A tantric workshop

[MrDiscover 802]

I don't know if this experience even qualifies as swinging, but this is our story about our very first steps in sharing intimacy with others. The before and after can be found here. ?

 

Our very first baby steps in swinging was at a tantra workshop in a nearby town. We were already searching for a way to test the waters for quite a long time and MsDiscover came up with a website about the workshop. She felt maybe this would be a form of learning to share intimacy that both of us would fit.

 

It was described as an evening where a lot of aspects of tantra would be explained. More or less as an introduction and of course there was a possibility to enlist to a longer set of workshops. The website explained further that it would combine theory and hands-on exercises. For 8 to 10 nude couples and that one of the aspects would be that the choice of partner for each exercise would be determined by luck. So no preferences, no insecurity about how we looked. That sounded good to us. And a few exercises would be done blindfolded, to focus on the feelings themselves and not e.g. how the partner looked. Which sounded great to us.

 

Although the workshop was given at an education centre only an hour drive from home, we booked a hotel not far from the centre, as we expected to have a very hot time after the course. Better not have that with kids around ?

 

The week before was loaded with excitement and expectations for the both of us and it felt really good when we closed the door behind us on the day of the workshop and drove to the hotel to check in. The workshop would start at 8 p.m. but we were already in the hotel at 3 p.m. just to calm down and prepare mentally. And physically.

 

The room was nice and cosy and the bathroom spacious. We each took a long warm bath. When I left my bath, dried myself and stepped into the room again, MsDiscover was already waiting for me with some shaving utensils. She pulled me to the bed and gave me a thorough shaving. Of course I returned the favour, layed her on the bed and started to shave her beautiful cunt, carefully following her lips, putting them a bit apart to give myself good access to every nook and cranny. I could not resist the look of her smooth cunt when I finished so I gave her a few licks over all the sensitive spots but we did not go any further at that point, to keep the excitement for the workshop and beyond.

 

We arrived at half past seven, parked around the corner and walked to the education centre. It felt very weird because it was just a regular education centre, for handcraft, first aid courses, mindfulness, work-related workshops and so on. And sometimes a really hands-on tantra workshop. In the restaurant we met some people, some were for different classes, some for the tantra workshop. We started some small talk with some of the tantra-goers and almost everyone was a bit shy and excited about how it would be. All very nice couples, like an intersection of the population. Young, old, experienced swingers a& club-goers and couples that have never be nude in front of other people. Like us.

[MrDiscover 802]

The classroom was beautiful designed wooden attic in the top of this old building, warm and the incense and lots of cushions and drapes made it real cosy. Everyone undressed, which was a bit weird but felt very natural right away, and we choose a spot to sit. The teachers, a couple too, introduced themselves and explained the rules. For instance: if someone was not comfortable with letting luck assigning a partner, we could tell the teachers at any time. And the teachers would participate most rounds too. Then we did a meditation exercise, which really took away any last bit of uneasiness. It learned us a bit about breathing and relaxing and it was really comforting.

 

After a next bit of theory about tantra we started the first real exercise, the Game of Touching. All men were standing in the middle of the room, forming a circle, the backs to each other. All women were given a blindfold and were asked to put it on their husbands. Two dices were thrown and the ladies were silently told the number of places to move clockwise. And so a lady was assigned to me and MsDiscover to another man. I did not know who at that point because of the blindfold. I listened carefully to get a clue where MsDiscover was, but I failed to locate her and gave myself over to the experience. While everyone was standing, the ladies touched and caressed the front of the bodies of the men. Arms, chest, not lower. At that point, the ladies were advised not to touch the genitals but this was already very exciting, to know these wandering fingertips were not my wife's but someone else's. Even more exciting was to know MsDiscover was discovering another male body, the first after we met ten years ago.

 

After a few minutes the dice was rolled again and the circle of ladies moved again until a new woman started to discover my body with her hands, this time my back. My shoulders, and back but not lower. This went on for a few rounds, where butts and legs got attention too. And for the last round the men were finally allowed to touch the front of the assigned lady too, top to bottom. The whole exercise felt good but I was trying hard not to get an erection, I thought that would not be appropriate. I succeeded more or less but when the blindfold went off, I saw there was no need to be ashamed because almost all the dicks stood proudly in an erection. :-) I also saw who had caressed me so wonderful last time and who I had touched too and it was a nice curvy lady of about my age (40s). MsDiscover was coincidentally assigned that round to the husband of that lady, a nice fellow we had talked to in the restaurant.

