Evolved to Bi-sexual, what was the tipping point?

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Some people, male and female, know from Day 1 they have an interest in Bi, while others seem to slowly evolve that direction, while for others zero interest remains zero forever. For those that did develop an interest, or even a curiosity, what was the tipping point when that started to happen? Being around others with those interest? Becoming comfortable with being more sexually open in general? or ?

[Sensualbicouple 122]

What the tipping point was for me, was being more open minded and within the company of like-minded individuals who didn't necessarily glamorize or trivialize their own bisexuality. When I was able to look at myself involved in an activity that was consensual as well as mutually satisfying, I was able to stop enforcing my own limitations because of the unknown factor. Sometimes you have to just jump in, knowing at the very least your feet will get wet.

 

For hubby, and I'm only speaking on his behalf but without knowing the exact moment he was able to pinpoint it with absolute certainty, was when a certain male of a couple we were speaking to, began to speak with him in depth about his own journey of discovery into bisexualism. The conversation wasn't obscene and raw to the core, but rather a true and honest declaration of why it's OK to accept who you are and though you may have feelings of fear or trepidation, nevertheless, remain true to thy self. The discussions hubby had whet the appetite and though he was at first fearful of my reaction to his bisexualism, in time, we were able to discuss it responsibly and embrace his emerging interest in the same sex. We have never looked back since. :-)

[msgemily 30]

Friends made me Tip. When the gals changed in front of me and I realized I was gawking

[gsu22 187]

In college, I developed a bi curiosity in my frat. Lots of partying, drunk nights, etc with a lot of horny 18-22 year olds. Seeing in shape, smooth young jocks wrestle around, play sports, etc started giving me a hard-on...

 

Great times were had when I met another curious guy drinking one night. That soon turned into daily jerk off/blow job sessions. Young, dumb and full of cum.

[herpob 563]

Some people, male and female, know from Day 1 they have an interest in Bi, while others seem to slowly evolve that direction, while for others zero interest remains zero forever. For those that did develop an interest, or even a curiosity, what was the tipping point when that started to happen? Being around others with those interest? Becoming comfortable with being more sexually open in general? or ?

 

For me with regards to women – I have always found our bodies sexy even though I never desire them. I merely always went with the flow of what was happening. I still have no desires for women but would yet again have no problem if things headed in that direction during a get-together. How it first happened? My boyfriend and another couple asked if I'd join them in a foursome. I had been around group sex on the sorority hall before so it was nothing new to me. I loved to watch and masturbate. Since am not a jealous person I was perfectly fine with my bf having sex while I watched. It was hot, the two guys did a wonderful job with the girl. It was clear to see how wonderful they were making her feel. When they were done they turned their attention to me, all of them. All those hands, everywhere, honestly who could resist. It was sweet, tender, caring. It all just sort of happened.

 

Then I begin to watch porn with my sorority sisters and they watched everything. Iiiiiick, EVERYthing! But some of it was hot, especially couples sex with bi couples, mainly bi males. It did something to me. Some of the girls noticed and told me I could join them with their boyfriends anytime, that they were bi. I watched it for the first time and masturbated so hard, so many times I nearly passed out. This went on for years throughout school. I saw girls doing things to guys I never would have imagined, and then guys doing it, I was hooked.

 

So I would clearly say that being around it influenced me without a doubt. The first time I saw a penis in a guy’s mouth I was hooked. I always imagine being with there sharing it with him. The first time I saw a guy take one anally, I was hooked. I envision myself helping spreading, guiding, feeling it take place. To this day those visuals are my most powerful masturbatory aids, better than any toy.

[SwingSetHusband 110]

For me it was actually kind of weird. Although, I have not yet to be with a guy, I'm more than ever wanting to. I can remember watching s movie called Harsh Time starring Christian Bale and for some reason it was something about him that I could not figure out. Well last summer I came across a blog written by a married guy who bi and so was his wife. Well, to make a long story short he explained a lot and I put the thing about what I was feeling about Christian Bale and what I was reading together. From that point I started watching more and more bi/gay porn. Plus this was something that my wife would have never thought of about me, but I've told her and it's exciting being able to talk about things I would have never talked about before.

