How do you find couples with hall passes?

[EpiCouple 15]

The wife and I are exploring the hall pass end of the lifestyle, but finding people has proven difficult.

 

There is a small tag on a Kasidie account that indicates this, but few people check it. I couldn't find anything similar with SLS. Clubs? Parties? Just ask people?

[fun4Ds 1,098]

SLS has a "hot date" feature. Some sites call it "booty call" but I would think going to a house party/club where your both known would be a good way, letting the hosts know your intentions and feeling out the environment for potential playmates. Just asking people ? Well we have, with success. First, think of the ramifications and what could end up detrimental to your vanilla life that could happen. No sense worrying about the "how to" on just asking people, if that issue not taken care 99% first.

 

Good luck with this EpiCouple

[VegasLee 1,486]

Very seldom, maybe once every couple of years will Laura and I play with another couple. We never good looking for it but it happens.

 

She plays with who she wants and I play with who I want but we always do it at the club and we always leave together at the end of the night. That is our only rule and it works.

 

Hunting on line seems like way to much work to have fun with it.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

The wife and I are exploring the hall pass end of the lifestyle, but finding people has proven difficult.

 

There is a small tag on a Kasidie account that indicates this, but few people check it. I couldn't find anything similar with SLS. Clubs? Parties? Just ask people?

 

To get a more detailed answer perhaps you could tell us what you mean when you say "hall pass". For some, this might mean playing separately at a club/party. For others, it could mean going on a one-on-one date separately as if you were single. For others, it might be using a hall pass when traveling.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

My wife and both carry a "hall pass". But we do not advertise or imply this in any way at a hook-up Web site like SLS. To do so would very likely put off prospective contacts who view "swinging alone" as an aberration. We make many contacts with people who are prospects for cashing in on the hall pass while at meet-n-greet events. Some contacts are also made on-line. All we have to do is say we are willing to meet singles and those members who are in a committed relationship but who like occasionally to act as a single seem to find us OK.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I think it's best to meet people and get to know them and then let them know you have a hall pass.

 

We only play alone in special circumstances with people we've played with together. So while we have hall passes, we don't advertise it.

[EpiCouple 15]

To clarify...

 

We're looking at a pretty much full hall pass. We love couple/ couple play, but the reality is that it's difficult to work out. There has to be attraction between the parties involved, couples tend to have kids, so babysitters are involved, it has to fit social schedules, etc. We both think a hall pass scenario would be help us better realize our kinks without all of the work.

 

The problem, as has been stated, is that hall passes tend to be vilified. So no one advertises them. We could go the SM/ unicorn route, but those seem to give off a strong "marry me" vibe. We're happily married and not into poly, so yeah. No thanks. Couples/ individuals in hall pass relationships seem like a safer route.

 

Any other advice on finding hall passers?