Single female and swinging parties - go solo or ???

[BiCaliGirl777 48]

So I've tried swinging with my female bi friend at swinging parties with couples (but we're not together, nor do we sleep with each other, just in groups with other people) and I like it. She introduced me to the lifestyle and was a great ally in getting myself out there and trying new things. Now she's on a "break" of it and I'm starting again from the beginning.

 

I would like to continue but I'm not sure how. For safety reasons I don't want to go to swinging parties by myself. Finding people on CL is out of the question since you don't know who you'll meet. I wish there was a way to meet other single women who are interested and go as a group. Or should I just bite the bullet and go solo?

[angelkin 1,326]

I'd think a club or house party would be safe places to party. Swingers are respectful of the no means no mantra and being in a group of experienced swingers IMHO is far more safe than meeting with a couple or single guy alone.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Several single women of our acquaintance come, from time to time, to our house parties. We also invite single men. I believe that both the women and the men have learned to trust that we are selective in whom we invite. I believe it depends on how much you trust your host and hostess.

 

I also believe that the single woman (an married) appreciate the fact that a "few good men" are around.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

Hi, BiCaliGirl! I'm so glad that angelkin and SW_PA have answers for you! The only advice I have is to possibly check out any Meet and Greets in your area so that you can get to know the swinger community in your area without the pressure of playing with any of the attendees that night. You might also want to see if you can glean any pertinent information from Single female who wants to swing - first club visit and Singles and the Swing Lifestyle: Being a Sexual Special Guest Star by our very own funcoupledayton!

[Tia Vampire 167]

Find a house party where you feel comfortable at. Much safer than meeting someone on line or on your own. I enjoy swinging solo. As a matter of fact, I prefer it. It leaves your options open without the need for both to agree. As a couple we could not find couples we both agreed on. Either the lady wasn't attractive enough for him or the guy was not attractive enough for me. Being single gives you the option to play with a single guy or couple of your liking.

 

Good luck

[CalendarGirl 148]

Hi BiCaliGirl! As a single bi gal myself I agree with the responses so far. I attended my very first house party, actually hosted by an esteemed member of this board & it was one of the best things I've ever done! I had never gone to any party, vanilla or swinger, by myself before & I didn't know any of these folks. I expressed my concerns to the hostess & she completely understood, she was a newbie once after all! Both the hosts (married couple) immediately took me under their wings & introduced me to everyone. Not only did I enjoy everyone's company but I actually played with several of them! I felt completely safe & respected every minute. Now the hostess is my best friend! It took a huge leap of faith but the best things usually do! If the vibe isn't right you can always leave but as a "unicorn", the odds are you will be treated like a queen and protected like the gift you are! Go for it & let us know how it goes! Feel free to message me privately if I can be any support to you regarding anything!

[BiCaliGirl777 48]

Thank you, everyone!!

[BiCaliGirl777 48]

I'll be visiting SF in a few weeks and the thought of visiting a swinger's club is very exciting to me...

[BiCaliGirl777 48]

I didn't get a chance to go one in SF, but there is a swinger party in my area this weekend so I'll be going.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

Thanks for the update, BiCaliGirl! I hope you are able to attend the swinger party this weekend.

[BiCaliGirl777 48]

Thanks! I've been mulling back and forth about going, so I just thought, "What the heck" and bought my ticket. The reviews are really positive and I spoke to the hosts and they seem really friendly, so that eased my mind a bit. We'll see what happens!

[BiCaliGirl777 48]

Tonight is the night. I've been going back and forth on this, but I think I'm going to take caution to the wind and just go. I'm not feeling my sexy self today, but I think if I just go with no expectations I should be ok, plus being a single woman I'm in control lol.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

Tonight is the night. I've been going back and forth on this, but I think I'm going to take caution to the wind and just go. I'm not feeling my sexy self today, but I think if I just go with no expectations I should be ok, plus being a single woman I'm in control lol.

 

How was your fun night out, BiCaliGirl?

[LFM2 1,482]

I'm curious as well...

[BiCaliGirl777 48]

How was your fun night out, BiCaliGirl?

 

I'm curious as well...

 

My night went pretty well. I got to the party and was greeted by some friendly guests who showed me where to park. The house is pretty huge with a big backyard and lots of privacy. I was greeted by the hosts and they gave me a guided tour of the house: one room had some toys (Sybian, dildos), a swing, stripper poll, etc. There was two public rooms to "play" in, I didn't participate or play but I found myself really enjoying watching people. I met some really cool people included a couple who made me laugh and feel super comfortable. There was another couple that were obviously new and we talked with them too, she was a tall blonde, her husband French with salt and pepper hair. Normally I probably wouldn't talk to them because I'm shy but there were so sweet and we even exchanged numbers in the end!

 

Later that evening I bumped into a another couple: a cute, short and curvy girl with her older heavyset lover. She took a liking to me, I think lol. We exchanged numbers, so we'll see.

 

It's interesting that even though swinging parties there's sex, having conversations about life etc. made it more comfortable for me. There was no pressure to do anything, I could sit and talk to people...and who knew that many of them lived right by me! I will definitely go again.