Question/feelings about male bisexuality

[NCCplForYou 21]

So I am 44. I have always considered myself straight although I do not have an issue with those men who are gay or bi-sexual.

 

My second wife and I are in the lifestyle. She was bi-curious until our first play date with some friends when she was able to experience and play with another woman. She loves me and loves dick, no doubt about it but she also wants to play more with the ladies and gain more experience. I think it's hot as hell to have a bi wife as well.

 

We have played with toys between ourselves. I love having my plug in my ass and pumped until I can't take any more. We even bought our first strap-on and she gave it to me hard. It was awesome.

 

During sex, we talk dirty to each other. VERY dirty. I tell her what a slut she is and she tells me how she's going to fuck any number of guys I bring home for her and how she wants multiple loads from each guy inside her pussy and ass.

 

I have expressed how I'm looking forward to having her fuck me again with the strap-on.

 

The other night, we were going at it hot and heavy and she told me she wanted to find a guy that would fuck both of us along with his wife/girlfriend. She was saying "I'm going to have him fuck me until he gets ready to cum then make him put it in your ass so you can feel what it's like to have a load of cum in your ass." "I'm going to tell him to fuck you hard and deep." All of this talk set me off. I started talking along with her. Agreeing to be fucked while I fucked her or eat her pussy while his wife sucked on her giant tits and kissed her deeply. I think it was the hardest I have every came.

 

So, the question. I know this puts me in the category of being "bi-curious". Here's the problem. I am NOT gay. I love pussy. I love eating it, fucking it, fisting it. I can't get enough of it when I'm eating it. I give her many orgasms before she just can't take any more. But where do I go from here? What other questions do I need to ask myself if I want to "try" another man. I can't visualize myself sucking dick. Taking it in the ass? Possibly. Sucking dick? NO.

 

Has anyone else ever been in this position that can tell me what you did, questions you asked yourself, something?

[gsu22 187]

I love pussy too and was in a similar situation 11 years ago. Eventually the curiosity killed the cat so to speak....

 

I NEVER thought that A.) I'd go through with any bi play B.) enjoy bi play or C.) think it was a good idea. But as I had sex w/my Girlfriend at the time, we did similar things you & your wife so....dirty talk, strap-on's, etc. And eventually I had to "try" it and I haven't looked back since.

 

Being a young, ignorant guy, I thought "does this make me gay"? Or "do I not like women now"? Turns out I like sex...period. Doesn't matter the gender. And I'm out as bi...feels great.

 

The feeling of a warm, pulsating Dick in my mouth, the pumping of my ass during anal, and the intense physical nature of two, masculine men fucking is something I truly enjoy as much as I love sex with soft, beautiful women.

[GerdOEvert 51]

I think your feelings and desires are entirely natural.

 

I am in the lifestyle with my wife. Once in a while we have a threesome MFM.

 

I enjoy sucking cock, and getting a load of cum in my mouth, and swallowing. So hot. Usually both men do each other.

 

I have wanted to try tete-beche, which is two males head to toe. I think desires for male contact are entirely natural, but it took a while to feel that way.

[gsu22 187]

I agree in that the feelings/wanting another man can be perfectly natural for some. The first time I sucked a cock, I KNEW it felt right because it's what I enjoyed. Not for everybody but definitely fun for me...particularly w/a married man. Drives me insane how exciting it is.

 

Now I'm a CSS (cock sucking specialist)

[Havasmoke 29]

What do your ladies think of your guy to guy activities?

[M1F2KTJ 473]

I dated a girl who surprised me by putting her finger in my ass while she sucked my cock. It was the most awesome feeling I ever felt and I had an incredible orgasm. She graduated to vibrators, then dildos. She loved watching me squirm. She began to fantasize about watching me having sex with another man. The fingers, vibrators and dildos felt great but I couldn't go that far. She masturbated herself to orgasms many times pretending I was reacting as if a man was fucking my ass.

[JandKinBoise 858]

This is a good thread with some important information. When it comes to sex, in particular sex between men, there are a lot of fluid boundaries. What was an absolute NO, becomes a 'maybe' and then an enjoyable activity. Homophobia is still rampant. Many men will shy away from sex with men. They may not even realize the reason for this aversion other than being brought up being fed hate. Others aren't bothered by it but aren't into it and don't go there. Still others find certain sex acts with men enjoyable but not others. These feelings rarely stay exactly the same. Age and experience helps to change opinions.

 

Boundaries vary greatly. The thing on this post that stirred me was the OP stating that he could take a guy fucking him but no way was he going to put that thing in his mouth. That's pretty rare in my experience. Sucking a dick seems to be a fairly benign activity. Taking a guy in the ass, to me, is way too gay and I can't enjoy it. Well, I enjoy it, but the guilt is tough to deal with so I choose to exclude this activity.

 

Anyway, this thread is a good read and can show how one can go from surprise at a finger in the ass to sitting on a hard dick.

[jonsbttm4all 42]

I decided to play after I split up with my ex wife (unrelated issues), and I did enjoy myself but felt guilty afterwards. I met him yesterday to catch up and realized I still feel conflicted about it. For me, it seems much more natural during mixed sex group play for some reason. I guess the acceptance of male bi play from both sexes.

