How can I advertise my, um, asset?

[FunGuy915 21]

I have been blessed with a wonderful gift: a cock that, at full length, reaches about 8.25 inches. (I know, I know. Most guys who claim large penises are really at 6 or even 5 inches. I have measured time and time again, from the point where the base of the shaft meets the pelvic bone, and I am confident in my number.)

 

My question is, how can I let women know what I am packing? Or should I just let the women be pleasantly surprised? I know that posting my measurements on SLS or straight out telling them would not be good because it would seem sketchy. Is there anything else that I can do? It seems like I have an amazing way to attract women, if only I can figure out how to use it. I appreciate any feedback that anyone might have.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

I guess my question is why do you feel you need to? Most potential playmates are going to evaluate many other things before she even gets to thinking about what your cock may be like, so I wouldn't be so focused on Step 5 when you haven't made it past Steps 1-4 yet. I can't speak for everyone, but at least for us, a guy making a big issue of the size of his cock just means a quick click on the "next" button. You can mention something like "well-endowed" on your profile along with other things you think are your positive aspects, but I wouldn't do much past that.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

I agree with not mentioning it in an ad.

 

There are women out there that want large cocks. They will say so in their ads. Respond to their ads.

[FunGuy915 21]

Learning a lot here. So what would you say are steps 1-4? Obviously personal connection is a big one. I also think as a single male that a big part of my task is not to screw up: don't seem weird, don't seem over-eager, don't seem sex-crazed, don't seem dangerous, etc.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

If I were swinging as a single male and writing my profile, I would try to emphasize a sense of humor and ability to carry on an intelligent conversation, respect for them as a couple (basically, I know my place in this deal), like you said above that I'm "normal" and not a stalker, pushy, etc, and finally, that I present myself well (hygiene, etc).

[FunGuy915 21]

If I were swinging as a single male and writing my profile, I would try to emphasize a sense of humor and ability to carry on an intelligent conversation, respect for them as a couple (basically, I know my place in this deal), like you said above that I'm "normal" and not a stalker, pushy, etc, and finally, that I present myself well (hygiene, etc).

 

Interesting. I don't really use SLS to set up meetings, I meet people at hotel parties, but this would all be applicable to that as well. I don't see anything related to physical appearance on your list except hygiene. I would have thought physical attraction would be more important (not just penis size but facial attractiveness, hair, fitness, height, etc.). Then again, I am not a woman, so I am not in a position to say.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Your first post referenced SLS, so I was assuming online is what you were primarily talking about. Too, I didn't list physical appearance because I was assuming there would be a picture, since making connections as a single male is tough, making connections online as a single male without a picture is impossible.

[FunGuy915 21]

Your first post referenced SLS, so I was assuming online is what you were primarily talking about. Too, I didn't list physical appearance because I was assuming there would be a picture, since making connections as a single male is tough, making connections online as a single male without a picture is impossible.

 

Sorry for the confusion, I should have been more clear. I appreciate your thoughts on this. It is fascinating to get the opinions of others.

[Guest Ready2dewit]

I'm a single guy, and like other posters said, there are people who are into size and don't care what it is attached to. Those are your peeps. I've seen some people go so far as to demand proof that guys are actually as big as they request.

 

That seems a little cold to me, like I could be a gorilla with the appropriate size cock and it wouldn't matter to these people, but to each their own. If you primarily go to hotel parties, I'm guessing that a trip to the group room would be a way to show off your marvelous endowment and the ladies who are impressed there will no doubt be in touch.

[FunGuy915 21]

I'm a single guy, and like other posters said, there are people who are into size and don't care what it is attached to. Those are your peeps. I've seen some people go so far as to demand proof that guys are actually as big as they request.

 

That seems a little cold to me, like I could be a gorilla with the appropriate size cock and it wouldn't matter to these people, but to each their own. If you primarily go to hotel parties, I'm guessing that a trip to the group room would be a way to show off your marvelous endowment and the ladies who are impressed there will no doubt be in touch.

 

Thanks, bro. That sounds like good advice.

[Lionheart72 2,191]

If I were swinging as a single male and writing my profile, I would try to emphasize a sense of humor and ability to carry on an intelligent conversation, respect for them as a couple (basically, I know my place in this deal), like you said above that I'm "normal" and not a stalker, pushy, etc, and finally, that I present myself well (hygiene, etc).

 

Reminds me of a theme night at our local club... red wrist bands for ladies looking for big black cocks, green for ladies looking for single guys, some other color for ladies only look for couples, etc. One lady asked "what color wrist band for 'smart, polite, funny, respectful guy who listens'?".

