Male bisexual play - What to do and what to expect?

[SwingSetHusband 110]

Ok, I've been curious about testing the waters out on the other side. I've been thinking about it quite a bit for a while now. My SO and I have talked about it and she is really supportive of me and my decisions. One problem, I have no idea on even how to begin. I mean I've never approached or had conversation with a guy on that level. When this does happen my SO will be with me and most likely it's probably gonna be in a MMF or maybe in a MFMF setting but even then what can I do to make it easier for me? I know I will probably be nervous. What can I do to ease my nerves once it happens and what's the best way to be in (bottom/top)? Any info would be greatly appreciated.

[asncpl 730]

My husband has gone from straight to bi since we began swinging. I sometimes teased him that he has really blossomed sexually. We have been members of a private group of bi swingers (both males and females) for a while now. We first posted an ad on CL. Most of the responses were crap but one couple mentioned that they host bi parties and gave us their profile on a local swinger website. We chatted a few times and tried out their parties. The rest is history. I wouldn't recommend CL nowadays but perhaps looking for bisexual males in couples on swinger sites like SLS.

 

As for conversations, I'd say do what comes naturally. My husband is more introverted than me so sometimes I help break the ice. As for bottom or top, that's your choice (and your partner's). Even before that, I suggest oral only, to get you used to the idea. Also there are a lot more guys receptive to receiving oral from a guy than full-on anal sex, and even then more men like to give than receive in a swinging bi situation, at least from our experience. We have always found the idea of my husband and I sucking and licking a cock at the same time to be very erotic. Depending on how you feel, you can decide if you want to do more. Hope this helps a bit.

[gsu22 187]

I started out conversations with just some general subjects and then slowly led into the sexual part. Some have been nervous, some completely horny and ready. Like asncpl mentioned, guys are usually more open to oral initially. I like to joke around to lighten up the mood and ask if they'd love a good blowjob. I always tell the couple one of the things I enjoy most is servicing the husband while the wife watches and then eventually joins in and will ask if the couple is open to separate play....

 

I've had a few that are and then the husband and I can meet up alone so we can continue to explore his bi side alone. Because it's guy on guy, a lot of wives haven't had too much objection...only a little disappointment they won't be able to watch. But schedules are busy as you all know.

 

With regards to top/bottom, those who are initially against anal, usually (not all the time) get so horny and into mm play the first time I'm sucking his dick, they want to try....those not interested I just respect their limits and stick to oral. I tell them I'm mostly a top but will bottom if they want to fuck a guy to see what it's like.

 

SLS and CL have been my main attempts at MMF activity.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

You sound like a bottom to me. Having contact with the male half of the relationship is what keeps a lot of men from doing a MMF. We are more than happy to help you fulfill your fantasy by fucking your wife in front of you but we are not gay or bi and have no interest in having any kind of sex with you.

 

There are men, like you, who want to explore their bi side and use a MMF encounter to "test the waters". You are lucky to have a woman who is supportive. It's a little amusing that she would be willing to watch you having sex with another man the same way you enjoy watching her having sex with another man. Awesome!

 

There is always accidental, incidental contact, with the other guy in a close MMF encounter but, in my opinion, I've never felt that was an invitation to have sex with the man and he never acted like it was anything more. She was the main attraction.

 

You can use the accidental, or intentional, incidental contact to see how he reacts. You can keep going to see how far he'll go. In my experiences I've had to reassure the third that I had no intentions of having sex with him and this was just going to be an experience for my wife. Maybe you could bring this up with a potential playmate beforehand.

[SwingSetHusband 110]

You can use the accidental, or intentional, incidental contact to see how he reacts. You can keep going to see how far he'll go. In my experiences I've had to reassure the third that I had no intentions of having sex with him and this was just going to be an experience for my wife. Maybe you could bring this up with a potential playmate beforehand.

 

You lost me with this^^^^

You make it seem like I'm wanting to trick someone into the situation so I can see what it's about. No, if I wanted to have my first experience in a MMF situation then the other guy would be totally bi and would already know about my "curiosities" before any play would even occur! This is not about my SO, it's all about me and me wanting to experience the other side. Yes, I might be lucky to have a woman like her and yes I would love for her to be involved, but that is really not the case. So, yeah you lost me!!!!

