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Just watching her through the flirt stage can be a turn on. I have watched as we or she has started talking to the guy across the bar or next to her at the bar. When the guy looks away, she may discreetly lower the zipper on her bustier or leather vest showing a bit more cleavage. As interest grows she may do it again and possibly again so by evening's end the girls are all but out which pretty much tells me she wants to go with this one. Or, the little skirt or dress will get discretely slid up so the tops of the thigh highs show, later the knees will from an angle facing my side of the stool to an angle facing his side or even directly facing his side of the stool. This may be just so she can continue the conversation with more focus or so she can slide off the bar stool, showing her crotch as she goes to the ladies room. If she comes back and very discretely hands me her little thong underwear to pocket then I know she's going for broke. She may put her arm around both of our shoulders, bringing the two men against her to show what she is shooting for or if touches her thigh, she may rub his but reach over and rub mine at the same time, again signaling my involvement, not just approval. These actions serve not just to attract the other guy but to seduce me into wanting to be a part of it all.

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We both equally love doing MFM’s! I really enjoy taking a pause in the middle of the action and watching my wife lost in the moment. A threesome if done properly- by both males working together to stimulate her-will really put her in over the edge. Of course-I love pausing and watching her enjoy herself-especially as we all reach the end and take turns. This allows her to focus on us individually (something she likes) and usually she is so lost enjoying each of us that pausing and watching is natural reaction at the time.

 

I have really enjoyed seeing her lost in moment, free and really enjoying the experiencing. Her pleasure bring me pleasure-so there is no separation or "cuck" situation involved-after we are all focused on her and we both (the guys) got her to this point.

 

Our friend would equally watch-he equally had NOT seen a woman this stimulated/hot so it was equally a goal for both men. If you find yourself in the moment...take the time to pause and enjoy the view.

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I get totally turned on joining a sensual couple for erotic sexual pleasures. My experience has been the more turned on the husband gets seeing his wife being pleasured the more free the wife gets to totally let go and explore all her sexual fantasies. I absolutely love erotic mfms with sensual open minded couples.

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I love watching my wife enjoying herself with other men and she loves me for letting her have those experiences.

 

It took her a few times and many reassurances from me for her to relax enough to enjoy herself and totally immerse herself in the experiences she was having in front of me.

 

It took one special man to transform her. The feelings between them were just right. Watching her reactions with him as they fucked was an incredible sight. He was the first man I watched her making love to. The kissing and passion was hard for me to witness. I felt uncomfortable seeing the emotions he was bringing out of her. It was the first time I had feelings of insecurity. He was the only man she was interested in having sex with in front of me after that. I didn't care. Watching her enjoying herself so much with him are memories I'll never forget.

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I am still getting used to watching. I wanted to watch but did want to watch. I wanted her to enjoy and wanted to hear her enjoy. I am happy that she can enjoy. She said she watched me and it was very exciting for her. We are still new and learning.

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You hit the nail on the proverbial head for us as to why the MFM threesome works so well for us.

It is almost like a euphoric sexual drug for me when I see Mrs being flirty and getting sexual with another guy in front of me. The peak to this sexual high comes when she looks at me and asks me when I am going to join in on the sexual fun with her. She is totally aware of my arousal and really plays to the situation for myself, and the other guy. Totally and very sexually arousing for myself and the other guy when she is sucking his cock while looking at me and she stops just long enough to ask me how much I enjoy seeing her doing what she is doing.

 

That is exactly how I feel and I took a few pictures and videos and watching those later always give me a hard-on.

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I doubt if he is cuckold (and I really don't like that word). Cuckold usually has the woman in charge and the man is just along for the ride (with little or no say in what the wife is doing). There usually is some amount of humiliation involved as well. Instead, a Hotwife (or just call it wife sharing) is where the husband enjoys seeing or hearing about his hot wife being shared with another man. I know it's a small difference, but the 'cuckold' title seems to be used way too broadly and (as I said) I just don't like it. My $.02.

 

I agree with that. I understand that some men are interested in being cheated on, losing control of their wife's sexuality, even having her impregnated. There's a theme that they are inadequate for their wife. Whatever floats their boat. I think the difference in terms between "cuckold" and "hot wife" is actually huge, because the connotation of "hot wife" is (or seems to be) that there's no emphasis on the humiliation or control side of it, but chooses where it goes without her husband's involvement and he enjoys it. He's adequate and they have a balanced power dynamic, she just happens to enjoy even more on top of that and he's into it.

