Need advice on searching for other Bi couples

[dannoci 15]

Is there any info on meeting bisexual couples? I just started thinking about trying it myself. My wife is Bi, it seems easier and more acceptable for woman than men.

[JandKinBoise 859]

As a bi male with a straight woman, I can safely say there are more bi men than you read about on profiles. Less accepted means less out. We have been contacted by many men thru SLS who list themselves as straight, but after an e-mail or 2, the truth starts to come out. My advise is to advertise very specifically and very honestly. As with meeting anyone, the more specific your desire, the fewer candidates. It's easier for a couple to find a single man than a couple. Fewer dynamics to deal with. Add getting 4 married bisexuals in a room and the odds of compatibility are even less. Just based on the math. I wish you luck in your search. Please prepare yourself for a lot of frustration. In my opinion, the search is worth the hassle.

 

Oh, and welcome to the Swingers Board!

[sunbuckus 3,569]

Welcome, dannoci! JandK and yourself are correct...there does seem to be a double standard when it comes to bisexuality. However, as it was mentioned, once you sign up for swinger ad sites like SLS, and you list yourself as a bi-male, you may have messages from "straight" males who don't want the stigma of being a bisexual male. If you would like, we have a whole section just for Bisexuality and Swinging that you may find interesting.

[danjan 33]

There is definitely a double standard at play. My wife and I are both bisexual. By being open and honest about it to each other it has become easier to be more open about it in general. I think that there are more bisexuals out there that are unwilling to admit it. When even the gays and lesbians look down on bisexuals, it is easy to see why most are unwilling to admit the truth. On the bright side, for people like us the possibilities are endless!

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Welcome to the Swingers Board!

 

There is a definite double standard on this subject. Still a long ways to go, but I think it is fading a bit and bi males are becoming more accepted. Notice I didn't say more common there because I doubt that has changed a bit, it's just more are willing to be more out about it.

 

As someone above mentioned, my advice would be to be honest in advertising what you are looking for. If the bi play is an important aspect, then just make that known. If it is something very situational with just the right person or something a distant second to wanting to play with a female, then don't emphasize it as much. Just speaking personally, we're both straight and someone, male or female, saying bi wouldn't scare us off as long as the advertised bi-curious doesn't turn out to be bi-furious in practice where it is being pushed even though we were clear up front we weren't interested in that.

[herpob 573]

There is definitely a double standard at play. My wife and I are both bisexual. By being open and honest about it to each other it has become easier to be more open about it in general. I think that there are more bisexuals out there that are unwilling to admit it. When even the gays and lesbians look down on bisexuals, it is easy to see why most are unwilling to admit the truth. On the bright side, for people like us the possibilities are endless!

 

I hope this is not directing this forum down the wrong path, if so please redirect, but why on earth would the gay & lesbian community have a problem with bisexuals? Freedom of choice is freedom of choice and of all people those groups should be all for freedom of choice.

 

Anyway getting to know compatible bi couples has proven very tough for me. I am the front runner for this in our relationship and finding the perfect compatible couple is a long road. One I am willing to take to make it happen. I do not want to waste anyone’s time with the long slow methodical road I am taking so I let them know up front. I want to build a relationship via online, meet eventually, build the relationship more introducing my husband finally, and then move forward. If I am not 100% certain of the friendship, I certainly am not moving into a sexual relationship. Personally I believe it is all about a good strong friendship were everyone knows up front the sexual goals and expectations that could possibly (maybe not, but possibly) happen.

[bigdrew691973 15]

You found us were a bi couple and it always seems so hard to find another bi couple! so I say where are all the bi couples?

[herpob 573]

You found us were a bi couple and it always seems so hard to find another bi couple! so I say where are all the bi couples?

 

Very difficult to find, then meet, then click, then get to know one another well, build trust, workout the details, then have sex that meets everyone's expectations (or at least some). I have even offered a lot of give to get and still no success. I am not bi per se but am willing to do things with another wife to help further my own desires. I guess perhaps not enough people willing to go the extra extra mile???

[JandKinBoise 859]

herpob...The problem the gay and lesbian community has with bisexuality is the same problem the straight community has. 'He is in denial', 'he is gay', 'he will cheat'. Sex is black and white for many people, no matter their orientation. And it's not really the 'community', rather some vocal closed-minded folks in the community.

[Guycurious 39]

Bi husband here with a bi comfortable wife meaning she will go w/ the flow if the other woman initiates but my wife does not pursue other woman, much to my dismay

 

We have played w/ a few bi couples and for me it's the best! There's nothing like eight hands moving freely about the hot tub. But trying to find a bi couple is difficult.

[herpob 573]

Bi husband here with a bi comfortable wife meaning she will go w/ the flow if the other woman initiates but my wife does not pursue other woman, much to my dismay

 

We have played w/ a few bi couples and for me it's the best! There's nothing like eight hands moving freely about the hot tub. But trying to find a bi couple is difficult.

