A total disaster, but a great learning experience. Couples Not Matching

[WildPairSF 15]

MrWild and I had our first swinging experience together with a couple we met on SLS. At the time, MrWild was 42 and I was 28. I had had prior experience during my marriage to my first husband, and knew that being a bigger woman (I'm 5'3", and at the time I weighed 250lbs--stated clearly in our SLS profile, including pics) in a relationship with a HWP male was going to be...challenging, at times. I was (and still am) cool and understanding when I am not someone's cup of tea, because I also have preferences when it comes to being sexual with another person.

 

So, we start chatting with a couple on SLS, and they seem to be on the same page as we were. Both were in their mid 40's, and they were excited to discover that I am Bi, because she had had only limited experiences with women and they were 'looking forward to completing her experience'. We talked on the phone for awhile, and finally arranged to meet them for lunch near a hotel room we'd gotten in a city between the two of us. During the time between the arranging and the meeting, she and I kept in touch by phone and the men would join in the conversation if they were there. We had agreed to start the play with 'ladies only' and the men would join in when we asked.

 

She was very chatty, flirting with both MrWild and I. He seemed shy. but spoke when we spoke to him and laughed along with everyone else. She and MrWild seemed to have chemistry, and I was eager to play with a woman again (it had been awhile). MrWild, having never experienced an actual swap, was eager for this to happen.

 

When MrWild tossed out our 'code' question, I answered to the affirmative and we invited them to come back to the hotel and play. He immediately accepted the invitation, and even jokingly asked us what took us so long. A good sign, I thought, as we got into our respective vehicles and drove back to the hotel.

 

We got into the room, and after a group teeth-brushing (we are smokers, they were not), we got to playing on one of the beds (I always get a room with 2 beds, because I want the extra pillows). Us ladies started kissing and caressing each other while still fully clothed. I was on the bottom, because she was smaller than me. Her husband began to pull off her clothes, and MrWild helped, all while we continued. Even though it was like kissing Skeletor (she sucked her lips in her mouth and more or less rubbed the front of her face on the front of mine) she did have a nice pair of breasts so I concentrated my attention on them. Her husband started removing his clothes, and soon I was the only one still dressed. When I pulled away to undress, her husband 'kept her warm'. As I finished undressing, her husband grabbed MrWild's hand and put it on her crotch. My gut told me that I should call a stop to it then and there, but I ignored it and joined the three of them on the bed.

 

Her husband kept pulling me away from her, so I took this as a sign he wanted to play with me, and led him to the other bed. He went down on me, and just as I was about to orgasm he stopped and without a word went right to the other bed where MrWild was trying to initiate intercourse with his wife. He stuck his dick in her mouth, and MrWild lost his erection. I was turned off, too and got up and lit a cigarette (they were non-smokers, and yes, it was a pathetic passive-aggressive sign to them that I was ready for them to leave). That got everyone's attention and he teasingly said he couldn't fuck me if I had a cigarette in my hand, then went to the other bed and motioned me to join him. I teased him about needing a fluffer, but I went over, though I wasn't as into it as I had been. Action resumed, but, well...I could tell he was 'taking one for the team' and I pulled away soon.

 

MrWild and his wife called me over to the other bed. MrWild was having trouble maintaining his erection, and they thought I might be able to coax it up. So, I went over there and discovered smears of poop all over the bedsheet. Apparently, she'd requested anal stimulation. I was grossed out, and it showed. She joined her husband on the other bed and they finished together before getting dressed and leaving.

 

Needless to say, we were not interested in a repeat performance, but they messaged us on SLS saying what a great time they'd had and how they'd like to try it again. We said thanks but no thanks, and she called me later that evening to ask why. I politely told her that there didn't seem to be any chemistry, particularly between her husband and I, and that we had hoped to find a couple to swap with.

 

So....yeah. Fortunately, we didn't give up and have since had much better experiences in the lifestyle.

[bbarnsworth 2,652]

Sorry you had such a disappointing experience I'm sure you take from it what I take; when the nagging voice tells you this isn't going to work, I'd better listen to it My wife and I had a not so good experience, and the warning signs were there. I just didn't read them.