So many Bi men, when did this change?

[Formybubu 55]

We have noticed that more of the males in couples and the single males posting on different swinger sites are Bi.

 

When did the increase in Bi men start to expand that it has become harder to find a straight couple?

 

While I have no issue when they play straight, but we met a couple and he never said he was Bi and was trying to grab me while I was doing his wife. I was a bit shocked and not happy.

[BiCaliGirl777 48]

I think in general that bisexuality has become more "out" there in the last couple of years. Being bi myself, I have noticed it's becoming mainstream in music, entertainment, sports, etc. Given the so many stereotypes that are connected with it, it's refreshing to see and know so many bisexual men.

[SwingSetHusband 110]

We have noticed that more of the males in couples and the single males posting in different Swinger post are Bi.

When did the increase in Bi men start to expand that it has become harder to find a Straight couple??

While I have no issue when they play straight, but we met a couple and he never said he was Bi and was trying to grab me while I was doing his wife. I was a bit shocked and not happy.

 

I know exactly how you felt in that situation. The exact thing happened to me when I was fucking a guys wife yes ago. Although, I don't think this guy was bi, it was just uncomfortable for him to touch me. This was during the time when SSW and I had really just got into the LS. Now, here is where things change!!! For about a little over a year now I have had bi tendencies and I'm very bi curios now. To the point where I'm going to me a bi guy next week for our first bi MMF threesome. I to think that it's just becoming more acceptable and people are just getting tired of labels. I've realized that if it feels good, then why not?

[Lionheart72 2,190]

We have noticed that more of the males in couples and the single males posting in different Swinger post are Bi.

When did the increase in Bi men start to expand that it has become harder to find a Straight couple??

 

I would hazard a guess that has been no "increase in Bi men" but rather an increase in the willingness of men to openly self-identify as bisexual. As BiCaliGirl777 said, bisexuality has become more out in recent years. People are more comfortable admitting to themselves and others that they are not exclusively attracted to one gender. This is, in my not-so-humble opinion, a good thing.

 

While I have no issue when they play straight, but we met a couple and he never said he was Bi and was trying to grab me while I was doing his wife. I was a bit shocked and not happy.

 

It sounds like the problem here is that, by your own statement, the fellow failed to admit he was bi. If he had admitted he was bi, they you could have discussed it before getting into bed and you could have let him know that you weren't into that.

 

So, it seems to be that the problem isn't that there are more guys admitting they are bi but rather that there are still bi guys who don't admit it but still seek to act on it.

[male4ypleasure 66]

I consider myself straight not seeking male on male only encounters, but over the last five years found I am very situationally bi with the right couple. My experience has been most couples list straight male & bi female, but over half have introduced bi male play after becoming comfortable with me. I have gone from being very straight to desiring to play with bi/bi curious couple's.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

I agree that the percentage of bi guys hasn't changed, just the percentage of those willing to state it.

 

In terms of your experience from the other guy, I don't really see that as a bi issue, more a boundary and respect issue. Same sex or opposite sex, one should never try something that you haven't already been given the ok to try.

[Sirramm 111]

Being a bi male, who for years had to hide the fact that I actually like sucking other guys and the taste of cum, I can tell you that more and more men are finally feeling able to express their feelings and beyond. I think there are more men than anyone knows about that have bi-tendencies than anyone is aware of. I for one like the fact that bi-men of all types are finally reaching acceptance in the mainstream. For as long as I can recall bi women have been widely accepted, which I am cool with, but now we men finally can feel free to enjoy ALL facets of the sexual world without ridicule or fear. Just my take on things.

[gsu22 187]

I think there has always been A LOT of bi men who, for one reason or another, have been uncomfortable or afraid to come out bi. As a man who enjoys having sex with both men and women, I think it's great more are identifying as bisexual and a sign the times are changing. I was tentative when I first started bi activities and now most know I'm fully bi, which makes me feel great. I even had a friend come up to me and tell me he's bi and now feels comfortable telling people....big smile from me followed.