 

Your wife sounds exactly like me. I am not into females but I will do whatever happens. I've eaten pussy, ground together, breast rubbed, and of course been eaten, even toyed. I can get into strap-on when done right. 69 is pretty fun but again, I like the men, their tool, their bodies, hence why I love male bi sex. I love to share penis with them and assist with anal. I love to spread'em and guide it in. I also love feeding cum, sharing it, and playing with it with them.

 

Does your wife get into bi male sex as well? How much does she participate or comment? I love to comment, soooo hot! Best masturbation EVER!!!

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[Guycurious 39]

Your wife sounds exactly like me. I am not into females but I will do whatever happens. I've eaten pussy, ground together, breast rubbed, and of course been eaten, even toyed. I can get into strap-on when done right. 69 is pretty fun but again, I like the men, their tool, their bodies, hence why I love male bi sex. I love to share penis with them and assist with anal. I love to spread'em and guide it in. I also love feeding cum, sharing it, and playing with it with them.

 

Does your wife get into bi male sex as well? How much does she participate or comment? I love to comment, soooo hot! Best masturbation EVER!!!

 

Morning,

 

She does sorta' get involved but not to the level I wish. I would love for her to be more verbal, suggestive, demanding, dominating, etc. She has a more passive, conservative personality so just getting her to the point of visiting our first lifestyle club took YEARS of suggestive comments.

 

For a while now we have been searching for a unicorn, a bi guy that is interested in an ongoing FWB relationship. While we have met and entertained a few guys we have met via Craigslist none of them have worked out long term so the search continues.

 

I didn't face my repressed bisexuality until I was married and had kids. Coming out to my wife was terrifying but our sex life is much better since doing so. I hold out hope that someday my wife will embrace a more open view on sexuality and take an active interest in exploring other avenues. She says she has a difficult time separating sex and intimacy whereas I view sex as an act between or more people that makes everyone feel good. Intimacy is something only she and I share.

[kikonkrome 844]

In the Chicagoland area we have a pretty successful all bi party that is held once and month and is open to single males. One of the interesting things was the aggressive women that we have met there. They are not so much into other women as they are into men. I personally found it fascinating and really exciting it is a major turn on.

[Guycurious 39]

In the Chicagoland area we have a pretty successful all bi party that is held once and month and is open to single males. One of the interesting things was the aggressive women that we have met there. They are not so much into other women as they are into men. I personally found it fascinating and really exciting it is a major turn on.

 

My wife and I have attended a bi oriented party a few times that is held at a place in country club hills. Is this the party you are referring to?

[kikonkrome 844]

My wife and I have attended a bi oriented party a few times that is held at a place in country club hills. Is this the party you are referring to?

 

Bam! there you go. We have friends that have worked out a FWB situation from that party.

[Guycurious 39]

Bam! there you go. We have friends that have worked out a FWB situation from that party.

 

T & K put on a great party. We came home from the Halloween party smiling and exhausted.

[herpob 573]

T & K put on a great party. We came home from the Halloween party smiling and exhausted.

 

You wife did as well? Do tell...

[kikonkrome 844]

You wife did as well? Do tell...

It's only polite to kiss and tell with the people that were there...:kiss:

[Guycurious 39]

It's only polite to kiss and tell with the people that were there...:kiss:

 

We had attended the previous month's party and ended up on a bed next to another couple. Well, one thing lead to another and the four of us hit it off. We exchanged numbers and made plans to meet again.

 

The next party was for Halloween. Both women were sporting strap-ons with their costumes After a few drinks we headed upstairs and proceeded to wreck the bed. The other female and myself dp'd her boyfriend at one point. My wife used her toy on me, we swapped blowjobs, multiple orgams, etc. It was an AWESOME night.

 

I have a pic of both women posing with their "equipment" in hand The four of us had quite an audience at one point.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

I openly present myself as bi, so the partnered bi males who are not 'out' will tell me fairly quickly. Its also fairly easy to see how comfortable another man is with getting naked with me in the same bed & seeing me have sex with his significant other.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

Might try advertising twice. As bi and as straight.

[padoc 1,704]

"considering no one in the lifestyle should be judged, in our opinion". Oh come on! EVERYBODY judges in some form or another. She's too fat, he can't get hard, he's not tall enough, she smokes, he wants to suck dicks. We all make judgements as to who and how we want to play. You want to play with another guy or have another guy play with you, put it out there (no pun intended). You'll likely get judged as an unacceptable playmate way more often than not but you run less of a risk of getting punched in the nose by being honest than by grabbing some guys johnson in a pool.

[Jane1902 476]

I tend not to trust someone when I see two profiles for the same person/couple.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

I tend not to trust someone when I see two profiles for the same person/couple.

 

Point. Still I see it a lot. Usually a profile as a single for one or both partners, and as a couple. Have seen one where the couple had a profile for their summer and winter residence. I suspect there are a lot more than you'd think with two or more profiles. A lady friend who has a very good memory catches details that match. She thinks they are pic collectors or chatters never actually will meet her. This should probably be in a separate discussion. Maybe there is one already.