[Lascivious L&L 866]

I'd actually sucked cock with my first wife, yet it hadn't seemed the tipping point. That came with my second wife swinging with another couple. They were mainly oral as we weren't allowed to penetrate them. We were all sitting on a couch. His wife started sucking me as I sat and he stood up so my wife could suck him. I was right next to her, watching intently. My wife made a point of showing me what she was doing, and then gently offered his cock to me. I took it in my mouth and experienced an aha moment. It felt different than it had before, more sexual than ever, very sexually energetic. Because his wife was very good at sucking, I followed her lead and sucked him as she sucked me. We became linked in a way I hadn't experienced, sexually, spiritually linked. My wife's eyes were wide watching. It was as if we were a threesome, his wife, he, and me, in a sexually profound and spiritual way. Not religious spiritual, but physically-spiritually linked. I bonded with her as I was doing to him what she was doing to me. It was a totally in body experience. When he reached that edge I could sense it...I was there also. When he spurted I spurted. It was as if his cum flowed through me, became my cum, and on into her. He and I came as one with her totally linked. I was high without any drugs, as high as I've ever experienced.

 

It totally changed my feeling toward men, realizing the sexuality of men, of sucking men, of doing anything sexual with a man. I can kiss a man where before it was difficult. I love the sexual energy of sucking, gets me high with sexual energy. I can appreciate women in a new way since I have a new perspective of sexuality that includes males. Female sexuality, male sexuality, different, similar, linked. I am so happy I experienced this half of potential sexuality. And my wife loves it. I think she may have had an orgasm just watching us.

[gsu22 187]

I'm about energy too. Feeling another man climax gives me a sexual high/feeling that's hard to describe. Sharing my masculinity is a great feeling and in some ways makes me feel more like a man because we're two men being one. Whether I'm pleasuring a man with my mouth, feeling the cum hit the back of my throat along with his intense groans or feeling his penetration while he's balls deep along with that slapping sound, I've gained much respect for bisexual activity over the last ten years through many fun experiences. The physicalness of guy on guy sex is hard to beat.

[couplers 4,638]

This is Petra. I opened up to women after I started to let my husband screw other girls. I found that I liked him smelling like other pussy, and especially sucking his dick as fresh as possible out of another girl's vag. Then moved on to licking his cum out of a girl's pussy.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

I had a girlfriend who put a finger in my ass while she sucked on my cock. I was surprised and it felt great! She loved my reaction and started using vibrators and dildos. I let her play. She was experimenting to see how far she could go. It was her fantasy to watch me having sex with another man. Her fingers and the dildos felt good and I'll admit that I did have fantasies about having a real cock in my ass but I couldn't imagine having sex with another man for real.

[jackdav73 27]

Until six months ago, I never had any desire for sexual acts with a guy (I'm 41). The desire came gradually; first I joined a threesome dating site and decided to request an MFM. I listed my preference as straight with the reluctant acceptance that there would be some physical M To M contact. I was ok with some contact with the guy, but still had no desire for anything more. Then I became more and more interested over about a 3 month period; I changed my sexual preference on the site from straight to bicurious.

 

The last week or two I've gone from wondering if I would like to have a same-sex experience to actually wanting it so much I'm turned on every time I go the website. I'm pretty much outright bisexual now; I now only want MMF's where the guy is at least bicurious. Can't explain this transformation logically, but it's happened.

 

I'm now trying to hook up with a bisexual couple and I told them I'm willing to do oral and maybe more with the guy. I would never have dreamed I would ever have these desires. (Although I only have this desire as part of a threesome; I'm not yet ready for 1 on 1 M to M). I have a feeling, though, that I will eventually want to do that after a few MMF's.

[gsu22 187]

Until six months ago, I never had any desire for sexual acts with a guy (I'm 41). The desire came gradually; first I joined a threesome dating site and decided to request an MFM. I listed my preference as straight with the reluctant acceptance that there would be some physical M To M contact. I was ok with some contact with the guy, but still had no desire for anything more. Then I became more and more interested over about a 3 month period; I changed my sexual preference on the site from straight to bicurious.

 

The last week or two I've gone from wondering if I would like to have a same-sex experience to actually wanting it so much I'm turned on every time I go the website. I'm pretty much outright bisexual now; I now only want MMF's where the guy is at least bicurious. Can't explain this transformation logically, but it's happened.

 

I'm now trying to hook up with a bisexual couple and I told them I'm willing to do oral and maybe more with the guy. I would never have dreamed I would ever have these desires. (Although I only have this desire as part of a threesome; I'm not yet ready for 1 on 1 M to M). I have a feeling, though, that I will eventually want to do that after a few MMF's.

 

What a great story. I felt the same way about one on one initially and once I had multiple MMF threesomes, I took the plunge with another bi guy and it was well worth it. You'll love it I bet.

 

I'm actually in a relationship now with a bi guy. Men wise, we only have sex with one another and if a woman ever interests us, we either will attempt a threesome if she wants or if not, he's welcome to play with her on his own. And I'm perfectly happy right now with just a man. It's kinda surreal and fun. I feel free and completely different from the curious guy I was 11 years ago.