 

I don't know, I've sucked and have been sucked and fucked but it's still difficult for me to repeat.

 

Well life is too short. If I want to play I will, if not I won't.

[JandKinBoise 858]

The guilt is a tough one to overcome because it's been etched into your brain from the beginning. It helps to understand that the reason for the guilt has nothing to do with the act and everything to do with how you were influenced. You are not cheating, you are not breaking laws, no one is getting hurt, both of you want to be there and want to be doing this.

 

This sounds like I'm telling you to slut it up a bit, but the guilt drops off the 'feelings chart' after a few repetitions.

[NaughtyNaughty 25]

This post really caught my attention and has helped me a lot. Thanks, NCCplForYou. I love sharing things with the Ms. and we recently played where she fucked me with a strap-on. I got excitement out of it in ways I did not expect and have since wondered what it would be like to share a man with her. She knows I feel secure in my sexuality and don't want to run off with another man, but I think it was a surprise to her when I admitted I've wondered what it would be like to suck a dick.

 

But like JandK brought up, the whole taboo has been etched into my brain and I wonder if I am only holding back because of that. I've told Ms. Naughty I would happily rub her clit while another guy was fucking her and she seemed genuinely turned on. She asked if I would worry about touching his dick and I told her; "No." Besides, the way she describes my dick when she plays with me makes me want to see what it's like. I don't know if I would like it as much has her, but it may be kinky and exciting enough to give it one or two tries.

 

Don't know where I would draw the line...guess I need to figure that out; but if I felt comfortable with the guy I would definitely try oral and maybe see what's it's like to be fucked. I can get the feel of an ass from the Ms., so I don't know if I would want to be the top. It would be best if we played with another couple and our bodies just all got mixed up. It may help me lose the inhibitions, I think.

 

Does this sound weird?

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

Does this sound weird?

 

Not at all. I am approached by and chat with a lot of men who are curious. Some have a story similar to yours, others story does not include their wife in any way. Some follow though with me. Most I never hear from again.

[Baconheads 432]

I can't visualize myself sucking dick. Taking it in the ass? Possibly. Sucking dick? NO.

 

Has anyone else ever been in this position that can tell me what you did, questions you asked yourself, something?

 

I am the other way. I have sucked cocks and like them. Looking forward to swallowing a hot load some day. Pretty sure I'm not ready for one in my ass.

[kikonkrome 844]

I am the other way. I have sucked cocks and like them. Looking forward to swallowing a hot load some day. Pretty sure I'm not ready for one in my ass.

 

This is my experience as well. I like kissing and oral for both sexes, but anal play...pass.

[RandJ 20]

I had never thought about being with another man, until I met my wonderful soul mate a few years ago. We talked openly about trying new experiences. I had mentioned that I had fantasised about other men fucking her, and the idea of sucking there cock before and after they fucked her. This turned us both on a lot. I then found a Bi curious guy on the net, and hooked up a meet with the three of us. We all went back to our room. All the attention started on her, we both ate her pussy, and when I was eating my lovely partner out, he was kissing her and she pulled his cock out from his boxers, it was only inches from my face. All my doubts and nerves went out the window, as I grabbed his cock and began sucking, I loved it she loved watching it, and by the moans from him, he was enjoying it as well. I only wish i had done it sooner. Since then i have sucked several men, and every time my partner has admitted she loves to see me suck there cock, it gets her dripping wet. We have even sucked a couple of mens cocks at the same time. All I can say is dont knock it till you try it. Next step is to fined a man willing to fuck me in front of my partner...one step at a time.

[oc1234 435]

I occasionally get together with a couple of guys for some fun, but these are guys my wife and I have threesomes with. It's only natural since our threesomes with them always involve a little oral male male play, which my wife really likes.

[Baconheads 432]

This is my experience as well. I like kissing and oral for both sexes, but anal play...pass.

 

Never kissed another guy...

[oc1234 435]

I am a male and have never kissed or wanted to kiss the guys I have played with.

[Mcat37 24]

My ex and I were straight swingers. I always wanted to try oral with another man, but my brain couldn't handle the thought of the guilt I may have and how would "she" would react. We divorced several years ago (unrelated to swinging). I was involved in a few MMF after we split. So I was with this couple and out of nowhere I starting sucking his cock. We were all a bit drunk, but everyone went with it. I loved it! The guilt the next day drove me nuts!

 

I am now with an amazing women. When we met, I told her about my past, but not the "Bi tendencies". She was never a swinger, but is always horny and super kinky.

 

We were at our friends house drinking one night, and the four of us ended up naked in bed. Other then me rubbing the other female's tits, we kept to ourselves. The next day, my girl was blown away by the thoughts of swinging. Long story short, we have had some MMF action, we love sucking cock together, she wants me to get it in the ass and give the same. Knowing she accepts my bi-sexuality has rid me all of my guilt.

 

I am not attracted to men at all, no kissing, no caressing. It's all about sex and pleasure. Love isn't sex and sex isn't love. She loves gay porn and she was never comfortable telling anyone that. Now we watch it together.

 

All in all, we have an explosive guilt free sex life.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

Congrats on opening up this, the swapping, the bisexuality, and finding your partner. Hope you find a lot of sexy like minded people.