First MFM date & I chickened out

[SabrosaGatito 17]

I had been discussing my fantasy of an MFM with my girlfriend for a while. She's always been open to discussions even though she first had a lot of reservations. After several steamy sexting sessions and dirty pillow talk she finally came around to having fun with the idea.

 

We went online and after filtering through dozens of guys I finally met someone for a coffee. We got along great, he seemed a perfect fit for both of our desires. This first meeting was just between me and the guy we found online.

 

We set a date for him to meet the my girlfriend for drinks at a bar across town that sits on top of an upscale hotel. We all got along great, my girlfriend seemed to be having a good time but a little nervous about his advances. He was very polite, respectful and fun though. He talked to both of us and reassured us of his respect for our relationship and his role.

 

After a few drinks and few hours of good conversation we came to a point where we wanted to either grab a room and have some fun or head home. He gave us a moment to discuss it and when hearing my girlfriend say she thought we should find a private place to continue our night I kinda felt some reservations and chickened out.

 

I'm trying not to regret my decision and my girlfriend also feels no regret. That said I'm still spending a lot of time thinking about seeing these two together, often bringing it up while we're having fun or during heated texting.

 

Is it that uncommon to freak out during a first "date"? Does this mean it's just not for us/me? Should I just try to move on and stop watering this seed of desire or meet with him again, this time with both my girlfriend and I knowing we intend to have a few drinks then let the fun begin.

 

Note that even after we all decided to hit the brakes due to my reservations we still had some great conversation and all left in good spirits and open to meeting again.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

This is not a race. Take your time and always move at the pace of the slowest person. One step at a time. No this is not uncommon, it's one of those huge steps that cannot be undone, but can be very exciting (or a disaster). No rush, no pressure, and enjoy the trip as much as the destination...then report back here.

[MrDiscover 802]

First of all: welcome!

 

I think you both did very well, especially for a first time experience. The situation would be much worse if you did not had the courage to speak up and, despite your feelings, let it happen. Our first date was like that, where MsDiscover didn't "chicken out" and played along although she was not ready at that time. I definitely can not recommend that approach.

 

'Chickened out' sounds so negative but what you did was the opposite in my opinion, you stood up for yourself.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I think the advice above is great. I would add that you should talk with your girlfriend more when you are not hot and in a sexual situation. Just sitting watching tv (not porn), driving or having dinner talk about what it will be like for each of you during and after a threesome. You can't know how you'll feel until you do it, but if you can game out scenarios together when it's not sexual you'll be in a better position.

[SabrosaGatito 17]

Thanks for all of the advice. Maybe I'm over concerned at my backing out. Honestly I wanted to just put down the thoughts and try to move on. Problem is the desires aren't so easy to put away. We talk about it a good bit in non-sexual situations as well as while having sex. Now that we've met a man that she is comfortable with and attracted to it makes for some fun talks at playtime. We both get really worked up over it.

 

I guess I'm not sure what my reservations are at this point.

[Guest]

The usually quiet male half speaking here. I think for we males, a little re-thinking naturally occurs either just before or during the first time.

 

The topic of swinging came up with a possible opportunity. My ex-wife and I had talked about it but never did it. When the guy half of a couple that we had met at a resort was coming to town, Sue, my girlfriend of only about six months seemed opened to try it, at least an MFM. I think for the male the first time is a little different than we fantasize, especially in an MFM, maybe it would be less so with a couples swap or MFF. We met Dennis at a bar, he was late so my mind had time to think about it. Sue had dressed the part, looked sexy as hell. Dennis arrived, and the thoughts started, is this really what "I always wanted, my hot sex girlfriend getting fucked by another guy, me sharing her?"

 

After a few drinks,it was apparent what we all had on our minds so we went upstairs to his hotel room. Sue was not the least bit shy, undressed in front of us, seemed just as comfortable taking his dick out as she was with mine. Same with sucking it, not a second look and there she was, on her knees going back and forth between the two of us as we looked down at her naked breasts. I got into for a while, during the oral phase, he's gone down on her and she is sucking my dick with greater excitement then I have ever seen. This is ok! Best blow job she ever given me, I'm holding back trying not to cum. This hasn't been a problem for years, is it the extraordinary job she is doing or my own heighten excitement.

