MFM was fun, but his size gave me some doubts

[nhmjackson 15]

So me and my girlfriend have been pretty open sexually since we met. Her sexual fantasies run to the, lets say, extreme (gangbangs, public disgrace, role play rape). We have had many threesomes with other females but it's always been her fantasy to have a threesome with another guy. So, after much trial and error finding a friend who was into it, we actually ended up having a threesome with a very good friend of mine last night. Now, the threesome itself was just OK (he was a little nervous and drank too much which is never a good thing) but I was happy because she seemed to enjoy herself immensely. He left and we had sex again and then watched a movie. But she said something and now I'm a little weirded out for reasons I cant explain. She was basically talking about the threesome and then said said she had tried to do a certain position but that he was too big. Now I feel kind of weird. I know it's silly and I would never worry about it too much and I can't wait until we do it again and maybe he wont have the same problems he did. I just wonder if anyone on the forums have had a MMF threesome with a guy that was bigger than them and if that made them have "Man" issues lol!

[LFM2 1,482]

to the Swingers Board nhmjackson!

 

I bet that did make your head spin a little bit. I don't think your GF was meaning to tell you that you're "small", just that he was too big to do what she wanted.

 

Believe me, when the clothes come off, there is always something that can make a person wonder if if they're adequate. Sometimes, when Dave and I are talking, he'll mention to me how he thought his partners titties were perfect or how good her pussy felt, etc. He's not downgrading me, he's just expressing how much fun he had. It's part of why we started swinging though. I wanted him to experience what we couldn't together. He can have sex with a redhead, a blonde, or a sexier brunette or someone that bigger, smaller, taller, shorter or whatever. It's all good. He'll always come home with me.

 

Maybe you're feeling a little bit bitten by a jealousy bug? I don't know. If I'd been the one to mention to Dave that I couldn't try a certain position because he was too big, we'd be searching for another guy to try it on. I hope that makes sense.

 

P.S. You're not the first guy to have "man" issues. Some women have "girl" issues too. Move on and try to find someone who can fulfill her wants. Believe me, you do fit her bill.

[nhmjackson 15]

Hahaha! I figured that women have "girl" issues sometimes in these situations. I'm not even really sure what it was that bothered me but I am not gonna make it into a problem that doesn't exsist by dwelling on it. Obviously she enjoys sex with me or the first thing out of her mouth when he left wouldn't of been "wanna go start up again?"! I'm sure I'll get used to it happening in these MMF situations but I don't have a problem with it and I love seeing the enjoyment she gets out of having more than one toy to play with!

[LFM2 1,482]

Hahaha! I figured that women have "girl" issues sometimes in these situations. I'm not even really sure what it was that bothered me but I am not gonna make it into a problem that doesn't exsist by dwelling on it. Obviously she enjoys sex with me or the first thing out of her mouth when he left wouldn't of been "wanna go start up again?"! I'm sure I'll get used to it happening in these MMF situations but I don't have a problem with it and I love seeing the enjoyment she gets out of having more than one toy to play with!

 

You've got the right attitude! You're right not to dwell on it. I hope you look around the forums and enjoy the years of experience that are behind the words. It's a great community here. I'm looking forward to reading more of your posts!

[nhmjackson 15]

Absolutely! Thanks for responding, and I'm quite glad I found this forum as it can be nice to have a place to go to when awkward situation arise in this lifestyle, which tends to happen!

[nhmjackson 15]

I do worry about her self confidence in the aspect of what he said was whiskey dick. She said she didn't know if he was into her but apparently he was rock hard when we started and it just kind of went away. I figure if a guy isn't attracted to a girl, it would be pretty difficult to get an erection at all. It was unfortunate because her real fantasy is a DP and he said on the numerous occasions we talked openly about the threesome that he was into it. He is the only friend I have who was even willing to do this and it took many nights of just hanging out and then leaving when he would get nervous. Unfortunate. Hahaha!

[nhmjackson 15]

These things are so much easier with another girl but it's so damn fun to have another guy with me just making her overwhelmed with pleasure! I guess it's gonna take a lot of trial and error to get a truly great MMF. (Easier with a girl as in not having to worry about performance anxiety or popping within the first three minutes. I am pretty sure he was concerned when I told him we like to play for hours and he said he didn't know if he could hold back for more than 20 minutes.)

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I've lost track. In your first post you said that the MFM went OK except you were surprised that your friend's dick was bigger than yours. Now you're saying that the MFM was not entirely what was expected because your friend went soft.

 

On the face of it not contradictory statements but are the facts of the matter being revealed to you in stages? The reason I ask is I would find it difficult to analyze and lend advice unless I can understand.

 

Although not in MFM situations, I have been through all of these stages on couple-couple and one-on-one situations. You are not alone.

[nhmjackson 15]

Well, it was okay to me because she said it was fun. In my opinion, a MFM is all about her and her pleasure. She did make a comment about him going soft in the middle of it. I had no idea of course because I wasn't focused on him hahaha. I think for her, just making it happen was enough for her to enjoy it. My friend going soft was supposed to be implied by the "he drank too much" comment, but I should of been more clear.

[nhmjackson 15]

I think the original reply was accurate that I had been bit by the jealousy bug a bit after the "he was too big" comment and that carried over to this morning when I joined the site and posted. I think it was just something I had to get over on my own but I of course started thinking about the entire experience today considering I'm off work and it was a completely new experience for me and her.

