Wife is obsessed by gangbangs

[victoria'dreams 141]

The title might be funny to some of you cause my first post here was called "Obsessed to see my wife fucked by man or men!"

 

This was a couple of years ago we had no experiences at the time. Today we have we had a lot of all great threesomes (both mmf & ffm) and one foursome with a couple.

 

I opened up the box of fantasies of my wife as she was ashamed of having dirty hardcore ones... Now she feels comfortable about it and loves the dream made real.

 

Her first mmf was so good she had some kind of revelation. Time has passed and she now would like to go deeper in what she really wants and that I organize some gangang(s) for her. Btw I always participate and the idea turns me on a lot. My only worry is it seems she thinks about it all the time now! She also watch a lot of gangbang porn, with me or when she's alone. Last time she told me "I am so afraid you change your mind about doing that".

 

She had that fantasy since years and years. She is so happy and turned on to finally be able to make it true.

 

Do you think it could remove some attraction she has for me by doing such things? It is dangerous for our couple? Everything seems to go so well am I risking something here?

 

So far our sex together only got more intense after I started to share her in threesomes and we love each other deeply. You know the sentence "be careful what you wish for"? Well, I always wanted her to free herself, will I regret that?

 

Just to clarify, she never had a gangbang yet.

 

Thank you for your thoughts.

[Lionheart72 2,190]

As you know, my wife has had a few gangbangs and enjoyed them a lot. At the end of the night, no matter how many guys she's fucked, she always comes home with me. Because I'm the guy she married. I'm the guy she loves.

 

I think you need to identify the source of your insecurities and admit them to her. At the same time, you need to listen to her and respect her feelings and desires. The greatest risk I see to your relationship is your own insecurity. You wanted your wife to "free herself." I say let her be free. You are the guy she will go home with at the end of night. Because you are the guy she married. You are the guy she loves.

[victoria'dreams 141]

Good for you my friend. Being secure has never been the only solution for strong relationship for some doubt is sometimes a powerful tool to re-evaluate your relationship from time to time. Not because the love is gone, not because there is a lack of communication in the couple but just because you want your relationship to keep being as great as it is.

If every of our moves because they are thoughtful would be always right, than no mistake would ever be made. Ask people the day of their wedding and they are secure they will be together forever.

 

I don't think the greatest risk in our relationship is insecurity. I believe the source is a gang bang don't you ever desire something but because you never tried it you can have a bit of anxiety?

[Lionheart72 2,190]

I don't think the greatest risk in our relationship is insecurity. I believe the source is a gang bang

 

Why?

 

What danger do you foresee? That she will like someone else better? Someone or some group will be a better fuck than you? That after she's experienced this, she won't want you any more? That's all insecurity.

[couplers 4,658]

From my perspective, it would seem the more guys your wife is fucking, the less each one of them means to her in any way other than sex. Think about it, if your wife is having sex only with one guy she will get to know him, they can perfect their routine, they have an opportunity to perhaps, maybe, develop some sort of relationship. (Not that there is anything wrong with relationships; some people, like my husband, are fine with it.) But if she is fucking multiple guys, they are nothing but sexual objects to her (and to you). She may have get tremendous pleasure from it, as you should hope, but in the end they mean nothing. You, however, are the one to indulge her fantasy and the one she will love.

[victoria'dreams 141]

From my perspective, it would seem the more guys your wife is fucking, the less each one of them means to her in any way other than sex. Think about it, if your wife is having sex only with one guy she will get to know him, they can perfect their routine, they have an opportunity to perhaps, maybe, develop some sort of relationship. (Not that there is anything wrong with relationships; some people, like my husband, are fine with it.) But if she is fucking multiple guys, they are nothing but sexual objects to her (and to you). She may have get tremendous pleasure from it, as you should hope, but in the end they mean nothing. You, however, are the one to indulge her fantasy and the one she will love.

 

This is very true and very well said. Thank you for this post. You are right and the more men fucking her at the same time the less jealousy I get. Emotions would be the only big thing I'd not like her to have with someone. So far I saw her having sex with other men and I've never got jealous I was really turned on and enjoying. I also always wish the guy is great in bed and she has the most pleasure. On the one on one sex I've never have felt challenged or insecure. Not because I think I'm a great lover but because our sex is always better and the pleasure she gets from someone else is always adding excitement to our couple in a positive way. She also is very touched I offer that to her.

 

I could see from the day I've met her. She had ex-boyfriends that weren't much into sex, or very jealous and she only could reach orgasm masturbating. After we met and years together the sex got better and better each day to an awesome level. She is very different sexually and much more free. Since we started having sex experiences she transformed to an even much more sexual person. Not only she enjoys the sex with others but our sex got better at even faster and greater rate the more we had these experiences. So it is till now only positive.