 

Edit: In my years of swinging, I have met lots of ladies who are looking for a smart, funny, polite, considerate guy. I have never actually met one who was interested in the size of a guy's "asset" from the start. I've only once had it come up as a topic of serious conversation, and that only in relation to the possibility of anal sex.

[CB&DD 219]

Lots of good advice given to you so far. We can't think of anything to add besides 8 1/4", Damn good for you.

[Guest Ready2dewit]

Reminds me of a theme night at our local club... red wrist bands for ladies looking for big black cocks, green for ladies looking for single guys, some other color for ladies only look for couples, etc. One lady asked "what color wrist band for 'smart, polite, funny, respectful guy who listens'?".

 

Edit: In my years of swinging, I have met lots of ladies who are looking for a smart, funny, polite, considerate guy. I have never actually met one who was interested in the size of a guy's "asset" from the start. I've only once had it come up as a topic of serious conversation, and that only in relation to the possibility of anal sex.

 

This is a good idea. I know when I've gone to meet-and-greet type situations as a single, it is impossible to tell who is looking for what. When I look at a couple's profile, they state if they are open to single guys or not. Short of people tattooing their profile to their foreheads at these events, you end up just kind of hanging back and hope that a couple approaches you.

 

This kind of a pre-sort would come in handy!

[sunbuckus 3,569]

My question is, how can I let women know what I am packing? Or should I just let the women be pleasantly surprised?

 

Hi, FunGuy! You've gotten great advice from others so I'll just add my two cents...I'd rather be pleasantly surprised than to have a guy brag about his size. Bragging is quite a turn-off for me.

[FunGuy915 21]

I really appreciate all the advice in this thread. You are all a great resource.

[JandKinBoise 859]

I agree with not mentioning that in an ad but when you make contact, you might bring it up if you can ease it into conversation. There are plenty of women looking for that as well as the opposite. We have found that in an mmf, average size works best. If we met and got to taking our clothes off, we would be mad at ourselves for not looking into this, not a pleasant surprise. We have found that a majority of the single guys we have met are quite large. Several were long but most quite thick. At first I thought it was just how the cards fell but now, I ask.

 

My weak ass suggestion for you would be to go to a nude beach. Then you don't have to say anything, just wait for them to flock.

[Guest Ready2dewit]

One advantage of this "problem" is that it makes Halloween easy.....I just throw it over my shoulder and go as a gas pump...LOL

[Tia Vampire 167]

Look for parties where the theme is for BBC or BWC. Once the ladies see you are well endowed, believe me, the word will get around and every lady attending any party you attend will know about your 8.25 inches.

[intuition897 2,179]

I hate to break it to you, but a big dick is, for most women, a nice cherry on top...not the whole enchilada. The best thing you can be "packing" is a genuine personality. This includes a sense of humour, the ability to carry on an intelligent (read: not shallow) conversation, honesty, integrity, an interest in bettering himself, a fully relaxed attitude toward sex (as in, it doesn't matter if he gets laid or not, it's just a nice way to round off the evening), etc.

 

There persists this myth that a big dick = a happy lady. While this may be true for some, for most, it takes a little more to make us happy. If most women are like me, they start getting turned on in their heads. You don't rub their tits or ass to get them warmed up. You have to intrigue them and make them curious. Sure, it doesn't hurt to have some nice equipment - just as it's nice for me to have big boobs when I want to fill out a shirt. But personally, I wouldn't want to be dropping my panties for anyone whose bar was set so low that this was all I needed to make the cut. I'm not interested in developing a relationship with them, but I sure as shit don't want ANYONE thinking of me as little more than a piece of warm meat. There's more to you than a big cock; show them that first, and let the rest be a surprise.

[Brad145 58]

If I had this problem, and it would be really nice if I did.

 

I would get a T-shirt made up with a picture of my junk and a ruler, then maybe "How YOU doin'?" on it, and head out to the clubs!

[Guest]

My daddy was a carpenter, so was my uncle. Uncle had a work van with huge electrical saw in it. Dad had a tool box in his trunk, hand saws. Dad always said, it is not the size of your tools or the number, it is a matter of how well you use them. Dad said he could finish the job before uncle got the saw out of the truck and set up.

[IEcouple 222]

Don't mention it ahead of time, unless a woman actually asks. But that's very rare. Reasons not to advertise it:

 

- many women aren't impressed by it and will be turned-off because you bragged about it.

 

- many women have had bad experiences with big dicks, so they'll avoid you, even though it was probably an inconsiderate partner that caused the bad experience.

 

- most women strongly agree that how you use it is more important, do focus on that and let your size be a bonus.

