Texting/sexting with swing partners?

[fortworth 17]

Hey all,

 

Just wondering what role texting and or sexting plays in your swinging relationship? Do you worry that texting with the opposite sex can lead to a Pandora's box or find it adds to the dynamics?

 

Thanks....

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

My wife and I exchange text messages with many of our lifestyle acquaintances and friends. It takes not very long to learn whether or not a new acquaintance is or is not a "text fan". It seems simply natural. Swing friend are friends and like any other friends, there sometimes seems to be a reason to text; sometimes not.

[SoFlaCouple 188]

What SW_PA said.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

We do text with friends, and that includes swinging friends. With the swinging friends, texting often turns to sexting too. It does add a fun dynamic, but it's not something we would try to do as a general rule with everyone.

[junglecouple 127]

We don't text, period... if you are texting, you have a phone, and if you have a phone DAMNIT!!! CALL!!! Texting, to us, is like using telegraph/telegram.

[Brad145 58]

We only text with swing friends to arrange meetups, my wife did some texting when we first started swinging but we had to put a stop to it for a couple reasons.

 

1. Guys just get creepy when texting, and I don't approve of anyone hitting on my wife behind my back.

 

2. They would spend time getting to know each other and it would be uncomfortable to meet someone and she seems to know them and they us but I am out of the loop.

[Sexinthetardis 76]

We only text with swing friends to arrange meetups, my wife did some texting when we first started swinging but we had to put a stop to it for a couple reasons.

 

1. Guys just get creepy when texting, and I don't approve of anyone hitting on my wife behind my back.

 

2. They would spend time getting to know each other and it would be uncomfortable to meet someone and she seems to know them and they us but I am out of the loop.

 

 

These are the same reasons we don't feel comfortable with it. Besides I don't even "sext" with my husband. We text for communication purposes. A little light flirting we're fine with but not more than that.

[tonto&thetease 20]

We used to text from our personal phones ... Didn't work out so well, and yes, some men (ok, more than some has been our experience) get creepy. So, we got a phone we use for the LS. We tend to text when we're together to make contact, set up a meeting etc, but not always. I would say that there might be MILD flirting but never "sexting". It is great fun to share this together and there's always a laugh when we turn on the phone and read the messages that are waiting for us =)

[cplnuswing 4,713]

We don't text, period... if you are texting, you have a phone, and if you have a phone DAMNIT!!! CALL!!! Texting, to us, is like using telegraph/telegram.

 

I'm just the opposite. I am like - why did you make me stop what I'm doing to answer the phone when you could have just texted and then I could get to it when I have the time? Some things do need a call, but texting is the easiest on both sides. I understand that's just a matter of opinion, but it's interesting how everyone has their communication preferences.

 

In terms of the "getting too close" side of the discussion, I find texting to be a more casual form of communication than actual talking. Casual acquaintances that we just know in passing, we're not likely to. Someone we are interested in having a friendship with, we would. Kind of hard to be friends with someone you aren't keeping up with whatsoever.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

I'm just the opposite. I am like - why did you make me stop what I'm doing to answer the phone when you could have just texted and then I could get to it when I have the time? Some things do need a call, but texting is the easiest on both sides. I understand that's just a matter of opinion, but it's interesting how everyone has their communication preferences.

 

In terms of the "getting too close" side of the discussion, I find texting to be a more casual form of communication than actual talking. Casual acquaintances that we just know in passing, we're not likely to. Someone we are interested in having a friendship with, we would. Kind of hard to be friends with someone you aren't keeping up with whatsoever.

 

I couldn't agree more. For me, texting is an easier and faster way to get my message to someone compared to email but not urgent like a phone call. I can send a text when I have the time and then they can reply when they have the time without having to be at a computer. I'm not a fast texter which is why I reserve more detailed and drawn out replies for when I am at the computer--for example, I use Tapatalk to keep up with the posts on the forum but I wait to use the computer to reply to posts.

[tallicafan 41]

We like to text a little to get to know people a little better either before we meet or after. Yes, guys can sometimes be a little creepy but I/we prefer to learn this sooner rather than later. Mrs. Tallicafan loves to text people more than I do. We are always free to read each others messages and communicate about what is going on with our friends. I am very respectful when I text another lady. I definitely wouldn't want to creep someone out or make her uncomfortable. I behave friendly like I want to take her on a date and get to know her/them. Trust me, this usually works out great for me to break the ice and make friends. If I'm not sexting or dirty enough for the other person, she probably isn't somebody I would be comfortable playing with anyways.