[SwingSetHusband 110]

You sound like a bottom to me.

 

Please explain this to me, since I said nothing about in my OS to what I like and don't like or might like and don't like.

[Hippiegirlie 276]

I have several bi male friends and have been a supportive person in situations similar to what you describe. I think you need to ask yourself what it is that you want from the experience and draw your plans from that. As you have said, you are going into this with all parties understanding, which is the first and most important step. Next is to find that person who will make you feel comfortable. Be clear about your expectations and preferred outcome in your journey and keep talking with your wife so she can help mediate and facilitate during. Her knowing what you want to explore and do will be of great help, IMHO. I wish you a wonderful experience!

[herpob 573]

M1F2KTJ made it seem as though he was surprised at wives enjoying seeing men with men. I am discovering more and more wives of my like mind and yours, SwingSetHusband. I'd love to be with my husband sucking a nice big ole penis and even would love to prepare him, spread him, and guide someone into him. This has been a long desire of mine, something I have been working towards for years with him. We RP it all the time and it brings massive orgasms for us both. I know for my husband, I'd have to be there actively participating and a part of everything that went on for and bi action to take place. well either me or another female. He'd never go it alone (at least in his current state). I'd have your wife become an integral part of it. I think that would be extremely helpful in all phases even picking the right people.

[Numex 2,459]

Long story short, i and some of the guys that my wife has been with, or husbands of my women i fuck, sometimes add a little M-M interaction while were both doing a woman. For instance, while there's M-F fucking going on, whoever the other guy is, will start licking the girl's pussy and certainly get some dick or balls in his mouth too, no problem. Or my wife and i will lick a dick together for a while, or them on me. Couple times we started doing front & back holes on the woman and i ended up me putting it in his ass or him in mine, but only a couple of times. Mostly, the biggest thing is that women think that a dick belongs in them, and the cum belongs in them somewhere, so they don't like full on guy fucking or blowing. And i just don't like most guys that way, except as part of pussy play.

[SwingSetHusband 110]

I know for my husband, I'd have to be there actively participating and a part of everything that went on for and bi action to take place. well either me or another female. He'd never go it alone (at least in his current state). I'd have your wife become an integral part of it. I think that would be extremely helpful in all phases even picking the right people.

 

Oh yeah she would have to be there. Honestly, right now I know I couldn't even attempt to try it without her being with me. She teases me sometimes telling me that she will teach me, lol. I would love for her to participate and join in. This is how I would love for it to happen. I know I will be more comfortable with it being a MMF.

[gsu22 187]

I'd love to teach these curious husbands what man on man fucking is all about

 

Rough, sweaty body contact, long blowjobs and ass pounding.

[SwingSetHusband 110]

I'd love to teach these curious husbands what man on man fucking is all about

 

Rough, sweaty body contact, long blowjobs and ass pounding.

 

Wow!!! Lol

[ViSexual 1,008]

If you create an ad on SLS (swinglifestyle.com) you can put exactly what you're looking for. And, keep in mind, there are lots of couple there with bi husbands who put straight so don't be surprised when you're contacted by them.

[SwingSetWife 444]

This has become one of our biggest fantasies. Can't wait!

[gsu22 187]

This has become one of our biggest fantasies. Can't wait!

 

Make sure to post details if/when it becomes a reality

[gsu22 187]

Wow!!! Lol

 

and preferably have these curious husbands all together at once. Huge fantasy of mine to suck off multiple bi curious/bi virgin men.

[SwingSetHusband 110]

and preferably have these curious husbands all together at once. Huge fantasy of mine to suck off multiple bi curious/bi virgin men.

 

Sounds pretty interesting!!

[herpob 573]

This has become one of our biggest fantasies. Can't wait!

 

So what is your take on all of this? What would you like to see and be a part of? My husband used to always say that there were no more women on the planet like me with my desires. LOL, girl I certainly have been proving him wrong over the past year. There are more and more wives out there who'd love to suck a penis with their man (even teach him ) and surprisingly a large number who'd love to spread their husband to take a lovely penis anally and have it cum in him. The consensus I get from most of them is that since he loves it sooo much (doing the wifey anally), shouldn't he have the WHOLE (& FULL - lol) experience?