 

Then there's another dynamic, which I wouldn't quite label dominant/submissive, but where the husband is the one holding the reins on his wife's "inner slut". I've always felt like that's closer to the dynamic Mrs. EastInWest and I have. I've always been the one encouraging her to dress more provocatively and otherwise try things she not only might think should remain fantasies, but was more or less explicitly taught she should be ashamed for thinking. She's always been eager, but hesitant and needing encouragement. Perhaps if we began swapping regularly, that might evolve into another dynamic at some point, but as it is we feel like a team and I don't think either of us are looking for that.

 

In our one "soft swap" experience, a long time ago, it was my idea that she flirt with a man who obviously had taken an interest in her body. It was her idea to fool around with him in the backseat. It was my idea to make sure she didn't leave his friend hanging. I happen to enjoy that she is always considerate and careful to ask for permission if she wants something that might cross a boundary (which, as things are presently, is always little things like grinding on the dance floor, wearing something especially revealing, or sunbathing topless), and would actually be very impressed with her if she ever asked for something that was too over the top for my tastes. I don't think either term describes that type of situation adequately.

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I really do want to have an MFM though. The though of my wife sucking my dick while another guy fucks her is a huge turn-on for me. Watching her suck another guy while I fuck her as well. I've also always wanted to give her a DP with another man. We've done it with toys but I just think with another real cock it will be something else entirely. All of these things though really seem to require a MFM and do not seem feasible when we are with another couple as that would leave the other woman out.

 

What seems really weird about this to me is that it seems most guys have the fantasy of being with 2 women. That doesn't do much for me at all. I mean sure, watching my wife be with another woman is great and it turns me on as well, but not the same level. Knowing that I can switch back and forth and when I need a break they can take care of each other is all fine and good, but just not the same. When we were with this other couple, my wife did play with the other woman for a bit, and it was hot, but I just could not wait to see her with the other man. Perhaps if the other man was not there and not a consideration I could get into the FMF a little more, but to me it was just not all I hear other guys make it out to be.

 

I can appreciate the "live porn" aspect. Spitroasting Mrs. EastInWest is very high on my list, as well. On one hand, we did a quiz we found on here recently where she came in as "Average Jane" because she won't admit to being willing to consider her fantasies. On the other hand, she's been bringing up that particular position of her own accord quite a bit in the last year. I wouldn't mind meeting another couple and her finding a lady friend to play with, even if it's just for me to watch, either. Hopefully, once we get back into our regular travel schedule, the right situation will present itself. :)

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Then there's another dynamic, which I wouldn't quite label dominant/submissive, but where the husband is the one holding the reins on his wife's "inner slut". I've always felt like that's closer to the dynamic Mrs. EastInWest and I have. I've always been the one encouraging her to dress more provocatively and otherwise try things she not only might think should remain fantasies, but was more or less explicitly taught she should be ashamed for thinking. She's always been eager, but hesitant and needing encouragement. Perhaps if we began swapping regularly, that might evolve into another dynamic at some point, but as it is we feel like a team and I don't think either of us are looking for that.

 

I only just happened to stumble across it, but I guess there is a word for the male side of this.

 

Candaulism - Wikipedia

 

"Candaulism is a sexual practice or fantasy in which a man exposes his female partner, or images of her, to other people for their voyeuristic pleasure. The term may also be applied to the practice of undressing or otherwise exposing a female partner to others, or urging or forcing her to engage in sexual relations with a third person, such as during a swinging activity."

 

I had heard that term before, but I hadn't made the connection until I read something translated from a French website this morning about how it's considered a traditionally masculine kink in the sense that the man is given a great deal of discretion over the woman's sexuality when a couple plays this way.

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Those who have read the book Sex Before Dawn will understand that this is not a "kink". It's an artifact of evolution. But there are some (such as myself) who did not inherit the gene. Or the gene is, at least, recessive. Does not prevent my understanding of this natural impulse. Have fun, boys. While you're watching, I'll be the guy screwing your wife :)

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Those who have read the book Sex Before Dawn will understand that this is not a "kink". It's an artifact of evolution. But there are some (such as myself) who did not inherit the gene. Or the gene is, at least, recessive. Does not prevent my understanding of this natural impulse. Have fun, boys. While you're watching, I'll be the guy screwing your wife :)

 

I looked up the synopsis to the book, it's interesting. We tend to gloss over a lot of obvious aspects of our "modern innovations" on sexuality, particularly Victorian ideals. Mrs. EastInWest was startled to learn how much influence the Romans were thought to have had on "creating" monogamy.