[miacpl30 18]

We use a google vice app/number to talk/text with ls friends. We also keep texting between same sex (mainly to set up times meeting). We have had bad issues with one partner texting other one and its gotten outta hand

[oc1234 435]

We play with two guys. The one we have played with for many years does not text so we arrange play times with him by phone or by email. The one we have been seeing since last January texts, so he and I usually arrange things by text. That works well since he works an irregular schedule which makes it easier to contact him by text than by email or phone.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

Texting/sexting is incredibly exciting. The fantasies you share with each other about having sex together builds an ever growing anticipation. I met a woman at a hotel and we were so horny for each other that the minute we stepped into the room we began pulling each others clothes off. It wasn't until after that we noticed that we hadn't closed the door!

[Guest]

We have one male friend, Tom. He was my friend before I met hubby. He and I never played together but we did spend the night together in the same bed several times after evenings at clubs, etc. with other friends. After hubby and I met, the three of us would hang together and finally, after a couple of years of this, we took Tom out for his birthday and back to our place for hot tub and then a blow job. Since then, we have all played together several times. We will send him provocative photos of me at various times when he can't join us. This might be me topless sunning on our deck, or in stockings, etc. getting ready to go out for the evening. With others, we just don't have the same level of trust.

[MrDynamite1 16]

Hey all,

 

Just wondering what role texting and or sexting plays in your swinging relationship? Do you worry that texting with the opposite sex can lead to a Pandora's box or find it adds to the dynamics?

 

Thanks....

Hello, fellow swinger, sexting and sexting plays can be a very fun way to get to know each other better or a way to lead to you having some swinger relationships. It should not hard in any way, at least I think so, because if both parties have consent it should be no problem. It is very exciting to wait to meet them and have some fun

[Numex 2,416]

... Texting, to us, is like using telegraph/telegram.

It annoys people when I send messages by Morris code.

[Numex 2,416]

Neither my wife nor I, or any of our swing partners have any restricts on contacting each other by phone, text or email. Once you've taken the issue that one of us might be having sex with someone else off the table as a matter of concern, there is no issue. We do not, however, sext. Even the rich and powerful have been hacked, so we don't think we're immune.

 

The type of communication depends on who prefers what and the circumstance.

[Sawman 84]

I caution my friends not to text anything explicit. Phones are laid around and if notifications is turned on, he message will appear on the screen. People for whom the messages are not intended can see the information. In my case, "do you want to ride motorcycles this weekend" indicates interest in play. Keep texting to an absolute minimum to things like setting dates as above and last minute changes.

[Guest]

Texting, sexting...oh yeah. One of our favorite diversions and activities is spontaneous lunch sex with friends. We do it separate place and time with couples we date. The texting builds the anticipation, which I think is a big part of the adventure. For example I might be at work and get an innocent text from a husband, "Have any plans for lunch?" That's code for do you want to have a lunch quickie. And I spend the rest of the morning in anticipation with naughty thoughts. We might trade some nasty photos of our previous trysts or I'll send off a snapshot of what I am wearing and give a peek up my skirt.

[Anon321 523]

It would be almost impossible to stop texting since a good amount of the guys she fucks are my close friends. Also I've looked through her phone and I find the sexting to actually be pretty hot when reading it. So I don't mind.

[MrDynamite1 16]

Well, we've met with them yesterday and it was a blast, all that sexting made us to go insane when we met, I suggest you to try as well.

[Thegreyarea 100]

We don’t “text” but use kik or MeWe which is basically the same thing without giving your phone number out. All of our interactions are group chats so everyone is in the conversation and on the same page.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

The girls can text, the guys can text, or everyone can group text. Anyone doing anything other than this leads to NO MORE texts. We don't have many rules, but this is one of them. There can be no misunderstandings or mistakes this way.

[fwblondon 19]

We like having a 4 way group chat on kik but learned from some early mistakes not to chat too much. We like to keep some things to chat about once we meet in person. After meeting and then deciding to play we will keep in touch through kik as we all see fit. Some people like to message more than others and some hardly at all.

 

My job allows me a lot of free time to chat and my Wife's job does not. She will reply at night sometimes but often I do the majority of the communicating.