not return my e-mail. So, I am not sure what to expect, but we both love the excitement of doing whatever we can. (traditional wedding, swinger reception or traditional wedding followed by Hedo honeylmoon).

 

Thanks for your help, as we want to get married this year, but have no ideas what to do for a swinger reception or honeymoon where people will know it is our honeymoon and maybe give her, or us, more attention. Thanks.

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Are you currently swingers?

 

I haven't been to Hedo, but have been to Desire twice. It is very romantic and couples focused. If you like to swing with couples I'd check out Desire. Many people who are not swingers, but like the clothing optional atmosphere also go to Desire so it's pretty easy going for those new to the lifestyle. I know they do weddings and honeymoons. There is a forum with tons of information. Desire Resort Forums ? Index page

 

I'd also check Trip Advisor for reviews.

 

My understanding is that hedo is fun, but not as nice (grounds, room, food, transportation from airport) as Desire.

 

Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!

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Have been to Hedo but not Desire. Agree with funcoupledayton though. Hedo can be hit or miss. If you bring your own group it could be fun, but the dynamics there vary upon what other groups may be there (swingers, versus nudists, etc)

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Thanks for your ideas. Funcoupledayton, yes, we are swingers. Me for just over 10 years, her for just under 10 years. (We both started before we met each other, 5 years ago) I had not thought about Desire as I thought is was more nudists, but I will certainly look into it and check out the posts so I can tell her what options we have and what she would prefer. We are both nudists as well as swingers, but I remember us talking to another couple during a swinger's cruise for 4 hours, hitting it off well, only to find out they were just nudists, not swingers. It can be a bit embarrassing, although I am learning what to ask and listen to to learn their status. Thanks again for your help. This should not be this hard to make a decision, but this will be both of our 2nd marriage, so the honeymoon is more our focus than the actual wedding.

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Thanks for your ideas. Funcoupledayton, yes, we are swingers. Me for just over 10 years, her for just under 10 years. (We both started before we met each other, 5 years ago) I had not thought about Desire as I thought is was more nudists, but I will certainly look into it and check out the posts so I can tell her what options we have and what she would prefer. We are both nudists as well as swingers, but I remember us talking to another couple during a swinger's cruise for 4 hours, hitting it off well, only to find out they were just nudists, not swingers. It can be a bit embarrassing, although I am learning what to ask and listen to to learn their status. Thanks again for your help. This should not be this hard to make a decision, but this will be both of our 2nd marriage, so the honeymoon is more our focus than the actual wedding.

 

I think people show wear arm band colors indicating their activity: nudist, swinger soft swap, swinger full swap, swinger threesome only, etc. Would save a lot of "marketing" time :)

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Posted this in another thread, I think.

 

We were married at HEDO in 2002. our first trip there was in 2001, so some of the same couples we met in 2001 attended our wedding. We did not invite family, and had a reception when we got home.

 

A local minister did the wedding, no nudity during ceremony. It turned out awesome.

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Somehow our reception after the wedding turned into a swing party. Much to the surprise and shock of both families who traditionally weren't swingers. Of course, the special attention was the bride.

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@Bernett69: we wouldn't be comfortable with that. Our swinging life is completely separated from our vanilla life. As far as we know non of our family or vanilla friends know we swing, and we want to keep it that way.

 

That being said, we invited our closest swinging friends to our wedding anniversary, but they knew we wanted to keep this a secret and behaved well ;) (well actually they stayed until the other guests left and we had a mini-swing party afterwards). We did arrange to have the swingers on one table and the vanilla friends/family on other tables

 

One small fun fact: Two of the swinging couples we invited were lifetime friends (even had been on holidays together) but didn't know the other couple were swingers... guess their friendship entered a new level that night ;)

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Desires is much smaller, maybe 80 some couples, most swingers. Rooms and facilities are much nicer, cleaner, food is much better. You will find couples activities, go to a play room or the huge hot but and you can probably turn that activity with multiple couples. At Hedo, there are far more single guys than couples. If you are more into MFM or MMFM or gang bangs, then Hedo is the place to you. This is not to say that you can't hook up with another couple there but you will be spending a lot of time telling single guys that you are not interested. On the other hand, 3 couples and maybe 6 other guys can be interesting and one of those memories you carry with you.

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Of course the swing party at the wedding reception wasn't a planned event. I would say more likely the idea of a few groomsmen. even though everyone there weren't swingers, things got along without too much fainting and vapors from the elderly ladies present.

 

Both sides of the family still speak so it was a success I guess.

 

My wife being the center of attention at the head table was fun to see. The start of great fun.

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We attended a reaffirmation ceremony just last year at Desires with a couple that we have been seeing for several years. It was held in the large gazebo in the afternoon and was beautiful. I would have to recommend that...then maybe a trip to the rooftop hot tub. Things get crazy in that hot tub (it should come with a warning label). Desires has nudists but also has swingers. Usually everyone treats everyone else with such respect it can be difficult to tell who is who (except in the hot tub...or the play room off of the club). Asking is usually all it takes to find out.

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We attended a reaffirmation ceremony just last year at Desires with a couple that we have been seeing for several years. It was held in the large gazebo in the afternoon and was beautiful. I would have to recommend that...then maybe a trip to the rooftop hot tub. Things get crazy in that hot tub (it should come with a warning label). Desires has nudists but also has swingers. Usually everyone treats everyone else with such respect it can be difficult to tell who is who (except in the hot tub...or the play room off of the club). Asking is usually all it takes to find out.

 

sounds like a great time.

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Thanks to all that helped out. We have decided on Hedo, November 14th. There is a, hopefully, large group going then, and that will give me time to save money. January would be great, but we do not want to wait but so long after our wedding.

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What I like about this thread is that couples were both swingers before they met and married, thereby avoiding all the difficulties and drama on how to get into the lifestyle. It is also romantic in the way love and sex are clearly separate when both spouses are sexually free, with no jealousy of possessiveness.

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Greg1950 - We are taking our 10th trip to Hedo, arriving for a week on 11/13. Hope to meet you and your bride. I'm sure you will have great time.

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