[Guest]

"In my opinion, a MFM is all about her and her pleasure." That is an assumption that you need to examine. My wife enjoys MFM more than she does couple play. To her, its not just about the act itself, it's really the "foreplay" that turns her on. That's why most of our MFM activity is generated from casual contacts at a bar or resort, not prearranged with a known person. She enjoys the conversation, the flirting, maybe dancing, being able to use her womanly charms to bring the two men to a point where we will share in her pleasure. I would like to tell you that I do it just to see her pleasure but that's not the case. It's for my pleasure, too. She is so much more turned on during sex with two of us. After our first MFM, she asked what I thought. My response, the best blow job you have ever given me. Yes, when another guy is going down on her, or fucking her, the sexual pleasure she gives me is more intense, in essence, sucking my dick like there is no tomorrow. It's like an athlete who for whatever reason gets a huge shot of adrenalin and he sudden performs at levels far above the norm.

[nhmjackson 15]

Thanks for the replay chiccouplexx! You certainly have me thinking about my ideas of MFM play. And I am definitely thinking about someone a bit more unknown to both of us next time. I will say that I was quite excited by the look in her eyes while she was sucking me and being fucked from behind. So much so that I had to stop her for a moment just to keep from blowing too early lol! Please don't think that I in anyway derived less pleasure than her. Being on this forum has certainly made me think about my ideas about this lifestyle. In a good way though! The emotions that I have experienced since we began bringing friends into our sexual life have run the entire gamut from disappointment to absolute ecstasy lol! It's been pretty amazing and we have done nothing but talk about our first MFM since it happened and we always end up having amazing sex after getting each other all turned on! Despite it not being perfect or exactly how we planned it in our heads, I am happy that it was a positive experience!

[bbarnsworth 2,640]

It sounds to me like you had a rather good experience for your first MFM. Congratulations It's a whole new world, isn't it? I personally find MFMs to be very erotic, as does my wife.

 

I know others have responded on the size issue very well indeed. I just wanted to add in; don't sweat it. I will guarantee you as you have more MFMs there will be guys who are smaller than you and guys who are larger. That's just reality. Just about every woman on here will most likely tell you that the size isn't what really sets the kettle boiling. Men, almost to a a person, have this idea that the bigger your equipment, the happier she will be, the more manly you are. It's all crap.

 

I had the pleasure of experiencing an MFM with my wife with a man who was absolutely huge. He had the biggest penis I'd ever seen, by far. Yes, it was erotic * 1000 watching her have sex with him. But, it was not the best threesome she's ever had, and not really in the top five even. The best threesome she's ever had was with a man who, though not small, is smaller than I am. She was in absolute pure ecstasy, giving off sounds I'd never heard her make before. It was fantastic. Moral of the story; size had nothing to do with it. Also; men who have truly large penises seem to have a distinct problem in getting fulling erect, fully hard.

 

Remember that the two of you are a team. That's not just a cliche (though it's said so much it kinda loses its impact). Revel in her happiness, allow her the pleasure of reveling in yours. Share in each other's joys, share in each other's ecstasy. I've found that few things are more erotic than lovingly holding my wife while she has sex with another man. That's because we enjoy the mutual experience of it all.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

It's not the size of the wand, but the skill of the magician...

 

 

 

You're that nerd!

 

Yeah.

 

God, you were wonderful.

 

Thanks.

 

Are all nerds as good as you?

 

Yes.

 

How come?

 

Cos all jocks [and guys with big dicks] think about is sports.

All we ever think about is sex.

 

-Revenge of the Nerds

[Guest]

Regarding size and does it matter.

We had enjoyed five or so MFM events and three or four side-by-side and same room couple exchanges and it seemed to be as the wife had stated, size didn't really matter in terms of what turned her on. Then one day, a guy young guy 6'4' or so joined us for an MFM. Initially his dick looked to be no bigger than my own. But as she sucked it, it grew much longer than my own 7 inches and much thicker. She was going back and forth, sucking me and sucking him and you could tell she was more and more excited by the size. Finally, she turned said that she wanted to fuck that thing. She got on her back and he climbed on top. She told him, " Be gentle, you're so big and I'm just a little girl." He slowly worked it in, no thrusts, just gentle back and forth with a couple of more "easy, easy," from her. Once he was able to slide back and forth at a normal pace, I could hear her gasping. Her feet left the ground and her calves locked around his upper thighs, only her shoulders were touching the ground. Her body raised up to his pelvis, banging him harder and harder, faster and faster. While she may murmur, moan, or give ooos and ahhs, for the first time I hear her say, "Fuck me, fuck me," as she thrust her hips hard against his until he came. Every since then, I've kidded her about size doesn't matter. It was a great memory seeing her perform like that. I can't say that she goes around looking for big cocks now, that's just not her style. She tends to go to the nice guy, not the best looking or best built, just the nice guy. But, on more than one occasion, she has expressed a desire to to Jimmy one more time.

[Guest sandraandalex]

First, if she had fun, be dry happy with that. A first mom experience can be very awkward. I'll throw a possible 'comedy of errors' in the mix. Did she mean his cock was too big, or he was too physically big for a certain position ? When I do dp, size, physical size, does matter. Glad you had fun. She should watch an adult cartoon called,"Archer." I bet she'd identify with a character or two on that show.

[nhmjackson 15]

Hahahaha! We are big fans of Archer! We actually had our second MMF two nights ago and it went even better! We are very happy that this is going very smoothly now! Hopefully we can find a guy who will help me give her a dp since the friend we had a couple of nights ago said he is down for whatever but didn't wanna risk our "business" touching lol!

[cplnluv1 872]

My husband has always thought every woman wants a guy who is big. He knows his size and I am happy to say he pleases me very well almost every time. We have always been open about our past and likes hearing about both the men and women in my past. He does have a way about asking me if a guy was big though I assure him that it was he who I chose as my forever. We just started into this LS and we chose a bigger man for our first. I have to say my husband is so much better. The young man was 2-3 inches bigger than my husband and 2-300 times faster.

[peggyisfun 16]

its not that you are too small. he just fit differently. i wouldnt get worked up about it