Singles: What are red flags you look for when meeting a couple?

[cplnuswing 4,713]

We often talk about red flags couples look for when searching for singles, but for those who have or are swinging single, what are some things you are watching for in couples that if you see them would scare you off?

[HappyCpl 89]

Excessive alcohol use by either or both of them when meeting for the first time. If they have to be smashed to meet up, then there's usually an underlying reason that I don't want to be around.

[Guest Ready2dewit]

Needing to booze it up is bad...and if you sense there is no real communication, or that they haven't really discussed things between themselves. The thing I watch out for most is when the husband is going along at about 90 miles and hour and the wife is only doing about 25, if you get my metaphor. If she seems timid or is trying to put the brakes on his enthusiasm that is usually a sign she is "going along to get along"

[limitless78 21]

Excessive drinking, jealousy, and lack of interest are the worst for me.

 

It has happened a few times, meeting a couple where you feel there is good chemistry between you and the wife only to find the husband is pushy and insists on her doing certain things that she doesn't seem that into. It kills it for everyone involved.

 

I'd much rather a woman do everything she wants than a single thing she doesn't, regardless of the husband's wishes. That applies to women who may not want to have a threesome at all to begin with. It's a disappointing ride home after that happens but the alternative is worse.

[Guest]

Needing to booze it up is bad...and if you sense there is no real communication, or that they haven't really discussed things between themselves. The thing I watch out for most is when the husband is going along at about 90 miles and hour and the wife is only doing about 25, if you get my metaphor. If she seems timid or is trying to put the brakes on his enthusiasm that is usually a sign she is "going along to get along"

 

What if its the reverse, the guy going at 25 and the lady moving it forward at 90 or maybe 65, or he is seemingly just going along, excuse the pun, for the ride so to speak.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

. . . or he is seemingly just going along, excuse the pun, for the ride so to speak.

We have, believe it or not, detected this more than once. It contradicts the common perception that it is always a guy pushing a woman into a situation.

[gsu22 187]

I had a couple contact me once...we established a few emails and then exchanged numbers. We played once and then when they tried contacting me again, I didn't return the call for three days because I was very busy w/work. Soon they were blowing up my phone like a psycho girlfriend: "hello"? "Why aren't you answering"? "WTF?'"

 

Red flag

[angelkin 1,326]

I had a couple contact me once...we established a few emails and then exchanged numbers. We played once and then when they tried contacting me again, I didn't return the call for three days because I was very busy w/work. Soon they were blowing up my phone like a psycho girlfriend: "hello"? "Why aren't you answering"? "WTF?'"

 

Red flag

 

Sarcasm here...don't you know that as the stunt cock, you're supposed to be available at their beck and call? You only live to serve their sexual needs and have no real life outside of swinging? LOL

[Phxhng 15]

As a single, over excited or over aggressive husband's are usually a BIG red flag. If the wife and I get along but she seems like she's only doing it for him then I hesitate. I've also run into couples with an overly aggressive wife that can be a flag too. I tend to depend on my sense of people...if their personable, fun, casual that's a good start...for me anyway! Like singles for couples, good couples are hard to find! JMHO...LOLOL!

[njbm 2,901]

It is difficult to match up with other couples. At least with singles, the odds are better. Less people to match up ( 3 instead of 4).

[M1F2KTJ 473]

Love. You get the feeling that the woman is in a loveless relationship and she thinks you are the solution.

[BiCaliGirl777 48]

Being overly aggressive (as a couple or individual), needing the use of alcohol and/drugs constantly in order to swing, one partner doing it only for their partner, overstepping boundaries, etc.