[jackdav73 27]

What a great story. I felt the same way about one on one initially and once i had multiple MMF 3sums, I took the plunge with another bi guy and it was well worth it. You'll love it I bet.

 

 

I definitely believe you. I may just look for a single male within a month or so , finding a MMF is more difficult than I thought. I think I'm close to ready for it. Yesterday afternoon, I met a great looking guy and I thought about how hot he was all night. My fantasy involved him and me in bed, with no woman present.

[gsu22 187]

I haven't had sex w/a woman in months and while I have cravings for pussy and a mmf, I'm perfectly happy with just dick right now. It's great getting laid literally everyday

 

Late night showers or just watching football & we get horny or he just wants a blowjob.....the sex is constant.

[herpob 563]

For me it was actually kind of weird. Although, I have not yet to be with a guy, I'm more than ever wanting to. I can remember watching s movie called Harsh Time starring Christian Bale and for some reason it was something about him that I could not figure out. Well last summer I came across a blog written by a married guy who bi and so was his wife. Well, to make a long story short he explained a lot and I put the thing about what I was feeling about Christian Bale and what I was reading together. From that point I started watching more and more bi/gay porn. Plus this was something that my wife would have never thought of about me, but I've told her and it's exciting being able to talk about things I would have never talked about before.

 

What all did you tell your wife? What was her reaction to it all?

 

What all do you talk to her about now and what happen to each of you when you do?

[herpob 563]

I'd actually sucked cock with my first wife, yet it hadn't seemed the tipping point. That came with my second wife swinging with another couple. They were mainly oral as we weren't allowed to penetrate them. We were all sitting on a couch. His wife started sucking me as I sat and he stood up so my wife could suck him. I was right next to her, watching intently. My wife made a point of showing me what she was doing, and then gently offered his cock to me. I took it in my mouth and experienced an aha moment. It felt different than it had before, more sexual than ever, very sexually energetic. Because his wife was very good at sucking, I followed her lead and sucked him as she sucked me. We became linked in a way I hadn't experienced, sexually, spiritually linked. My wife's eyes were wide watching. It was as if we were a threesome, his wife, he, and me, in a sexually profound and spiritual way. Not religious spiritual, but physically-spiritually linked. I bonded with her as I was doing to him what she was doing to me. It was a totally in body experience. When he reached that edge I could sense it...I was there also. When he spurted I spurted. It was as if his cum flowed through me, became my cum, and on into her. He and I came as one with her totally linked. I was high without any drugs, as high as I've ever experienced.

 

It totally changed my feeling toward men, realizing the sexuality of men, of sucking men, of doing anything sexual with a man. I can kiss a man where before it was difficult. I love the sexual energy of sucking, gets me high with sexual energy. I can appreciate women in a new way since I have a new perspective of sexuality that includes males. Female sexuality, male sexuality, different, similar, linked. I am so happy I experienced this half of potential sexuality. And my wife loves it. I think she may have had an orgasm just watching us.

 

Did you ever ask your wife what made her offer his cock to you? Did you ever find out how it made her feel? And did it make her orgasm watching? Please find out. I am very curious.

[Lascivious L&L 866]

My wife always wanted me to suck cock. This was one of those times it just happened. Not orgasm, but it arouses her mightily. The orgasms cum from oral attention or a good fuck.

[Ebonylehigh 254]

I never had any sexual interactions with another female until we started swinging. At the beginning I had straight on my profile and never even thought of it, it took one beautiful politely aggressive woman to change that, she had heard I was never with another woman and said she would be my first and just please me no need to return the favor. But I went into this with an open mind and I am not the type to not please my partner so after she did me and asked want to try I was like ok. I did it and enjoyed thoroughly, changed my status to bi a few days later.

[Sensualbicouple 122]

Yes I too had my first bi experience with a beautiful politely aggressive woman. It was surreal and I still get tingles when I think about her and what we did to each other. :-)

[kikonkrome 844]

Frankly swinging and watching the women touching everybody, really put me over the edge.

 

I had never really been in a room with another hard cock before this. So after seeing a few that looked interesting it made me jump the edge and get experimental. I also really want to experience everything positive I could think of in life and and same sex acts is certainly one of them.

[herpob 563]

My wife made a point of showing me what she was doing, and then gently offered his cock to me. I took it in my mouth and experienced an aha moment. It felt different than it had before, more sexual than ever, very sexually energetic.