[Numex 2,412]

This describes me. Years ago I would never do anything with a guy, but that's changed, now I'll do both oral and anal with a guy, both giving and receiving, but just with two guys i know. It's for a couple of reasons, mostly being that the longer you do group sex with the girls with other guys around, you just become more comfortable with touching a guy. First just accidentally and casually, but then you might help a guy like get in a pussy, then you do it together. The other thing is the longer a couple is doing swinging, the more chance there is to find a other guy your comfortable with, and the more likely the girls are to have the guys do something together. It's really still just a very small part of our sex with other couples though, and only in very select circumstances.

[herpob 563]

This describes me. Years ago I would never do anything with a guy, but that's changed, now I'll do both oral and anal with a guy, both giving and receiving, but just with two guys I know. It's for a couple of reasons, mostly being that the longer you do group sex with the girls with other guys around, you just become more comfortable with touching a guy. First just accidentally and casually, but then you might help a guy like get in a pussy, then you do it together. The other thing is the longer a couple is doing swinging, the more chance there is to find a other guy your comfortable with, and the more likely the girls are to have the guys do something together. It's really still just a very small part of our sex with other couples though, and only in very select circumstances.

 

Your path is the path I a hoping we will travel eventually. Thanks for sharing. I read it to my husband, it made a lot of sense to him and I can tell he was more comfortable when our role play got to the bi sex portion. Also I added a few steps in there like him helping me put the other guy in me, taking it out, etc. Again thanks.

[Numex 2,412]

Your path is the path I a hoping we will travel eventually. Thanks for sharing. I read it to my husband, it made a lot of sense to him and I can tell he was more comfortable when our role play got to the bi sex portion. Also I added a few steps in there like him helping me put the other guy in me, taking it out, etc. Again thanks.

 

You're welcome, I'm glad that this can help anyone, these are just my experiences.

 

It made it a lot more comfortable for me to have the women involved when i first started any interaction with a guy, I can tell you that. After you do it once or twice it becomes comfortable and good satisfying sex.

 

I think you are the wife that wrote this, so my suggestion to you is to help your husband get ready but once only after he has a guy in mind he can see himself doing anything with. Then when it's just the two of you, you can fantasize together about the guy while you do it to him like sucking his dick, him doing anal on you, or you doing anal on him using a dildo. I didn't start this way, but my wife would sometimes fantasize like that after i did it a couple of times with her bi FB, and it made it good for both of us. Still, the best is when there's a woman part of it, like a guy and a wife sucking a dick together, or when one of us is fucking the other guys wife, the husband does the guy anal.

[Numex 2,412]

Some other thoughts came into my head about this. I hope I'm not writing too much. First, why is it so easy and expected for women to have sex with other women, but hard for guys to just get it off with another guy? With women, it's almost natural to hug and kiss each other, finger fucking and eating out is a small step. It's guys that have the reputation for being willing to just get it off without thinking. Don't know. Another thing is that a guy having sex with another guy helps him understand and get closer to his woman because he learns what it's like (both the good and bad) about having someone cum in your mouth or going at it in your ass. You learn both consideration and appreciation. Also, the rule should be to don't do anything if your not comfortable, but on the other hand don't be afraid to try something new. You need a little slow courage.

[JandKinBoise 858]

I used to lunch with a bisexual lady who was very open about sex. I was stuffed in the corner of the closet, under blankets of homophobia at the time. I asked her one time her opinion on why society is so much more accepting of bi women than bi men. Without hesitating she said penetration, smell and sweat. I think that was more her feelings than general society's but it did make me think. When we visualize 2 women making love, it seems to be almost artistic. I have sat back and watched my wife make love to another woman. I have had sex with guys alone and with her. The difference is like the difference between a museum hosting an erotic art show, and an adult book store back room. This could be one of the myriad reasons for sex between men remaining taboo for so long. Now, with the internet streaming whatever you want to see, we have seen it all. Sex between men is still a pretty graphic visualization, but we are kinda numb to visualization these days. So now we can crawl out and enjoy what the ladies have always enjoyed. That plus there was a time when there was an actual danger to one's health to admit these things. Now with all the lawyers and new rules about punching, it's safer.

[herpob 563]

You're welcome, I'm glad that this can help anyone, these are just my experiences.

 

It made it a lot more comfortable for me to have the women involved when i first started any interaction with a guy, i can tell you that. After you do it once or twice it becomes comfortable and good satisfying sex.