 

The big difference as she has sex with a group is that a group has an effect no single guy can have. Specially cause just the word gangbang makes her so excited. it is something that drives her crazy horny. If we have sex and do some dirty talk about it she gets orgasm in the next second. I've never have seen her like that before.

 

If insecurity it is (I've to find some if not Lionheart72 will have a bad day ) it is that you can't really compete or compare yourself with a group (she wants 5-6 men). My feeling is that she will get so much pleasure and fun when we will do it that me as 'one guy' might not be able ever to make her go that high. She will love me, I'll be always the one and we are truly connected and we talk a lot, I am not afraid of loosing that. But will it be still hot for her to have sex with one guy only (me) compared to the super fun she will get making her dream fantasy true with a group of men? will she only think about the next gangbang she gets when she has sex with me? that what is in my head.

 

I must clarify again I'm not doing that only for her, I want to do it and it turns me on a lot too. It's just something we never did. Is there a limit you shall make to stop yourself or going up through your fantasies together could only be good?

[Lionheart72 2,190]

Just because I enjoy going out to a buffet, it doesn't mean I don't enjoy a good home cooked meal.

 

Group sex can be intense and enjoyable, but in my experience it is a completely different thing from sex with an individual. Not better, not worse, just different.

[Guest]

Exactly. Take me to the buffet when I am really starved, give me that romantic, candlelight, elegant dinner when you want to make me hungry for you.

[victoria'dreams 141]

=Group sex can be intense and enjoyable, but in my experience it is a completely different thing from sex with an individual. Not better, not worse, just different.

 

that's definitely the way I shall see that. From her point of view she's saying it will not change anything and I shouldn't worry.

[bbarnsworth 2,644]

I wouldn't worry (if you are) about her being obsessed about the idea of a gang bang. It's a fantasy she wants to live, and that's wonderful. If she does get to have one or more gang bangs, some of the edge of the fantasy may come off of it. Certainly after having a dozen or more, it will become a lot less fantasy and a lot more reality. This would most likely result in her being less obsessed about it. Not wanting it less necessarily, but less obsessed.

 

Let us know how things progress (or not!).

[cplnuswing 4,713]

So far I saw her having sex with other men and I've never got jealous I was really turned on and enjoying. I also always wish the guy is great in bed and she has the most pleasure. On the one on one sex I've never have felt challenged or insecure. Not because I think I'm a great lover but because our sex is always better and the pleasure she gets from someone else is always adding excitement to our couple in a positive way. She also is very touched I offer that to her.

 

I don't see any reason why this would be any different with a gangbang. You may feel a little more disconnected since more people are involved that a threesome or foursome, but if you are in sync with her to where seeing her happy makes you happy, then I don't see where a gangbang should be any different than any other swinging scenario.

[CB&DD 218]

Can't really add anything that hasn't already been said. DD is also interested in trying a GB, we make the joke that they are "stunt penises" or is that peni? Lol. There is no emotional attachment there, just extra penises to help her fulfill what she wants to try. This is swinging and is supposed to be fun, try not over think it and accidentally ruin the fun. Not trying to down play your concerns, just stating what we think of it.. Hope that helps you some.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

. . . or is that peni? Lol.

The ancient Roman did not use a word penis. It is Medieval Latin, used by priests. The plural form of penis is penis.

[CB&DD 218]

The ancient Roman did not use a word penis. It is Medieval Latin, used by priests. The plural form of penis is penis.

 

I learned something new today. Thank you.

[adamgunn 1,460]

Merriam-Webster has the plural as penises or penes

[luvin eye full 140]

Hey

 

Man your fine in this one - i'd worry if she only wanted to do one guy all the time or something like that just as siad above posting )

so set it up make sure you have a word or gesture to back out if needed by you or her - who knows she may find it's not as great as her desire has lead her to believe ( or maybe it will lol )

 

More to the point is will there be any pics lol.

[3waypleasure 58]

We started swinging because my wife was obsessed with the thought of being taken by multiple men. I put together a birthday surprise for her, and me and 4 other guys fucked and DP her for about 5 hours straight. After that she was a different woman, her sex drive went through the roof. She was hooked

 

Us swinging with couples started out as mainly to give me a chance to get some new pussy, since she loves to be gangbanged frequently. I like it better than MFM, since there isn't much personal interaction between her and the guys. She don't even know their names most of the time. Gangbangs are her main motivation to be in in the lifestyle.