My wife is interested in finding a gay male best friend

[Trophy1802 132]

As the title says, my wife has expressed a desire to find a male gay best friend.

 

Even though both of us are totally straight, we both are pretty liberal and easy going when it comes to hanging out with others of different sexual persuasions. We never judge anyone for their sexual preferences as we do not want to be judged for our involvement in the LS.

 

My wife has always been more comfortable around a group of guys rather than women. Yes, she does have female friends, but she is just not into the women getting together or the "girls night out" scene. She has particularly found that gay guys are really fun to be around. On a recent cruise, where the cruise director was openly gay, we both find the guy to be a riot and great fun to be around, and enjoyed ourselves immensely in his company.

 

As for myself, the male, I find it intriguing and arousing that my wife enjoys herself so much around guys. There is never any jealousy. As I enjoy seeing her interaction with other males, this has what has made the MFM threesome situation work so well with us, and has become the main part of LS experiences. It is almost like a sexual drug for me and I get an unbelievable sexual high when we play. My wife knows this, and loves to really play up to the moment and my arousal (as well as the arousal of the other guy).

 

The more I think about the possibility of her having a male GBF, the more arousing I find it, especially since it may result in a different twist in a possible MFM situation, if it ever developed between the three of us. Actually, I would like something to develop. It is not that there would be any MM interaction, but the thought of my wife being able to channel the desires of her male GBF into having sex with her is arousing. Not that she would be trying to convert or get the GBF to "change teams", as from our experience, most gay or bi males still do enjoy sex with both male and female partners.

 

She has always been a very desirable, sexy, and fun-loving woman, and I think being able to have an on-going MFM experience with a male GBF would enhance our LS experience, as well as keeping an open mind towards others sexual preferences.

 

Anyone have any comments on this issue?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

"Finding" a gay best friend? It is a concept that I am not able to grasp. Friendships develop from the people with whom I have contact. If a new friendship develops with a person that happens to be gay, that's just fine. But to say that I would want to bring a person into the fold for the reason of his being gay would risk, I believe, insulting the person's intelligence.

 

At a swingers' house party, a woman asked me if I was flirting with her for the reason that she had dark skin. I assured her that that was not the reason I was flirting. She has apparently been hit upon more than once by men who give a reason, "I always wanted to 'do it' with a black woman." She had developed a dislike for this approach and was perceiving it even when it was not happening.

 

Do not 'find' the gay person. Let the gay person find you.

[JandKinBoise 859]

I read thru your post and am really confused, sorry. In my slightly groggy head, it looks like your wife has a good plan, find a guy friend that doesn't want in her pants. But you seem to want her to try to manipulate him into straight sex. What if her goal is to have him seduce you? Are you ready to take a gay dick in you? If that thought doesn't appeal to you, then why would a gay guy want sex with a woman? He feels the same as you about having sex with a female he is not attracted to. Also, the finding part is rough. We go out and find lovers, but we usually have little interest in developing an outside relationship. Too much goes into that.

 

I think your wife made a comment and your mind started running wild. Let it settle, let her look, have no expectations.

[kikonkrome 844]

I had a long term relationship with a woman who mostly had gay male friends. Yes, she actively sought them out. My experience was and continues to be, gay men are not interested in women. They are interested in men. Some of her friends were constantly interested in me. At first it was flattering but after a while it just got annoying. Up there on the fun scale as the angry lesbian girls that just want to be my wife's 'friend', but pick fight's with me. Thankfully, they don't stay my wife's friend for long. The gay jokes got old as well, it was like living an episode of Will and Grace. I will also comment that not all her gay male friends were like this, but there were enough to be significant.

 

If you like the idea of a bi guy and your wife I would recommend finding just that. However, if he is a bi - guy how much fun do you think it would be for him to have a tryst with you and your wife, without any interaction between the two of you? Do you enjoy the idea of your wife and another woman going at it and you can't touch the other woman? Maybe once for novelty but I think it would be hard to find that on a regular basis.

 

If you are asking about trying a bit of bi-sexuality yourself, which is what I am picking up, I would say go for it. You don't have to go 'all the way' so to speak, and I think bi guys would be easy to find.

 

Good luck with it.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

 

The more I think about the possibility of her having a male GBF, the more arousing I find it, especially since it may result in a different twist in a possible MFM situation, if it ever developed between the three of us. Actually, I would like something to develop. It is not that there would be any MM interaction, but the though of my wife being able to channel the desires of her male GBF into having sex with her is arousing. Not that she would be trying to convert or get the GBF to "change teams", as from our experience, most gay or bi males still do enjoy sex with both male and female partners.

 

She has always been a very desirable, sexy, and fun-loving woman, and I think being able to have an on-going MFM experience with a male GBF would enhance our LS experience, as well as keeping an open mind towards others sexual preferences.

 

Anyone have any comments on this issue?

 

What would be your reaction if her GBF, as the three of you are in bed together, naked, began touching you?

[enhancer 1,586]

Real gay men have no more interest in pussy then real straight men do in penis! That is why they are gay and not bi. They are not going to get sexually aroused by the thought of a naked woman spread for them just like a straight guy isn't going to be aroused by a set of balls in his face.

[absingleman 178]

I'm sorry, but I think that this is a recipe for disaster. Having gay friends is one thing. I had a gay uncle (he died a few years ago) and several gay and lesbian cousins. The one thing I can tell you is that if you go looking to meet them, the expectation is that you want to have sex with them. If its a gay man and your wife approaches him, he is going to think YOU are interested in him and is using your wife to do the approaching. This will be seen as leading him on and he will not appreciate it one bit, especially if you two bring sex into the equation.

 

Let the idea cool off for the both of you before you hurt someone's feelings. I've heard my cousins complain too many times about "bi-curious flakes" who approach them because their boyfriends wanted to have sex with them. Do you know how hard it is for me not to go into big brother mode and want to kick their butts? For most people, gay, straight, or whatever, sex is a BIG thing and something they don't share lightly. Don't make an enemy because you or your wife want a new thrill. That will happen if you pursue this the way you described yourself and your wife.

 

Have fun and be safe.

[machiavel55 81]

Not only is that idea a recipe for disaster,but when I read: ''My wife has always been more comfortable around a group of guys rather than women.''...that is usually the behavior of a woman that lacks emotional maturity, not being able to relate to other women because she sees them as adults where she , very often unconsciously, sees herself like a little girl or young teen. The only connection to other human beings she really understands is through seduction, hence the preference to hang out with men.

Please excuse my English, I am French.