Bait and switch in profiles?

[prinmattus 17]

Hey guys, so far we have been having fun and met some nice couples. We've been looking to meet up with a few bi females only, but having a hard time.

 

1st Scenario:

 

Profile on SLS is a bi female (not a couple profile) Paid Profile with a few certs

 

We write each other and female informs us she has a male lover who she wants to join in or we can't meet.

 

2nd Scenario:

 

Profile on SLS is a bi female (not a couple profile) Paid Profile with 2 certs

 

We write each other and female informs us she is married (she did say that on her profile) and wants her husband to join in or we can't meet. We obviously said no, and she's looking for her husband to join she should be using a couples profile so other's aren't tricked into contacting her and wasting their time.

 

3rd Scenario:

 

Profile on SLS is a bi female (not a couple profile) Paid Profile with 1 cert (cert from a free profile that is possibly fake and used only to give a fake cert)

 

Woman wants to chat outside SLS and we agree to do that, we ask for her number after spending 1-2 hours chatting online and setting up a night to meet. Turns out the number has a voicemail setup in another woman's name (we were given a fake number). We sent her a message letting them know this and make it a point we want to voice verify before anything goes further.

 

 

What gives? Is there really this much bait and switch or just playing games when it comes to female only profiles? I'm not sure if it's normal for bi females to set up profiles alone (non couple) only to state they want a lover or husband there as well, doesn't make sense and seems like bait and switch. What's your take?

[cplnuswing 4,712]

Your experiences are a good demonstration of why they are called unicorns, and finding one of those mythical creatures, especially online, is like to be a needle in a haystack sort of thing. We swing with couples, so not a lot of personal experience here to share, but if we were looking for singles, male or female, we would probably limit our searching to live and in person in clubs. Online you have the issue with single males that there are so many of them, even after you weed out the fakes. Single females it's the opposite - not many to start with, and then you still have to weed out the fakes, leaving you with just a bunch of your time having been wasted.

 

We only get out to clubs once, maybe twice a year, and it seems like 25% of those times we encounter a single female without even trying. There's a real person there in front of you, so that part of the ordeal is over, and didn't take messing around online for months and months. Just because she's there doesn't mean she's interested of course, but that's the case online too, and if and when you do finally meet someone real from online, no guarantees she will be interested and then it's back to the drawing board again.

 

Go to clubs enough and you will encounter some single females, or the female half of couples that are fine with each going their own way during their club visit. That's how we would do it if we were wanting to.

[prinmattus 17]

So do you agree the woman we have encountered so far a being a bit deceptive using a single female profile only to say a guy must join in? We think it is, but we're new and thought maybe it's normal or some other reasons people are doing this..

 

Great point though, clubs do seem like the best bet.

[angelkin 1,326]

It would be deceptive to have a single woman profile and insist a man join her to form a couple. That's not the norm nor is it acceptable.

[cplnuswing 4,712]

Yes, I agree that is deceptive. My guess is they are using that tactic to get as many contacts as they possibly can, like you say, a bait and switch. Doing stuff like that would get you on our blocked list right off the bat, because if they aren't being honest from the start, what else aren't they being honest about?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

It would be deceptive to have a single woman profile and insist a man join her to form a couple. That's not the norm nor is it acceptable.

I'll affirm what Angelkin has said. My experience using SLS tells me that most women who sit behind an on-line profile have earnest intentions. What you have experienced, while not typical, represents indefensible behaviour.

[GoldCoCouple 4,063]

If you are only willing to play as a couple, then you should be listed as a couple. Anything else is deceptive advertizing!

[prinmattus 17]

Wish I could report these to SLS, if anything just to save others the time from contacting people like this. I can just imagine how many more are out there, and all that does for us is give us a ton of extra search results we rather not deal with and we may end up missing someone that is genuine.

[N&G 207]

Wish I could report these to SLS, if anything just to save others the time from contacting people like this. I can just imagine how many more are out there, and all that does for us is give us a ton of extra search results we rather not deal with and we may end up missing someone that is genuine.

 

Why can't you report them? As long as the messages were sent through the SLS site they can read them and take whatever action is necessary. Of course there is no guarantee that they will do anything but at least you tried. Keep in mind that you may not be the only person who has reported them and multiple complaints may give management more reason to act.

[enhancer 1,582]

Seems normal for online to us! Although we would love to find other single Bi woman to play with we have all, but given up on the ones that are online. Most of them are fakes, flakes or just playing games. We just look for other couples with real bi women now and that seems to be going quite well so far.

[Shorecpl4u 79]

Enhancer, I totally agree about the fakes and weirdos that you run into with single females. Been there done that lol. We found it is a much better experience with couples with bi females.

 

To Prinmattus, just move on. There's are a lot of honest and great people out there to meet you just have to weed them out and it seems like you are doing a pretty good job at it.