 

- and maybe most importantly, you shouldn't have to brag about it. The women who enjoy big dicks talk about it. A lot. If you're good at using it, word will spread and your reputation will precede you, which can only help you.

[Sexinthetardis 76]

It's so great to be able to come here for advice on this kind of stuff. Our profile does reference my husband's being on the larger side but we've actually disagreed about this and he'd rather not have it in there -- he thinks it's a bit obnoxious. My point was that some women really don't enjoy or even find it painful having sex with a larger guy, so I thought we should give sort of a "heads up" (hehe see what I did there?) Anyone, I do trust the judgment on here so do you all think it's better unmentioned and assume if there is an issue we can just deal with it at the time? Thanks!

[sunbuckus 3,569]

I prefer to be with someone based on the entire package of who they are and not based on the size of their package. I could be the odd one out though.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

My question is, how can I let women know what I am packing? Or should I just let the women be pleasantly surprised?

 

I advise letting them be pleasantly surprised

[LFM2 1,482]

As a lot of women have already responded, big cocks are nice and they're fun to play with.

 

However, I'm also in the majority here that love to be surprised by them. I hate cock pictures in anyone's profile and I delete them immediately. I need to know who's attached to the cock though. I want to know the guy behind it. Intellectually.

 

Get to know the gal you're wanting to play with first. Let her be excited after the clothes come off.

[Ebonylehigh 254]

I know some size queens, that the main interest is what number your working with. I also know others like me that it is not a top priority, I do like seeing well endowed in the profile though. Nothing more needed than that.

 

Lol you would just make it with me, I know my limit and I max out of comfortable sex at 8.5.

[LargeInLife 15]

You've got a lot more to offer than a big dick man... And besides, I think it matters more that you actually know how to use a dick that big...

 

If I asked you to draw me a picture of the female sexual anatomy, could you? Could you tell me where the anterior fornix is? Because as a man with a big dick, you need to know where that spot is. Do you know what vaginal tenting is? Because if you don't understand that concept, then you're putting all that great size to waste... I write about these things on my blog if you're ever interested in learning... its in my profile. But I'm not here to advertise for my blog, I'm just letting you know that a huge dick is great, but if you don't know what you're doing with it then you're not very useful. When used correctly, well endowed guys can bring pleasure to women in ways that a smaller guy simply cannot match.

 

Sell yourself as a great lover first. The huge cock is a bonus, and hopefully you can swing it like you know what you're doing.

[Twilighttap 169]

When we look on SLS or talk to people at a party, we are looking for others things than what they're packing. However, we know couples that want a single guy with big equipment so nothing wrong with adverting that - include a comment in any online communication in a tasteful way or use tight jeans to emphasize what you have at a live party.

[Guest luvin eye full]

When used correctly, well endowed guys can bring pleasure to women in ways that a smaller guy simply cannot match.

 

So if this is true are you still single, is it because you want to screw it up for the "smaller" cocks out there? or just to show the girls that their smaller husbands are less manly? lol

 

Ladies is this true? Will you get more pleasure from this guy's cock then your husband's? (if they are smaller)

[Bob250 74]

First off, Dude, this is one of the things that will irritate me quicker than sh*t. AS far as "packing" I've got you by about an inch or more , so f*cking what? Let me clue you in, there will ALWAYS be somebody bigger. A big wang is NOT a magic wand, and those who think that way are bound to be disappointed as hell. Some women will think that I can just flop down on the bed and she will orgasm, so they do nothing and are pissed because I didn't provide. Or some men will think that because I've got a big Peter, it makes me a better lover. BOTH are wrong. Like my old coach used to say there is no "I" in team, and there is no "I" in Orgasm. I AM a good lover, because I'm fairly good looking, healthy, clean, kind, funny, passionate and respectful.....plus my dick is big. It's part of the package, but not even the most important part. Instead of "advertising" your cock, improve your personality and lose the ego, and you will do much better .

[Guest luvin eye full]

Glad you got the thread going again Bob250 i thought i might of killed it lol

[padoc 1,704]

Apparently, the op does not have enough blood volume to sustain his erection and utilize higher brain functions simultaneously. Either that or all he brings with him is his large penis. We get it, you're proud of Harold or Zeus or Big Willie or whatever you call it. That will get you a lot of sex, without a partner!! Most women we know in this hobby are interested in the personality, sense of humor, hygiene, intellect and deportment of a male interested in getting in her pants. Dick size is generally a bonus discovered AFTER they are impressed by things not located below your waist.

[Bob250 74]

Harold???? hahahaha

[Bob250 74]

Padoc is spot on. I don't want to give the impression that most women in the LS act like my tool is anything special. I was talking about women , in general .