 

In the evaluation talk after this exercise, I learned that some men were not concerned to get hard but the other way round: they struggled with the thought it would not be nice to stay soft, as was not polite towards the ladies, as if the touching was not as good as it should be. We all laughed about this and that took away any discomfort.

 

The following exercises were about senses. Another round of assignments were made by the dice. I was assigned to a foreign woman I did not like so much, she was very pushy in what she wanted to do to me when the part of massaging was taught. And likewise when we changed and I was the one who did the massage. Her partner was even worse. His wife was quite flat chested and that doesn't bother me at all so I did not mind it while massaging. Her partner, at the other hand, turned out to be very pushy too and was very, very much focused on my wife beautiful large but firm natural boobs. She told me afterwards he did not listen to her, even when she told him she was more than her tits. This was a lesson for us: always speak up, also to the teacher (in this case).

 

We were both happy when we were assigned other people after the tea and snack break. This was all in the classroom as you can imagine it would be weird to get dressed again to join the other, non-nude, classes for some snacks. It was nice to have a indoor pick nick with all nude people.

[MrDiscover 802]

The next round after the break was about different massage techniques, a very nice lady was assigned to me (I learned afterwards after removing my blindfold) and she really did a great job massaging my front and back. MsDiscover was assigned to a very gentle and nice man and she really enjoyed massaging him and learning what he liked and what not. And she enjoyed seeing him getting a very hard dick from it all.

 

In the last but one round things got really interesting. The men were blindfolded again and got their female partner assigned. This would be the round were Massaging the Lingam, or penis, would be taught. This woman was really great in doing so, lots of oil and nice firm strokes, alternated with soft caressing with her fingertips of my head and balls. The goal was learning the feelings and techniques, not to climax. Almost every man succeeded but right next to me I suddenly heard the man breathing harder and 'o, ooh, oooooohhh! Oops, sorry madam, looks like I have made a mess'. It turned out later (I was still blindfolded) he exploded all over her hands and arm, which made us all laugh :-) MsDiscover was assigned to a nice older male with a small erectile issue but she got him (very) hard as well and they both really enjoyed it.

 

For the last round that evening, all the woman were blindfolded this time and got a man assigned. My partner for this round was a very beautiful small woman with one of the nicest butts I ever had seen. MsDiscover was assigned to the male teacher so she was in good hands I thought, especially because this was the most delicate round: massaging of the yoni. It turned out later he was a bit too rough to her and her cunt and she didn't enjoy it as she hoped. For me it was a real turn-on to see another man massaging her breasts, lips and clit. My partner was also really enjoying it and, although it should not be part of the exercise, came very hard when I combined the massaging of her inner lips with applying pressure around her clit. I was very impressed how she squirted, something MsDiscover didn't do at that time.

 

After some cleaning here and there we closed the evening well past midnight by forming a large circle, holding each others hands and singing a mantra. Everyone felt very connected and happy and after dressing ourselves a few couples just stayed at the bar to recover and chat. When the bar closed, everyone walked into the night, saying farewell to each other as it felt like we knew each other for years.

 

This is two years ago but we still have contact with one of these couples every now and then.

[MrDiscover 802]

There were good and bad parts in this workshop, but what made us decide not to enlist to the rest of the set of workshops?

 

- It was advertised some exercises would be done blindfolded, but all of them were. This turned out to be a downer because part of the joy was seeing each other enjoy the moment and this was not possible half of the time. Even more problematic (for us) is that an important communication line was cut off, e.g. I was not aware of the pushy boobgrabber and MsDiscover's discomfort.

 

- Although it was promised one could bypass the blindfold if you were uncomfortable with it, group pressure to not to chicken out was big and the teacher didn't help there.

 

- We don't have any problems with teachers participating BUT only if they still manage to keep an eye on the process and still being able to lead the course. This was not always the case.

 

- Although not choosing the partners sounded good turned out to be less ideal, we want to be able to filter out the bad partners.

 

Good stuff:

 

- The atmosphere

 

- Most of the other couples

 

- Some nice things learned

 

- The sex in the weeks after

 

And the last two combined.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Very interesting story. We have always wondered what happened at those workshops. Thanks for sharing!

[MrDiscover 802]

Thanks GoldCoCouple! But this by no means is happening at all workshops, at least not in my country. This was in fact the only one going this far (nude, genital massaging, more couples), MsDiscover had a hard time finding this. Most are at best couples plus the teacher or groups but no full nudity, let alone making tantric love (what the set of workshops would end with).