 

The French "libertinage" forum I was reading was badly translated but I took an interest in how different the tone seemed to be. There was a great deal more interest in gender roles, including women encouraging each other to openly take their husband to a club from time to time in order to discourage him from straying in private and some heated debate over whether or not there's such a thing as "female candaulism" or if it's a uniquely male experience.

 

I just bring it up because it's interesting to see how different people think about these things. Meanwhile, I think Mrs. EastInWest has a way to go before she gets up the courage to actually get screwed. More likely, she'll relax enough on a long vacation to get her top off and enjoy some soft play....which is just fine with me.

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This kink is explained in great detail in the book "Insatiable Wives" I to have inherited this gene and my level of passion and the strength of my orgasms are mind blowing when the Mrs. allows us to role play my MFM fantasy!!!! We have yet to act on it and hopefully my patients will yield me the dividends I desire!!! Watching my wife let herself go into the realm of ecstasy is my desire whether it's with a male or female it doesn't matter to me!!!!

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I would love to be able to get my wife into this its so hot when we talk about it, I guess it will just take more time.

Any advise on how to let her inhibitions go so she can enjoy the attention of more then one man at the same time.

B

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I would love to be able to get my wife into this its so hot when we talk about it, I guess it will just take more time.

Any advise on how to let her inhibitions go so she can enjoy the attention of more then one man at the same time.

B

 

Out of curiosity, what are her stated concerns?

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To myself it is a totally normal feeling to enjoy seeing my lady with both other men and women! Doesn't seem weird at all. Just incredibly hot. She is the hottest woman in the world in my eyes. Watching her being pleasured and appreciated is such treat to experience. It is a part of the lifestyle I enjoy more then anything. The only time I get to see her with other men is when we are playing with couples. Although I would be game to sharing her with just men she is more interested in playing with other women so we seek out other couples with women that feel the same. She knows however if she ever wants just another man or men to join us that I am totally on board. If it wasn't for all the clueless meatheads out there it would have happened already.

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Hi, I don't consider this cuckolding nor cheating since it is consensual and you do it together. When we started in the lifestyle we searched only couples, swapping spouses and the like but along the time and with more experience we settled in MFMs, usually in clubs where you do not have any commitment with the men around. It's just sex, not making love, and interaction is much easier and better. Swinging with couples sometimes is difficult if the 4 do not get in the same wavelength, sometimes the other wife only goes there to satisfy her husband´s own desires and do not participate, then you have 3 enjoying the situation and one part pissed off. MFM are better in that sense. Besides, by watching her sheer expression of enjoyment when fucking other males is exhilarating and overcomes any other feeling like jealousy, anxiety, etc.

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Hi, I don't consider this cuckolding nor cheating since it is consensual and you do it together. When we started in the lifestyle we searched only couples, swapping spouses and the like but along the time and with more experience we settled in MFMs, usually in clubs where you do not have any commitment with the men around. It's just sex, not making love, and interaction is much easier and better. Swinging with couples sometimes is difficult if the 4 do not get in the same wavelength, sometimes the other wife only goes there to satisfy her husband´s own desires and do not participate, then you have 3 enjoying the situation and one part pissed off. MFM are better in that sense. Besides, by watching her sheer expression of enjoyment when fucking other males is exhilarating and overcomes any other feeling like jealousy, anxiety, etc.

Totally agreed!!!

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"He was the first man I watched her making love to."

 

This would make me incredibly uncomfortable. My wife and I make love. We do NOT make love to our partners in the lifestyle. Erotic, pleasurable passionate sex, yes. But if either of us were to feel that the other had progressed to "making love" with a play partner, our relationship with that play partner would, of necessity, end. Period.

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My thoughts are this:

When I'm with my wife, my aim is to give her as much pleasure as possible.

If there is another male there, that potentially increases her pleasure and allows me to almost take a step back a fraction, or take a moment out and appreciate her pleasure or being pleasured - I can focus on it momentarily whilst not having to perform. Its like his cock can be my cock - get the same (or better ) results and I can observe and appreciate it a little.

Also, its a massive turn on for her to be desired by two men - so her being turned on more increases my arousal also.

 

I Don't believe any of this dominant / recessive gene horse shit.

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My wife loves oral and gives great head. I love seeing her sucking another male. I also love having another women give me oral with my wife watching.

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This is totally my kink. The first time my wife and I involved another man I came three times in her while she was giving him head, because it was so exciting. It's nice watching my wife reach an orgasm. She said it made her feel special being shared with another man which made her cum more. It's nice to be able to share and know others feel the same way.

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This is totally my kink. The first time my wife and I involved another man I came three times in her while she was giving him head, because it was so exciting. It's nice watching my wife reach an orgasm. She said it made her feel special being shared with another man which made her cum more. It's nice to be able to share and know others feel the same way.