 

After many years of continuing encouragement on my part, our play has opened up to several couples we see regularly when traveling to the same venues. We have the best masturbation parties and occasionally more. My comment is with regards to the "more I mentioned" and your aha moment. My husband has had a few of those over the past many months. His first aha moment was when we all discovered he loves female encouragement. The more ladies present the better. The second is that he loves getting done in front on ladies, now he will even perform in front of us (with our without me) with no qualms and even with the husbands there jerking off to him. Third aha, he said that we ladies verbalizing what he is doing, how it makes us feel, and that we love that the men are jerking off to it, turns him on even more. Fourth aha, the man is now a cum slut. I guess it is okay to say that here. I have seen bukake movies on the sorority hall (always thought it was hot and even experienced it all over my body before - not face). Well this man can take it any where and everywhere! And I do mean EVERYwhere! And he LOVES it! Who knew???

 

Gotta love those aha moments!

[oc1234 435]

The tipping point came for me about 20 years ago. My best friend Bill and his then wife had introduced us to swinging about 10 years before that and it was initially mainly my wife playing with Bill. My wife and I had an occasional threesome with him and I would sometimes tentatively touch his balls. Nothing more happened between Bill and me until he and I started getting together and watching videos we had shot of us playing with my wife. At the time my wife was not able to take time off work so it was just Bill and me. It evolved into Bill and I lying in bed and jerking off while we watched the videos together.

 

One time I got really turned on and reached under the bed and grabbed my wife's vibrator. I started rubbing his dick with it. I could tell he was really enjoying it so after a few minutes I started playing with his dick and balls with my hands. I then took a chance and started licking and sucking them. That really turned him on and I could tell he was ready to cum. He warned he was going to cum but I continued until he came in my mouth. He then told me that he had actually played with a couple of boys when he was young.

 

From that day on Bill and I have always included male on male oral action when we have threesomes with my wife. In addition he and I often meet alone to play with each other. My wife knows about it and even encourages it. The thought of it does turn her on.

[afterwork 89]

The wife of the third couple that we first swung with started kissing Mrs Afterwork's nipples and they began to exchange those actions. As encounters increased Mrs Afterwork was the first to go down on the wife which became a 69 event. Eventually, the ladies would often keep things going while the guys recovered. Both enjoyed cream pies as yes,in those days, we were bareback.

 

During one group grope, the husbands succumbed the the ladies demands to take turns with the ladies sharing the other husband to gauge the apprehension factor. The fellows found no apprehension with one swallowing a load on the very first attempt, but it wasn't and remains not a desire. Rather more of a participation that seems to really turn on the wives and is comfortable for the husbands. The guys have also become very comfortable masturbating each other while watching the ladies share double headed dildo. Sometimes it results in ejaculation rather than "maintenance" to be ready for the ladies.

 

We have been with that same couple for decades and our practices remain the same. Guess we are bi-comfortable among the four of us for the fellows and the wives are very happily bi-comfortable with the other ladies during all swing situations. We seem to find that other couples seemingly are receptive to observing bi ladies, but we don't test the waters with bi males and thus far no other couples have broached the subject.

[herpob 563]

The wife of the third couple that we first swung with started kissing Mrs Afterwork's nipples and they began to exchange those actions. As encounters increased Mrs Afterwork was the first to go down on the wife which became a 69 event. Eventually, the ladies would often keep things going while the guys recovered. Both enjoyed cream pies as yes,in those days, we were bareback.

 

During one group grope, the husbands succumbed the the ladies demands to take turns with the ladies sharing the other husband to gauge the apprehension factor. The fellows found no apprehension with one swallowing a load on the very first attempt, but it wasn't and remains not a desire. Rather more of a participation that seems to really turn on the wives and is comfortable for the husbands. The guys have also become very comfortable masturbating each other while watching the ladies share double headed dildo. Sometimes it results in ejaculation rather than "maintenance" to be ready for the ladies.

 

We have been with that same couple for decades and our practices remain the same. Guess we are bi-comfortable among the four of us for the fellows and the wives are very happily bi-comfortable with the other ladies during all swing situations. We seem to find that other couples seemingly are receptive to observing bi ladies, but we don't test the waters with bi males and thus far no other couples have broached the subject.

 

 

I showed this: "but it wasn't and remains not a desire. Rather more of a participation that seems to really turn on the wives and is comfortable for the husbands. The guys have also become very comfortable masturbating each other while watching the ladies share double headed dildo. Sometimes it results in ejaculation rather than "maintenance" to be ready for the ladies," to my husband and he said THAT's ME! I am that GUY with the exception he doesnt let a guy masturbate him! .lol. great post - thx!

[JandKinBoise 858]

I think I was born with a hardon ready to fuck anything. Had I lived in a less conservative area, I would have been having bi experiences my whole life. As is, some playing in the woods with boys, barely sex really then nothing until I met my first actual gay man and started exploring. So the tipping point for me was the birth canal.