 

But then he comes up, his dick is shorter than mine but much thicker. Naturally, you notice this. She raises her legs and lets him work it in. She moans with first few thrusts and her eyes get that gleam. I've pulled my dick from her mouth, but she is sucking my balls. He's pumping in and out of her, messaging her clit while he does. We switch places but she rolls over so I have her doggie style. Is this so she is better positioned to suck him or is it because she wants it doggie style, its her submissive position? My mind is working. Do I want to slid my dick into the same place he just pulled his from? I'm getting limp, I need get it in there. I can't just stop this now. I slide it in, moist and large already. Ok, I'm back into the game now.

 

She is sucking him with the same vigor that she sucked me. I need to keep those thoughts out of my mind. I swat her a couple of times. Normally, this would lead to her ass humping harder, instead, she takes his dick all of the way down her throat, gags and then pushes it down further. I spank again. She gathers is balls in her hand and now has them in her mouth with his dick. Dennis says, oh yea keep doing that, she really gets going. The control somehow gives me excitement. Another couple of swats and she's sucking and licking his balls, working her way down his scrotum and starts rimming him. She only has done that a few times with me. I shoot my wad and pull out. He pulls her up so she is sitting atop his face. He licks and tongue fucks her until she gets off. They more or less change positions so she is captive underneath while he thrusts he dick deep down her throat, her hands on his ass, helping him to come down hard. He announces that he is about to cum and starts to pull out. She pulls him back down, keeping his dick in her mouth, I hear her swallow his first big wad of cum and then the rest as she sucks him dry.

 

Yes, lots of second thoughts that first time. Afterwards, from the time we went down the elevator, until several days later, she had no qualms, definitely would do it again. I thought about it, we fantasized about it in our love making. You have to decide. Do you want the virgin wife or do you want a hot nasty slut

[SabrosaGatito 17]

I can't imagine ever thinking of her as a hot nasty slut. More of a beautiful woman enjoying herself in a very sexy moment and sharing that moment with me. I feel so fortunate to have a woman in my life that is open to not only hearing my fantasy but also having the desire to make it come true for me. She started out with an "I'll do this for you" attitude. Now that we've had several conversations about how this might play out she's equally as excited for the pleasure she will experience.

 

That's one thing our 3rd mentioned after I expressed my reservations. He said I need to be sure that I am doing this for ME and that she is doing this for HER. In other words if she's doing this for my enjoyment or if I'm doing this for her enjoyment then there is too much risk. He said he would feel terrible if this hurt us as a couple and that in his experience if couples aren't enjoying the moment for themselves it often leads to trouble. At that point we knew that if we do this, we're doing this with him.

[AtoZ 17]

I don't think I could marry my gf and fully respect her if I view her as a nasty slut..

[cplnuswing 4,713]

I don't think I could marry my gf and fully respect her if I view her as a nasty slut..

 

One can use different terms or words to describe it, but what it comes down to is granting each other the opportunity to have their own sexuality that isn't 100% tied into the marriage sexuality. Not only granting it freely, but taking enjoyment in seeing their enjoyment, aka compersion.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

What better gift can ever be given than to love someone so much that they can try to find out just who they really are without fear of repercussions? Not who they pretend to be for your sake, but to be able to let their guard down and release their deepest darkest secrets.

 

Would it be better if your GF kept her nasty slut inside of her until she could only release it by cheating on you. Is it okay if she does cheat as long as you never find out? Does she sexually do everything that you would like her to do? Do you sexually do everything she would like for you to do? How would you even know?

 

Obviously it sounds like you are in the wrong place. Move along, nothing to see here...

[kikonkrome 844]

Do you want the virgin wife or do you want a hot nasty slut?

 

I thought this was brilliant. Summed up the point succinctly!

[3622maw 39]

You need to do it

[gvalenz 15]

unselfish decision to let her enjoy herself. It will continue to keep the both of you happy

[victoria'dreams 141]

I don't think I could marry my gf and fully respect her if I view her as a nasty slut..

 

There is something really sexy about both the virgin beautiful wife and the nasty slut inside the same person. I found that contrast really hot about my wife!

[Guest]