 

Same for us. MFM or more MMFMM is practicaly all we do now. We started as exhibistionist, then couples full swap then MFM. I encouraged her to date and she found a man she enjoys spending the nght with from time to time. I love seeing the pics and videos he sends of their sex and the reconnect sex is fantastic.

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We tried couple swap but so far it didn't work out for us.

 

My best swinging experiences are probably few FMF I did in my life but my worst is actually also a FMF we had recently. I couldn't get it up at all!I felt so down afterwards and still didn't recover fully from it mentally :)

 

All MFM we had were great. Unless you choose the wrong guy of course it seems MFM can't be bad for us. I love to see my wife getting a lot of pleasure as she gets crazy about me sharing her with other men (she is not much into girls and multiple men is her top fantasy). In a way there is much less pressure 'performing' in MFM because I'm having a superb time as a classic threesome or even as passive I would enjoy watching.

 

It's easy to find single guys there are thousands to choose from. Guys usually are ready to accept any rules you give and adapt to what your couple want. Guys have no problem being a booty call and even gets extremely horny about that situation. If you want to film and make your own porn, men take this almost as a compliment.

 

Also maybe we're just getting lazy with the years of the amount of time and patience to find the right people :D

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I took a g/f to a swinger's club. She didn't need much encouragement. It was much hotter to see her with others guys than try and find another couple for both of us.

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We recently enjoyed a MFM and I had almost forgotten how arousing it is to watch her really enjoying herself with another man. I thought i was done after round one and they kept going and it was just as enjoyable watching and hearing them together as it was participating. It has been a while since i got off twice in one evening but.......wow needless to say it was a great night.

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We recently enjoyed a MFM and I had almost forgotten how arousing it is to watch her really enjoying herself with another man. I thought i was done after round one and they kept going and it was just as enjoyable watching and hearing them together as it was participating. It has been a while since i got off twice in one evening but.......wow needless to say it was a great night.

 

 

I thought I was done too!! And I thought he was never going to be done. I lost count of how many times I came and it was really hot looking over and seeing that my husband was ready to go again! yup, we are definitely looking forward to playing with this guy again.

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I would love to see my wife being worked by atleast one guy (maybe more)but i dont know how to make her agree and how to arrange povided se agrees

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Our first lifestyle experience was MFM, but actually it was mostly the bull and me playing and my husband watching. He was enthralled. After a couple of hours, I kicked him out of the room so that I could enjoy the rest of the night alone with my bull.

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I thought I was done too!! And I thought he was never going to be done. I lost count of how many times I came and it was really hot looking over and seeing that my husband was ready to go again! yup, we are definitely looking forward to playing with this guy again.

 

This thread has aged well.

 

Our first experience started with Mrs. E giving topless oral, which was just what I'd always been interested in and she knew it. All the sights and sounds were just right, right up to watching her swallow.

 

Since then, one of the things we've learned from our experience so far is that Mrs. E's libido works just the way I thought: she's always thought she was "done" about the same time her partner was done, but reality, once you get her warmed up, she's good to go until all the cock is done and she has a few minutes to cool off. She's starting to come around about the idea of visiting a club to find more partners, but we'll see.

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How was the bull ? Big and thick , did you go for dp?

 

We don't do the "bull"/"cuckold" thing, she's generally the submissive in our relationship and I also play with the other wife. For me, it's more about putting her stacked body to work.

 

No DP. A few spit-roasts and taking turns over the last year, though.

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yes u r right..its more hot to watch her with other man..

i did this with my wife...

like to watch her sucking and fucking the guy the same way she do with me...it turns me on so much to watch her frenchkissing him too...

 

i dont know why it turns me on too...but i love it..

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Both me and my wife are into our early thirties and late 20s respectively. By no means we are swingers yet, but I always loved watching my wife doing something kinky or getting the slightest cozy with someone else. I even love when she shows off her sexy body in some way that the other Guys get a little bit attracted to her.

 

Whenever we have done something online, it was her who was doing it and I was the one watching. Usually when she had something like a webcam chat, I sit right beside her (away from the camera of course) and enjoy watching her. Even as foreplay, a lot of time we do video chatting and different things online. It is such a turn on to see her chat dirty with someone else or show her beautiful boobs to while sitting right beside me.

 

On the other hand, she is not too much of a big fan of me showing myself online or physically to someone and that is quite ok with me. Because, I am more into seeing her getting intimate with another guy or showing her assets off than myself having sex with someone else.

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