 

I think you are the wife that wrote this, so my suggestion to you is to help your husband get ready but once only after he has a guy in mind he can see himself doing anything with. Then when it's just the two of you, you can fantasize together about the guy while you do it to him like sucking his dick, him doing anal on you, or you doing anal on him using a dildo. I didn't start this way, but my wife would sometimes fantasize like that after i did it a couple of times with her bi FB, and it made it good for both of us. Still, the best is when there's a woman part of it, like a guy and a wife sucking a dick together, or when one of us is fucking the other guys wife, the husband does the guy anal.

 

We are definitely going slow and for certain I have figured out that with another wife as eager as I am encouraging him, it will most likely happen. I know it will take time, a lot of time to find the right couple/s and set the right setting. I am being patient though I still find it hard to control once we are in the heat of the moment & talking sex. I have gone overboard a few times and delayed our moment but it also helped me to discover what works and what does not. It is amazing how much it turns me on. Thanks for your input.

 

Also on topic for this thread, have you noticed more bi men over the years, or more men relaxing and coming out? From what I am reading, I see more men as they are getting older coming out as bi, before they were not interested. What is your insight?

[Numex 2,412]

Also on topic for this thread, have you noticed more bi men over the years, or more men relaxing and coming out? From what I am reading, I see more men as they are getting older coming out as bi, before they were not interested. What is your insight?

 

My opinion is that it is many things, but I don't think it is coming out, like a long repressed thing, it's something new that just develops. The longer a guy is having group sex, even just fucking his own wife with other guys around, the more comfortable it becomes. Plus, over time you find a guy that doesn't give you that 'turn-off' feel of another guy, I just realized that is especially true if he's been fucking your wife. Both guys I can have sex with, we fucked each others wives and really liked it way before we started doing things with each other. It can take years though, so that's why bi guys are older. But I don't really consider myself bi because guys in general don't turn me on, it comes down to me liking sex with two guys where we're doing each others wives.

[Tia Vampire 167]

I've also noticed that more bi guys are becoming more open about there sexual preferences. Now that I'm into pegging, love that there are more men coming forward.

[herpob 563]

My opinion is that it is many things, but i don't think it is coming out, like a long repressed thing, it’s something new that just develops. The longer a guy is having group sex, even just fucking his own wife with other guys around, the more comfortable it becomes. Plus, over time you find a guy that doesn't give you that 'turn-off' feel of another guy, i just realized that is especially true if he's been fucking your wife. Both guys i can have sex with, we fucked each other’s wives and really liked it way before we started doing things with each other. It can take years though, so that's why bi guys are older. But i don't really consider myself bi because guys in general don't turn me on, it comes down to me liking sex with two guys where we're doing each other’s wives.

 

I was at a sports bar with my sister over the holiday picking up some wings and overheard two couples talking about this every subject – couple swapping and how comfortable they all were around one another. When I heard one of the wives say how homophobic her husband was at first and how amazing it is that he now helps the other man put it in got me randied up. I sat down near them and when my sister came back from the restroom I turned red as a beet. They were talking about sucking penises together and how it was no big deal kissing back and forth after all the swapping and such. I wanted to ask them sooooooo many questions. My sister knew it and was vehemently shaking her head, pleading with her eyes for me not to speak up. Anyway it appeared they had been swapping among themselves for years and it possible took a few years for everyone to totally get comfortable with one another, especially the men. But it sounded as though they were all very comfortable now. And I mean VERY comfortable.

 

Too bad I was an out of towner.

[confused12524 201]

I've talked about this for years. I believe personally, without a doubt, that most men have a degree of bisexuality. We only look for bi guys and any site we have ever been on we get flooded with emails where the profile says straight, but the email says different. Most all of my friends growing up and even now, if the subject of bi comes up and I mention that I am...They become interested and start beating around the bush.

 

Most guys do not list themselves as bi because they believe it will ruin opportunity for play with straight couples. It makes sense. Quite a few couples do have "NO BI MEN" right in their profiles. Since being bi, for many like myself, is just being flexible and not a must...They figure it is better to list as straight so they don't scare off those not wanting bi play, and then just explain to the ones that are.