We'll know two couples at house party--how to handle?

[njbm 2,901]

A couple contacted us on a site. After emails, they invited us to a house party. We then met another couple in person, we like them and would like to play with them. By coincidence, they are going to the same house party. I foresee a situation where each of those couples would want to play with us. How would you handle this? Sixsome? Talk to both couples? We have not even met the first couple, so we do not know if there will be a connection. Help!

[MrDiscover 802]

Is there a reason not to talk about it to both couples? Or did you said (or gave the impression) they were exclusive?

[njbm 2,901]

No reason not to talk to both couples. Not exclusive with either one. I could see recurring meetings with the couple we met. Don't know with other couple of course since we have not met. Don't want to offend anyone. Maybe those two couples will hit it off!

[two4youinswva 3,068]

It's a house party, so I'd go into it like we always go into a house party: No expectations. What happens is what happens.

 

Hell, you may end up hooking up with the third "Mystery Couple" that you aren't even aware of at this point.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Don't make this harder than it is. Talk to both couples and see what happens. Even if nothing happens that night, it doesn't mean nothing will happen...with either or both couples.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

It's a house party, so I'd go into it like we always go into a house party: No expectations. What happens is what happens.

 

Hell, you may end up hooking up with the third "Mystery Couple" that you aren't even aware of at this point.

My wife and I have had the good fortune of being at many parties. I can affirm the truth in what two4you has said.

[angelkin 1,326]

I wouldn't even bring it up to either couple - like two4u said, it's a house party. There's going to be other couples you might like better, it's a place to meet others and mingle and get to know people as well as play. I often would contact several couples attending a house party if just to say we were looking forward to meeting them. Based on your post, it's not apparent that you've told either couple you planned to play with them that night. There's nothing wrong with playing with one of the two couples (or others) and exchanging numbers to get together at a later date.

 

Variety is the spice of life and unless you're concerned that you will seem "loose" then just be casual about this. Mention it conversationally if you feel like it - but to me, it's not a big deal.

[sunbuckus 3,569]

I agree with the others. You never know what will happen at a house party. And, to be honest, my first thought was, "What's wrong with playing with one couple then the next one? And possibly a third one!"

[cplnuswing 4,713]

As long as yourselves and the other couple weren't all working on the understanding that you were going to the house party together, as in on a planned couples date together, then I don't see any problem with couple #3 (or #4, or #5, etc). Since you have never met in person and they just invited you by email, I would take that to mean that's just the venue they were suggesting to meet in person at, it could just have easily been a Starbucks somewhere. If you are really worried about there being a misunderstanding, then you could bring it up just to make sure everyone is on the same page, but otherwise, I would just go to the party and mingle with couple #1, couple #2, and any other couples you run into that you like. If there's chemistry there with any of them, then good deal, but I'd just go into with no other expectations than meeting some people and having a fun night that may or may not involve playing.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

After reading more I suddenly remembered that a house party is like going to a bar...for couples. It's like saying to a friend 'hey, are you going to the bar this weekend? I'll see you there'. Don't worry about it and just have a good time.

 

Norm!

[njbm 2,901]

Great advice, panelists! I will advise on outcome.

[angelkin 1,326]

Please do come back to tell us how things turned out

[njbm 2,901]

Two 4 you wins! We played with couple #3!

[two4youinswva 3,068]

Two 4 you wins! We played with couple #3!

 

Isn't swinging fun?

[njbm 2,901]

We met couple #1 for the first time. Apparently I looked like the prior husband of their wife to such a degree it looked like she saw a ghost! We did previously exchange pictures, so I guess she didn't see them. She fled.

 

Couple # 2 arrived at the party quite late, such that we wondered if they were going to attend. We therefore met couple # 3, had an outstanding funny and friendly chat and went on to have a most enjoyable play session.

 

PS, we ran into couple #4 who we met at another house party last year. Last year their wife did not want to play, apparently she does now at the next opportunity. And we expect to play with couple # 2, too. This is much better than dating ever was! So quite a fun event for us!

 

Thank you for nailing it, friends!

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

njbm, sounds like you had a great time, made some new friends, and added to your list of people you'd like to play with. That sounds like you hit the trifecta!

 

Sounds like you are building your social/swinger network, too. The more people you meet at house parties, the more house parties you will be invited to, and the more people you will meet at those house parties. It's a virtuous cycle! Before you know it, your "social sex" calendar will be filled to bursting.